“Am I The Jerk For Leaving Significant Facial Scarring Uncovered On A Plane And Being Confrontational When Asked To Cover It?”
Skin is a seamless organ. It’s like a fine cloth protecting your valuable assets. But that means that one small tear can make a big difference in the way it looks. Surgery, burns, injuries, or other traumas can cause a scar.
And one Reddit post by a user with a now-suspended account vividly illustrates just how difficult life can be by “wearing” one. In it, the woman recalls a particularly unpleasant flight during which a nearby seated child started making a scene because of the unusual mark on her face.
Unsure about the way she handled the situation, the Redditor shared the experience with the platform’s ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ community, asking for its members’ unbiased opinions.
This woman went through a lot and will remain with a scar on her face for the rest of her life
Image credits: Mortal Engines (not the actual photo)
And her online confession shows just how insensitive people can be about it
Image credits: Jeffry Surianto (not the actual photo)
“I said, ‘This is my face. The only … [one] I’ve got”
Image credits: Yan Krukov (not the actual photo)
Image credits: f**keduppface
There are different types of scars. They may appear flat, lumpy, sunken, or colored, and may be painful or itchy. The final look depends on many factors, including the skin type and location on the body, the direction of the wound, the type of injury, the age of the person, and their nutritional status.
Research, just like this Reddit post, shows that visible scars can have a profound effect on self-confidence, regardless of the original cause. For example, there was a study published in the Journal of Plastic Reconstructive & Aesthetic Surgery that sought to determine how skin scars affect a person’s quality of life.
Researchers gathered data from thirty-four patients with a wide range of scar types, severity, and onset. They collected 573 statements related to need impairment by skin scars, which were classified into 44 themes covering five main areas:
- Physical comfort and functioning;
- Acceptability to self and others;
- Social functioning;
- Confidence in the nature and management of the condition;
- Emotional wellbeing.
“The majority of respondents were unhappy with their scar’s appearance due to their perceived stigma and psychological associations, and thus adopted different coping behaviors to hide or compensate for them,” the authors of the study said. “Often this made them unsociable and interfered with their communication skills, personal relationships, work life, and leisure activities.”
So instead of demanding that people with scars retreat into the shadows to “protect” their children, maybe they should teach the young ones empathy instead?
People were furious with the father and said she did absolutely nothing wrong
These AITA questions are seriously just people trying to tell a story of something they've gone through. They know they aren't TA, they just wanna post about an experience. This is one of those.
And BP keeps picking these again and again. There are actually interesting, controversial ones on AITA, but due to some reason, it's always these ones they pick. Oh, and BP, it's ÀSSHOLE, not jerk. It's literally the title of the f*cking subreddit they're pulling these stories from, yet they're too stuck-up-their-ásses to call it by its name. 🙄
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Wait til you see BP necro and repost their OWN articles from a year or two ago. The best part? The article will show up on the “Latest” list as if it’s newly published, and it’ll give a publication time like “posted 45 minutes ago”, but the COMMENTS will be from the original post a year etc ago. I made an a*s of myself replying to someone’s year-old comment before I realized that the whole article was a zombified post.
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It would also help if the film industry wouldn't be so damn lazy and always be like "this person is the villain and we can't be bothered to come up with some decent backstory, so let's just make them ugly, disfigured, disabled or at least give them a very visible scar". Looking at you Disney with Scar from Lion King, the Bond movies with Dr. No (no hands), LeChiffre (cries blood because his tear ducts don't work right), Raoul Julia and Lyutsifer Safin (both have a disfigured face), Emilio Largo (eye patch), Victor "Renard" Zokas (facial injury due to headshot)
You’re right. It’s really dehumanising to be treated as some kind of villain, or ‘other’ for things you already feel self conscious about. When I was a kid I had extremely severe eczema and it was horrible how many people (adults included) who treated me like some sort of leper or zombie because I had bad skin lesions and scabs (no open wounds or anything, just raw new or inflamed skin). It made me not want to go out anywhere, but I couldn’t avoid school, so I developed really bad self esteem around my skin because people were weird about it. And Disney doesn’t seem to care, even when they get massive backlash, such as the recent ‘Witches’ film that caused great offence to people with limb differences and hand disabilities or disfigurements
Load More Replies... These AITA questions are seriously just people trying to tell a story of something they've gone through. They know they aren't TA, they just wanna post about an experience. This is one of those.
And BP keeps picking these again and again. There are actually interesting, controversial ones on AITA, but due to some reason, it's always these ones they pick. Oh, and BP, it's ÀSSHOLE, not jerk. It's literally the title of the f*cking subreddit they're pulling these stories from, yet they're too stuck-up-their-ásses to call it by its name. 🙄
Load More Replies... Wait til you see BP necro and repost their OWN articles from a year or two ago. The best part? The article will show up on the “Latest” list as if it’s newly published, and it’ll give a publication time like “posted 45 minutes ago”, but the COMMENTS will be from the original post a year etc ago. I made an a*s of myself replying to someone’s year-old comment before I realized that the whole article was a zombified post.
Load More Replies... It would also help if the film industry wouldn't be so damn lazy and always be like "this person is the villain and we can't be bothered to come up with some decent backstory, so let's just make them ugly, disfigured, disabled or at least give them a very visible scar". Looking at you Disney with Scar from Lion King, the Bond movies with Dr. No (no hands), LeChiffre (cries blood because his tear ducts don't work right), Raoul Julia and Lyutsifer Safin (both have a disfigured face), Emilio Largo (eye patch), Victor "Renard" Zokas (facial injury due to headshot)
You’re right. It’s really dehumanising to be treated as some kind of villain, or ‘other’ for things you already feel self conscious about. When I was a kid I had extremely severe eczema and it was horrible how many people (adults included) who treated me like some sort of leper or zombie because I had bad skin lesions and scabs (no open wounds or anything, just raw new or inflamed skin). It made me not want to go out anywhere, but I couldn’t avoid school, so I developed really bad self esteem around my skin because people were weird about it. And Disney doesn’t seem to care, even when they get massive backlash, such as the recent ‘Witches’ film that caused great offence to people with limb differences and hand disabilities or disfigurements
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