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Sister Warns Bro About His GF Being In Family Wedding Pics, He Doesn’t Listen And Suffers For It
After a breakup, keeping, deleting, or editing pictures with a person’s ex-partner might be done with various aims in mind. However, while the wish of this Redditor’s brother to remove his ex-girlfriend from his sister’s wedding picture wasn’t that surprising, the way he went about it probably was.
The family requested that the woman remove her brother’s ex-girlfriend from the picture and got angry when she asked them to pay for it, even though they had previously rejected her suggestion to take some pictures without the brother’s girlfriend of the week.
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A woman’s family claimed it was her job to edit her brother’s ex-girlfriend out of her wedding pictures
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During her wedding two years ago, her brother requested that his girlfriend of the week be included
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Image credits: Eric Do (not the actual photo)
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Despite the bride suggesting to have some pictures without the brother’s girlfriend, her family insisted otherwise
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Recently the brother had a hard time explaining to his fiancée that the woman from the picture wasn’t a serious girlfriend
A woman brought her story to the Reddit community online, asking people if she was a jerk to ask her brother to pay if he wanted his ex removed from her pictures.
The woman explained that back in the day, her brother used to date a lot of women, shifting from one to another within a period of a week or so. For this reason, when two years ago the Redditor celebrated her wedding, she was reluctant to include her brother’s girlfriend of the week in all of the wedding pictures.
However, as the bride’s suggestion of having some pictures with and some without her brother’s girlfriend was met with disappointment from her brother, and her parents wished to avoid fighting, in addition to them paying for the wedding, the woman agreed to include her brother’s girlfriend in all the family pictures.
The question about pictures came up again just recently, two years after the woman’s wedding. She had her family over when her brother’s fiancée noticed the OP’s wedding picture on the wall. The brother had a hard time trying to explain to his fiancée that the woman from the picture wasn’t a serious girlfriend and this is why he never talked about her.
Eventually, as his fiancée requested, the brother asked his sister to take the picture down or remove his ex-girlfriend. The sister agreed to remove her brother’s ex but asked her brother to pay for it. The brother was angry, while their parents called her a jerk, as they already paid for the pictures once.
Eventually, as requested by his fiancée, the woman’s brother in turn asked her to remove his ex from the picture
Image credits: Diana Titenko (not the actual photo)
The woman agreed but asked him to pay for it, which made her brother angry, while her parents called her a jerk
When it comes to the psychology behind deleting pictures after a breakup, Samantha Ann for Love Panky noted that while some people can find it as cathartic as returning an ex’s stuff, there certainly isn’t just one possible meaning behind deleting photos of an ex. There can be various meanings and intentions that go into that decision and Ann listed some of them in her piece.
These included taking away the reminders, which might help to focus on the future and to move on faster. It also sends a message to one’s friends, family, and maybe one’s new partner. Finally, she brought it up that sometimes it is just about how a person felt at that particular moment.
On the flip side, she listed not wanting to hurt the feelings of a person’s ex or simply the pictures as well as the relationship being a part of a person’s history among the common reasons behind keeping the pictures of a person’s ex.
Redditors shared their takes on the situation
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Weasel Wise 2 years ago
NTA & WTF is with grown àss adults getting their mommies and daddies involved in their sibling rivalries?
deanna woods 2 years ago
Brother sounds too immature to be in any relationship. He insisted on her being included, now he has to deal with the blowback from his behavior. At some point, the parents are going to have to stay out of their ADULT children's conflicts. They are partly to blame for all of this happening.
Hokuloa 2 years ago
Yup. Makes total sense why his relationships have the longevity of a popsicle in a desert heatwave.
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the_avenging_knight (her/she) 2 years ago
NTA. Your brother makes poor life choices. Their not your fault.
Ron Baza 2 years ago
Simple solution. Find a picture which can be (more or less) cropped to *only* feature the ex-girlfriend. Do so. Have it printed in A0. Frame it. Have it up for the next family event.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Only feature the brother and ex girlfriend like they had couples photos done. "WHAAAATM I'M YOUR FIANCE AND WE DON'T HAVE PHOTOS BUT YOU HAVE THEM WITH MY NEMESIS???" *turns into godzilla*
Load More Replies... Vivian Ashe 2 years ago
If you're an adult, you realize that your partner had romantic relationships before yours. Granted, if my inlaws had a photo on their wall of just my husband and his ex, I would feel it was a little insensitive to my feelings. But if it were a group family photo from a wedding, I wouldn't expect them to change it or take it down. It might not be my favorite photo in the world, but why should they erase part of the history of that event just so I can pretend I was his first? And really, I think it was sort of sweet that bro apparently thought each "girlfriend of the week" was important enough to be in the wedding photo. Maybe he genuinely thought each one was THE one. I'd prefer to think my husband loved and respected the women he was with before me, as opposed to just being a womanizer.
Holy Shimmering Sheeps541t 2 years ago (edited)
"I wash mine after one use"? What? Doesn't everyone? Who wears socks multiple times? And how do their feet not stink?
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
This is the second time socks were mentioned..am I missing something? Dammit now I must reread this drivel out of curiosity
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Fiancée has to realize that, just like her, OP’s Brother had a life before her, including dating other people, either long or short term. He could’ve been engaged or even married before she came into his life. I would never expect anyone to not live their life before I come into it, ffs. What Fiancée fails to understand is that, just because a relationship is in the past, especially the long past, it doesn’t mean their SO is still irretrievably stuck in that past (though some people are and can’t get past it, they’re a very small percentage of the whole). I dated other people before meeting my husband, and he did too. Normal people don’t put their entire lives on hold waiting for the right person to come along, if they ever do. They live their lives and have experiences, including dating, which become experience and wisdom they bring to the table in every new relationship. Appreciate that about them instead of guilt-tripping them.
Weasel Wise 2 years ago
NTA & WTF is with grown àss adults getting their mommies and daddies involved in their sibling rivalries?
deanna woods 2 years ago
Brother sounds too immature to be in any relationship. He insisted on her being included, now he has to deal with the blowback from his behavior. At some point, the parents are going to have to stay out of their ADULT children's conflicts. They are partly to blame for all of this happening.
Hokuloa 2 years ago
Yup. Makes total sense why his relationships have the longevity of a popsicle in a desert heatwave.
Load More Replies... the_avenging_knight (her/she) 2 years ago
NTA. Your brother makes poor life choices. Their not your fault.
Ron Baza 2 years ago
Simple solution. Find a picture which can be (more or less) cropped to *only* feature the ex-girlfriend. Do so. Have it printed in A0. Frame it. Have it up for the next family event.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Only feature the brother and ex girlfriend like they had couples photos done. "WHAAAATM I'M YOUR FIANCE AND WE DON'T HAVE PHOTOS BUT YOU HAVE THEM WITH MY NEMESIS???" *turns into godzilla*
Load More Replies... Vivian Ashe 2 years ago
If you're an adult, you realize that your partner had romantic relationships before yours. Granted, if my inlaws had a photo on their wall of just my husband and his ex, I would feel it was a little insensitive to my feelings. But if it were a group family photo from a wedding, I wouldn't expect them to change it or take it down. It might not be my favorite photo in the world, but why should they erase part of the history of that event just so I can pretend I was his first? And really, I think it was sort of sweet that bro apparently thought each "girlfriend of the week" was important enough to be in the wedding photo. Maybe he genuinely thought each one was THE one. I'd prefer to think my husband loved and respected the women he was with before me, as opposed to just being a womanizer.
Holy Shimmering Sheeps541t 2 years ago (edited)
"I wash mine after one use"? What? Doesn't everyone? Who wears socks multiple times? And how do their feet not stink?
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
This is the second time socks were mentioned..am I missing something? Dammit now I must reread this drivel out of curiosity
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Fiancée has to realize that, just like her, OP’s Brother had a life before her, including dating other people, either long or short term. He could’ve been engaged or even married before she came into his life. I would never expect anyone to not live their life before I come into it, ffs. What Fiancée fails to understand is that, just because a relationship is in the past, especially the long past, it doesn’t mean their SO is still irretrievably stuck in that past (though some people are and can’t get past it, they’re a very small percentage of the whole). I dated other people before meeting my husband, and he did too. Normal people don’t put their entire lives on hold waiting for the right person to come along, if they ever do. They live their lives and have experiences, including dating, which become experience and wisdom they bring to the table in every new relationship. Appreciate that about them instead of guilt-tripping them.
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