Feminist Claims That Women Who Dress Girly Are Victims Of Patriarchy, Gets Quickly Shut Down
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There is a never-ending dialogue about patriarchy and the impact it has on society’s definition of femininity and masculinity. Some people believe that acting and dressing ‘girly’ is actually a result of patriarchal oppression and a long history of men telling women to dress and look a certain way. However, other times it can simply be the preference of a woman just wanting to wear a dress, a feel comfortable in a style that fits into the traditional mold of femininity.
Recently, artist Kiana Mcmillian received a lot of attention online after sharing one of her illustrations on her blog
Image credits: Kiana McMillian
This is not the first time Kiana has shared some of her work online. the artist already has a blog dedicated to her art where she shares all kinds of adorable illustrations. But out of all her work, this image illustrating her changing style while growing up has sparked the biggest debate.
One user quickly declared that women who dress girly are victims of patriarchy
It is a recurring issue in today’s society for people to judge others based on what they wear. It is often understood that a woman who prefers to wear dresses, makeup and spend more time on their appearance might be doing so because of a long history of patriarchy and men telling woman that they need to look a certain way, a way that pleases them.
But Kiana was not having it, she quickly responded to these claims by explaining why women should be allowed to wear whatever they want
Another user also responded by saying that some women are afraid to look feminine because they are shamed for being too girly
With over 177,000 reblogs the post quickly went viral with people supporting Kiana and saying that every woman should be allowed to dress however they want, without others judging them for their decision.
Many people came to Kiana’s defense
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Isn't true feminism looking and doing whatever you want too?
Yes, it's all about having the freedom of choice and not being judged for it
I disagree with Night Owl. It´s about having the freedom of choice and BEEING ABLE TO DO IT... but you can´t and shouldn´t force people to NOT judge you. That´s a whole different thing. Not everybody is going to like you - but that´s ok. Something different: That´s why i think this whole "safespace"-agenda is complete nonsense. Wear what you want, say what you want, think what you want, get challenged, get yelled at, get compliments, be what you are and position yourself in life - some may follow you, some may leave you, some will hate you, some will love you. This girl can dress like she want´s and shouldn´t give a flying f*** if someone likes it or not. I believe that´s the pure form of "feminism", which i totally agree with. Don´t try to make everybody like you, otherwise you will live a pretty boring life. Quote: "Someone who has no enemies has no real friends"
Unless a woman chooses something they don't like like being a stay at home mom. Boy do feminists mom-shame those women. It can't be a choice, they must be oppressed.
That's what I always thought, it never really occurred to me that someone could be afraid to look feminine. I'm not talking about like wearing a short skirt while walking down a dark alley way but just in their day to day life.
And true left is standing for the working class... That's what all idea get when people with too much freetime and too few brain cells find them for themselves.
I would say that true feminism is having the opportunity to do whatever you want to. It is about identifying and amending structural, social, governmental, and legal barriers that will alter or inhibit what a person would otherwise aspire to. Example, women often inhibit their own professional growth unknowingly due to family planning, and men often suffer from mental illness due to the societal standard of suppressing emotions or pressure to be completely independent. It isn't always about what you want because what you want is dramatically impacted by societal norms. So it is more of an examination of societal norms and how they disproportionately impact one gender or another unfairly. I can technically walk around naked if I want, but it is societies response to my actions or behaviors that is important and society would arrest me for indecent exposure.
It is, unless you are male. Then you are to man up and do what is expected of you.
So sad that this is so rare nowadays.
I so much appreciate the artist's response. I've been a girly girly my whole life, because it's who I AM. I love pretty things and enjoy traditionally feminine things and that's okay because that's what is right for me and makes me happy. I am sick to my back teeth of the militant so-called feminists shaming women who value traditional femininity. I am not diminished, less-than, stupid or victimized by the "patriarchy" which has been tossed around so much lately it may as well be the "illuminati" because I like sewing, needlework, cooking and yes even housework! I think there is tremendous value in femininity, traditional womanhood, homemaking that has been diminished by women shaming women. Every time I see a comment like the one criticizing the artist I feel like the militant feminists are trying to shame the rest of us with ovaries into joining their gang. You do you girly girls! You do you not girly girls! If we all do that we'll just be happy girls!
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Thanks beep boop, I'm happy you liked my post so much = ) I know I ran on a bit but I am bone tired of having a politicized version of what we "have" to be as women otherwise we're "traitors, lemmings, naive or stupid." When "feminists" get in my face- this has happened- trying to explain why I'm the wrong kind of woman, I just wonder where their critical thinking skills have gone. How do my personal preferences invalidate me? Why am I "broken" in the eyes of these agenda-speak women? How am I their adversary? While going through cancer treatment in 2016-2017, I decided the only thing I had to be was me- alive, happy me. And I sleep soundly every night in my four-poster canopied princess bed doing just that...
That's technically impossible.. but I helped you with my vote up :)
Ooh, I like you! I'm probably the complete opposite of you because I've tried sewing, cooking and housework and I'm really no good at it. What I CAN do is help my boyfriend fix his car because my dad taught me while my boyfriend, the chef btw, makes us dinner! You have NO idea how much shaming we get as a couple and it's getting kinda old... But he has a son, a beautiful son that sees how we do things and hopefully he will go out looking for the same relationship when it's his time. I had a really good time when we met someone I knew long ago who tried to shame my boyfriend for being "a housemom". That was too mean to let go. Not because I think it's a bad term, but because of the way he said it. To me, in front of my boyfriend and his son. My boyfriend is the perfect man but someone always has an opinion they wanna share...
What matters most is that it's a choice and you don't intend to ask other people to make that choice. And if a man were to chose this kind of life, neither should he be bothered.
Hear hear!!
feminism is choosing what you want! CHOOSING... that was a thing woman didn't have few years ago. now they can choose. my wife chose to stay at home with our kids. she loved that. that doesn't make her less of a woman for that. sick of terrorrism feminism
It doesn't make her MORE of a woman, either. Housework or paid work, nothing makes us more or less a woman. I am a woman because I AM. Feminism has been a great blessing for me, because not only am I able to be the woman I chose to be, but also regarded as a fully-fledged member of the human race.
have to say it doesn't make me less of a men of doing laundry, and working in the kitchen. being in a couple it's a teamwork
Terrorism feminism, that is a new phrase for me. Feminism isn't a unified theory, you have neo-liberal feminists, post-structual feminists, realist feminists, Marxist feminists, multicultural feminists, etc. There are many different ways to approach feminism, I am a realist/post-strucual feminist who disagrees with neo-liberal feminist theory. The point is that women are not a monolith and feminist theory is constantly evolving. As people try to figure it out and come to their own conclusions on what would be the best theory or policy for gender equality, we might construct views that do not fit all women or that may even be offensive to some women. As women are so diverse, when disagreement occurs it is best restrain from arguments of who is right or who is more feminist and instead try to initiate a dialog because it is very likely that there are points that were simply not understood or considered by the other due to lack of experiencing that situation.
...and you get called an antifeminist if you follow the wrong stream of feminism. The term is to broad that it has lost all distinctiveness.
Isn't true feminism looking and doing whatever you want too?
Yes, it's all about having the freedom of choice and not being judged for it
I disagree with Night Owl. It´s about having the freedom of choice and BEEING ABLE TO DO IT... but you can´t and shouldn´t force people to NOT judge you. That´s a whole different thing. Not everybody is going to like you - but that´s ok. Something different: That´s why i think this whole "safespace"-agenda is complete nonsense. Wear what you want, say what you want, think what you want, get challenged, get yelled at, get compliments, be what you are and position yourself in life - some may follow you, some may leave you, some will hate you, some will love you. This girl can dress like she want´s and shouldn´t give a flying f*** if someone likes it or not. I believe that´s the pure form of "feminism", which i totally agree with. Don´t try to make everybody like you, otherwise you will live a pretty boring life. Quote: "Someone who has no enemies has no real friends"
Unless a woman chooses something they don't like like being a stay at home mom. Boy do feminists mom-shame those women. It can't be a choice, they must be oppressed.
That's what I always thought, it never really occurred to me that someone could be afraid to look feminine. I'm not talking about like wearing a short skirt while walking down a dark alley way but just in their day to day life.
And true left is standing for the working class... That's what all idea get when people with too much freetime and too few brain cells find them for themselves.
I would say that true feminism is having the opportunity to do whatever you want to. It is about identifying and amending structural, social, governmental, and legal barriers that will alter or inhibit what a person would otherwise aspire to. Example, women often inhibit their own professional growth unknowingly due to family planning, and men often suffer from mental illness due to the societal standard of suppressing emotions or pressure to be completely independent. It isn't always about what you want because what you want is dramatically impacted by societal norms. So it is more of an examination of societal norms and how they disproportionately impact one gender or another unfairly. I can technically walk around naked if I want, but it is societies response to my actions or behaviors that is important and society would arrest me for indecent exposure.
It is, unless you are male. Then you are to man up and do what is expected of you.
So sad that this is so rare nowadays.
I so much appreciate the artist's response. I've been a girly girly my whole life, because it's who I AM. I love pretty things and enjoy traditionally feminine things and that's okay because that's what is right for me and makes me happy. I am sick to my back teeth of the militant so-called feminists shaming women who value traditional femininity. I am not diminished, less-than, stupid or victimized by the "patriarchy" which has been tossed around so much lately it may as well be the "illuminati" because I like sewing, needlework, cooking and yes even housework! I think there is tremendous value in femininity, traditional womanhood, homemaking that has been diminished by women shaming women. Every time I see a comment like the one criticizing the artist I feel like the militant feminists are trying to shame the rest of us with ovaries into joining their gang. You do you girly girls! You do you not girly girls! If we all do that we'll just be happy girls!
This comment has been deleted.
Thanks beep boop, I'm happy you liked my post so much = ) I know I ran on a bit but I am bone tired of having a politicized version of what we "have" to be as women otherwise we're "traitors, lemmings, naive or stupid." When "feminists" get in my face- this has happened- trying to explain why I'm the wrong kind of woman, I just wonder where their critical thinking skills have gone. How do my personal preferences invalidate me? Why am I "broken" in the eyes of these agenda-speak women? How am I their adversary? While going through cancer treatment in 2016-2017, I decided the only thing I had to be was me- alive, happy me. And I sleep soundly every night in my four-poster canopied princess bed doing just that...
That's technically impossible.. but I helped you with my vote up :)
Ooh, I like you! I'm probably the complete opposite of you because I've tried sewing, cooking and housework and I'm really no good at it. What I CAN do is help my boyfriend fix his car because my dad taught me while my boyfriend, the chef btw, makes us dinner! You have NO idea how much shaming we get as a couple and it's getting kinda old... But he has a son, a beautiful son that sees how we do things and hopefully he will go out looking for the same relationship when it's his time. I had a really good time when we met someone I knew long ago who tried to shame my boyfriend for being "a housemom". That was too mean to let go. Not because I think it's a bad term, but because of the way he said it. To me, in front of my boyfriend and his son. My boyfriend is the perfect man but someone always has an opinion they wanna share...
What matters most is that it's a choice and you don't intend to ask other people to make that choice. And if a man were to chose this kind of life, neither should he be bothered.
Hear hear!!
feminism is choosing what you want! CHOOSING... that was a thing woman didn't have few years ago. now they can choose. my wife chose to stay at home with our kids. she loved that. that doesn't make her less of a woman for that. sick of terrorrism feminism
It doesn't make her MORE of a woman, either. Housework or paid work, nothing makes us more or less a woman. I am a woman because I AM. Feminism has been a great blessing for me, because not only am I able to be the woman I chose to be, but also regarded as a fully-fledged member of the human race.
have to say it doesn't make me less of a men of doing laundry, and working in the kitchen. being in a couple it's a teamwork
Terrorism feminism, that is a new phrase for me. Feminism isn't a unified theory, you have neo-liberal feminists, post-structual feminists, realist feminists, Marxist feminists, multicultural feminists, etc. There are many different ways to approach feminism, I am a realist/post-strucual feminist who disagrees with neo-liberal feminist theory. The point is that women are not a monolith and feminist theory is constantly evolving. As people try to figure it out and come to their own conclusions on what would be the best theory or policy for gender equality, we might construct views that do not fit all women or that may even be offensive to some women. As women are so diverse, when disagreement occurs it is best restrain from arguments of who is right or who is more feminist and instead try to initiate a dialog because it is very likely that there are points that were simply not understood or considered by the other due to lack of experiencing that situation.
...and you get called an antifeminist if you follow the wrong stream of feminism. The term is to broad that it has lost all distinctiveness.