Mom Asks If She Was Wrong Not To Give Up Her Daughter’s Train Seat Though Another Passenger Paid For It
Since Agatha Christie’s ‘Murder On the Orient Express’, trains have always been the scene of drama of varying degrees of complexity and intricacy. Passengers quarrel with each other, with conductors and employees of the railway, accuse each other of lacking tickets – and then just vent about it on the internet.
If you have small children, you probably know what a nightmare a long train journey can be – not only for you, but for other passengers as well. If not – well, then this story may also be of interest to you.
The original post, published on the AITA Reddit community, received over 7.1K upvotes and approximately 3K various comments, with almost all of the authors unanimous in their opinion. But what was this opinion – now we’ll just find out.
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The Original Poster and her two kids went for a train journey to visit her uncle for New Year’s Eve
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So, the OP is the mother of two, a 7 Y.O. girl and a 4 Y.O. boy. At Christmas, she was unable to visit her uncle, who was suffering from cancer, so she decided to visit him on New Year’s Eve. Mom and children took COVID tests to make sure that their arrival would not be dangerous for a man with his disease, and at the last moment, it turned out that all three were healthy.
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The OP had to buy tickets literally at the last moment so they didn’t manage to reserve any particular seats
Due to the fact that they had to wait for the test results, and the OP was not sure until the last moment whether they would be able to go, they had to buy train tickets right before the journey – so it was not possible to reserve any specific seats. The mother and children got on the train – they had almost seven hours to ride, so she wanted the children to sit next to her.
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There were not many people in the car, but it was impossible to find three seats side by side, except for the seats marked as reserved. Since no one was sitting there, the woman decided to settle down in these places, and in case their owners appeared, to just try to negotiate with them somehow.
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Finally the man showed up who appeared to be the owner of the seat occupied by the OP’s daughter
Time passed, the train continued, new passengers gradually appeared, and so gradually the car was almost full. Finally, after a few hours of riding, a man appeared, apparently trying to find his seat. As the OP says, he rather rudely demanded that the passengers move back, showing him the seat numbers, but was looking for one.
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Mom asked the man to take another seat, but he refused in rather rude words
Finally, the angry passenger reached the OP with her children, and it turned out that the OP’s daughter was already sitting in his reserved seat. Just as angrily, the man demanded that the girl make room for him, but the mother, indignant at the tone of his voice, ordered her daughter to stay where she was.
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As a result of the argument, the OP tried to explain that her children were tired and suggested that the man take some other free seat. The passenger did not agree, stating that he specifically paid for this particular seat. A few minutes later he left, and the OP already decided that the conflict was over – but no such luck!
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The angry passenger ended up being dropped off at the nearest station
The passenger returned with a member of the staff, and claimed that the OP actually stole his seat. Apparently, the railway employee was a bit shocked by such a tone of voice as well, so she also invited the man to take any empty seat. He was again outraged, arguing that children could not be above the law, and was ordered to exit the train at the next station.
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The OP continued on her way, and her children were also shocked by this conflict. In her own words, she is not sure if she did the right thing – and the opinions of her relatives about this situation were split.
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Most of the people in the comments told the OP that she was wrong and even was teaching her kids to be entitled
But the people in the comments had only one opinion – the passenger paid for his seat, so the OP was supposed to give it to him, as the rules are the same for everyone. The commenters were surprised – after all, if, according to the OP, the car was not full at the beginning of their trip, why did she and the children necessarily take the reserved seats?
Some commenters have gone even further, claiming that she is harming her own children with her behavior, clearly teaching them to be entitled. In any case, even if the passenger agreed with the OP and moved to an empty seat, then an incident could occur with another person who might have also booked this other seat.
We, for our part, really want to know your opinion about this story, so feel free to write about it in the comments. And if you’ve been a part of train drama too, we’d like to know your own tale!
There is nothing more frustrating than paying extra for a reserved seat only for cheapskate, entitled assholes to take over.
And the weirdest thing about it is the woman seriously did not see anything wrong with her behavior!! I mean how far up your a** does your head have to be in order to not see that taking something another person paid for is wrong? Her daughter is going to be on a viral video in 20 years, cussing out coffee shop employees and screaming at managers...just you wait.
Load More Replies...Worst part is the man was kicked of the train. I hope he sues the train company
YTA. You should have apologized and offered an explanation. It more that likely would have diffused the situation. Where were your seats and why weren't you in them? Were they not all together?
@LuckyL She said the seats were reserved, so unless this is a country where reserved means something else, he specifically paid for that seat. If I were in his situation, I would've been irritated, too. I wouldn't have screamed at the child, but probably would've ended up yelling at the mother if my she continued like this. I don't care if there is something that's the exact same, if I paid for it, it means I paid specifically for it. You're free to call me a Karen for it, but if I got kicked out of the train for wanting to sit in the seat I PAID for, that companies head office or would have gotten a complain the next day.
Load More Replies...This story has a distinctive odor to it. I'd be interested in hearing how it actually played out without OP's embellishments about the guy's theatrics.
Quite. Often the 'they started screaming' is someone's attempt to make the other person look bad because they want to get people on-side. People seriously do exaggerate. Anyway, it is the seat he reserved and telling him to sit in other seats? No. He'll only end up getting moved when the person who reserved THAT seat gets on! Why should he? You haven't reserved a seat, that's life and it's often tough. Doesn't harm children to know they won't get their way in life just because they want something - the reverse in fact.
Load More Replies...Wow it's not very often in these I say YTA but... you ARE TA. I thought long and hard about this. Because I just found out I'm going to be a first time Grandma. Now it's been quite a while since I've dealt with babies and small children, a bit out of practice if you will. But I promise you this: If me and my soon to be grand baby were traveling and we were fortunate enough to sit in that kind of section because the train is empty ish, I would explain to my grandchild (as you should've explained to your kid(s) ) If someone comes that owns these seats we are moving. I don't care the reason we are moving. Way to raise a future AH.
I swear I heard this story from the guys prospective recently or at least a similar one. Yes she’s TA. Her idea of rude is ridiculous. The guy asked to see the seat numbers and that’s rude to her? She stole his seat and acted entitled to seats that won’t hers. Ugh entitled moms are the worse
Don't you just want to punch some people through their screen?
Load More Replies...Most definately an entitled a*****e. If it's so easy for this dude to go to another seat because they were open, then get you're lazy a*s up and let your kid get the seat you wanted her to have so bad even if you have to stand. Man this s**t woulda pissed me off if I saw it.
Yep. They should move but be prepared to move again - the other seats are also reserved for a reason. Why should he keep moving?
Load More Replies...I bet "yelled" in this instance means "dared to speak to my child in any manner other than to praise". In other words, entitled mom wants to make the guy look bad. And if the attendant really did tell him to sit elsewhere or kick the guy the company needs to be put on blast. This isn't hard - I paid for that seat, you took it. It's stealing.
There is nothing more frustrating than paying extra for a reserved seat only for cheapskate, entitled assholes to take over.
And the weirdest thing about it is the woman seriously did not see anything wrong with her behavior!! I mean how far up your a** does your head have to be in order to not see that taking something another person paid for is wrong? Her daughter is going to be on a viral video in 20 years, cussing out coffee shop employees and screaming at managers...just you wait.
Load More Replies...Worst part is the man was kicked of the train. I hope he sues the train company
YTA. You should have apologized and offered an explanation. It more that likely would have diffused the situation. Where were your seats and why weren't you in them? Were they not all together?
@LuckyL She said the seats were reserved, so unless this is a country where reserved means something else, he specifically paid for that seat. If I were in his situation, I would've been irritated, too. I wouldn't have screamed at the child, but probably would've ended up yelling at the mother if my she continued like this. I don't care if there is something that's the exact same, if I paid for it, it means I paid specifically for it. You're free to call me a Karen for it, but if I got kicked out of the train for wanting to sit in the seat I PAID for, that companies head office or would have gotten a complain the next day.
Load More Replies...This story has a distinctive odor to it. I'd be interested in hearing how it actually played out without OP's embellishments about the guy's theatrics.
Quite. Often the 'they started screaming' is someone's attempt to make the other person look bad because they want to get people on-side. People seriously do exaggerate. Anyway, it is the seat he reserved and telling him to sit in other seats? No. He'll only end up getting moved when the person who reserved THAT seat gets on! Why should he? You haven't reserved a seat, that's life and it's often tough. Doesn't harm children to know they won't get their way in life just because they want something - the reverse in fact.
Load More Replies...Wow it's not very often in these I say YTA but... you ARE TA. I thought long and hard about this. Because I just found out I'm going to be a first time Grandma. Now it's been quite a while since I've dealt with babies and small children, a bit out of practice if you will. But I promise you this: If me and my soon to be grand baby were traveling and we were fortunate enough to sit in that kind of section because the train is empty ish, I would explain to my grandchild (as you should've explained to your kid(s) ) If someone comes that owns these seats we are moving. I don't care the reason we are moving. Way to raise a future AH.
I swear I heard this story from the guys prospective recently or at least a similar one. Yes she’s TA. Her idea of rude is ridiculous. The guy asked to see the seat numbers and that’s rude to her? She stole his seat and acted entitled to seats that won’t hers. Ugh entitled moms are the worse
Don't you just want to punch some people through their screen?
Load More Replies...Most definately an entitled a*****e. If it's so easy for this dude to go to another seat because they were open, then get you're lazy a*s up and let your kid get the seat you wanted her to have so bad even if you have to stand. Man this s**t woulda pissed me off if I saw it.
Yep. They should move but be prepared to move again - the other seats are also reserved for a reason. Why should he keep moving?
Load More Replies...I bet "yelled" in this instance means "dared to speak to my child in any manner other than to praise". In other words, entitled mom wants to make the guy look bad. And if the attendant really did tell him to sit elsewhere or kick the guy the company needs to be put on blast. This isn't hard - I paid for that seat, you took it. It's stealing.


































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