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Woman Gets Blamed By Her Boyfriend For ‘Tricking’ Him Into Eating Vegan Food, Asks The Internet If She’s The Jerk Here
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Woman Gets Blamed By Her Boyfriend For ‘Tricking’ Him Into Eating Vegan Food, Asks The Internet If She’s The Jerk Here

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There’s an old saying, ‘The only way to a person’s heart is through the stomach.’ Whether it’s a PB & J sandwich or an easy-to-make mac & cheese — there’s no better way to show how much you appreciate someone than filling their belly with homemade food. And yet: who could have thought that the stomach is an equally fast way out from someone’s bloody heart?

A Reddit user by the name of TheElderAgrippina learned this the hard way. For three and a half lovely months, 22-year-old “John” did not complain about the meals his vegan girlfriend was preparing. However, things quickly went out of hand as soon as he learned about the food he was happily munching on that eventful Christmas dinner.

Blamed for “tricking” him into her meatless diet, the author of the story turned to the ‘Am I The [Jerk]‘ subreddit to see if she’s as evil as her boyfriend claims her to be.

Girlfriend took care of BF’s empty stomach by making great vegan meals they both enjoyed

Image credits: Jasmin Schreiber (not the actual photo)

But things took a sudden turn when he learned that they were actually meat-free

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One’s love life, like the act of eating, can often get messy. After all, research shows that one and the other are directly linked: when two lovebirds maintain the same diet, whether it’s sloppy joes or vegan tofu, they tend to experience more satisfaction in the relationship.

So what happens to couples who aren’t so lucky with their partner’s eating preferences? Are they doomed to wither like an old bell pepper?

“Not exactly,” Marisa Cohen, Ph.D. relationship researcher and the author of ‘From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love’, reassured Bored Panda. After analyzing u/TheElderAgrippina’s case, Cohen thinks that “both people were just under the incorrect assumption” and “both could benefit from reframing the situation as a miscommunication,” however difficult that may be. After all, nearly 1 in 3 couples, different eating habits or not, argue about food once in a while.

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To support her case, the author filled in the missing gaps

Image credits: TheElderAgrippina

This is what people on the internet had to say about this situation

While it might seem like relationships are doomed to fail when two people have opposing views on such a delicate matter as food—something that we humans attach a lot of our identities to—Cohen insists that there’s totally a way to coexist with your meat-eating/tofu-eating loved one.

“There’s always an option to order your own dishes from a restaurant you both like, right? Or, if your tastes really diverge, order from two separate places,” she pointed out, adding that side dishes and sauces can be an easy answer for couples who haven’t given up on their kitchen matters.

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Considering that today over 50% of restaurants in the US have meals to satisfy every dietary habit, and that there are a handful of recipes hitting the sweet spot both for vegetarians and meat-eaters—things look quite positive.

“The most important thing is that people are honest with one another, and aren’t intentionally trying to deceive or manipulate their partner,” Cohen told us. It’s also important to remember that when one does the king’s share of cooking, power struggles might come into play. That’s why experimenting in the kitchen together, trying to see what works “bring people closer together as a couple.”

Best part? It was found that a process established early in the relationship for managing food preferences will likely enhance partners’ decision-making patterns in the future.

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“Even if coming from a good place, such as expanding one’s knowledge of new foods or intending to be more health-conscious, if the partner doesn’t want to try it—they should leave it there and not force it upon them,” Cohen finally reminded.

After all, we can choose what we put in our mouths and bellies. But we cannot choose whom and what to love.

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Ignas Vieversys

Ignas Vieversys

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Ignas is an editor at Bored Panda with an MA in Magazine Journalism. When he is not writing about video games or hunting for interesting stories, chances are that you will find Ignas at the movies.

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Ignas Vieversys

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Ignas is an editor at Bored Panda with an MA in Magazine Journalism. When he is not writing about video games or hunting for interesting stories, chances are that you will find Ignas at the movies.

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Gabija Palšytė

Gabija Palšytė

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Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature.

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David Andrews
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person who told you they are vegan is cooking meals for you, and eating the same meals, and it doesn't occur to you that they might not have been using meat? He should be dumped for stupidity alone.

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Either he's that stupid or he was never really listening when she told him something about herself... Either way she deserves better.

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Gandalf the Pink
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's a guy who need to reconsider his priorities in life. Oh noooo the delicious food he ate was PLANTS, top 10 anime betrayals.

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Otter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't listen to his girlfriend when she told him she was vegan, and he never got off his ass to help make dinner. The surprise and confusion are entirely his fault, and if he wants to be a d**k and demand an apology then he needs dumping.

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David Andrews
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person who told you they are vegan is cooking meals for you, and eating the same meals, and it doesn't occur to you that they might not have been using meat? He should be dumped for stupidity alone.

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Either he's that stupid or he was never really listening when she told him something about herself... Either way she deserves better.

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Gandalf the Pink
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's a guy who need to reconsider his priorities in life. Oh noooo the delicious food he ate was PLANTS, top 10 anime betrayals.

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Otter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't listen to his girlfriend when she told him she was vegan, and he never got off his ass to help make dinner. The surprise and confusion are entirely his fault, and if he wants to be a d**k and demand an apology then he needs dumping.

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