Woman’s Party “Joke” Costs Her A 3-Year Relationship With Her Boyfriend

Cheating can mean different things depending on the couple you ask to define it. And that’s okay. Problems arise if partners themselves can’t agree on what’s allowed and what’s forbidden within their own relationship.

A few days ago, Redditor Ill_Championship_73 made a post on the platform, asking its users if he overreacted when he broke up with his long-term girlfriend.

The guy did it because she kissed another woman during a party and refused to believe it was just a joke — which she swore by — since she’s bisexual. However, their entire friend group told him he was blowing the situation out of proportion, so he wanted to hear other people’s opinions on the matter.

Physical intimacy doesn’t have to be serious

Two women sharing a kiss in a dimly lit setting, highlighting a girlfriend kisses another woman moment.

Image credits: V T / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

But it still requires respect for boundaries

Text post discussing confusion over girlfriend kissing another woman and boyfriend considering breaking up.

Text excerpt showing a story about a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and its impact on the boyfriend.

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing confusion about why boyfriend wants to break up.

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing shock and confusion over boyfriend's wish to break up.

Group of friends socializing and laughing indoors with wine and snacks, capturing a moment of casual fun and connection.

Image credits: DC Studio / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Text expressing frustration as girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing boyfriend to want to break up.

Text excerpt discussing missed calls and messages after a girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends.

Text about girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and boyfriend ending the relationship.

Man sitting on bed looking away thoughtfully, reflecting on girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends.

Image credits: Bizon / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Text message conversation about friends calling someone overdramatic after girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends.

Text post expressing confusion and distress after a girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends.

Image credits: Ill_Championship_73

Image credits: Getty Images / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

Most people trust their partners to understand their boundaries and hope they wouldn’t find themselves in such a situation

A survey of 2,000 sexually active adults found that a majority agree that reading explicit literature (79%) and touching yourself or using toys (76%) are all fair game in a relationship.

Fewer said they would likely feel jealous if their partner danced with someone else (32%) or let someone buy them a drink (31%).

However, 37% would call their partner out if they intentionally hid their phone password, and 41% would do the same if they casually flirted with someone.

Respondents were also sensitive when the past was involved, with half saying they’d confront their partner for having pictures with an ex on their phone or on social media (49%). Even more said they would do so if there were texts involved (62%).

When it comes to kissing another person, a YouGov survey of 2,000 adult US citizens discovered that 88% of women and 73% of men say it constitutes infidelity if you’re in a monogamous relationship.

It also found that 63% of those who have been in a monogamous relationship say they have never cheated on a partner, while one-third (33%) say they have — either physically, emotionally, or both. When asked about their experiences being cheated on, more than half (54%) say they have been cheated on — either physically, emotionally, or both.

While most people in relationships are confident that their partner knows their romantic or bedroom boundaries (89%), one in seven would hesitate to be honest if their partner did something that bothered them.

Our Redditor didn’t, and the fallout he’s had is precisely the reason why some would hesitate to speak up. But his girlfriend didn’t hide the act from him, nor does it seem that she did it to hurt or undermine him. I guess it’s hard to know how the woman would act in a different scenario solely from this post, but three years is a long time to throw away a relationship over one impulsive moment.

As his story went viral, the guy provided more information about his relationship and what happened that night

Online conversation about a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and reactions from her boyfriend.

Online discussion about girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and boyfriend considering breaking up.

Screenshot of a forum comment discussing reactions to a girlfriend kissing another woman and relationship boundaries.

Text post from user Ill_Championship_73 explaining they are not religious, do not follow alpha male stuff, and are not American.

Most people said his decision to break up was completely justifiable

Text post showing a comment about a girlfriend kissing another woman and boyfriend's reaction on social media.

Comment discussing a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and relationship issues.

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, boyfriend confused and wanting to break up with her

Comment praising OP for self-respect after girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends.

Woman kisses another woman in front of friends, boyfriend upset and confused about wanting to break up after incident.

Screenshot of a forum comment discussing a girlfriend kissing another woman and effects on their relationship in front of friends.

Comment discussing cheating and trust issues after girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing breakup tension.

Comment discussing societal views on two women kissing and the impact on relationships and personal peace.

Comment on girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, discussing betrayal and boyfriend wanting to break up.

Comment discussing a bisexual woman’s perspective on a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends.

Comment sharing a story about a bisexual ex making out with a woman and relationship issues from a girlfriend kissing another woman.

Comment reading Nta, lesbian or not it's cheating, discussing girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends relationship issue.

Comment discussing a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and relationship trust issues.

Comment discussing a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and the boyfriend’s reaction to break up.

Text from an online discussion about boundaries and bisexuality after a girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends.

Comment discussing girlfriend kissing another woman and boyfriend wanting to break up, questioning the excuse used.

Comment discussing bisexuality and relationship boundaries in the context of a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends.

Some, however, thought he was acting dramatic and immature

Text post from Reddit discussing a girlfriend kissing another woman and the boyfriend wanting to break up.

Reddit comment discussing girlfriend kisses another woman at a party and the boyfriend’s reaction to the situation.

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing confusion about why boyfriend wants to break up.

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends causing boyfriend to consider breaking up in confusion.

Screenshot of an online discussion about a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends and relationship boundaries.

Screenshot of an online comment reacting to a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends.

After going through all the replies, the guy posted an update on the situation

Man sitting on edge of bed with head in hands, appearing distressed after girlfriend kisses another woman.

Image credits: jet-po / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing confusion and tension with her boyfriend over boundaries.

Couple in an argument as girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, boyfriend upset and confused about breakup.

Text excerpt explaining a final edit about clearing things out for those curious regarding the situation.

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing confusion and tension with her boyfriend.

Man sitting in a wooden chair, wearing a gray shirt and brown pants, holding a smartphone with both hands.

Image credits: Valeriia Miller / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

Text on a white background discussing a person questioning costs and reactions to a girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends.

Text excerpt describing a person explaining a situation on Discord after a girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends.

Alt text: Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing boyfriend to want to break up over confusion and emotions.

Young man talking seriously with girlfriend outdoors, highlighting relationship tension after girlfriend kisses another woman.

Image credits: drobotdean / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Girlfriend kisses another woman in front of friends, causing boyfriend to want break up over relationship boundaries.

Girlfriend kissing another woman in front of friends, causing confusion about why boyfriend wants to break up.

Two women kissing in front of friends, highlighting a girlfriend kissing another woman and boyfriend’s reaction.

Image credits: Ill_Championship_73

Poll Question

Total votes ·

Thanks! Check out the results:

Total votes ·

Newsletter

Subscribe to Access
Exclusive Polls

Subscribe

By entering your email and clicking Subscribe, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. You are also agreeing to our Privacy Policy.

Thank you! You've successfully subscribed to newsletters!

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!

Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda!