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Having a twin sibling can be like being born with a best friend forever. You understand each other better than anyone else. You share a lifetime of ups and downs. But what happens when the sharing goes too far?
A woman has found herself caught up in an unwanted love triangle with the two people she trusted the most. She says she feels sick after finding out that her fiance and twin sister were spotted kissing. While she wants to believe it can’t be true, the woman admits “a kiss is hard to mistake.” She’s not sure if she should confront the two, and if so, what she should say.
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Anyone who has ever been the victim of a cheating partner will tell you, in hindsight, there were signs. Maybe they missed the red flags, or ignored them. But relationship experts say there are giveaways that scream “infidelity!”
Perhaps your person is being more secretive than usual or they’re emotionally distant. There are sudden unexplained absences, changes in communication patterns, secret phone calls, bank accounts or social media messages.
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Cheaters often show a lack of intimacy, a decreased interest in shared activities, a sudden focus on appearance, defensive behavior, and start frequent, unexplained arguments, say the team at Marriage.com.
But sometimes, one of the biggest signs is when something just feels off.
“In general, if your gut, a.k.a your intuition, is telling you something is wrong, it usually is,” says Samantha Burns, couples therapist and author of Breaking Up and Bouncing Back. “Our intuition is a superpower for survival that picks up on tiny clues or sensing when something feels off, so if this warning bell is going off in your body, then pay attention!”
“Trust your instincts, but remember that these signs alone do not confirm infidelity,” adds marriage.com. “Open communication is key to addressing concerns and determining the truth in a relationship.”
Why you shouldn’t confront them without solid evidence to back up your claims
It’s imperative to gather as much evidence as possible before confronting your partner. And there are a number of reasons why.
“Firstly, it ensures that your concerns are based on facts rather than unfounded suspicions, which can protect innocent parties from undue stress or harm,” warns marriage.com. “Secondly, concrete evidence can lead to a more productive conversation, as it provides a clear basis for discussion and potential resolution.”
It can also help prevent gaslighting or denial, and lead to a more honest conversation. “Defensiveness tends to be a sign of guilt or avoidance of acknowledging the truth or taking accountability for one’s actions,” Burns explains. “When someone doesn’t have anything to hide, their reaction may be more empathetic where they’ll take the time to listen to your concerns, validate your feelings, or even come up with ways to help you feel better or improve the relationship.” In short, there’s less chance of being gaslit when the hard facts are on the table.
In the long-term, solid evidence can be make a huge difference when it comes to legal proceedings, like divorce.
“Overall, evidence empowers you to approach catching cheaters with clarity, fairness, and the potential for a constructive outcome,” notes the site.
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I'm a senior visual editor here at Bored Panda and I enjoy a good laugh. My work ranges from serious topics related to toxic work environments and relationship difficulties to humorous articles about online shopping fails and introvert memes. When I'm not at my work desk, checking if every single pixel is in the right place, I usually spend my free time playing board games, taking pictures, and watching documentaries
Being sisters is not, IMO, a reason to have a continuing relationship with someone. You can choose to sever ties and I really hope the OP does just that.
Fitz seemed to create an account solely to make this statement over and over. My presumption is that he also has another user name here and he's lashing out over some perceived slight.
Just wow. I started out thinking, hmm, twin easy enough to make a mistaken ID, but fraternal twins? Better to find out now than when the deposits are paid and the invitations are printed.
Being sisters is not, IMO, a reason to have a continuing relationship with someone. You can choose to sever ties and I really hope the OP does just that.
Fitz seemed to create an account solely to make this statement over and over. My presumption is that he also has another user name here and he's lashing out over some perceived slight.
Just wow. I started out thinking, hmm, twin easy enough to make a mistaken ID, but fraternal twins? Better to find out now than when the deposits are paid and the invitations are printed.
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