Woman Shares Abortion Story After Psycho-Ex Got Her Pregnant To ‘Lock Her In’ To Show The Other Side Of Anti-Abortion Laws
The internet has been blowing up with hashtags in response to a surge of abortion bills and laws being introduced in southern and midwest states. Twitter movements such as #ShoutYourAbortion and more recently #YouKnowMe, started by T.V personality Busy Philipps, as a response to Georgia and Alabama’s restrictive abortion bills being signed into law. The goal of these hashtags is said to destigmatize the procedure and encourage women to share their stories, stories like this one from Twitter user Brie.
In a thread, the young woman shared her own personal abortion story she had when she was 17-years-old and it shows another side of possible results of hardlines laws like the one Alabama just passed. Brie explained that she had become pregnant when she was 17-years-old as the result of her boyfriend at the time, poking a hole in his condom. This practice is called ‘reproductive coercion.’ This type of sexual abuse can take many forms such as: threatening to leave unless the woman becomes pregnant, threatening to have a baby with someone else if she doesn’t comply, physically abusing a woman because she does not agree to pregnancy – and in the case of Brie – tampering with birth control to deliberately cause pregnancy.
This young woman just shared the reason behind her abortion in response to the new abortion laws and it’s going viral
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When Brie told her boyfriend that she was pregnant he admitted to poking the condom in an effort to “lock her in.” Poking holes in commons or removing them completely (also called “stealthing”) is a growing problem that the legal system hasn’t caught up to in the United States. Lawyer Alexandra Brodsky wrote a legal paper on the topic to address what she calls, ‘nonconsensual condom removal: “Ultimately, a new tort for “stealthing” is necessary both to provide victims with a more viable cause of action and to reflect better the harms wrought by nonconsensual condom removal.” Currently, there is no legal path for victims of this practice in the U.S.
As a minor Brie explained that she had to have parental consent to get the procedure, but didn’t want to tell her parents, so she went to a judge. Each state has its own laws concerning parental consent for an abortion. Some states have no laws and others require permission from an older family member. The OP was able to receive a “judicial bypass” allowing her to get an abortion without parental consent. Alabama requires parental consent but allows judicial bypass and; Georgia requires that one parent be told of the decision 24 hours before the abortion and also allows judicial bypass.
In the case of this young woman, she was able to have a non-surgical abortion, available within the first two to ten weeks of pregnancy. This process works by taking two separate pills, mifepristone, which blocks a hormone necessary for a pregnancy to grow, and misoprostol, which stimulates the uterus to cramp and bleed so that the pregnancy will leave your body (similar to a miscarriage). Following the abortion, she broke up with her boyfriend. In the tweets, she said she pulled a knife on her and cut himself. Several studies about the rates of reproductive coercion have been done, and one found that in the US, that among 71 women with a history of intimate partner violence, almost three quarters had experienced some form of reproductive control.
Eventually, he was arrested. A Global Turnaway Study shows that American women who seek and are denied an abortion are more likely to remain in violent relationships than women who are able to access a procedure.
One woman shared her own similar experience
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While ‘stealthing’ like in the U.S is not covered by the law in Canada, the country did successfully sentence a man on these grounds in 2014. The Supreme Court of Canada upheld the sexual assault conviction of a man who poked holes in his partner’s condom without knowledge or consent. In the case R v. Hutchinson, the man was sentenced to 18 months in prison.
And the OP thanked her for opening up and sharing support
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The most recent states to pass abortion bills are Alabama and Georgia. Alabama Gov. Kay Ivey signed the controversial abortion bill passed by The Alabama Senate passed the bill 25-6, that could punish doctors who perform abortions with a 99-year or lifetime prison sentence. The law does not allow exceptions for rape and incest. Georgia’s governor Brian Kemp signed a “heartbeat bill”, that bans abortion once a fetal heartbeat has been detected, which is possible as early as six weeks.
Other commenters highlighted the importance of having a support system like her friend
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While not everyone supported her position they supported access to reproductive education and birth control
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Share on FacebookI love how people say "Well you can put it up for adoption" as though there isn't an entire pregnancy / birth before that point. As though you've bought something you don't like any more and decide to stick it on ebay. No one should have to change their body permanently, and risk their health and their life if they don't want to have a baby. Abortion is safe, it's a medical procedure. If you don't want to have one, fine, but leave everyone else alone to decide what happens to their own body.
Many child get to live in foster homes for years before adopted (or turn 18 and... politely asked to leave) In my country, 10,000 kids end in adoption centers, or the streets. Relly sad.
Load More Replies...In response to the 'you could have put it up for adoption!' crowd - nope, not in this circumstance - jerkass here can contest as unless she has him prosecuted for rape, he has the right to go for custody instead. Then, if he gains custody, she's connected to him for decades. Doesn't that sound so fun?
Even rapists can get custody in some states https://www.cnn.com/2016/11/17/health/parental-rights-rapists-explainer/index.html
Load More Replies...There are no laws governing men's bodies. Think about that. All y'all who want to restrict a woman's right to body autonomy f**k right off. Corpses have more body rights than women.
We could start a campaign to have all men get vasectomies until they have entered into a contractual agreement with their partner to have a child. Or we could also make it punishable by law if they masturbate because that lonely sperm could have been a child. We should get better at regulating men's bodies so they learn to leave ours alone.
Load More Replies...This is such a sensitive subject. And I love how people have smart a$$ remarks like "This is why they have birth control". Has it ever dawned on you that it isn't always effective. I, myself, have two children that were conceived WHILE I was on the birth control shot and always got my shots on time, so there is no questions I didn't properly take it. It happens. We, as women, should have that right, that CHOICE!
Every woman in America should be stocking up on mifepristone and misoprostol just in case our rights get trampled on any more. You never know when you or a friend might need it. S**t like this happens all the time and the only reason this young lady got through it was with help from her support system. If uneducated religious psychos band together to enact nonsense laws, women should band together and just say no, we won’t obey these laws. We should help each other. I’m ordering mine now, there are several websites you can get it from.
I am so devastated as to what has happened. These abortion laws are so horrible. I am such a pro-choicer, now that I know what that is. And , what about children who get raped? What about incest? This is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever heard of, and yeah, a lot of people will hate on me for writing this but, women deserve a choice. We deserve to do whatever we want to our bodies, and even if you decide to keep him/her and put him/her up for adoption, the rapist of a father can take custody!And what about women who get pregnant and their partner says, if you don't get an abortion, I'm going to kill you, what are they supposed to do, let themselves die? And if you have to get an abortion, the only way to do it at this point is with a wire hanger in an alleyway, and if you do, you'll probably get caught, one way or another, and be put in prison for 3rd degree murder! God, this is honestly the stupidest law I have ever heard of!
This shouldn't even be an issue in this day and age! Religion should not be part of government law. How absurd
Yeah. That whole thing is a mess. Separation of church and state but let’s throw gods names all over the place and buildings. Also all men are created equal. Unless they’re not white. Also not born equal but created. Hail satan!
Load More Replies...it all boils down to 'your beliefs may not be MY beliefs.' we should ALL have the right to govern our own bodies, no matter what sex you are. every situation is NOT the same, and women should not be shamed or made to feel guilty about their decisions, regardless of what they are. period.
Great friend! I support adoption over abortion...but I understand there are situations like these that makes having abortion availability necessary. Besides rape and incest...there are also medical reasons why women can't carry. I've seen women walk the line between life and death trying to have a child. Anyone who thinks that the main reason most women have abortions is because of infidelity needs to stop watching so much TV and start looking at the statistics.
Blondhorsecrazy, you missed the entire point of Emory's response.
Load More Replies...I love how people say "Well you can put it up for adoption" as though there isn't an entire pregnancy / birth before that point. As though you've bought something you don't like any more and decide to stick it on ebay. No one should have to change their body permanently, and risk their health and their life if they don't want to have a baby. Abortion is safe, it's a medical procedure. If you don't want to have one, fine, but leave everyone else alone to decide what happens to their own body.
Many child get to live in foster homes for years before adopted (or turn 18 and... politely asked to leave) In my country, 10,000 kids end in adoption centers, or the streets. Relly sad.
Load More Replies...In response to the 'you could have put it up for adoption!' crowd - nope, not in this circumstance - jerkass here can contest as unless she has him prosecuted for rape, he has the right to go for custody instead. Then, if he gains custody, she's connected to him for decades. Doesn't that sound so fun?
Even rapists can get custody in some states https://www.cnn.com/2016/11/17/health/parental-rights-rapists-explainer/index.html
Load More Replies...There are no laws governing men's bodies. Think about that. All y'all who want to restrict a woman's right to body autonomy f**k right off. Corpses have more body rights than women.
We could start a campaign to have all men get vasectomies until they have entered into a contractual agreement with their partner to have a child. Or we could also make it punishable by law if they masturbate because that lonely sperm could have been a child. We should get better at regulating men's bodies so they learn to leave ours alone.
Load More Replies...This is such a sensitive subject. And I love how people have smart a$$ remarks like "This is why they have birth control". Has it ever dawned on you that it isn't always effective. I, myself, have two children that were conceived WHILE I was on the birth control shot and always got my shots on time, so there is no questions I didn't properly take it. It happens. We, as women, should have that right, that CHOICE!
Every woman in America should be stocking up on mifepristone and misoprostol just in case our rights get trampled on any more. You never know when you or a friend might need it. S**t like this happens all the time and the only reason this young lady got through it was with help from her support system. If uneducated religious psychos band together to enact nonsense laws, women should band together and just say no, we won’t obey these laws. We should help each other. I’m ordering mine now, there are several websites you can get it from.
I am so devastated as to what has happened. These abortion laws are so horrible. I am such a pro-choicer, now that I know what that is. And , what about children who get raped? What about incest? This is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever heard of, and yeah, a lot of people will hate on me for writing this but, women deserve a choice. We deserve to do whatever we want to our bodies, and even if you decide to keep him/her and put him/her up for adoption, the rapist of a father can take custody!And what about women who get pregnant and their partner says, if you don't get an abortion, I'm going to kill you, what are they supposed to do, let themselves die? And if you have to get an abortion, the only way to do it at this point is with a wire hanger in an alleyway, and if you do, you'll probably get caught, one way or another, and be put in prison for 3rd degree murder! God, this is honestly the stupidest law I have ever heard of!
This shouldn't even be an issue in this day and age! Religion should not be part of government law. How absurd
Yeah. That whole thing is a mess. Separation of church and state but let’s throw gods names all over the place and buildings. Also all men are created equal. Unless they’re not white. Also not born equal but created. Hail satan!
Load More Replies...it all boils down to 'your beliefs may not be MY beliefs.' we should ALL have the right to govern our own bodies, no matter what sex you are. every situation is NOT the same, and women should not be shamed or made to feel guilty about their decisions, regardless of what they are. period.
Great friend! I support adoption over abortion...but I understand there are situations like these that makes having abortion availability necessary. Besides rape and incest...there are also medical reasons why women can't carry. I've seen women walk the line between life and death trying to have a child. Anyone who thinks that the main reason most women have abortions is because of infidelity needs to stop watching so much TV and start looking at the statistics.
Blondhorsecrazy, you missed the entire point of Emory's response.
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