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Bartender Gets Appreciated Online For Swapping Tequila With Water When She Suspects Danger Around Women
Bartender Gets Appreciated Online For Swapping Tequila With Water When She Suspects Danger Around Women
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Bartender Gets Appreciated Online For Swapping Tequila With Water When She Suspects Danger Around Women

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According to statistics, approximately one third of women have been sexually taken advantage of while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. The creators of the Global Drug Survey 2022 interviewed 120K people around the world and the result was really not encouraging. 29.3 percent of women have experienced such an incident, and approximately 8 percent admitted that it took place in the last 12 months.

On average, the situation develops in a similar way – a man offers a woman a drink, orders her more and more alcohol, and then takes advantage and, as we see from the statistics, this, alas, has had a tendency to increase lately. In turn, bartenders are generally just glad that customers are increasing their orders. However, there are also some good exceptions.

Like this bartender named Rise who, in her TikTok video, showed how she tries to read the body language and facial clues of her female clients in order to prevent men from getting women drunk and taking advantage of them. The video went viral with over 8M views, and many netizens praised Rise for her good idea.

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    This bartender swaps out tequila shots for water for women when she sees that men are trying to “fill them up”

    Image credits: Martyn Smith (not the actual photo)

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    In her video, Rise staged her reaction to men who specifically order a double shot of tequila for the woman who came with them, hinting that they plan to get her drunk.

    Image credits: iamrisejumeade

    The Original Poster pretends to pour tequila into a glass while in fact, she pours clear water

    In this case, Rise winks at the client, pretends to pour tequila into a glass, and does it under the bar so that the man does not see her hands. Meanwhile, she pours clear water, pretends to be serving alcohol, and hands the glass to the woman.

    Image credits: iamrisejumeade

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    According to research, men do often try to take advantage of getting a woman drunk

    “Men more than women are less likely to believe that being drunk affects one’s capacity to consent to sex,” state Dr. Anna Carline from LJMU and Dr. Clare Gunby from the University Of Leicester in their study evaluating a sexual consent campaign aimed at young men. “Non-consensual acts are perpetrated most frequently by an individual known to the victim.”

    Image credits: iamrisejumeade

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    “Using the victim sexually after they had been drinking alcohol and were conscious but too intoxicated to give consent or stop what was happening is the most frequently used tactic,” say Dr. Carline and Dr. Gunby.

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    @iamrisejumeade We see it pretty often from this sode of the bar #OLAFLEX#DoritosDareToBeBurned#bartender#bartenderlife#buffalony#houstontx♬ she knows – 🍪

    Some people in the comments were a bit puzzled, but most of the commenters praised the Original Poster for her actions

    So Rise is really doing a good deed. However, not all commenters really agreed with this. One man even clarified that he gets charged for a double shot of tequila, and the woman ends up getting water when she really wanted some alcohol. To this, Rise noted that she always tries to read a woman’s body language, and wonders: “Is that what YOU want to drink?”

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    By the way, people in the comments also said that Rise is not alone in her actions. For example, someone said that one day their grandma took them to a bar and showed them a mini-fridge under the bar, where there were special glasses of water “just in case”. And other bartenders also decorate these glasses with a slice of lime for heightened effect.

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    As always, we’d like to know your feedback on this story, so now feel free to write your comments. If you too have worked as a bartender and done something similar, then please share your own tale. We suppose this would be really wholesome for anybody who plans to have a drink in the bar.

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    Hyde and Seek
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To some of the commentors :it isn't automatic,she looks at the body language of the woman with the guy, the angel shots are reliant on the person being confident enough to ask or able to get away from the guy. FYI (at least according to my state's laws): if either parties are intoxicated in any way it is rape ,if both parties are intoxicated it is still classified as rape. Stop calling it nonconsensual sex , it is rape.

    Jihana
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Louder for the people in the back. And the idiots who think this is ok.

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    Linda's friend Ginger
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how one of the commenters was more concerned with paying double for a water shot and not at all concerned with getting a woman drunk to lower her inhibitions.

    Mia D
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was probably the guy who was ordering those tequila double shots.

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    Uncommon Boston
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was this bartender back in 1980. A man asked me to give his date doubles for every drink he ordered. He was given the drink he asked for, hers was non-alcoholic. When she took the first sip, I looked her in the eyes. A quick moment of confusion, followed by understanding. We smiled. He got drunk, she left. Only happened once, still remember.

    Jordi Sharpe
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you. You helped someone that night. I'm sure she remembers that.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the woman wants to get drunk, she can tell the bartender "Thanks, I'm fine, so how 'bout you make that shot tequila this time." No harm done. If she's being pressured into taking shots, she has an out. To those concerned about the dude's wallet; If someone is trying to get someone else drunk so they can rape them, they deserve a lot worse than being cheated out of the price of a shot of tequila.

    ohjojo (you/your's)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the woman doesn't want water she can just say this isn't strong enough

    LoudMansLover
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These shots are now too known. I would worry about ordering an angel shot because the term has been plastered all over the internet. Men know, thus the bartenders taking it on their own to pass them out. That way it's not as obvious.

    Michelle E Parker
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awesome!! Let him drink tequila and give her water to keep her safe from him- HOW does ANYONE have any issues with that?! Bad people NEED to be stopped and if they can be stopped before it turns violent or something then let's have this happen EVERYWHERE- EVERYDAY!!!

    Hey!
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband orders for me most of the time because he knows what I like and if they don't have an ingredient to make my drink he knows enough to switch it. For ex, he ordered a Shirley Temple, they didn't have grenadine, so my husband switched to something else completely. Yes, this is a virgin drink but he also orders Cinzano, Martini Rossi, etc. My body language is totally relaxed unless it's a mixed drink then I'm checking how much they are putting as I only want ~1/4 oz. Last week, my husband asked for an Hemingway special and he specified not to put the whole ounce. He left to secure a table. Well the guy thought it would be funny to not just put one but two ounces. I told him to stop, he didn't. I left the bar to go sit at my table. The other barman came over and I explained the situation. He came back with a satisfying drink. I didn't think it was funny and the barman got it rough by the other two men there.

    CJ Vee
    Community Member
    3 years ago

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    Uncommon Boston
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Watch 'Tea Consent' on YouTube to understand consent.

    Mad McQueen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remember the bartender is watching the situation. If the bartender feels the person ordering is being sus an might be trying to get someone drunk they could just do this an make it look legit. But say "it's on the house" to avoid the rip off of water instead of liquor. And at some point have someone go to the restroom when the patron does and ask her if she's ok and if she wants actual drinks and what the other person is ordering. Yeah your husband bf etc might order you a double and that's what you want to avoid going up and down to the bar. That's fine. You can also tell from a couple what's going on. So don't get snotty at the bartender or you can go home or to somewhere else.

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    Hyde and Seek
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To some of the commentors :it isn't automatic,she looks at the body language of the woman with the guy, the angel shots are reliant on the person being confident enough to ask or able to get away from the guy. FYI (at least according to my state's laws): if either parties are intoxicated in any way it is rape ,if both parties are intoxicated it is still classified as rape. Stop calling it nonconsensual sex , it is rape.

    Jihana
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Louder for the people in the back. And the idiots who think this is ok.

    Load More Replies...
    Linda's friend Ginger
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how one of the commenters was more concerned with paying double for a water shot and not at all concerned with getting a woman drunk to lower her inhibitions.

    Mia D
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was probably the guy who was ordering those tequila double shots.

    Load More Replies...
    Uncommon Boston
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was this bartender back in 1980. A man asked me to give his date doubles for every drink he ordered. He was given the drink he asked for, hers was non-alcoholic. When she took the first sip, I looked her in the eyes. A quick moment of confusion, followed by understanding. We smiled. He got drunk, she left. Only happened once, still remember.

    Jordi Sharpe
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you. You helped someone that night. I'm sure she remembers that.

    Load More Replies...
    Deborah B
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the woman wants to get drunk, she can tell the bartender "Thanks, I'm fine, so how 'bout you make that shot tequila this time." No harm done. If she's being pressured into taking shots, she has an out. To those concerned about the dude's wallet; If someone is trying to get someone else drunk so they can rape them, they deserve a lot worse than being cheated out of the price of a shot of tequila.

    ohjojo (you/your's)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the woman doesn't want water she can just say this isn't strong enough

    LoudMansLover
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These shots are now too known. I would worry about ordering an angel shot because the term has been plastered all over the internet. Men know, thus the bartenders taking it on their own to pass them out. That way it's not as obvious.

    Michelle E Parker
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awesome!! Let him drink tequila and give her water to keep her safe from him- HOW does ANYONE have any issues with that?! Bad people NEED to be stopped and if they can be stopped before it turns violent or something then let's have this happen EVERYWHERE- EVERYDAY!!!

    Hey!
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband orders for me most of the time because he knows what I like and if they don't have an ingredient to make my drink he knows enough to switch it. For ex, he ordered a Shirley Temple, they didn't have grenadine, so my husband switched to something else completely. Yes, this is a virgin drink but he also orders Cinzano, Martini Rossi, etc. My body language is totally relaxed unless it's a mixed drink then I'm checking how much they are putting as I only want ~1/4 oz. Last week, my husband asked for an Hemingway special and he specified not to put the whole ounce. He left to secure a table. Well the guy thought it would be funny to not just put one but two ounces. I told him to stop, he didn't. I left the bar to go sit at my table. The other barman came over and I explained the situation. He came back with a satisfying drink. I didn't think it was funny and the barman got it rough by the other two men there.

    CJ Vee
    Community Member
    3 years ago

    This comment has been deleted.

    Load More Replies...
    Uncommon Boston
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Watch 'Tea Consent' on YouTube to understand consent.

    Mad McQueen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remember the bartender is watching the situation. If the bartender feels the person ordering is being sus an might be trying to get someone drunk they could just do this an make it look legit. But say "it's on the house" to avoid the rip off of water instead of liquor. And at some point have someone go to the restroom when the patron does and ask her if she's ok and if she wants actual drinks and what the other person is ordering. Yeah your husband bf etc might order you a double and that's what you want to avoid going up and down to the bar. That's fine. You can also tell from a couple what's going on. So don't get snotty at the bartender or you can go home or to somewhere else.

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