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“Ear Wax Hanging Out”: 64 Reasons Why Someone Refused A Second Date
First dates are complicated, you’re trying to make a good first impression, have an enjoyable time and also evaluate the other person. It can sometimes be hard to do any of those things when you also have to work out if there even is going to be another date.
A netizen asked "What's the pettiest reason you refused a second date?” and folks online shared their best stories. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and if you’ve ever had to decide that just one date was enough, add your story to the comments down below.
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#1
He said he likes Andrew tate.
Crystalwitch60 11 hours ago
That will do it ,biggest red flag ever made that one ,visible from the dark side of the moon and beyond .
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#2
He told me to calm down one too many times and when I wouldn’t maintain complete eye contact with him (take a bite of food or drink water) while he was talking would tell me to look at him when he’s talking.
#3
He let the restaurant door slam in my face. I didn’t even walk in, i turned around and walked off then drove home.
Before the pettiness takes over, it helps to know that the official reasons people skip a second date are already pretty small. A Dating.com survey found that 76% of respondents would not pursue another date with someone who kept checking their phone, and 60% said showing up late was enough to end things.
Another 47% crossed people off after seeing them treat a waiter badly, while 53% were put off by a date who asked right away whether they were ready to commit. In other words, the fastest route to a second date is to look up from the screen, arrive on time and hold off on the relationship talk until at least the dessert menu.
#5
Back in 2016 when Zootopia came out, we went on a date to the movies, he tried to make out with me several times and I was like dude I'm trying to watch this movie. I told him he didn't respect boundaries and he called me ugly lol.
#6
He said that his mom told him he doesn't need to learn how to cook because his wife will cook for him.
Talking too much about yourself also takes a toll. In that same survey, 34% said a first date was spoiled because the other person talked about themselves too much. A date is meant to be a conversation, not a one person show with a captive audience and a side of garlic bread. Phones cause trouble in other ways too.
#8
He kept staring at every girl that walked in the place we were at.
#9
He said casually when a woman says no it doesn’t really mean no!
An EliteSingles survey of Canadian singles reported that posting photos of your meal on social media ranked as a bigger offense than being a bad kisser, so the pasta should probably stay unphotographed. One in five said they would be scared off by a friend request landing right after the date, and 63% named loud, wacky shirts as the worst thing to wear. If you were planning to debut the pineapple print shirt, maybe save it for date number five.
#10
asked me if i believed in any conspiracy theories then proceeded to tell me covid wasn’t real.
#11
He picked me up for a “date “ then tried to drive me to some parking lot because he lied and told his mom that he was going to a friend’s house, and then said his mommy was blowing up his phone to come home. The man was 25. enough said.
#12
He talked too much about himself, blocked him in the car while he was dropping me off.
Money creates its own brand of awkward. One writer in a Marie Claire roundup of first date dealbreakers described a date who counted out her portion of the bill to the penny on a phone calculator, which is a level of precision most people save for tax season. Bad breath made the same roundup, proving that a great first kiss should never come with a warning label.
#13
He was so rude to the waitress! Not ok.
SheamusFanFrom1987 11 hours ago
Yup, that's definitely the first sign of NOPE! Not belittling other jobs, but the amount of patience it takes to wait tables is a clear indication that they should be seriously respected already... -_-"
#14
He told me to wear a dress next time.
Habits and conversation can sink a date as well. A Plenty of Fish survey of more than 2,000 US singles found that 15% were not interested in a smoker and 10% said a long recap of a previous relationship wrecked the evening. Politics, a topic people love to warn about, landed below 5%, which makes a hot take on the news statistically safer than a monologue about your ex.
#16
She said “you better be paying this I don’t date broke men” when i was already planning on paying for everything in the first place.
SheamusFanFrom1987 12 hours ago
I'd probably say "I don't date mouthy ladies either so here's my portion. See you never!" -_-"
#17
I went to pick her up, and she invited me in while she finished getting ready. I noticed she had a cat, so I asked her if it was a boy or girl, and she said “they haven’t decided yet” so I left.
#19
he made me pay for our food bc he “had rent to pay”. i planned the second date and intentionally didn’t show up to it. got a text from him the next day saying how rude i was and i responded with “sorry i have rent to pay”.
#20
He told me I wasn’t the hottest girl he’d even been on a date with but I was still really pretty.
#21
The ear wax hanging out of his ear was not it for me.
Upstaged75 40 minutes ago
Personal hygiene is a deal breaker for me. As an adult there's no excuse to be gross on a date.
#22
dude kept talking all night about how he is so over his ex.
#23
He refused to pick me up for a movie and dinner he asked me out to. He wanted me to come to his apartment first to “save time”. No thank you.
#24
He insisted on a restaurant that was an hour away from me. When I met him there I found out he picked it because it’s right next to his office and he liked how convenient it was for him.
#25
he had a picture of himself as his wallpaper.
Kathrin Pukowsky 50 minutes ago
Wallpaper or lockscreen? Never thought about it, but having your face as the lockscreen would be a quick way to show the phone is yours.
#27
He kept saying “well actually…” after I would say something, noped right outta there.
#28
Sneezed in his hands, earwax build up. Plaque in teeth …. I could go on and on lol.
#29
His ex showed up on the date. I watched the whole arguement. It was actually funny.
#30
He said “ just so you know, im not the type of dude to just spend money on women” …. Like bruh I figured that lol our 1st date was a WALK. Don’t pmo lol.
#31
he told me he was 5’8”……. i am 5’5”. he was much shorter than me.
#32
I didn’t want to finish my food because I was feeling very sick and he made me eat it because he wanted to get his money worth.
#34
I pointed how cute Sonny angels were and he was quick to say you don’t need that. Excuse me sir? I said look how cute they are not I want to buy them smh.
#35
He insisted he deserved a kiss after driving me around n buying me a $5 meal deal.
#36
i crawled out of a texas roadhouse window cause he was a creep.
#37
Eye boogers for one of my dates, dirty fingernails for the other one, & plaque for another one. If you can’t take care of your hygiene, you can’t take care of me.
#38
He sat down and ordered food before I got there. He called the waitress young lady, and gave her a $4 on a $50 bill. I was so embarrassed I gave her a $20 extra cash.
#40
His jeans were skinnier than mine:/.
#41
His ex showed up to our date and slapped me.
SheamusFanFrom1987 11 hours ago (edited)
I hope you filed for a*s*s*a*u*l*t! If it's a restaurant, witnesses aren't going to be a problem >:-(
#42
He didn’t hold the door open for the woman behind us.
Chaotic Good 10 hours ago
I once got yelled at by my (now ex) gf, followed by days of Silent Treatment, for the crime of holding the door for a woman who was just behind us. For context, it was GF through the door first, then me, then seeing the stranger, and me doing the "I'm already inside, but holding the door so it doesn't slam on you" move.
#44
Burped very loudly in the middle of my sentence.
Luke || Kira (he/she) 8 hours ago
To be fair it just kinda slips out sometimes, I'd judge them only based on their reaction
#47
he showed me the pictures I had posted in my stories, which he had saved in his phone, and it's in an album.
Doug Moyer 52 minutes ago
I don't recognize faces very easily. I could see doing something like this as an aid to recognizing her when first meeting. That said, why is he showing them to her?
#48
we went out for pizza and he told the waiter his name was batman. last time i ever saw him.
#49
“You make more than I do so you should pay”.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 14 hours ago
How do people know how much the other makes? Talking money on a first date is crass.
#51
i accidentally trauma dumped on him and was so embarrassed that we never spoke again lol.
#52
He went to the fair and he refused to go on any rides even the small ones. He was just quiet and didn’t say anything.
#53
Said he forgot to buy me flowers but that he was my flower.
#54
he had long fingernails and wore flip flops.
#55
He thought Drake beat Kendrick in their beef.
#56
I said “thanks for dinner” he said “next time you pick me up and its on you, i like to be spoiled too”.
#58
He didn’t open the car door and then said “what, you thought I should open it for u?”
Spidercat 14 hours ago
What was he thinking. Pandas, it's a well known fact that women are utterly unable to open car doors because of their tiny hands and natural inability to use latches or handles. This was well documented during the suffragette movement. If a woman was ever forced to open her own car door, all of society would collapse...🤦🏻♂️
#59
He couldn’t parallel park so I had to do it for him.
Crystalwitch60 11 hours ago
Wow judgy much , this is one totally pathetic,not everyone can It’s no big deal !! he dodged a nuke ,
#60
I walked on the road side of the sidewalk.. after I just got done telling him that’s a pet peeve of mine.
#61
Idk but I stopped talking to my now husband for a month because he wore black skinny jeans on our second date.
#62
he said “the next date is on you” on me? blocked him while we were sitting at the table.
PandaPadi 13 hours ago
Why though? I dont understand this mentality. Im assuming OP is a woman. Didnt we fight to have equal rights? now why is it a nope when a man treats you as his equal? Or is it only okay to have equal rights only when it benefits us? Also why block a person over this as if he was a piece of trash, you could have simply said that you prefer more traditional dating where the guy pays for everything.
#63
He was wearing Teva sandals on our date. He was such a kind, down to earth guy.
#64
He drove a ford fiesta and I didn’t like his voice.
Crystalwitch60 11 hours ago
What’s wrong with a ford fiesta ,I had one back in the day load do, choice of cars should not define a person ,ops a stuck up loser !
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