Woman Expects BF To Propose To Her During Friend’s Wedding, He Dumps Her Instead

With enough time, people in your life reveal whether they are truly with you or against you.

Reddit user BumbleBeeRaincoat thought her best friend of 14 years had already given a positive answer to that question—until she started planning her wedding.

With her father terminally ill, the woman wanted the day to be as much about family as it was about love.

Little did she know, her bestie also wanted the spotlight, and wasn’t willing to stay in the background.

When this woman learned that her dad was going to lose his battle with cancer, she decided to get married while he could still attend

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So she and her fiancé quickly started making arrangements

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Everything was going well, but suddenly, her best friend said she wanted to get engaged during her ceremony

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The bride tried to refuse, but her friend wasn’t taking no for an answer

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She ended it with an absolutely horrible text

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So the bride shared their conversation online and asked people if she had overreacted

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Getting engaged at someone else’s wedding is a selfish move

Longtime etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore isn’t a fan of the move the (former) friend had tried to pull.

“It’s in poor taste to announce your big news at someone else’s wedding or special event,” Whitmore said.

“If you announce your own engagement while at a friend’s wedding, instead of focusing on the newlyweds and their relationship, you are choosing to focus on how the couple positively impacts your relationship.”

Whitmore acknowledges that people might want to make the commitment under the most beautiful circumstances, but she believes there are better opportunities to do so.

“You are essentially taking the spotlight off the bride and groom and directing it on yourself,” Whitmore added. This can be perceived as rude, self-centered, and narcissistic. It screams, ‘Look at me. I’m important!'”

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But losing a friend is still a really hard thing to go through.

Commenting on the conflict from afar, the solution can seem easy — just cut her out of your life. But even if they wronged us, it can still put an emotional toll on us.

According to social psychologist Jane Adams, Ph.D., when people who we consider our friends show an active disinterest in continuing the relationship, we face the choice to either attempt a repair or accept its termination.

The former requires us to listen to them recount our failings, and tell us how we disappointed, betrayed, or let them down. The story becomes theirs, not ours.

But unless they’re also willing to hear us, repairing the breach may not be possible.

What we can take away from the void that exists where the friendship used to be is the lesson learned from how and why it ended and the determination not to repeat it.

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But everyone said it was her bridesmaid who was out of line

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Eventually, the bride learned that her nasty friend’s boyfriend didn’t even want to propose

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Those who read her story were happy to hear how it ended

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