Bride With A Distinct Fashion Style Chooses A Dress Her MIL Doesn’t Like, MIL Buys A Dress Herself And Her Son Is Furious
Sometimes, planning a wedding can be a bit of a headache, to say the least. After all, preparing for one of the most important events in somebody’s life can put quite a bit of stress and pressure on one’s shoulders. That is why it is important that during such an occasion, everybody tries to find compromises and common ground so that everything goes as smoothly as possible.
People, however, can sometimes be hard to convince, even when things shouldn’t be up to them. Someone on Reddit decided to ask if they were wrong to ban their own mother from their wedding because of her constant and rude remarks regarding the Original Poster’s (OP) fiancee’s dress choice. Scroll down for the whole story!
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This groom decided that his mother wasn’t welcome at his wedding anymore after continuous insults of his fiancee’s dress
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As most of us can probably agree, the outfits of the newlyweds are some of the main highlights of any wedding. But above everything else, the newlyweds themselves have to enjoy their style. After all, it is their day. In the case of OP’s wedding preparations, among other people, his mother joined in when it came to picking his fiancee’s dress. The fiancee wanted to dress vintage, but OP’s mother thought that to be an inexcusably bad option.
OP starts out by saying that he and his fiancee, who loves to dress vintage, are getting ready for their wedding
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OP explains that he and his fiancee are getting married and mention that perhaps they’re not doing it at the best time, possibly hinting at the coronavirus pandemic. OP also explains that his fiancee loves to dress vintage, and even though he wouldn’t follow her example, he’s more than used to it. This is very important for the rest of the story.
OP explains that the issue arises when it comes to his mother’s outlook towards his fiancee’s dress code
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It appears that OP’s mother has a problem with his fiancee’s wedding dress, and for rather peculiar reasons. She managed to make a connection between the fiancee’s fashion choice and certain historical contexts, which point to the exploitation of women. On top of that, OP’s mother is constantly trying to convince the fiancee that she ought to wear something modern, rather than something she would feel good in.
The situation reached its peak when OP’s mother decided to bring a full wedding dress that she picked out to their home, which didn’t go down well
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When OP’s mother appeared in his and his fiancee’s home with a wedding dress in her hands, things went off the rails pretty quickly. Not only she was insisting that the fiancee’s dress was not appropriate, but she also started saying things that were truly out of proportion. The mother and son exchanged some things and she was uninvited from the wedding, storming out afterwards. After all this, OP wanted to know if he was wrong to do that.
The commentators stood in unanimous support for OP, saying that he was right in protecting his fiancee’s interests
All in all, it seems from people’s reactions that the OP was indeed right in that situation. Things can always be handled in the most orderly fashion possible, but other times strictness is key in protecting someone’s interests, which is what OP did. What do you think of the situation? Consider leaving a comment!
This one kills me. So many modern wedding dresses are made in sweatshops, with awful working conditions for little pay, almost exclusively by women. If you have the budget, you can avoid this, but it seems to me a modern dress is more potentially concerning from a feminist pov?
YES!!! Thank you!!!! I wish I could upvote your comment a million times. Modern fashion is far worse on the world’s women than vintage fashion. At least a vintage dress wouldn’t require several women paid slave wages to work 15 hour days to make the dress. If MIL is so concerned with the dress saying fiancée wants women to go back to being slaves, she should consider the working conditions of modern sweatshop employees.
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The mother is just seeking attention and wanting her own way, if she had any actual thoughts about feminism or women's rights, she would not be trying to police what other woman can or cannot choose to wear. No apology needed, she was out of line and deserved to be kicked out the house. I would leave what happens next to the fiance, and just support however she wants it handled. Could be that the fiance genuinely (and correctly) does not care what his mother thinks or says and just wants to get on with her wedding. If she is confident in her own style, and dresses differently on a daily basis, likely she has heard it all before.
Yes she is just using it as an excuse to bully her DIL i am sure
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Why would you assume someone is anti-feminist based on their vintage clothing? That's ridiculous.
Yeah, I don't get it either... surely feminism is about equity of choice and options between genders... not freeing yourself from men telling you what you can and can't wear only to then be a slave to other women telling you what you can and can't wear?
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This one kills me. So many modern wedding dresses are made in sweatshops, with awful working conditions for little pay, almost exclusively by women. If you have the budget, you can avoid this, but it seems to me a modern dress is more potentially concerning from a feminist pov?
YES!!! Thank you!!!! I wish I could upvote your comment a million times. Modern fashion is far worse on the world’s women than vintage fashion. At least a vintage dress wouldn’t require several women paid slave wages to work 15 hour days to make the dress. If MIL is so concerned with the dress saying fiancée wants women to go back to being slaves, she should consider the working conditions of modern sweatshop employees.
Load More Replies... The mother is just seeking attention and wanting her own way, if she had any actual thoughts about feminism or women's rights, she would not be trying to police what other woman can or cannot choose to wear. No apology needed, she was out of line and deserved to be kicked out the house. I would leave what happens next to the fiance, and just support however she wants it handled. Could be that the fiance genuinely (and correctly) does not care what his mother thinks or says and just wants to get on with her wedding. If she is confident in her own style, and dresses differently on a daily basis, likely she has heard it all before.
Yes she is just using it as an excuse to bully her DIL i am sure
Load More Replies... Why would you assume someone is anti-feminist based on their vintage clothing? That's ridiculous.
Yeah, I don't get it either... surely feminism is about equity of choice and options between genders... not freeing yourself from men telling you what you can and can't wear only to then be a slave to other women telling you what you can and can't wear?
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