Woman Can’t Stand Her BIL’s Family Destroying Her Home, Kicks Them Out And Makes Them Homeless
Home sweet home! This is where we can finally relax and be ourselves and therefore tend to be the least happy with intruders making chaos, let alone destroying the place… even when the intruders are actually one’s extended family members it is only a question of time until the ticking bomb will explode and the people who refused to respect the minimal rules of the house owner will be asked to leave. At least this was the result after this Redditor’s in-laws turned her house upside down.
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A woman agreed to let her BIL’s family stay in her house after they got evicted, but came to regret it soon after
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She did set some ground rules, like cleaning up after themselves and respecting her space, but it was of no help
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The BIL’s family began to slowly destroy the house, never cleaning up, coloring walls and trashing the living room
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It culminated when she came back to her bedroom only to find her mom’s handmade vase shattered on the floor
A woman took it to Reddit after she got her house trashed so badly that she kicked her husband’s family out despite them having nowhere to go and asked people online if she was a jerk to do so.
It all started when her brother-in-law’s family got evicted and needed a place to stay. Even though due to her previous experience, the woman hesitated, after talking it through with her husband, she agreed to let them stay in her family house, laying out some basic rules of respecting her space and cleaning up after themselves.
Unfortunately for everyone, the in-laws couldn’t care less about respecting the house owners and went in the opposite direction, plunging the house into utter chaos. The family would never clean up after themselves, leaving dirty dishes and pans behind, and even if they would eventually do it after being asked, it was never a job well done.
The woman told her husband that his brother’s family would not stay another day, as she put their things outside
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The woman ended up kicking the BIL’s family out despite them calling her cruel for making them homeless
The woman’s sister-in-law, who normally stays at home, would spend most of the time in her room, while her children would run rampant around the house, which ended in colored bedroom walls, trashed living room, and plants knocked over. And it reached its culmination when the woman came back to her bedroom only to find that her vase handmade by her mother, whom she lost in her teenage years, was shattered on the floor.
It is then that the woman informed her husband his brother’s family would not stay another day in their house, placed all their belongings on the lawn, and kicked them out despite her in-laws calling her heartless for making them homeless.
Joseph Van Deuren for Balanced Lifeskills discussed respect for the items that others value. He noted that it is as simple as taking notice what are the things that have special significance to other people due to their monetary or sentimental value and making sure to ask for permission if we wish to borrow them, and not being careless about ruining them. Deuren made a similar point of being attentive with people’s belongings – furniture, dishes, toys, etc., which is all about respecting other people by also valuing their property.
Redditors shared their takes on the situation
These aita posts drive me nuts. "Hey, my neighbor called me fat and stabbed me, so I cursed him out and called the cops. Aita? My relatives say I took things too far."
I TOTALLY agree with you in most cases. Alot to the time, people KNOW they aren't the a*****e. Lol. But, I could see why she's genuinely concerned that she might be a jerk in this case. If it were just the BIL & SIL, that would be one thing, but them having small children might have her legitimately thinking that she might be cruel for kicking them out with no place to go
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How did the useless mum allow her children to play in their hosts bedroom when they already pissed on the hosts couch because they were unsupervised? Utterly feral minded family, they are suffering the consequences of their own failures to parent and behave like civilised adults in other people's homes. I do feel for the kids, they are undisciplined through clear neglect of their lazy mum who should have laid clear rules and kept them in her care and sight, especially on someone else's property. Dad is useless and just as lazy too, if he is not actively out job hunting, why did he not do his share to supervise and care for his kids? He is an entitled brat and now is paying the price.
OP writes that MIL is poor and lives on the other side of the country so she vat take them. Seems to me that since they have a care and the kids aren’t even school age, they can d@mn well drive there and the three adults can figure it out. But no, MIL is just going to cry that she can’t help at all and blame OP for her creeper scumbag son not having his sh!t together.
Load More Replies... They were already homeless. OP was the solution to their homelessness. It's amazing how rare common sense is these days.
Yes indeed. By the standards of the state I live in, living with a family member/friend who is not helping pay for anything, is considered homeless.
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If a man gets married, his wife and children become no 1 priority, his parents/siblings and in laws come after. If a woman gets married then her husband and children become no 1 priority, her parents/siblings and inlaws come after. You should help your family (parents, siblings, family of your siblings and inlaws etc) but if they start to damage your own marriage, home and wife/husband/children then you gotta take action against them and prioritize your main family.
Yep, yep! Couldn't agree more. That's unfortunately why we have some family members that, regardless how much we love them, they're not allowed in our home anymore. Not getting burnt twice.
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MIL can take them even if they are on different coasts because BIL doesn't live anywhere now.
“MIL is poor and can’t take them.” Doesn’t say she’s infirm. So they could live together. Parents work. Poor grandma watches the kids. Oh, so everyone knows that BIL and wife are freeloading, will not get a job and just expect to live off people. Got it.
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Suggestion: either you guys or MIL adopts the kids. BIL and SIL enter rehab. They'll be much more likely to act like adults once they're off the glass.
NTA - i dont even understand why you took them in in the first place, you knew what they are live, right? MIL can have them if she is so concerned, and as for her living on the other end of the country: the farther away the better....
Not an a*****e for making them leave. Making them leave immediately, not the kindest thing, but that's her prerogative. Yelling and calling the children names, very much not okay
But if it's true, than it's true. If you don't parent kids, they will end up spoiled parasite sociopaths. It's not kind to say, but it's true!
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NTA Your only mistake here is not recognizing a free loader. Once a free loader, always a free loader. Unfortunately, those habits don't ever seem to change. Especially when they couple up and to have kids. It also sounds as if their are other enablers involved. Some people will ALWAYS try to manipulate the soft hearted rather than take responsibility. You can't help the lazy. They have to hit rock bottom just like an addict. No matter what strides they make in the coming days, weeks, months; DO NOT OFFER ANYMORE ASSISTANCE. Or they will take everything they can again.
If neither one works why can't they get Section 8 housing and food stamps?
píss - fúcking - ássholes - just writing down the words BP chose to censor. Other than that, as Otis B Driftwood already said, boring post to begin with. There's so much more to AM I THE ÀSSHOLE (that's the title of the sub, BP, take it or leave it) than these shítty ones they choose.
NTA, not your kids and their parents didn't keep the apparent hellions under control. Being an a*****e would be not giving them a chance, well they basically took your hospitality and spit in your face, f**k em
Yeah... My first thought was how they ended up getting kicked out of their rental. If this is how little respect they had for a family member's property, I can imagine what they did to the rental. NAH but I do get feeling guilty because of the young kids. I wonder if it would be possible to take them in without the parents. Clearly they are neglectful.
Ugh, these sort of stories just ughhh. People are just horrible and they're all around us. My SIL has 7 kids, 4 baby daddies, with absolutely ZERO awareness about her poor decisions. She is pretty much the worst person I have ever met. The worst. My MIL finally kicked her and the next 2 older ones who are becoming like her, forced to live with my FIL, now. They're both the most caring and thoughtful people but that unfortunately transcribes into being her worst enabler. The father, really. There's just so much there that I didn't know would never end when I got with my husband 10 years ago. It's so sad and exhausting wondering why they cannot see the havoc they put on others. The accountability, zero. These people, ugh.
Don't feel bad about working hard and creating a comfortable space for you and husband all while watching it being peeled away by some ingrates. Maybe this will force him to get a job and start taking care of his own family properly. Consider this thier rock bottom and usually while faced with that fact, changes happen. NTA.
there are homeless shelters for families the better ones even have social workers who could help them to learn to parent their kids better
Just happy someone turned her on to kintsugi! It's a wonderful art form. Kintsugi-6...549e46.jpg 
NTA but please, considering the young ages of the children YOU are contributing to the harm and delinquency of the minor children by knowing that they are living in a car and not in suitable accommodations. Please call the police who will help the family find a safe shelter that takes families. It is not safe nor legal to have children living in a car on the street. Sadly, if this is in the United States, it is becoming all too common but there are options for this family. As troublesome as the children are, remember THEY ARE CHILDREN.
I understand your concern for the kids but they are the parents responsibility, not the brother or SIL's. The parents can look into shelters, food stamps, welfare, foster homes, etc. I'd kick them out without a second thought too.
Load More Replies... These aita posts drive me nuts. "Hey, my neighbor called me fat and stabbed me, so I cursed him out and called the cops. Aita? My relatives say I took things too far."
I TOTALLY agree with you in most cases. Alot to the time, people KNOW they aren't the a*****e. Lol. But, I could see why she's genuinely concerned that she might be a jerk in this case. If it were just the BIL & SIL, that would be one thing, but them having small children might have her legitimately thinking that she might be cruel for kicking them out with no place to go
Load More Replies... How did the useless mum allow her children to play in their hosts bedroom when they already pissed on the hosts couch because they were unsupervised? Utterly feral minded family, they are suffering the consequences of their own failures to parent and behave like civilised adults in other people's homes. I do feel for the kids, they are undisciplined through clear neglect of their lazy mum who should have laid clear rules and kept them in her care and sight, especially on someone else's property. Dad is useless and just as lazy too, if he is not actively out job hunting, why did he not do his share to supervise and care for his kids? He is an entitled brat and now is paying the price.
OP writes that MIL is poor and lives on the other side of the country so she vat take them. Seems to me that since they have a care and the kids aren’t even school age, they can d@mn well drive there and the three adults can figure it out. But no, MIL is just going to cry that she can’t help at all and blame OP for her creeper scumbag son not having his sh!t together.
Load More Replies... They were already homeless. OP was the solution to their homelessness. It's amazing how rare common sense is these days.
Yes indeed. By the standards of the state I live in, living with a family member/friend who is not helping pay for anything, is considered homeless.
Load More Replies... If a man gets married, his wife and children become no 1 priority, his parents/siblings and in laws come after. If a woman gets married then her husband and children become no 1 priority, her parents/siblings and inlaws come after. You should help your family (parents, siblings, family of your siblings and inlaws etc) but if they start to damage your own marriage, home and wife/husband/children then you gotta take action against them and prioritize your main family.
Yep, yep! Couldn't agree more. That's unfortunately why we have some family members that, regardless how much we love them, they're not allowed in our home anymore. Not getting burnt twice.
Load More Replies... MIL can take them even if they are on different coasts because BIL doesn't live anywhere now.
“MIL is poor and can’t take them.” Doesn’t say she’s infirm. So they could live together. Parents work. Poor grandma watches the kids. Oh, so everyone knows that BIL and wife are freeloading, will not get a job and just expect to live off people. Got it.
Load More Replies... Suggestion: either you guys or MIL adopts the kids. BIL and SIL enter rehab. They'll be much more likely to act like adults once they're off the glass.
NTA - i dont even understand why you took them in in the first place, you knew what they are live, right? MIL can have them if she is so concerned, and as for her living on the other end of the country: the farther away the better....
Not an a*****e for making them leave. Making them leave immediately, not the kindest thing, but that's her prerogative. Yelling and calling the children names, very much not okay
But if it's true, than it's true. If you don't parent kids, they will end up spoiled parasite sociopaths. It's not kind to say, but it's true!
Load More Replies... NTA Your only mistake here is not recognizing a free loader. Once a free loader, always a free loader. Unfortunately, those habits don't ever seem to change. Especially when they couple up and to have kids. It also sounds as if their are other enablers involved. Some people will ALWAYS try to manipulate the soft hearted rather than take responsibility. You can't help the lazy. They have to hit rock bottom just like an addict. No matter what strides they make in the coming days, weeks, months; DO NOT OFFER ANYMORE ASSISTANCE. Or they will take everything they can again.
If neither one works why can't they get Section 8 housing and food stamps?
píss - fúcking - ássholes - just writing down the words BP chose to censor. Other than that, as Otis B Driftwood already said, boring post to begin with. There's so much more to AM I THE ÀSSHOLE (that's the title of the sub, BP, take it or leave it) than these shítty ones they choose.
NTA, not your kids and their parents didn't keep the apparent hellions under control. Being an a*****e would be not giving them a chance, well they basically took your hospitality and spit in your face, f**k em
Yeah... My first thought was how they ended up getting kicked out of their rental. If this is how little respect they had for a family member's property, I can imagine what they did to the rental. NAH but I do get feeling guilty because of the young kids. I wonder if it would be possible to take them in without the parents. Clearly they are neglectful.
Ugh, these sort of stories just ughhh. People are just horrible and they're all around us. My SIL has 7 kids, 4 baby daddies, with absolutely ZERO awareness about her poor decisions. She is pretty much the worst person I have ever met. The worst. My MIL finally kicked her and the next 2 older ones who are becoming like her, forced to live with my FIL, now. They're both the most caring and thoughtful people but that unfortunately transcribes into being her worst enabler. The father, really. There's just so much there that I didn't know would never end when I got with my husband 10 years ago. It's so sad and exhausting wondering why they cannot see the havoc they put on others. The accountability, zero. These people, ugh.
Don't feel bad about working hard and creating a comfortable space for you and husband all while watching it being peeled away by some ingrates. Maybe this will force him to get a job and start taking care of his own family properly. Consider this thier rock bottom and usually while faced with that fact, changes happen. NTA.
there are homeless shelters for families the better ones even have social workers who could help them to learn to parent their kids better
Just happy someone turned her on to kintsugi! It's a wonderful art form. Kintsugi-6...549e46.jpg
NTA but please, considering the young ages of the children YOU are contributing to the harm and delinquency of the minor children by knowing that they are living in a car and not in suitable accommodations. Please call the police who will help the family find a safe shelter that takes families. It is not safe nor legal to have children living in a car on the street. Sadly, if this is in the United States, it is becoming all too common but there are options for this family. As troublesome as the children are, remember THEY ARE CHILDREN.
I understand your concern for the kids but they are the parents responsibility, not the brother or SIL's. The parents can look into shelters, food stamps, welfare, foster homes, etc. I'd kick them out without a second thought too.
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