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Guy Almost Lets His Kids’ Dog Die Out Of Carelessness, Clueless Why The Kids Suddenly Hate Him
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It’s a bittersweet moment when you learn that your parents are only human and capable of making mistakes. It’s especially a tough pill to swallow if you previously felt that they could do no wrong, and they go and do something absolutely terrible.
This is the reality check two children got after their beloved dog nearly passed away due to their dad’s careless attitude. They couldn’t believe he’d be so thoughtless, but their mom, who knew her ex too well, was not surprised by his horrible behavior.
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These children had to learn a difficult lesson about their father, and unfortunately, it was at the expense of their poor dog’s health
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The poster shared that she and her ex split 3 years ago, and she kept their smaller dog while he kept the bigger dog as he had a yard
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One day, the woman’s daughter frantically informed her that the dog her dad had was severely ill, but when the poster contacted her ex, he seemed nonchalant about the issue
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The woman loves the dog and decided to take it to the vet herself as her ex wasn’t willing to make any effort; luckily she took it when she did as it had a life-threatening blockage
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Throughout the chaos, the poster’s two kids were furious when they realized the only reason their dad neglected their sick dog was to spend time gaming with his girlfriend
When the woman learned that her dog was very ill, she started panicking and reached out to her ex. His careless attitude made her feel alarmed, and she kept pestering him until he let her take the dog to the vet. It was good that she strongarmed him and took the animal herself because it needed surgery, or else it would have passed away within days.
The entire situation that the dog and their mom were put through made the children realize that their father was quite thoughtless. He had prioritized spending time with his girlfriend rather than looking after the beloved family pet. Even though the poster knew how terrible her ex was, she did not poison her kids’ minds against him. It is, after all, quite tough to know how to handle such situations correctly.
To get an expert’s opinion on this, Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Susan Newman, PhD. She is a social psychologist who focuses on family interactions, including adult-parent relationships and raising children. She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today magazine and the author of 15 books. Her latest book, ‘Just One: The New Science, Secrets and Joy of Raising an Only Child’ will be out in 2025.
We asked Dr. Susan how much information divorced or separated people should give their kids about their other parent. She told us that “it’s rarely, if ever, a good idea to demean your children’s father or other parent as the case may be. The less negative information you give children about a parent, the better.”
“Parents should not be discussing or sharing their adult problems and dislikes with children. The state of a marriage, separation, and/or divorce are not kids’ issues. Sharing details only adds to their discomfort and some think the situation may be their fault,” she explained.
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After everything that went down with their father and dog, the kids were heartbroken and extremely angry at him. Their dad knew that what he had done was wrong and threatened his ex not to reveal more about the situation lest the children hate him even more.
Especially in cases of bitter divorce or separation, it may seem like a good idea to be completely honest or truthful about the bad qualities of the other partner. Dr. Susan says: “in short, avoid pitting one parent against the other. Most children are not mature enough to fully understand. Be patient, over time, children come to their own conclusions and decisions about a parent.”
“As they grow up, they will form their own impressions, in this case of their father. Difficult as it is, keep ugly details to yourself. Focus on the positives: the dog will be fine and will be happy living with your grandparents,” she explained.
Family dynamics can become complicated, and divorce or separation may muddy the waters even further. In this case, it may be tough for the mom to keep quiet about her ex’s negligence, but for the sake of her kids, it might be the best option.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you think the kids should be told the truth about their dad?
Folks were shocked by the man’s behavior and glad that the dog was safe and in good hands
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Sami-Jo Ross 1 year ago
I can see why he's an ex. I would take this as a reason to fight for full custody of the kids, because if he would neglect a dog suffering and in agony for a night with his girlfriend, who knows what would happen if the kids needed emergency care?
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
I wouldn't feel safe for the kids either way. He hit the dog that was vomiting for a week and obviously sick with a broom for vomiting on the carpet. Who hits a poor animal in the first place? No, this man isn't a good person, and he doesn't deserve to be a father.
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zovjraar me 1 year ago
those kids know their dad is a POS. he needs to shape up before they grow up and decide to cut him off completely.
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
The dog is bad enough but he would have behaved the same way if it had been one of the kids. You need to have very candid conversations with them so they can understand that they can’t count on him if they are sick or injured.o
cheryl60 1 year ago
why on earth did u get down voted wish i could upvote u more cos your bang on that bloke is a danger to his kids pure n simple id be telling the kids the flat out truth let them make their minds up and if poss keep em away from him as much as possible
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Alexandra 1 year ago
What this poor excuse for a human being wants his ex-wife to do is to lie to their children and that's just wrong. It's a fact that the didn't care about the dog and that the dog would have died if he wasn't brought in by OP. There is nothing wrong with the children knowing that their dad doesn't care about his own son's dog. It's better for them to see that their dad has liitle to no empathy for others, so they won't be disappointed later on and they won't have any false expectations of him. That the dad says 'it is what it is' is BS. He pretends that he had no responsibility at all and that this just happened. Nope. He let an animal suffer. If you can let an animal suffer, you deserve to be tarred and feathered and to be run out of town.
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 1 year ago
So glad the dog is okay ! F that guy.. hope.he gets crotch rot
Amanda Fondaumiere 1 year ago
Can we be sure that this guy is caring for the children in the way he should?
G Bono 1 year ago (edited)
But it's a large dog and most large dogs have a life expectancy of, I don't know, 8-10 yrs. In a year or two, if that dog dies of natural causes, those kids may think dad did something. I'm not saying OP isn't a hero -I just spent $10k on my dog for a diagnostic biopsy (he doesn't have cancer), so I applaud OP and the kids for caring so much, but she should start to prepare the kids for what will sadly soon happen. Her ex is a legitimate POS
Susan Breton 1 year ago
We lost our beautiful extra large brown Standard Poodle at nearly 14 years old. He was 32” at the shoulders & 92 pounds, no fat on him. He had huge - MASSIVE - shoulders. He was a big dog & scared almost everyone except children. He loved and protected them. He was MY DOG and I was HIS PERSON, my best friend, companion, confidant, and The Best Guard Dog EVER.
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Child of the King 1 year ago
I feel feel bad for the dogs what he went through. But so glad he's in a better place now and hopefully he won't ever have to go through this ever again!!
Sami-Jo Ross 1 year ago
I can see why he's an ex. I would take this as a reason to fight for full custody of the kids, because if he would neglect a dog suffering and in agony for a night with his girlfriend, who knows what would happen if the kids needed emergency care?
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
I wouldn't feel safe for the kids either way. He hit the dog that was vomiting for a week and obviously sick with a broom for vomiting on the carpet. Who hits a poor animal in the first place? No, this man isn't a good person, and he doesn't deserve to be a father.
Load More Replies... zovjraar me 1 year ago
those kids know their dad is a POS. he needs to shape up before they grow up and decide to cut him off completely.
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
The dog is bad enough but he would have behaved the same way if it had been one of the kids. You need to have very candid conversations with them so they can understand that they can’t count on him if they are sick or injured.o
cheryl60 1 year ago
why on earth did u get down voted wish i could upvote u more cos your bang on that bloke is a danger to his kids pure n simple id be telling the kids the flat out truth let them make their minds up and if poss keep em away from him as much as possible
Load More Replies... Alexandra 1 year ago
What this poor excuse for a human being wants his ex-wife to do is to lie to their children and that's just wrong. It's a fact that the didn't care about the dog and that the dog would have died if he wasn't brought in by OP. There is nothing wrong with the children knowing that their dad doesn't care about his own son's dog. It's better for them to see that their dad has liitle to no empathy for others, so they won't be disappointed later on and they won't have any false expectations of him. That the dad says 'it is what it is' is BS. He pretends that he had no responsibility at all and that this just happened. Nope. He let an animal suffer. If you can let an animal suffer, you deserve to be tarred and feathered and to be run out of town.
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 1 year ago
So glad the dog is okay ! F that guy.. hope.he gets crotch rot
Amanda Fondaumiere 1 year ago
Can we be sure that this guy is caring for the children in the way he should?
G Bono 1 year ago (edited)
But it's a large dog and most large dogs have a life expectancy of, I don't know, 8-10 yrs. In a year or two, if that dog dies of natural causes, those kids may think dad did something. I'm not saying OP isn't a hero -I just spent $10k on my dog for a diagnostic biopsy (he doesn't have cancer), so I applaud OP and the kids for caring so much, but she should start to prepare the kids for what will sadly soon happen. Her ex is a legitimate POS
Susan Breton 1 year ago
We lost our beautiful extra large brown Standard Poodle at nearly 14 years old. He was 32” at the shoulders & 92 pounds, no fat on him. He had huge - MASSIVE - shoulders. He was a big dog & scared almost everyone except children. He loved and protected them. He was MY DOG and I was HIS PERSON, my best friend, companion, confidant, and The Best Guard Dog EVER.
Load More Replies... Child of the King 1 year ago
I feel feel bad for the dogs what he went through. But so glad he's in a better place now and hopefully he won't ever have to go through this ever again!!
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