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Man Refuses To Donate His Kidney To Save Twin Brother, Family Spams Him With Calls After His Death
Two bearded men facing each other intensely against a clear sky, representing family conflict and kidney donation tension.
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LGBTQ+ Man Refuses To Donate Life-Saving Organ To Evil Brother Who Tormented Him For Years

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The closer a person is to our heart, the easier they can hurt it. Who cares about what some distant stranger thinks of us? Our family, however…

A man recently turned to the internet, claiming his own brother had always tormented him. The cruel behavior started in childhood and persisted all the way to early adulthood, when he finally decided that enough was enough and cut ties not just with his toxic sibling but also with their parents who enabled him.

Things were seemingly going great, but one day, the man received a call that would force him to confront the past.

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    Some siblings have rivalries, but these brothers had a particularly toxic relationship

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    And supposedly, only one of them was responsible for all the bad blood between them

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    The final straw came when his brother mocked his sexuality, and his parents turned on him too

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    After years of estrangement, however, the brother reached out, requesting a kidney

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    Sometimes it’s not entirely clear who estranged who

    In recent years, familial estrangement has become a hot topic. “Sibling estrangement can be really painful, and it’s also very stigmatized,” says Rin Reczek, a professor of sociology at Ohio State University, adding that people on both sides of an estrangement often feel a sense of failure, as though the split is somehow an indictment of them or their values.

    According to her, there isn’t much data on how widespread sibling alienation is, but one German study suggests that almost 30 percent of siblings have experienced at least one period of estrangement.

    A YouGov survey released last year found a similar figure and reported that nearly one-quarter of American adults say they are currently estranged from a sibling.

    Dr. Reczek acknowledges that there are many reasons siblings become estranged. But research suggests that parental favoritism, whether real or imagined, can definitely drive a wedge between them, as can parental manipulation.

    And while sibling estrangement can seem like the best path for some, psychologist Joshua Coleman, author of the book Rules of Estrangement, still describes it as a “cataclysmic event” for the family. Nieces, nephews, and cousins may lose touch, and parents may be pulled into taking sides, says Dr. Coleman, who has dealt with estrangement in his own family.

    So quickly after posting his story, the man answered some of people’s biggest questions

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    Even though some people supported the man for his decision

    There were quite a few critics as well

    He then made another update, accusing his family even more

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    By then, everyone was just done

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    Rokas Laurinavičius

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    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

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    Corvus
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (shrug) If he's uncomfortable sharing a room with a gaay person, then surely he wouldn't be comfortable sharing a kidney? Just applying his homophobic logic here ;)

    person (i think)
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    😂 OP should have said he was protecting his brother from turning gay

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    Floeckchen
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah no. This was layed on a bit too thick to be a believable story.

    Thanos'Fingers
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you. I am often amazed at the bull people chug down like the KoolAid here.

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    Thanos'Fingers
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't make this s**t up. Orrr..?

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As I said in another comment, I read Reddit/BP posts as if they ARE fictional/just for the entertainment value. I admit this one would have been much more believable to me if OP and his brother weren't twins. "Golden child" stuff usually happens when there are age gaps. It's a bit harder to believe that parents would have THIS much of a preference for one twin over another, unless they had seriously different personalities from a VERY young age or the golden twin professed to believe in Big Sky Daddy and OP didn't (which OP does mention, but still.) I've been friends with more than one set of twins and have known of others, and there usually isn't a huge "golden child/black sheep" thing going on. An exception is my cousins, fraternal boy-girl twins, where the boy was absolutely favored, but that's because in my family's culture (Mexican), sons are more "valued" than daughters are.

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    Corvus
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (shrug) If he's uncomfortable sharing a room with a gaay person, then surely he wouldn't be comfortable sharing a kidney? Just applying his homophobic logic here ;)

    person (i think)
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    😂 OP should have said he was protecting his brother from turning gay

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    Floeckchen
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah no. This was layed on a bit too thick to be a believable story.

    Thanos'Fingers
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you. I am often amazed at the bull people chug down like the KoolAid here.

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    Thanos'Fingers
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't make this s**t up. Orrr..?

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As I said in another comment, I read Reddit/BP posts as if they ARE fictional/just for the entertainment value. I admit this one would have been much more believable to me if OP and his brother weren't twins. "Golden child" stuff usually happens when there are age gaps. It's a bit harder to believe that parents would have THIS much of a preference for one twin over another, unless they had seriously different personalities from a VERY young age or the golden twin professed to believe in Big Sky Daddy and OP didn't (which OP does mention, but still.) I've been friends with more than one set of twins and have known of others, and there usually isn't a huge "golden child/black sheep" thing going on. An exception is my cousins, fraternal boy-girl twins, where the boy was absolutely favored, but that's because in my family's culture (Mexican), sons are more "valued" than daughters are.

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