Often, people have deep connections with their pets—after all, even though it’s an animal of a different species, the mutual connection can run deep. Sadly, pets usually live way shorter lives than their owners, leading people to experience the grief of losing such a beloved family member.
In fact, sometimes people refuse to acknowledge that their pet’s time on this Earth has run its course and try to elongate it as much as possible. The OP’s husband had trouble dealing with that. So, the woman decided to take matters into her own hands and relieve their pet of their suffering, which caused her husband to lose his mind.
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While wanting to help your ill pet is a normal reaction, sometimes it’s important to acknowledge that letting them go is the most humane choice
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A couple’s 16-year-old dog’s health started declining rapidly to the point where the pet was basically immobile
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The vets said that the best thing the couple could do was euthanize a dog, releasing it from its pain, but the couple chose to get a treatment first instead
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Sadly, the treatment was fruitless — instead of improving the animal’s life, it only prolonged its suffering, but the husband still insisted on continuing it and not getting euthanasia
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Not being able to see her beloved pet suffer so much, the woman decided to bring the dog to euthanasia behind her husband’s back so he couldn’t stop her
Around 16 years ago, the OP and her husband adopted an 8-week chihuahua, who they named Baby Grinch.
Now, all these years later, sadly, the dog’s health has been steadily declining. Depending on various factors, a chihuahua’s life span is somewhere between 14 and 16 years. So, knowing how old their dog is, the declining health is no surprise, but it doesn’t make it any less heartbreaking.
In the case of the original poster’s pet, the dog started to have trouble walking, seizures, and not having enough energy even to lift a head. When they took it to the vet, they found the dog was struggling with very serious health issues, and they could either medicate it or euthanize it.
Usually, euthanasia is recommended in incurable cases when letting the pet cross the rainbow bridge is the most humane way to let them go from their suffering. Yet, since it leads to people losing their beloved pet, quite often, they try out everything else to avoid this decision. The couple from today’s story is no different.
Sadly, the treatment only managed to elongate the pet’s life but not improve its health. The dog was still deteriorating right in front of its owner’s eyes.
So, the woman realized that the only humane thing to do was put the doggie down. It was clearly struggling every second of its life so much that you can barely even call such existence life – it was just suffering.
She started talking to her husband about such a possibility, but every time she did, he would shoot her down. Even when vets told him the same thing, he still refused such a choice.
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Of course, his persistence is understandable – it’s hard to let go of a pet you loved so much for so long – Baby Grinch was basically the couple’s baby. After all, the grief an individual experiences from losing a pet is not that much different from the loss of a person.
At the same time, sometimes it’s important to acknowledge that the best thing you can do for your pet is to let them go, especially in situations like this, when an animal experiences nothing but suffering.
So, the OP decided to take matters into her own hands and bring Baby Grinch to euthanasia herself. She did it while her husband was at work, informing him right before it happened so he could say goodbye. Instead of doing so, he exploded – begged the wife not to do it, cursing her for such a plan and things like that, you can probably imagine.
She still did it, which resulted in quite a rift in their marriage. In fact, it even went to the point of him threatening divorce. So, the woman came online to ask whether she was such a terrible person for doing what she did.
Well, according to the netizens, she isn’t—as we already acknowledged, the dog was severely suffering, so easing its pain was the best thing that could’ve been done. In fact, they pointed out that the man was acting selfishly by not letting the dog go.
What do you think? Was the OP’s action justified? How would you have approached such a situation? Share your takes in the comments!
This caused the man to explode on her, but in netizens’ eyes, she did the right thing by letting her pet go, as her husband’s stance was a selfish one
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This is his issue to work through, but OP should think carefully about whether or not she wants to stay married to someone who lashes out like this, and who's attitude to suffering and compassion are so different to hers. Grief is often an unfortunate litmus test.
OP also needs to have a serious conversation about what action she would or wouldn't want to be taken should she succumb to certain illnesses or accident. And if she can't trust him to follow through, she needs to legally appoint someone else to make those decisions.
Load More Replies...Cat here got cancer. Short story, we found out when went to pickets her up from vet. Worst decision ever, but we realised she was in a lot of pain. Just was such a fast turn from happy 'kitty'. 😿
I've had to make that decision more time that I care to remember, having had cats for the last 45 years, typically between two and four at a time. It doesn't get any easier. But the husband here needs, or needed, a dose of common sense. Even at the end, last time with Jack, the choice of that or "well, we can drain all the fluid out of the abdomen, give him some more painkillers and he'll last a day or two more" was heartbreaking but obvious. (Cancer, internal organs no longer really functioning).
Who are the 33% in the poll who would've let the husband continue treatment? You want your pet to be in major pain and discomfort just to have extra days with you? Your pet already gave all of their love and best days, don't abandon them in the end by making them suffer unnecessary. Do what is best for your pet, not what's best for you. They went to multiple vets who all heavily advised for euthanasia, you'd think the message is clear, right?
Apart from this being 5 years old (sigh)...they always say it's better to let them go a day too early than a day too late. Animals will do their best to cling on and carry on as normal, since they have no idea it's terminal, but the best thing you can do for them is to let them go. It's horrible - I've had to do it several times - but it's the best thing for the pet, which should be the primary concern. If only we could afford people the same dignity when the end comes.
I had to euthanize my beloved Percy who also was a chihuahua at 10 years old due to heart failure. The meds were not working and he was suffering struggling to breathe. It’s been 4 years and I still cry on his birthday and anniversary of his death. I don’t regret my decision though when you love something the last thing you want is for it to suffer. :(
Emotionally immature man. If your feelings are more important than relieving your pets pain, you shouldn't have pets.
NGL, this made me cry (again) for my furry soul mate who had to be put to sleep due to incurable arthritis. It was the kind thing to do but D**N it still hurts 30 years later. We grew up together. I get how the husband is feeling but he should not let an animal suffer because of the emotion he has attached.
We keep them hanging on for ourselves. It's not selfish, it's love but love is also knowing when to let them cross the rainbow. I dread the day I have to do that to either one of my dogs but it's the humane thing to do. NOT THE AH.
Exactly this. The husband wasn't being mature about his dog. I don't mean that necessarily in a negative way. He sounds like he reverted back to his 10-year-old self. He's seeing his best friend, who loved him through thick and thin, slowly being pulled away from him and being unable to do anything about it. Deep down, he was hoping for a miracle. Unfortunately it didn't happen, and OP was forced to take control of the situation. I hope that counseling will help heal the hole in his heart. He also needs to remember that OP is hurting, too
Load More Replies...She made the right decision. It is cruel to keep a pet alive knowing it is suffering. Hopefully her husband will see sense once he has had chance to calm down. He had the opportunity to go with her but he chose to bury his head in the sand.
The mistake she made was telling him. She should have had a vet come to the house and put her down. Then call him and say she found her like that.
It is cruel to make a pet suffer just because of YOUR OWN feelings. This husband is being selfish in not wanting to end this poor animal's pain. He is truly TA.
I've been in her position. First family dog was 16. She'd been getting picky over her food for a few months and we'd been doing her best. My parents took her to the vets while I was working. Vet gave a vitamin injection and told them to bring her back the following morning, no matter what. Mum told me when I got home from work that "if dog is better in morning, we won't take her back". Me and dad told her that the vet was giving a warning. If we didn't take her back, the RSPCA would be called. Me and my mum took her back the following morning (dad worked mornings) and said good bye. I've had to make that decision again since then and I'm reaching that point with my current dog. It's the hardest decision in the world to make, but I always think back to a comment on a rescue forum when someone was doubting themselves after taking their pet for the final vet visit; "better a day too early than a week too late."
The AH part isn’t that she had the pet killed more or less humanely. I say more or less because we don’t really know what they feel, but that’s another story. The AH part is how she did it, no matter how illogical it sounds. She may well end up divorced over this and the fact that they’re in counseling now indicates the potential for that. And I have had a 14 year old dog killed while I held her, so I understand her motives. But my SO and I agreed and were both there.
That's rather selfish and not helping yourself. If a pet suffers it's better to relieve them a day early than a day late. Keeping them alive for YOU hurts them. How could you want that? Why would be prolonged suffering be ok just so you are less alone?
Load More Replies...This is his issue to work through, but OP should think carefully about whether or not she wants to stay married to someone who lashes out like this, and who's attitude to suffering and compassion are so different to hers. Grief is often an unfortunate litmus test.
OP also needs to have a serious conversation about what action she would or wouldn't want to be taken should she succumb to certain illnesses or accident. And if she can't trust him to follow through, she needs to legally appoint someone else to make those decisions.
Load More Replies...Cat here got cancer. Short story, we found out when went to pickets her up from vet. Worst decision ever, but we realised she was in a lot of pain. Just was such a fast turn from happy 'kitty'. 😿
I've had to make that decision more time that I care to remember, having had cats for the last 45 years, typically between two and four at a time. It doesn't get any easier. But the husband here needs, or needed, a dose of common sense. Even at the end, last time with Jack, the choice of that or "well, we can drain all the fluid out of the abdomen, give him some more painkillers and he'll last a day or two more" was heartbreaking but obvious. (Cancer, internal organs no longer really functioning).
Who are the 33% in the poll who would've let the husband continue treatment? You want your pet to be in major pain and discomfort just to have extra days with you? Your pet already gave all of their love and best days, don't abandon them in the end by making them suffer unnecessary. Do what is best for your pet, not what's best for you. They went to multiple vets who all heavily advised for euthanasia, you'd think the message is clear, right?
Apart from this being 5 years old (sigh)...they always say it's better to let them go a day too early than a day too late. Animals will do their best to cling on and carry on as normal, since they have no idea it's terminal, but the best thing you can do for them is to let them go. It's horrible - I've had to do it several times - but it's the best thing for the pet, which should be the primary concern. If only we could afford people the same dignity when the end comes.
I had to euthanize my beloved Percy who also was a chihuahua at 10 years old due to heart failure. The meds were not working and he was suffering struggling to breathe. It’s been 4 years and I still cry on his birthday and anniversary of his death. I don’t regret my decision though when you love something the last thing you want is for it to suffer. :(
Emotionally immature man. If your feelings are more important than relieving your pets pain, you shouldn't have pets.
NGL, this made me cry (again) for my furry soul mate who had to be put to sleep due to incurable arthritis. It was the kind thing to do but D**N it still hurts 30 years later. We grew up together. I get how the husband is feeling but he should not let an animal suffer because of the emotion he has attached.
We keep them hanging on for ourselves. It's not selfish, it's love but love is also knowing when to let them cross the rainbow. I dread the day I have to do that to either one of my dogs but it's the humane thing to do. NOT THE AH.
Exactly this. The husband wasn't being mature about his dog. I don't mean that necessarily in a negative way. He sounds like he reverted back to his 10-year-old self. He's seeing his best friend, who loved him through thick and thin, slowly being pulled away from him and being unable to do anything about it. Deep down, he was hoping for a miracle. Unfortunately it didn't happen, and OP was forced to take control of the situation. I hope that counseling will help heal the hole in his heart. He also needs to remember that OP is hurting, too
Load More Replies...She made the right decision. It is cruel to keep a pet alive knowing it is suffering. Hopefully her husband will see sense once he has had chance to calm down. He had the opportunity to go with her but he chose to bury his head in the sand.
The mistake she made was telling him. She should have had a vet come to the house and put her down. Then call him and say she found her like that.
It is cruel to make a pet suffer just because of YOUR OWN feelings. This husband is being selfish in not wanting to end this poor animal's pain. He is truly TA.
I've been in her position. First family dog was 16. She'd been getting picky over her food for a few months and we'd been doing her best. My parents took her to the vets while I was working. Vet gave a vitamin injection and told them to bring her back the following morning, no matter what. Mum told me when I got home from work that "if dog is better in morning, we won't take her back". Me and dad told her that the vet was giving a warning. If we didn't take her back, the RSPCA would be called. Me and my mum took her back the following morning (dad worked mornings) and said good bye. I've had to make that decision again since then and I'm reaching that point with my current dog. It's the hardest decision in the world to make, but I always think back to a comment on a rescue forum when someone was doubting themselves after taking their pet for the final vet visit; "better a day too early than a week too late."
The AH part isn’t that she had the pet killed more or less humanely. I say more or less because we don’t really know what they feel, but that’s another story. The AH part is how she did it, no matter how illogical it sounds. She may well end up divorced over this and the fact that they’re in counseling now indicates the potential for that. And I have had a 14 year old dog killed while I held her, so I understand her motives. But my SO and I agreed and were both there.
That's rather selfish and not helping yourself. If a pet suffers it's better to relieve them a day early than a day late. Keeping them alive for YOU hurts them. How could you want that? Why would be prolonged suffering be ok just so you are less alone?
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