Worker Refuses To Donate Vacation Days To A Colleague With A Sick Daughter, Gets Hate From Entire Office, Wonders If He’s A Jerk
Office life is full of drama, and this story proves that you can become the villain even without doing anything.
A now-deleted Reddit user made a post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ describing a particularly weird spot they ended up in.
Some time ago, one of their colleagues started asking around if somebody could “donate” their paid time off to her so she could attend to her sick daughter.
Eventually, word got out that our Redditor had a few days, and the woman confronted them. However, she received a negative reply, and the whole thing quickly escalated.
This person had saved up a few days off and was planning to spend them with their family
Image credits: Jason Goodman (not the actual photo)
But a coworker started demanding they “donate” their “savings”
Image credits: Sigmund (not the actual photo)
American workers are actually notorious for being workaholics. Since March of 2020, an overwhelming majority of U.S. employees have shortened, postponed, or canceled their vacation time, according to one survey of 2,000 people within the country.
Another recent study found that 26% of its respondents had never taken two weeks of vacation at one time.
And the Center for Economic and Policy Research has even gone so far as to call the U.S. the “No Vacation Nation.”
However, leaving vacation time on the table is taking its toll on us. A recent study by the World Health Organization (WHO) found that 745,000 people died in 2016 from heart disease and stroke due to long hours and said the trend might worsen due to the Covid-19 pandemic. The research suggested that working 55 hours or more a week was associated with a 35% higher risk of stroke and a 17% higher risk of dying from heart disease than a workweek of 35 to 40 hours.
So saying that our Redditor had “nothing to lose” by giving up their paid time off is actually simply not true.
Not to mention that going on holiday makes you feel more present and stimulated. “When we travel, we are usually breaking our normal routine,” Richard Davidson, professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin–Madison, and founder of the Center for Healthy Minds, told Forbes.
That means we break our autopilot cycle. “[The] decreased familiarity is an opportunity for most people to be more fully present, to really wake up,” he explained.
According to other research, meditation and vacations appear to have overlapping effects—the report discovered that both meditation exercises and vacationing were associated with higher levels of well-being and increased mindfulness.
So think twice the next time someone (or your own brain) tries to rationalize you out of getting some well-deserved rest!
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The real problem here is that a mother has no possibility to care for her child other than begging for other people's well deserved vacation days. Here in Germany, you have unlimited sick days for yourself and a limited number to care for your children. If you go over that limit, your health insurance will come up for it.
The problem here is the stupid system which doesn't give parents time to look after sick kids.
There is a system, it's called FMLA, among others. The problem here is, she's a parent with bad planning and just "expects" everyone else to chip in to help her out. She is literally asking everyone to donate money to her, money they earned. Which if fine, but saying "no" should be equally fine. I have 4 kids, and working around a shedule to do a doctor's visit, school thing, or whatever is one thing. Literally asking for the equivalent of cash is another becuase my lack of planning. Make arrangements, save you PTO, have a GD emergency fund so you can take FMLA unpaid if needed. If your kid has these issues, you should of been preparing for this, this isn't sudden.Be freaking responsible for your children, choose to save for these unpaid days instead of the nails/hair/new iphone, nice car payment..... There are MANY options avaliable to her in the U.S, she is just a leech, and too lazy to exercise those options.
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The real problem here is that a mother has no possibility to care for her child other than begging for other people's well deserved vacation days. Here in Germany, you have unlimited sick days for yourself and a limited number to care for your children. If you go over that limit, your health insurance will come up for it.
The problem here is the stupid system which doesn't give parents time to look after sick kids.
There is a system, it's called FMLA, among others. The problem here is, she's a parent with bad planning and just "expects" everyone else to chip in to help her out. She is literally asking everyone to donate money to her, money they earned. Which if fine, but saying "no" should be equally fine. I have 4 kids, and working around a shedule to do a doctor's visit, school thing, or whatever is one thing. Literally asking for the equivalent of cash is another becuase my lack of planning. Make arrangements, save you PTO, have a GD emergency fund so you can take FMLA unpaid if needed. If your kid has these issues, you should of been preparing for this, this isn't sudden.Be freaking responsible for your children, choose to save for these unpaid days instead of the nails/hair/new iphone, nice car payment..... There are MANY options avaliable to her in the U.S, she is just a leech, and too lazy to exercise those options.
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