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Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It’ll Make Your Skin Crawl
Leaving an abusive partner is one of the most difficult choices a victim can make, but for some, telling their story afterwards is even harder. This woman decided to break the silence and share hers, and she’s been met with a viral round of applause.
The woman, an Imgur user who goes by the screen name krissykross, used screenshots of text conversations and written anecdotes to tell the world about ‘Adam,’ her physically, sexually and emotionally abusive ex-husband. “Strangers on the internet are better than keeping it inside for so long,” she wrote about her decision to open up 3 years after the end of it all. Her post has now been viewed over 600 thousand times, and has received an outpouring of support from commentators. “I upvoted because this is insanity and should be seen by more. Glad you’re okay,” one user wrote.
Though this woman was able to escape from her ordeal, it’s estimated by The Huffington Post that at least 3 women are killed by intimate partners each day in the US – over 1 thousand per year. Stories of survival are crucial for current victims who may be afraid to find help, and who may even still be unaware that they’re being abused. Read how krissykross found a way out of her toxic marriage below.
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One brave woman decided to share the story of her abusive husband, showing some texts he had sent:
“This is a good example of strings of texts I would get at work while on shift (I am not allowed my phone on the clock.)”
“Tony was a coworker. I knew when he clocked off because it was when I was clocking on. Fella helped me change my tire one time and I was suddenly banging him (apparently.)”
“I stayed the night with a female friend from work. He knew because he “set traps” for me”
“I visit my mother one every couple years. I had a huge bruise on my arm from where my husband had bit me, leaving visible teeth marks. The bruise was so bad it hung around for almost a month. Long enough for a visit to my mothers and to still be photographed by NCIS when I finally turned him several weeks later.”
She continued to share her whole story:
If you or someone you love needs help, don’t be afraid. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233
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SusanS 8 years ago
Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.
Cesi Baca 8 years ago
That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.
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Violaine LB 8 years ago
That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.
lakitha tolbert 8 years ago
When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.
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Gerri Ballou 8 years ago
I also was in an abusive relationship years ago....I know all to well what you have been through....May God bless you and keep you safe....You are a very strong person, and will eventually learn to love and trust again,,,,,Best of luck to you!!! <3
Michael Naranjo 8 years ago
This is a horrible situation and I'm glad she finally got out of it. I saw a listing for a domestic abuse line and I'd like to remind everyone that men can be victims too. I was in a similar situation to this women and i tried reaching out to two different domestic abuse centers in my area for help and they turned me away. They of course wouldn't admit it but i knew it was because I'm a man. Men aren't seen as the victims
Evelyn Brooks 8 years ago
I apologize, that is a horrible thing for them to do. Hope you are out of your unhappy situation too! Good luck and I wish you well!
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Kristine Murphy 8 years ago
Congratulations to her for getting out & moving forward. Love and light to you. I hope I can do the same.
Rukshana Miah 8 years ago
This is an amazing reflection of a woman who did not give up. I can assure you, that it is common only to have a couple of friends during the court case. At least your childhood friends did not ask you if you were making it up like mine did
Connie Smith Brough 8 years ago
To those that have gotten out safely, be careful and don't start dating immediately. So often I have watched gals get out of a bad relationship and they are so anxious for someone to "love" them, that they get involved in another relationship. Sometimes new relationship isn't much better. TAKE TIME TO FIND YOURSELF AND BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM! There are more important things to think about than having a bed partner. Too many gals base their relationship on how good the sex is. You should have a good, trusting friendship first... because if you don't have that and, at some point you aren't able to have sex, then you don't have anything! USE COMMON SENSE!
Nomadus Aureus 8 years ago
This. My past relationship wasn't physically abusive. In fact, only after having left have I realised how much of a toll it took on me. I became isolated, unable to make even the most simple decisions without panicking and convincing myself that it's the worst decision ever. I'm still in the phase of building myself up, but luckily, I've met someone absolutely brilliant who is 100% there to support me in my journey.
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Anonimas Nežinomas 8 years ago
Unfortunately, these don't make my skin crawl, they make me seriously pissed off.
Rin Rin 8 years ago
I feel both, pissed off and seriously creeped! I would f*** murder the dbag who dared to harm animals or hurt a woman. Hope that man never gets kids.
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Mary Mulrooney 8 years ago
I have stories of my ex that would make you wonder why I am still alive. There were no domestic violence laws when I was going through the abuse. His family always asked what I did to provoke him.....ummmm I was breathing. Its been 32 years since my divorce, he is on wife #4 and I have never remarried or had any serious relationships.
Racquel Morr 8 years ago
I'm sorry. He completely destroyed your faith in love. I have had quite a lesson thank God. I now know that not all men are like that and a man only has the power you give him over you. There are ringers to look for that betray their bent to sadism. We need to learn the warning signs. The attempts to control and to belittle in subtle ways when they find you emotionally resistant to their attemts to bend you to their will. The are very charming too, so one has to beware, but one main marker is they have very little empathy for the feelings of others.
Load More Replies... SusanS 8 years ago
Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.
Cesi Baca 8 years ago
That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.
Load More Replies... Violaine LB 8 years ago
That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.
lakitha tolbert 8 years ago
When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.
Load More Replies... Gerri Ballou 8 years ago
I also was in an abusive relationship years ago....I know all to well what you have been through....May God bless you and keep you safe....You are a very strong person, and will eventually learn to love and trust again,,,,,Best of luck to you!!! <3
Michael Naranjo 8 years ago
This is a horrible situation and I'm glad she finally got out of it. I saw a listing for a domestic abuse line and I'd like to remind everyone that men can be victims too. I was in a similar situation to this women and i tried reaching out to two different domestic abuse centers in my area for help and they turned me away. They of course wouldn't admit it but i knew it was because I'm a man. Men aren't seen as the victims
Evelyn Brooks 8 years ago
I apologize, that is a horrible thing for them to do. Hope you are out of your unhappy situation too! Good luck and I wish you well!
Load More Replies... Kristine Murphy 8 years ago
Congratulations to her for getting out & moving forward. Love and light to you. I hope I can do the same.
Rukshana Miah 8 years ago
This is an amazing reflection of a woman who did not give up. I can assure you, that it is common only to have a couple of friends during the court case. At least your childhood friends did not ask you if you were making it up like mine did
Connie Smith Brough 8 years ago
To those that have gotten out safely, be careful and don't start dating immediately. So often I have watched gals get out of a bad relationship and they are so anxious for someone to "love" them, that they get involved in another relationship. Sometimes new relationship isn't much better. TAKE TIME TO FIND YOURSELF AND BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM! There are more important things to think about than having a bed partner. Too many gals base their relationship on how good the sex is. You should have a good, trusting friendship first... because if you don't have that and, at some point you aren't able to have sex, then you don't have anything! USE COMMON SENSE!
Nomadus Aureus 8 years ago
This. My past relationship wasn't physically abusive. In fact, only after having left have I realised how much of a toll it took on me. I became isolated, unable to make even the most simple decisions without panicking and convincing myself that it's the worst decision ever. I'm still in the phase of building myself up, but luckily, I've met someone absolutely brilliant who is 100% there to support me in my journey.
Load More Replies... Anonimas Nežinomas 8 years ago
Unfortunately, these don't make my skin crawl, they make me seriously pissed off.
Rin Rin 8 years ago
I feel both, pissed off and seriously creeped! I would f*** murder the dbag who dared to harm animals or hurt a woman. Hope that man never gets kids.
Load More Replies... Mary Mulrooney 8 years ago
I have stories of my ex that would make you wonder why I am still alive. There were no domestic violence laws when I was going through the abuse. His family always asked what I did to provoke him.....ummmm I was breathing. Its been 32 years since my divorce, he is on wife #4 and I have never remarried or had any serious relationships.
Racquel Morr 8 years ago
I'm sorry. He completely destroyed your faith in love. I have had quite a lesson thank God. I now know that not all men are like that and a man only has the power you give him over you. There are ringers to look for that betray their bent to sadism. We need to learn the warning signs. The attempts to control and to belittle in subtle ways when they find you emotionally resistant to their attemts to bend you to their will. The are very charming too, so one has to beware, but one main marker is they have very little empathy for the feelings of others.
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