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Parents Ban Daughter’s Wife From Anniversary Party, She Cancels The Entire Event In Response
People deserve a second chance. But there’s a limit to how many times we can turn the other cheek, even with our loved ones.
For a long time, Reddit user LittleKero has been enduring her parents’ disapproval of her wife, even though the main reason for their animosity is her sexual orientation.
However, when they recently refused to invite her partner to their own wedding anniversary, the woman was so taken aback that she began to feel like enough was enough.
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However, this woman’s parents feel like her wife doesn’t belong to theirs
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Oftentimes, LGBTQ people try to maintain ties with their parents even when facing their rejection
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A 2024 Ipsos survey of 18.5K adults aged 18-74, conducted in over twenty countries from the US and Spain to Chile and Singapore, found that internationally, 72% of people believe same-sex couples should be allowed to marry legally or obtain some form of legal recognition, while 16% oppose this, and the rest are unsure. However, the numbers can vary dramatically depending on where you look. In Sweden, for example, 86% are in favor of same-sex marriage/recognition, while in Turkey, the figure reaches only 37%. (In the United States, it’s 65%.)
However, as this story illustrates, even when they’ve been rejected by the people whose approval they want the most—their family—many LGBTQ adults take great pains in keeping their relationships—despite the conflict and heartbreak.
Two sociologists at The Ohio State University talked extensively about this with 76 lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer adults and 44 of their parents and put what they learned into a book called Families We Keep: LGBTQ People and Their Enduring Bonds with Parents.
“We found a sense of what we called ‘compulsory kinship,'” said co-author Rin Reczek, a professor of sociology at Ohio State. “There’s this feeling among many LGBTQ people that the family is untouchable and should be maintained at all costs.”
Three themes emerged as to why LGBTQ adults felt they had to keep these ties, and the most common one was what the authors called “love and closeness.”
“In many interviews, there was a lot of talk about the pain and suffering in the relationship with their parents, but then they would say they were close, or they loved each other,” added co-author Emma Bosley-Smith, now an assistant professor of sociology at Alma College. “It was contradictory.”
A second theme was the growth that the LGBTQ adults saw (or thought they saw) in their parents.
Some did see actual growth in how their parents accepted them over time. But for many, it was more of a sense of hope that it would happen. “There were these instances where they would say ‘Well, they are a little better than they used to be,'” Bosley-Smith said.
The third theme was the uniqueness of the child-parent bond, as Reczek explained. This theme was often mentioned by people who had the worst relationships with their parents.
“We would hear things like ‘There’s not even any love in our relationship, but she’s my mom,'” Reczek said. “It was this notion that the parent-child relationship is so unique that it can’t be replaced or ended.”
Our Redditor also seems to have tried her best to stay close to her parents despite their disapproval of her partner. Hopefully, they can work it out before it’s too late.
But people who read this woman’s story believe she doesn’t have to
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ToGo 9 months ago
They really took a healthy word like "boundary" to disguise their homophobia, eh. The only cruelty I can see in this story is coming from the parents; and to wait til they've used the daughter to the point of the details being finalised to say "Of course, Emily won't be coming" is plain calculated.
Just off the Goat 7 months ago
Absolutely! That was just a cruel slap in the face as a "Thank You for all your hard work planning our special anniversary." They are some mean b*tt h*les.
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winterwidow87 9 months ago (edited)
I've been with my fiancée for 10 years and we're getting married in less than 3 months. It will be a small wedding, only family and close friends, and her very catholic 90 year old and 96 year old grandmas are both going to attend, as well as both of my parents and hers. If any of them decided to not attend because of their "boundaries" aka homophobia, i would go no contact with them in an instant. OP is not an asshôle for canceling the party, but her parents not attending her wedding should have been the dealbreaker imho.
Miriam Insidecor 9 months ago
They are bigots. Cut them out of your life. You don't need people like that around.
ToGo 9 months ago
They really took a healthy word like "boundary" to disguise their homophobia, eh. The only cruelty I can see in this story is coming from the parents; and to wait til they've used the daughter to the point of the details being finalised to say "Of course, Emily won't be coming" is plain calculated.
Just off the Goat 7 months ago
Absolutely! That was just a cruel slap in the face as a "Thank You for all your hard work planning our special anniversary." They are some mean b*tt h*les.
Load More Replies... winterwidow87 9 months ago (edited)
I've been with my fiancée for 10 years and we're getting married in less than 3 months. It will be a small wedding, only family and close friends, and her very catholic 90 year old and 96 year old grandmas are both going to attend, as well as both of my parents and hers. If any of them decided to not attend because of their "boundaries" aka homophobia, i would go no contact with them in an instant. OP is not an asshôle for canceling the party, but her parents not attending her wedding should have been the dealbreaker imho.
Miriam Insidecor 9 months ago
They are bigots. Cut them out of your life. You don't need people like that around.
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