Man Can’t Understand No For An Answer, Woman Agrees On Him Buying Her A Drink, Dumps It On His Shoes
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We all know that disadvantage – well, for some, maybe advantage – attention from random people when going out with your date, friends or just alone. It makes us uncomfortable, not safe and may destroy the whole mood of the party.
It’s not a surprise that women especially face unwanted attention from men in clubs or bars. If you haven’t faced this situation, you are lucky – however, if you have, you know how creeped out it makes you feel. Being touched, looked at or commented on by unwanted old men who don’t understand what no means is disgusting.
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No means no and if you don’t understand this, then be ready to face consequences
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Woman pours shot on man after he persisted in buying her drinks while she was on a date
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She emphasizes that it was obvious that she was on a date with her girlfriend, but not everybody managed to understand this
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One older man kept bothering her, making comments about her outfit, tried to touch her and insisted on buying her a drink
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Then she decided a revenge plan – she let him buy her a drink, which she poured right on his shoes
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She grabbed her girlfriend and rushed out of the club, leaving the man screaming and trying to follow them
Recently, one Reddit user shared her brilliant revenge story to the petty revenge community. After a creepy man insisted on buying her a drink for the whole night, she agreed, only to pour it on his shoes. The post gained a lot of attention and in just a day, it received more than 10.4K upvotes and almost 400 comments.
The woman starts by saying that one night, she and her girlfriend went to a bar and she highlights that it was obvious they were having a date. However, as it turns out – not to everybody. One older guy kept bothering her the whole night, insisting on buying her a drink, touching her and making comments about her outfit despite her informing him that she was on a date.
However, suddenly she calmed down and came up with a great way to deal with this old creep. So next time he came over to them, she agreed that he would buy her a drink. Well, after receiving a shot, she made sure that it was for her and she could do whatever she wanted with it. So, she just poured it on his shoes, explaining that when somebody tells him to leave them alone, especially somebody who could be his granddaughter, he should do so.
Well, to say that community members loved this revenge would be an understatement. “No means No. That is awesome. I hope he learned a lesson,” one user wrote. “You don’t touch anyone’s body without permission. If you do, you deserve alcohol in your eyes,” another added.
And what folks found even more insane is that this creep was hitting on the author the whole night, but in the end, called her ‘a kid.’
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For context, it’s important to note some rather disturbing statistics. According to Independent, unwanted sexual attention or harassment has been experienced by two thirds of young women and girls in public settings like a bus stop, park, or on the street. Moreover, 35% of them state that they have experienced it while wearing a school uniform.
However, as disturbing as it is to think about it, Parliament.uk states that sexual harassment is the norm on nights out. Moreover, it’s not only accepted, but also expected. Women expect it to happen and it has become kind of a part of going out. 63% of women and 26% of men aged 18-24 state that they have experienced sexual harassment in clubs, bars or pubs. Well, we live in a crazy world.
Luckily, as maybe many of you have heard, a UK program hopes to prevent sexual violence and harassment by encouraging people to walk up to the bar and “Ask for Angela” to seek help, which will cause staff members to get concerned. Luckily, this seems to be working as since bars’ personnel have received training, numerous significant instances of assault have been avoided.
So basically, to give a little bit of information about how it works, once you ask for Angela, staff will take you aside or to a safer spot, so you can speak in private and express your needs. The staff has a number of options, including offering to call a taxi, getting in touch with friends or relatives, asking the troublemaker to leave the location, or calling the police.
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Moreover, the author of this story was kind enough and agreed to share more information regarding this incident with Bored Panda.
So, as you may wonder, what was the girlfriend’s reaction? OP shares that she was a non-confrontational kind of person, so she mostly laughed awkwardly or kept quiet, but was definitely annoyed as well. “Towards the end, she wanted to leave and call it a night. This was about when I was contemplating some petty revenge for him ruining our night.” So while she was mortified at first, she still ended up laughing as they ran away.
Now, speaking about hindsight, if there was a better way to handle this situation, the woman says that hindsight is 20/20. “I definitely would have notified a bartender, but I stood by splashing him with the drink. I only have 2 regrets that were inspired by comments: that I should’ve splashed his pants and I wish it had been a bigger drink to do more splash damage,” she emphasizes. “I’m painfully aware that there are some people out there who have to learn the hard way.”
Also, highlighting broader societal issues particularly concerning unwanted advances and boundaries, OP shares that it’s entitlement. “It can tie into men VS women, but at its core it’s just entitlement,” she says. “I’ve had women act similarly. Consent is so important and alcohol really mucks it up – for both parties. It’s not an excuse for poor behavior, though.”
And finally, the author says that she is definitely surprised to receive so much attention regarding this story. “I’m not a big fan of technology, so I keep off of most platforms. Hell, my parents got smartphones before me. Reddit is one of the few I use; I’ve browsed since I was a kid but only made an account in the last year or so.”
So, guys, experiencing harassment on a night out shouldn’t be ‘normal’, as we go out to spend time with friends and not be bothered by random people. If you notice that you are constantly receiving unwanted attention, don’t hesitate to ask for help and don’t let random creeps ruin your night!
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This isn’t a new thing, either. I’m 62 now. When I was in my twenties, back in the eighties, there would often be some creepy old guy (different ones, not the same guy) sitting at the end of the bar at the club hitting on young women, as if he thought he was some young Studly that no one could resist. 🤮
Yeah, the ones that fondle their tie and think that looking like David Niven is really hot. 😉
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I find it disturbing that he said "kids these days" while referring to a person he was trying to f**k
she mentions in one of the replies that he didn't actually say that, just said something about "a rude little b*tch"
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I saw a post on here about drinks that are drugged smelling minty I think and if that's true then she definitely dodged a bullet
Roofied drinks don't actually have any different smell, especially mint. This is a dangerous lie going around and will make people drink something they shouldn't, because it didn't smell minty.
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Many years ago my sister's boyfriend kept trying to come on to me at a party which she would be attending but a bit later. I was telling him over and over again that nothing was going to happen between us, ever. In the end I asked for a taste of his drink (a pint of vodka and coke) and poured it over his head, bonus - he was wearing a white shirt and tan trousers!
I once had to pour a guy's pint over his head when he wouldn't stop harassing me in a pub. I constantly told him "no," and "I have a boyfriend" and he just wouldn't listen. I find it depressing that this still goes on. Ask any woman if this has happened to them, and most will say yes. Society needs to do better.
This story makes me feel like a creep. I don't pursue people who aren't interested, but I am dating someone who is young enough to be my grandkid. He is pursuing me. My last boyfriend's mother was younger than me and we were together for seven years (and are still good friends). I know I am a safe space for some people, but maybe I need to learn to say no.
Eh, cougaring. Some men enjoy that, some women enjoy older men. But pursuing should stop once either party says 'no'.
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All of this is horrific but reading the part where he followed them out was especially scary for me.
An old geezer hobbling on a cane isn't scary imo. The whole scene is just disgusting but she could probably have knocked that guy over with little effort.
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Dressed nicely, jewelry, make up, nice shoes, ect. just dressed to impress but also kinda "sexy" for lack of a better term.
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Stop saying CAN'T. Men CAN control themselves, they CAN read our signals, they just WON'T. Stop giving creepy predatory men an out by acting like they don't know what they're doing.
Depending on how old he was in comparison to you, one thing you could’ve said: “For goodness sake, dad/granddad! This always happens every time you get sloshed on the booze! Go home & sleep it off already!” … no doubt they’d get pissed, but it’s worth seeing the look on their face! 😂
I did the same thing only I threw it at his pants in the groin area so it looked like he had an “accident.”
At my age, the first thing I have to do when encountering a young woman is to ask myself "Is this one of my former students - or maybe one of their daughters?"
If you're hitting on somebody and they make you mad and your response is "kids these days!!!!"---the person you were hitting on is too young for you.
He didn't actually say that. She doesn't say he said that.
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That can entail police, best to not get a battery charge over some creep. I think what OP did was best, only other route is to tell the bartender that someone is touching you and won't leave you alone. Every bar I used to frequent would have the person out the door in a heart beat.
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Teach the old bastard what "no" means by first asking him if you can pour it on his shoes. Wait for the no, comment that obviously he doesn't understand the meaning of the word, and THEN dump it on his shoes.
Well; with what's happening in the world now a days, she's lucky he didn't hit her with a brick
At least he got a change to prove, that he could carry his liquour.
State very loudly, and in full view of the bartender or bouncer, "I have already asked you to leave me alone! Now go away!" Most bartenders and bouncers would gladly remove the creep.
A great story, and she did the right thing of course. But how did the bar staff not notice and step in? They needed to be more vigilant in these situations.
No woman should ever accept a drink from a strange guy. He was at the bar. You weren't. He probably tossed something into that drink. Disgusting olde farte!
I’ve been told i’m super fiesty, but i’m also introverted. i’m op’s place i would have been real loud and disruptive, especially if he wouldn’t leave me alone. i could have been that guys great granddaughters age. no means no. i don’t care if someone’s my age or 100 years older, if you keep touching me and won’t leave me alone, i will retaliate. not at first, but p**s me off enough and i will. i love op’s retaliation and attitude. great job
Once at Carnay in Maastricht with my sister, (I was in my thirties) side acquaintances of her kept trying to give us shots (, Flügel), I had drank quite some beer but had enough, didn't want this. They kept offering me, pressuring to take it. ( there was no sexual interest involved, more "let's party" pressure). They kept offering and pushing so I finally accepted a bottle. And poured it on the floor (we were outside) in front of them. They were pissed that I wasted their alcohol, my sister also didn't like what I did. I replied: then they should accept NO for an answer. No regrets and I think this is a very good way to make people stop pushing drinks on you. (Though don't pour a full g ja a*s indoors as other people might slip on it).
Agreed that he's an idiot, but who the fukc are you to be a gatekeeper on a public site saying who does and doesn't belong?
Load More Replies... I'm calling BS on this... the premise is real, but I don't believe her story.
It's obvious BS. She already admits to embellishing it in replies.
Load More Replies... U do realize that these type of things happens everyday everywhere?
Load More Replies... This isn’t a new thing, either. I’m 62 now. When I was in my twenties, back in the eighties, there would often be some creepy old guy (different ones, not the same guy) sitting at the end of the bar at the club hitting on young women, as if he thought he was some young Studly that no one could resist. 🤮
Yeah, the ones that fondle their tie and think that looking like David Niven is really hot. 😉
Load More Replies... I find it disturbing that he said "kids these days" while referring to a person he was trying to f**k
she mentions in one of the replies that he didn't actually say that, just said something about "a rude little b*tch"
Load More Replies... I saw a post on here about drinks that are drugged smelling minty I think and if that's true then she definitely dodged a bullet
Roofied drinks don't actually have any different smell, especially mint. This is a dangerous lie going around and will make people drink something they shouldn't, because it didn't smell minty.
Load More Replies... Many years ago my sister's boyfriend kept trying to come on to me at a party which she would be attending but a bit later. I was telling him over and over again that nothing was going to happen between us, ever. In the end I asked for a taste of his drink (a pint of vodka and coke) and poured it over his head, bonus - he was wearing a white shirt and tan trousers!
I once had to pour a guy's pint over his head when he wouldn't stop harassing me in a pub. I constantly told him "no," and "I have a boyfriend" and he just wouldn't listen. I find it depressing that this still goes on. Ask any woman if this has happened to them, and most will say yes. Society needs to do better.
This story makes me feel like a creep. I don't pursue people who aren't interested, but I am dating someone who is young enough to be my grandkid. He is pursuing me. My last boyfriend's mother was younger than me and we were together for seven years (and are still good friends). I know I am a safe space for some people, but maybe I need to learn to say no.
Eh, cougaring. Some men enjoy that, some women enjoy older men. But pursuing should stop once either party says 'no'.
Load More Replies... All of this is horrific but reading the part where he followed them out was especially scary for me.
An old geezer hobbling on a cane isn't scary imo. The whole scene is just disgusting but she could probably have knocked that guy over with little effort.
Load More Replies... Dressed nicely, jewelry, make up, nice shoes, ect. just dressed to impress but also kinda "sexy" for lack of a better term.
Load More Replies... Stop saying CAN'T. Men CAN control themselves, they CAN read our signals, they just WON'T. Stop giving creepy predatory men an out by acting like they don't know what they're doing.
Depending on how old he was in comparison to you, one thing you could’ve said: “For goodness sake, dad/granddad! This always happens every time you get sloshed on the booze! Go home & sleep it off already!” … no doubt they’d get pissed, but it’s worth seeing the look on their face! 😂
I did the same thing only I threw it at his pants in the groin area so it looked like he had an “accident.”
At my age, the first thing I have to do when encountering a young woman is to ask myself "Is this one of my former students - or maybe one of their daughters?"
If you're hitting on somebody and they make you mad and your response is "kids these days!!!!"---the person you were hitting on is too young for you.
He didn't actually say that. She doesn't say he said that.
Load More Replies... That can entail police, best to not get a battery charge over some creep. I think what OP did was best, only other route is to tell the bartender that someone is touching you and won't leave you alone. Every bar I used to frequent would have the person out the door in a heart beat.
Load More Replies... Teach the old bastard what "no" means by first asking him if you can pour it on his shoes. Wait for the no, comment that obviously he doesn't understand the meaning of the word, and THEN dump it on his shoes.
Well; with what's happening in the world now a days, she's lucky he didn't hit her with a brick
At least he got a change to prove, that he could carry his liquour.
State very loudly, and in full view of the bartender or bouncer, "I have already asked you to leave me alone! Now go away!" Most bartenders and bouncers would gladly remove the creep.
A great story, and she did the right thing of course. But how did the bar staff not notice and step in? They needed to be more vigilant in these situations.
No woman should ever accept a drink from a strange guy. He was at the bar. You weren't. He probably tossed something into that drink. Disgusting olde farte!
I’ve been told i’m super fiesty, but i’m also introverted. i’m op’s place i would have been real loud and disruptive, especially if he wouldn’t leave me alone. i could have been that guys great granddaughters age. no means no. i don’t care if someone’s my age or 100 years older, if you keep touching me and won’t leave me alone, i will retaliate. not at first, but p**s me off enough and i will. i love op’s retaliation and attitude. great job
Once at Carnay in Maastricht with my sister, (I was in my thirties) side acquaintances of her kept trying to give us shots (, Flügel), I had drank quite some beer but had enough, didn't want this. They kept offering me, pressuring to take it. ( there was no sexual interest involved, more "let's party" pressure). They kept offering and pushing so I finally accepted a bottle. And poured it on the floor (we were outside) in front of them. They were pissed that I wasted their alcohol, my sister also didn't like what I did. I replied: then they should accept NO for an answer. No regrets and I think this is a very good way to make people stop pushing drinks on you. (Though don't pour a full g ja a*s indoors as other people might slip on it).
Agreed that he's an idiot, but who the fukc are you to be a gatekeeper on a public site saying who does and doesn't belong?
Load More Replies... I'm calling BS on this... the premise is real, but I don't believe her story.
It's obvious BS. She already admits to embellishing it in replies.
Load More Replies... U do realize that these type of things happens everyday everywhere?
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