Guy Leaves $10 Tip In A Fancy Restaurant Instead Of The Expected $14, Doesn’t Expect Things To Escalate So Horribly
As a non-American I gotta say I really don’t get the tipping system over there in the US of A. Servers get the tip they deserve, based on quality of service, right? There is no law or obligation to tip? It all seems mighty confusing and an unnecessary source of potential confrontation at a time when people are supposed to be out enjoying themselves. Why can’t restaurants just pay their servers properly in the first place? The unspoken rules and expectations make the whole situation so…arbitrary.
Imgur user noctynight encountered such a situation while on a date recently, finding himself embarrassingly short when it came time to pay up and tip the server. Sure, it was poor planning on his behalf, but he sheepishly managed to scrape up 15% of the bill for the service received, and was all set to leave the restaurant and go home.
Except that wasn’t to be the end of it. The server had a few questions to ask about the tip, and the quality of her service. Needless to say, it didn’t end well. Scroll down to check the story out for yourself, and let us know what you think in the comments! (Cover image: Matt Chan)
“Had a wonderful dinner date, all that’s left is to pay the bill and head out”
Image credits: Chris Goldberg (Not an actual photo)
“Server comes back and asks if something bad has happened due to the size of her tip…”
“Try to explain to the server that there was nothing wrong and we just could’t afford to put in anymore”
Image credits: Kent Wang (Not an actual photo)
“Server: ‘Sir. I would actually be offended if I accepted something as small as this'”
Here’s how people reacted
I understand why the server was mad, but she has to realize. Tips are 100% voluntary people do not "need" to tip. It is highly encouraged and a common social practice but again you do not have too legally tip them, and the fact that she basically publically shamed someone for a what she thought was a small tip means that she should probably not be a server. If you something that small makes you flip out then you are in the wrong business.
Andres: Amen! Shes lucky to have a job, with her attitude.
Load More Replies...why don't restaurants add a % to the meal costs knowing that a certain amount will go to the chef and a certain amount to the waitress/waiter, a % going to the person cleaning the tables/dishes/room and the rest goes to the owner... I'm all for tips, but unless it states you MUST tip, surely they should get what the person can afford or feels they want to leave?
It's a great idea Matt. Restaurants won't do it though because it will count as extra income that they will incur tax on. The staff won't like it either because the % payments will have to go on their official pay and therefore they will be taxed on it too. That's why tips work for both restaurants and staff in some ways. Just maybe not for customers.
Load More Replies...I'm English and have been to New York a few times. One of the times I went with my best friend and took him to a restaurant I fell in love with on a precious trip. We left money on the table for the bill and were unsure how much to tip so roughly worked it out and left a few dollars more just in case. The waitress followed us out of he restaurant and across the road to say we hadn't tipped enough. Unbelievable.
I am sorry for your experience, but let me stress the caveat that New York is NOT representative of the rest of us in the USA.
Load More Replies...Where I come from you don't NEED to tip, when you tip it's something extra you want to give or to round up the money you have to pay. So to me 15% allready sounds like a big tip.
except in the states, waitresses survive on tips. Their wages are lower than minimum wage.
Load More Replies...What is it with the us and forced tipping. as a rebuttal for the waiter claiming that "if you cant afford the tip, then i suggest you choose a more suitable establishment" would be "if you can't afford to live on the wage, then i suggest you choose a more suitable job". It's the responsability of the employer to pay the staff, not of the patrons. Tipping started as a way for patrons to help a staffer cause of poor wage, but was in no way or means an obligation. You have a job for a wage, if your job doesn't pay you enough, take it to your employer, not the patrons.
because unlike a lot of other countries, they aren't paid a wage. I mean if in the UK for example (not sure where you're from but that's where I live) do you think employers would pay their employees minimum wage (which is c**p anyway) if they weren't forced to? No.. A lot of employers would be greedy and give them far less, which is where tipping would come in
Load More Replies...I once paid a $20 ticket with a $50 dollar bill. The waitress asked me if I wanted my change. Yeah, every bit of it. I bartended for a little bit a know it's a tough gig but if you can't deal with petty b******t you need a career change.
That sounds like she was asking you for a $30 tip. Did I read that right? What nerve!
Load More Replies...I once went out with a group of colleagues to a pretty cheesy sports bar after work. Our server was surly, gruff and most absent for most of the night. When the bill came around we all agreed that we'd only tip her 10%. She had the gall to not only confront us, but also had a giant bouncer standing behind her. A woman in our group gave her an earful, and soon the terrible server was backing away from us, and the bouncer was trying hard not to laugh. Justice served.
Can't believe you guys tipped her that much if the service was so horrible.
Load More Replies...Words from my waitress mother: tipping is preferred and encouraged, not required. You accept what tips you get or don't get, and you NEVER question it. If you want complain about it on your own time, go ahead, but not while you're at work, even after they've left. Some people would have left $5 or less, maybe even nothing. That waitress should have just kept her mouth shut and be grateful she got a tip at all.
I understand why the server was mad, but she has to realize. Tips are 100% voluntary people do not "need" to tip. It is highly encouraged and a common social practice but again you do not have too legally tip them, and the fact that she basically publically shamed someone for a what she thought was a small tip means that she should probably not be a server. If you something that small makes you flip out then you are in the wrong business.
Andres: Amen! Shes lucky to have a job, with her attitude.
Load More Replies...why don't restaurants add a % to the meal costs knowing that a certain amount will go to the chef and a certain amount to the waitress/waiter, a % going to the person cleaning the tables/dishes/room and the rest goes to the owner... I'm all for tips, but unless it states you MUST tip, surely they should get what the person can afford or feels they want to leave?
It's a great idea Matt. Restaurants won't do it though because it will count as extra income that they will incur tax on. The staff won't like it either because the % payments will have to go on their official pay and therefore they will be taxed on it too. That's why tips work for both restaurants and staff in some ways. Just maybe not for customers.
Load More Replies...I'm English and have been to New York a few times. One of the times I went with my best friend and took him to a restaurant I fell in love with on a precious trip. We left money on the table for the bill and were unsure how much to tip so roughly worked it out and left a few dollars more just in case. The waitress followed us out of he restaurant and across the road to say we hadn't tipped enough. Unbelievable.
I am sorry for your experience, but let me stress the caveat that New York is NOT representative of the rest of us in the USA.
Load More Replies...Where I come from you don't NEED to tip, when you tip it's something extra you want to give or to round up the money you have to pay. So to me 15% allready sounds like a big tip.
except in the states, waitresses survive on tips. Their wages are lower than minimum wage.
Load More Replies...What is it with the us and forced tipping. as a rebuttal for the waiter claiming that "if you cant afford the tip, then i suggest you choose a more suitable establishment" would be "if you can't afford to live on the wage, then i suggest you choose a more suitable job". It's the responsability of the employer to pay the staff, not of the patrons. Tipping started as a way for patrons to help a staffer cause of poor wage, but was in no way or means an obligation. You have a job for a wage, if your job doesn't pay you enough, take it to your employer, not the patrons.
because unlike a lot of other countries, they aren't paid a wage. I mean if in the UK for example (not sure where you're from but that's where I live) do you think employers would pay their employees minimum wage (which is c**p anyway) if they weren't forced to? No.. A lot of employers would be greedy and give them far less, which is where tipping would come in
Load More Replies...I once paid a $20 ticket with a $50 dollar bill. The waitress asked me if I wanted my change. Yeah, every bit of it. I bartended for a little bit a know it's a tough gig but if you can't deal with petty b******t you need a career change.
That sounds like she was asking you for a $30 tip. Did I read that right? What nerve!
Load More Replies...I once went out with a group of colleagues to a pretty cheesy sports bar after work. Our server was surly, gruff and most absent for most of the night. When the bill came around we all agreed that we'd only tip her 10%. She had the gall to not only confront us, but also had a giant bouncer standing behind her. A woman in our group gave her an earful, and soon the terrible server was backing away from us, and the bouncer was trying hard not to laugh. Justice served.
Can't believe you guys tipped her that much if the service was so horrible.
Load More Replies...Words from my waitress mother: tipping is preferred and encouraged, not required. You accept what tips you get or don't get, and you NEVER question it. If you want complain about it on your own time, go ahead, but not while you're at work, even after they've left. Some people would have left $5 or less, maybe even nothing. That waitress should have just kept her mouth shut and be grateful she got a tip at all.
























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