Daughter Calls Her Mom “Fat”, And Mother’s Viral Response Sparks Heated Discussions

Like with most issues in this country, the truth is suppressed by shame, denial, and ignorance, all pulling the principle we settle on in many different directions. Truthfully, being overweight isn't healthy, and it isn't something that should just be treated incidental. On the other hand, labeling, judging, criticizing, and condemning people isn't right, and nobody should ever have to be accountable for how they look to anybody but themselves. This narrative of body shaming, though, and reactive tendency we have to glorify certain things in order to combat judgment isn't the best solution. I don't think any person should be inclined to view anything in a way that isn't natural to them...So long as they understand that others see things differently. In terms of obesity -- I don't see it as my place to judge at all. It isn't. And I don't. But I also don't pretend that it's inconsequential. In life, you should always look to better yourself and your health. Insecurities notwithstanding.

The sad thing is, this little girl is growing pudgy as well. A child at that age should be leaner, if fed right and given enough movement. So maybe there's a general lack of awareness about food choices, and it's affecting the daughter as well.

I think she has a point. I agree that being overweight is unhealthy and dangerous but the word "fat" shouldn't be used to bully people. I've suffered from obesity during my teenage years and I was totally aware of my condition and trying to fight against it. The most difficult part was the constant bullying from my classmates. Being bullied for the only reason of being fat DOESN'T HELP people to lose weight, instead I was getting more and more depressed and I would eat more and more as a direct consequencence. So please, is not that if you say to your child to don't use the word "fat" as an offense, he/she will become automatically obese. BODY SHAMING DOESN'T HELP. (Sorry for crappy english)

English teacher here: "fat" is a noun & adjective, so "She is fat" is correct. And unhealthy.

Her response was age appropriate for her children. Teach love first as they get older then talk about the health consequences of extra fat

Oh brother!! I think it's so funny how everyone turns into a doctor/dietitian in comment sections of articles like these. "OH HANG ON! Let me tell you why just based on your appearance, i KNOW you are going to die from diabetes! But first, let me finish my bottle of wine and cigarette!" I am thankful to have been blessed with good genes that make it very easy for me to stay thin, so looking at me people think i'm healthy and active. GUESS WHAT? I'm actually pretty lazy, and although I don't eat meat, I DO eat tons of junk food, and also very much like wine. One of my best friends is a bigger person, but she runs about 4-5 times a weak and home cooks most of her meals, and has definitely made comments about how much butter/salt/cheese i put in my food! If we both went in for a check-up, i bet she would be in better overall health than me! Please stop the judging.

I do not believe in fat shaming anyone, & , I think some people can be quite cruel . Yet, we are a nation of overweight people, many of them not due to diabetes or other physical reasons, but, due to poor lifestyle choices. As a RN , I worked pediatrics for 3 years , &, our doctors would have had us graph & chart Kimmey as overweight. Will she lose this tummy as she gets older ? Maybe, but the odds aren't in her favor. Positive body images are important , but , so are the other healthy choices , that can improve you as a person.

She took her kids out and got active with them rather than staying in and being inactive. Good on her.

As someone who was above average weight my entire life I never called myself fat or use the word fat when talking about a person's weight. Overweight yes, fat, no. I also taught my 3 children not everyone has an family life like they do, where access to good food every meal was a given,.that some families cannot afford fresh veg and fruit, meats. It is not always as clear as some people make it out to be. I believe most do better when they know better yet there will always be some who are happy to be as they are no matter what anyone else thinks.

After having a couple kids she's pretty normal. She's chunky and still cute. She's not obscenely fat like the kind of folk you see in the grocery riding scooters. You people are so f*****g superficial. How many magazine covers have any of you been on lately?

I've been both slim and fat. I can tell you this: when I was thin, I was a hot mess, always dieting and never satisfied with my size. I was a size 7, weighed 130 pounds and was 5'6" tall. I gained weight with my daughter and never got back to a size 7. I was a size 10 for the next decade, then size 12-14 after that. I'm now a size 20. I no longer am a curvy woman since my waist is gone. I miss that hour glass figure that I once had, but you know what? At 68, I'm about 240 pounds and happy. I'm not saying that everyone would be, but my neurosis about weight is gone. I'm no longer competing for any beauty contest, chasing men or worried about winning a marathon. I'm a retired granny who has had many serious medical problems that added to my weight and fitness issues. But, I'm still standing. I'm still able to be me, with no excuses and I fully understand what this mom is trying to convey to her children. We all come in many shapes and colors as to all living things. And that's fine.

Dear people who are talking about being politically correct, diabetes and heart attack, maybe she was a super thin person and pregnancy took a toll on her body, maybe she knows how she looks and she's trying to shed the extra pounds to be healthier, maybe she's got a hormone issue like thyroid which is a stumbling block in her journey. We don't know her full story, nonetheless she's put this little piece out for maybe not you but people like myself who need such a story to deal with problems like body dysmorphia! It's easy to write negative things sitting behind a computer anonymously.

I love her hair! It's so cute and playful! <3

I'm fat. I have struggled all my life with ignorant Gits who try to shame me because I have extra weight. I have gone to drastic measures to lose weight. My thyroid is all shot to hell which makes losing weight Damn near impossible. I take several meds that cause weight gain. And I'm stressed out. I exercise, I watch how much I eat and guess what.... I'm still fat. Just when I start to feel good about myself image I hear some well meaning idiot say that I am an awful person who doesn't care about myself because I have extra tonnage. Well yay for you hypocritical Bitches. Many of the "skinny" people smoke and drink. But let a heavy person actually enjoy a meal? Can't have that. And we wonder why anorexia and bulimia run rampant. I have ruined my health trying to fit into what society thinks I should be.

that girl is not so skinny herself so probably someone out there called her fat. That's how she learned that

That lesson wouldn't work in spanish because we have 2 different words for calling someone fat (gordo) and the fat you have ( grasa)

It isn't our business to determine if she doesn't care abt her body. Lesson: we do not have the right to judge outloud. Keep it 2ourselves

Muscles do NOT need protection by fat. That is pure ignorance. Fascia cover muscle. Skin is our largest organ and skin protects us from external exposure. Our BRAINS need the most calories, and clearly the surplus adipose is not giving this mother a mental advantage. It's good to teach against meanness, but it's bad to rationalize & deny your own relative lack of health.

Why some people have the need to put everything on facebook? I can't understand why you have the need to expose yourself and your family to others opinion....

It's great to teach your child not to shame another person, but this isn't the way to teach them not to shame. Acceptance is about seeing differences in one another and realizing they're okay. What the mother did was say that there are no differences because we all have fat, whereas there is a difference between a healthy amount of fat and an unhealthy amount of fat.

I think Allison is smoking hot. And fat. And has fat. It's all good! I came up with this graphic some time ago. Was going to have it made into a t-shirt, but my ADD often carries me away to other things. new-1-5943...1f-png.jpg

I think that this is a great thing to teach kids. Sure, she may be a bit overweight but she's confident in her own skin and that's GREAT!!!

Fat, skinny... as long as you love YOURSELF, nothing else matters! I'm glad ur doing the right thing by you.

In the comment she posted, it says that nobody can be fat. I find it kind of bad parenting to tell kids that nothing can make you fat. :/

She put it on her Instagram to try to get people to not be mean. It went viral-other people have decided this is important, so stop hating!

Honestly, the first thing that came to my mind, after I opened the article was "wow, she's worse than me, and still isn't bashful, go her". Dunno what that means, I know I'm fat, she's fat, but the distinctive difference is that she's not ashamed of it. I am. If she can pass that on to her kids, that's a great thing. In my life I've been dealt some serious blows regarding my body, and I don't show it off. Maybe I wish I could, I don't know.