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Childfree Woman Becomes The Office Drama When She Refuses To Cancel PTO And Give It To A Mom
Young woman coworker in pink shirt looking away, representing a childfree coworker refusing to give up PTO in office setting

People Annoyed By This Mom’s Audacity To Get Upset That Coworker Took PTO During Her Kids’ School Break

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Working with a team means that sometimes you’ll have to make compromises. You can’t all take a vacation at once, and you might have to stay late when a colleague goes home early. But if you have their back, it’s assumed that they’ll have yours in the future.

Unfortunately, one woman found out that she was on her own after she started receiving pressure from coworkers to give up the PTO she had already requested. They decided that because they have children, they deserve the days off more than she does. Below, you’ll find the full story that she shared on Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left her.

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    This woman was excited to take a week off to relax and spend time with her family

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    But her colleagues decided that because they’re parents, they deserve the time off more than she does

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    Employees are able to use their PTO however they like

    Employees work hard to earn their days off, so they should be able to use them however they like. Whether they want to spend a week lying on a beach in Mexico or lying on their couch cuddling with their cat, that’s their prerogative. And they shouldn’t have to explain themselves to their employer.

    According to Business.com, paid time off (or PTO) typically covers vacation days, sick leave, and personal days. In the United States, employees are typically given between 11 and 30 days of PTO per year, depending on how long they’ve been at the company.

    Image credits: Arlington Research/Unsplash (not the actual photo)

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    There are a few different ways companies can choose to allot PTO to employees. They may have a fixed allotment that they’re required to use before the end of the calendar year, or they may accrue days throughout the year. These typically roll over from year to year, so employees can stash more if they’re planning on taking a long trip.

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    And some companies are generous enough to give their employees unlimited PTO. It’s implied that they must use this PTO within reason, as they still have a job to do. But they won’t have to worry about running out if they suddenly become ill or want to take a vacation.

    Unfortunately, something that the majority of companies cannot avoid is making employees coordinate their days off. Someone always has to be at work, so typically, more than 2 employees in the same team can’t be off at the same time. And for some reason, childfree workers have realized that they’re usually the ones picking up the slack for their peers who are parents.

    The vast majority of workers believe that parents are treated better than childfree individuals in the workplace

    A 2022 survey by ResumeLab found that 72% of respondents (80% of whom were parents) say that they’ve noticed childfree workers being treated unfairly simply because they don’t have kids. And 74% of respondents believe that parents are treated better in the workplace overall.

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    Apparently, the favoritism towards parents often becomes clear when it comes to taking days off or receiving assignments. 63% of childfree workers say they’ve been denied time-off at least once, and 85% of survey respondents admitted that parents have priority when planning vacations and days off.

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    Meanwhile, 69% of childfree workers said they have had to work overtime at least once. And 70% noted that they’ve been given a larger workload than their colleagues with children at least once.

    87% of survey respondents agree or strongly agree that working parents have more benefits than childfree workers. And 81% agree or strongly agree that child-related absences are more important to employers than absences of those who don’t have kids. 

    While it’s perfectly understandable to want to accommodate working parents, it shouldn’t come at the expense of their colleagues. After all, parents choose to have kids. They know it will complicate certain aspects of their lives; that doesn’t mean they’re entitled to special treatment.

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    Whether you have a family or not shouldn’t be your employer’s business. Everyone should be expected to do their job, and everyone should be allowed to use their vacation days whenever they please.

    Later, the author joined in on the conversation in the comments section

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    Many readers assured her that she had done nothing wrong, noting that she deserves days off as much as anyone else

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    Adelaide May Ross

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Noelle Greeley
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was sad once that I had work Christmas day. Everyone was making fun of me because I don't have kids so I shouldn't be upset. But I do have a mom, dad, sister, and nephew who I love being with on Christmas day! Just because someone doesn't have kids, doesn't mean they don't have people they love!!!

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People like that make me feel like they just had kids so they can kind of force someone to actually like them and spend time with them. Because are the same people who will be like "but who will come to your death bed/funeral/etc if you don't have kids" as if other family and friends are unfathomable for them. Beside the point that having kids doesn't even mean they'll grow to even like their parents, especially ones who say stupid s**t, like that.

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    James016
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a parent, I book my time off well in advance regardless if I have anything planned or not. It avoids this situation

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Why is it "so hard to take time off during that period"? If it's because everyone else is also requesting PTO, then too bad. First come, first served or it's by seniority. Otherwise you literally know way ahead of time when your kids are out of school on holiday, FFS.

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    KatSaidThat
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd counter with "would you rather I take off Xmas week instead?" - I have taken one xmas in 8 years and that caused uproar. Apparently flying to South Africa for the first family xmas since 1990 was not as important as their children. Luckily that got shut down fast.

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    Noelle Greeley
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was sad once that I had work Christmas day. Everyone was making fun of me because I don't have kids so I shouldn't be upset. But I do have a mom, dad, sister, and nephew who I love being with on Christmas day! Just because someone doesn't have kids, doesn't mean they don't have people they love!!!

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People like that make me feel like they just had kids so they can kind of force someone to actually like them and spend time with them. Because are the same people who will be like "but who will come to your death bed/funeral/etc if you don't have kids" as if other family and friends are unfathomable for them. Beside the point that having kids doesn't even mean they'll grow to even like their parents, especially ones who say stupid s**t, like that.

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    James016
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a parent, I book my time off well in advance regardless if I have anything planned or not. It avoids this situation

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Why is it "so hard to take time off during that period"? If it's because everyone else is also requesting PTO, then too bad. First come, first served or it's by seniority. Otherwise you literally know way ahead of time when your kids are out of school on holiday, FFS.

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    KatSaidThat
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd counter with "would you rather I take off Xmas week instead?" - I have taken one xmas in 8 years and that caused uproar. Apparently flying to South Africa for the first family xmas since 1990 was not as important as their children. Luckily that got shut down fast.

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