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“I Can’t Even Look At Him”: Woman Breaks Up With Boyfriend After Discovering His Secret Internet Personality
When you start living with a partner, you naturally get to know them better, seeing habits and moods that dating alone never reveals. But sometimes, even though you are closer than ever, there might be sides they keep hidden or details they choose not to share, and those gaps can slowly change how safe the relationship feels.
For instance, a woman explained how her boyfriend had been lying about using social media, and, beyond that, he was secretly leaving appearance and makeup remarks on women’s posts. He even joined her livestreams under anonymous accounts to write negative messages about her and her friends, and the discovery forced her to reconsider the trust she once believed was solid. Keep reading to follow the full story.
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A woman shared how her boyfriend had been secretly trolling her, her friends, and other women, even suggesting they should look a certain way
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She also spoke about her concerns and thoughts regarding the possibility of seeking restraining order
Misinformation can spread incredibly fast on social media, often before people have a chance to fact-check or think twice
Over 5.6 billion people, or nearly 70% of the world’s population, now use social media. That’s a huge portion of humanity scrolling, liking, and sharing every single day. It means news, trends, and opinions travel faster than ever. We can stay connected across continents in seconds. Friendships form without borders. Voices that were once unheard can now reach millions. Social media has changed how we communicate. It’s powerful, exciting, and everywhere.
With that kind of exposure, there are plenty of upsides. Social media lets people learn, express themselves, and build communities. It helps small businesses grow and creators find audiences. Important conversations gain visibility. Moments are shared in real time. But like most things, it’s not perfect. The same tools that connect us can also overwhelm us. Balance becomes important. And that’s where the challenges begin.
One of the biggest downsides is how easy it is to get addicted to scrolling. Minutes turn into hours without you noticing. There’s always one more post, one more video. This constant stimulation can affect focus and mood. It becomes harder to unplug. Rest starts to feel unproductive.
Another issue is the rapid spread of misinformation. False stories often spread faster than the truth, especially when catchy headlines are shared without a second thought. Opinions start sounding like facts, and before you know it, things get confusing and messy. This kind of misinformation can influence real-life decisions in harmful ways. Once it’s out there, it’s incredibly hard to undo the damage. That’s why slowing down matters. Taking a moment to read, think, and verify can make a real difference.
Security is another issue many people don’t think about until something goes wrong. Personal information can slip out more easily than expected. Scams, phishing messages, and fake accounts are everywhere, and sometimes all it takes is one careless click. Privacy settings often get ignored or forgotten. Oversharing might feel harmless in the moment, but it can come back later. Staying cautious online should feel just as natural as locking your front door.
If things start to feel overwhelming or cross a serious line, filing a formal complaint can be the safest and most responsible step to take
Then there’s the not-so-fun side of social media: cyberbullying and trolls. Hurtful comments and harassment can affect anyone, no matter how thick-skinned they seem. Trolls usually want attention, and reacting gives them exactly that. The simplest rule is often the best one: don’t engage. Ignoring them takes away their power. Protecting your peace is far more important than winning an online argument.
Most platforms also give you tools to make your experience healthier. Blocking accounts, muting keywords, and filtering content can really help. You’re not being dramatic or sensitive by doing this. You’re setting boundaries. Curating your feed doesn’t mean avoiding reality, it means choosing what deserves your time and energy. Social media should add something positive to your life, not constantly drain you.
And finally, a little professionalism goes a long way, especially in public online spaces. Screenshots don’t disappear, and words tend to stick around. When behavior crosses a line, documenting and reporting it is the right step. Platforms can’t help if they don’t know what’s happening. Being thoughtful about how you show up online protects you in the long run. With awareness and clear boundaries, social media can still be a space that feels safe, useful, and enjoyable.
In this particular case, the author and her friends were eventually forced to stop streaming because the trolling became too much. What made it even more devastating was discovering that the person behind it was her own boyfriend. The betrayal left her completely shaken and questioning everything. Given the seriousness of the situation, she rightfully considered filing a formal complaint. What are your thoughts on how she handled it? Let us know what you think.
People online encouraged her to leave her boyfriend and prioritize her safety and well-being
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Deborah B 13 hours ago
This cruel, racist, misogynist a****r is who he is when he thinks he can get away with it. The person you thought you knew was just the socially acceptable mask he has created to get what he wants. Leaving an a****r is the most dangerous time - and knowing what he really is puts you at risk. Do Not Confront Him. Take screen captures or make a back up or whatever, and get out as quickly and as you can. Sleep at a friends house, have multiple strong men go with you to collect your stuff. Expect online harassment to happen - go to the police and try to get a restraining order. Show them the ipad contents.
Binky Melnik 6 hours ago (edited)
As someone who ran online forums for 27 years, I’m disgusted by this. I started out on CompuServe which was awfully expensive. (I seem to remember paying $22.95/hour for it in 1987; it mightta been even more than that.) (I just looked, and that’s $71.59 in 2026 money! 😳) (When I became a sysop, I got a free account. It was worth a fortune!) People used real names, meaning you knew EXACTLY who you were talking to, which is pretty cool as we had people like Raymond Feist, the sci-fi/fantasy author, hanging out with us, as well as Roger Ebert, who became a friend. If you said something awful, we’d delete your post and lock you out until we talked with you. Your posts were tied to you, and I’ve felt that was the right way to do it since my BBS days in 1981. That way, you can’t hide while shouting аbuse and revealing you’re stupid, ignorant, and hateful.
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Multa Nocte 8 hours ago
Jesus, this is Nathaniel's troll in real life, I bet. I have honestly never seen anyway as obsessed with someone as Nathaniel's stalker. I mean he really obsesses over him and gets angry at people who defend him. It is a serious sick level of stalking and over several years, just like in this post. Speaking as a psychologist, both of them are pretty sick. I wish BP took care of Nathaniel's stalker. I could write an algorithm to pick out that twat in about 10 minutes.
Emilu 1 minute ago (edited)
BP can’t do that; they’re too busy censoring ‘póo’. 🤷🏻♀️
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Deborah B 13 hours ago
This cruel, racist, misogynist a****r is who he is when he thinks he can get away with it. The person you thought you knew was just the socially acceptable mask he has created to get what he wants. Leaving an a****r is the most dangerous time - and knowing what he really is puts you at risk. Do Not Confront Him. Take screen captures or make a back up or whatever, and get out as quickly and as you can. Sleep at a friends house, have multiple strong men go with you to collect your stuff. Expect online harassment to happen - go to the police and try to get a restraining order. Show them the ipad contents.
Binky Melnik 6 hours ago (edited)
As someone who ran online forums for 27 years, I’m disgusted by this. I started out on CompuServe which was awfully expensive. (I seem to remember paying $22.95/hour for it in 1987; it mightta been even more than that.) (I just looked, and that’s $71.59 in 2026 money! 😳) (When I became a sysop, I got a free account. It was worth a fortune!) People used real names, meaning you knew EXACTLY who you were talking to, which is pretty cool as we had people like Raymond Feist, the sci-fi/fantasy author, hanging out with us, as well as Roger Ebert, who became a friend. If you said something awful, we’d delete your post and lock you out until we talked with you. Your posts were tied to you, and I’ve felt that was the right way to do it since my BBS days in 1981. That way, you can’t hide while shouting аbuse and revealing you’re stupid, ignorant, and hateful.
Load More Replies... Multa Nocte 8 hours ago
Jesus, this is Nathaniel's troll in real life, I bet. I have honestly never seen anyway as obsessed with someone as Nathaniel's stalker. I mean he really obsesses over him and gets angry at people who defend him. It is a serious sick level of stalking and over several years, just like in this post. Speaking as a psychologist, both of them are pretty sick. I wish BP took care of Nathaniel's stalker. I could write an algorithm to pick out that twat in about 10 minutes.
Emilu 1 minute ago (edited)
BP can’t do that; they’re too busy censoring ‘póo’. 🤷🏻♀️
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