‘Toxic Masculinity’: People Hating On These ‘Inappropriate’ Dad And Son Pics Get Shut Down With The Perfect Response
There is absolutely nothing wrong with loving and hugging your dad! The relationship between a father and son is unique and should be cherished. And there are plenty of men in the world who would give anything to embrace their dads one last time.
However, the internet can be a nasty place. And trolls will try to ruin beautiful things like hugs from dads. This is exactly what happened when Eric Owens posted a collage of intimate photos where he hugs his son some time ago. Trolls came out of the woodwork and started slandering the images.
There were some positives, though. Others stepped in to defend Owens and his viral post. And one of the responses online was incredibly spot-on, highlighted the importance of talking about toxic masculinity, and explained that some men are irrationally afraid of showing affection.
Eric Owens shared a collage of wholesome, affectionate photos of himself and his son
Image credits: Eric Owens
Image credits: Eric Owens
Image credits: Eric Owens
Image credits: Eric Owens
Image credits: Eric Owens
However, some folks on the internet thought that the pictures were strange and unmanly…
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Image credits: ithelpstodream
Image credits: ithelpstodream
Meanwhile, a Tumblr user thought that they were perfect examples of toxic masculinity
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Bored Panda has already talked about how some people on the internet respond to dad hugs in our earlier post about a photo where the President-Elect of the United States, Joe Biden, is hugging his son, Hunter. Owens’ collage drew out a nearly identical reaction from some internet users.
Owens’ wholesome and honest post for his son’s then-18th birthday got more than 34k likes, was shared over 3k times, and (unsurprisingly) got 3k comments, too.
While toxic masculinity is a very broad term that can mean a lot of different things, in this context, it refers to one thing and one thing only—how some men believe that being emotionally vulnerable and open (stereotypically seen as feminine traits) is a negative thing. That paves the way for repressed emotions and can lead to all sorts of emotional and psychological problems.
According to The Good Men Project, culturally, strength is seen as manly while being emotional is perceived as weakness. However, masculinity is a very deep rabbit hole with lots of different perspectives, viewpoints, and ideas.
And there are always two sides to every story: some see gender roles as social constructs while others believe they’re a natural part of being human. However, whatever your views about masculinity and being a man, I think that most of us can agree that getting a hug from your dad is awesome.
What do you think of Owens’ photos, dear Pandas? Do you have an opinion about toxic masculinity? When’s the last time you hugged your dad? Share your thoughts and feelings with all of the other readers in the comment section right below.
Here’s what some other people had to say about the topic (spoiler alert: hugs are amazing)
I just find this so sad that a father hugging his own son is seemed as inappropriate. We certainly have a loooong way to go in ending the stupid toxic maculinity.
FOXXXXXYYYYYYY! HOW YA DOOOINNNNN? (sorry, i know it's weird but no regrets.)
Hahaha, love it. I am alright thank you 😊 What about yourself?
NO REGRETS xD
It's not weird :D Foxxy is Awesome!
Haha I see Foxxy on Bored Panda all the time lol!
Foxxy is like, the Celebrity of Bored Panda
Foxxy is a god. They've been around forever and they always stick up for people. We love you, Foxxy.
My jaw dropped when I read this topic. I have never ever even thought about this in that way. What is wrong with people who react like this ? I just like to think they lead pittyfull lives and have nothing else to do than troll other people.
Sometimes I enjoy reading your comments and insights more than the posts themselves. <3
Thank you so very much. I almost always love reading the comments more than the posts, We certainly have some characters and amazing people on Bored Panda. It is a big change from Facebook, we still get trolls but nowhere near as prevalent.
It really is sad. And it's even worse because there are thousands of kids who don't get hugs from their dads because society deems it 'inappropriate.' Toxic masculinity needs to end. What century are we in, the 18th century? No, we're in the 21st century, where hugs don't have a gender.
Foxxy is BP s celebrity 😃
yasssssssss
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I upvoted you Foxxy even tho there seems to be some confusion about Toxic masculinity. I think it means holding back on showing the emotions. Maybe you need to re-read the post.
Even some comments on boredpanda with the siblings or dating post, people think it's"inappropriate"to be hugging, or touching skin in anyway with family. I personally think it's healthy and wonderful that they have a strong relationship. It's sad that it's the 21st century and people still make comments on masculinity and affection with family in bad ways. ☹️
Till I saw this, I didn't even know such a thing existed!! I hugged my dad all the time, he passed away when I was around 34. I'll continue to hug my boy till I'm not around..
I (F) grew up in a family that wasn't very touchy-feely so I find it strange when anyone cuddles like this with a person that isn't their romantic partner. It just wasn't done in my family, we barely hugged each other much less cuddling. Of course I don't even speak to my parents now so maybe that says something...
I am disgusted by the guy saying no man should feel comfortable having this sort of physical contact with another grown man, cause it's unmanly. Sir, it's a father and son, how is it unmanly to have a bond with your children/parents. It's thinking like that that creates emotionally effed up toxic men. Also: fellas, is it gay to hug your son?
I am a girl. But I know a veteran of war who still hugs his kids, he and his adult sons will bunch up ona couch to watch sports, and nobody finds it odd that he puts an arm around one or both. He's got hsi "boys". Nobody found anything "gay" about it.
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I just find this so sad that a father hugging his own son is seemed as inappropriate. We certainly have a loooong way to go in ending the stupid toxic maculinity.
FOXXXXXYYYYYYY! HOW YA DOOOINNNNN? (sorry, i know it's weird but no regrets.)
Hahaha, love it. I am alright thank you 😊 What about yourself?
NO REGRETS xD
It's not weird :D Foxxy is Awesome!
Haha I see Foxxy on Bored Panda all the time lol!
Foxxy is like, the Celebrity of Bored Panda
Foxxy is a god. They've been around forever and they always stick up for people. We love you, Foxxy.
My jaw dropped when I read this topic. I have never ever even thought about this in that way. What is wrong with people who react like this ? I just like to think they lead pittyfull lives and have nothing else to do than troll other people.
Sometimes I enjoy reading your comments and insights more than the posts themselves. <3
Thank you so very much. I almost always love reading the comments more than the posts, We certainly have some characters and amazing people on Bored Panda. It is a big change from Facebook, we still get trolls but nowhere near as prevalent.
It really is sad. And it's even worse because there are thousands of kids who don't get hugs from their dads because society deems it 'inappropriate.' Toxic masculinity needs to end. What century are we in, the 18th century? No, we're in the 21st century, where hugs don't have a gender.
Foxxy is BP s celebrity 😃
yasssssssss
Foxxy (The Original) like
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
I upvoted you Foxxy even tho there seems to be some confusion about Toxic masculinity. I think it means holding back on showing the emotions. Maybe you need to re-read the post.
Even some comments on boredpanda with the siblings or dating post, people think it's"inappropriate"to be hugging, or touching skin in anyway with family. I personally think it's healthy and wonderful that they have a strong relationship. It's sad that it's the 21st century and people still make comments on masculinity and affection with family in bad ways. ☹️
Till I saw this, I didn't even know such a thing existed!! I hugged my dad all the time, he passed away when I was around 34. I'll continue to hug my boy till I'm not around..
I (F) grew up in a family that wasn't very touchy-feely so I find it strange when anyone cuddles like this with a person that isn't their romantic partner. It just wasn't done in my family, we barely hugged each other much less cuddling. Of course I don't even speak to my parents now so maybe that says something...
I am disgusted by the guy saying no man should feel comfortable having this sort of physical contact with another grown man, cause it's unmanly. Sir, it's a father and son, how is it unmanly to have a bond with your children/parents. It's thinking like that that creates emotionally effed up toxic men. Also: fellas, is it gay to hug your son?
I am a girl. But I know a veteran of war who still hugs his kids, he and his adult sons will bunch up ona couch to watch sports, and nobody finds it odd that he puts an arm around one or both. He's got hsi "boys". Nobody found anything "gay" about it.
Tomasz Jackowski +