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Woman Learns The Cost Of A Prank After 2-Year Relationship Goes Up In Flames
Woman Learns The Cost Of A Prank After 2-Year Relationship Goes Up In Flames
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Woman Learns The Cost Of A Prank After 2-Year Relationship Goes Up In Flames

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Trust is the foundation of any relationship, but what happens when it’s put on the line in the name of a joke? In today’s post from the subreddit r/AITAH, a man recounts how his girlfriend’s elaborate “prank” with a mutual friend of theirs jeopardized everything they had built in two years. The woman said she was just playing around, but the guy’s definition of fun doesn’t include coming home to his partner straddling someone else in their bedroom.

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    Pranks often walk the line between harmless fun and hurt feelings

    Couple sitting on a bed, intimately smiling at each other, highlighting relationship dynamics.

    Image credits: cottonbro studio / pexels (not the actual photo)

    Or in this case, causing a breakup

    Text about breaking up due to a prank, with a man questioning if he overreacted.

    Prank leads to breakup text about girlfriend and friend staging a scenario of cheating.

    Text about a hidden camera prank causing relationship issues.

    Text describing a woman's reaction to a prank affecting her relationship.

    Text describing a prank's impact on trust and a relationship.

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    Text about ending a relationship due to a prank and dealing with friends' reactions.

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    Text reflecting on a decision after a prank impacts a relationship, questioning if it was blown out of proportion.

    Man looking pensive, wearing a white shirt, sitting on a couch, light streaming in from a nearby window.

    Image credits: freepik (not the actual photo)

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    After his story went viral, the man posted an update

    Text image discussing relationship prank consequences.

    Text screenshot discussing backlash from a prank affecting a two-year relationship.

    A breakup text exchange aftermath, discussing a prank's serious impact on a relationship.

    Image credits: anonymous

    Betrayal instantly destroys safety and trust in a relationship

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    Couple standing by a window; the woman looks concerned as the man focused on his phone, highlighting relationship tensions.

    Image credits: wayhomestudio / freepik (not the actual photo)

    Sometimes you can’t know for sure if you’re partner is cheating or not, so we asked marriage and family therapist Dr. Talal H. Alsaleem, PsyD, LMFT, also known as the Father of Modern Infidelity Counseling, about the most common signs to look out for. Of course, every situation is different, but Dr. Talal told Bored Panda there are three that stick out:

    #1 Over protection of privacy and access to digital interactions

    “Secrecy is one the most common elements of infidelity,” he explained to us, adding that it manifests in a variety of ways, including:

    • Closing out of chat windows when a partner walks in the room
    • Deleting the computer history
    • Erasing online interactions
    • Deleting texts
    • Pretending to be working on something else when engaging in internet infidelity behaviors
    • Password changes
    • Taking phone everywhere
    • Using a burner phone

    #2 Engaging in selfish behaviors

    “When you don’t feel close to someone, you are less inclined to think and or care about their needs and desires, because you feel that they don’t care about yours,” Dr. Talal said.

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    #3 Superficial conversations

    According to the therapist, a lack of intimacy breeds lack of trust and a decrease in vulnerability. As a result, “you are less likely to have a deep, soulful conversation with your partner about your hopes, dreams, and the things that bother you.”

    #4 Living Separate lives

    Dr. Talal, author of the books Unfaithful & Unrepentant: Affairs Beyond the Hope of Repair and Infidelity: The Best Worst Thing that Could Happen to Your Marriage: The Complete Guide on How to Heal from Affairs, said that when the bond is strong, we tend to spend a lot of time with our partners and wholeheartedly enjoy mutual activities. But when it’s weak, couples start drifting apart and look for things to do by themselves or with other people that they feel close to.

    According to scientific research conducted on couples in Britain and published in the journal PLOS-ONE, the top reasons why couples break up are:

    • Growing apart;
    • Arguing;
    • Unfaithfulness;
    • Lack of respect;
    • Different interests;
    • Moving;
    • Money problems;
    • Not sharing housework;
    • Difficulties with sex;
    • Domestic violence;
    • Not having children;
    • Drinking/drugs/gambling.

    So while it’s unclear whether or not the woman had actually cheated, judging from the post, it might be that the couple’s relationship had been already plagued by at least a couple of these issues.

    Most of those who read what happened said the man did nothing wrong

    Text comment discussing relationship ending due to a prank, gaining 12.4k points.

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    Comment about a prank leading to relationship issues, suggesting the woman was blamed for a bad joke.

    Comment questioning the repercussions of a prank in a two-year relationship.

    Comment discussing the consequences of a prank on a woman’s relationship, labeled as cheating.

    Reddit comment criticizing a prank, discussing the aftermath in a relationship.

    Text discussing the fallout of a prank on a two-year relationship, involving infidelity and emotional distress.

    Screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing the aftermath of a prank on a 2-year relationship.

    Reddit comment discussing the consequences of a prank in a relationship.

    Text comment discussing relationship trust and boundaries after a prank went wrong.

    Text from a Reddit comment about a prank ending a 2-year relationship.

    Comment predicts relationship will be openly discussed within 6 months after prank.

    Text from a Reddit post about the consequences of a prank on a two-year relationship.

    Screenshot of a comment accusing a woman of using a prank as cover for cheating.

    A comment reacting to a woman's prank that affected her 2-year relationship.

    Comment about pranking and relationship consequences on social media.

    Comment discussing the consequences of a prank on a 2-year relationship, with user NoSign3914 sharing their viewpoint.

    Reddit comment discussing pranks in relationships and their consequences.

    However, a few saw the situation differently

    Comment discussing a prank's impact on a relationship, with a plea for understanding.

    Comment on a relationship ending after a prank, suggesting a heart-to-heart for clarity.

    Comment discussing reaction to prank and relationship breakup advice.

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    Writer, Senior Writer

    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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    Nimitz
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who the f**k dresses down to their underwear and straddles a person for a "prank." It's either a really, really stupid Idea or they decided to actually cheat and were setting up a gaslight in case they got caught in the future. Either way, move on and move forward. There's not much to salvage from a situation like that.

    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, in the exGF's head, assuming that her intentions were purely prank-filled, what was she expecting to be the reaction? "Oh, you got me! Shucks, that was a good one, babe. Anyway, where do you want to go for dinner tonight?"

    person (i think)
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the “best case scenario” and it was actually a joke, that’s my big question too. And _how_ is it funny? (for the record, breaking up was the right call. The whole thing is weird and suspicious) Edit: grammar

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    Sergio Bicerra
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she wanted to be funny she could have painted her face as a clown. Oh wait, she already did that without the makeup

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    Nimitz
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who the f**k dresses down to their underwear and straddles a person for a "prank." It's either a really, really stupid Idea or they decided to actually cheat and were setting up a gaslight in case they got caught in the future. Either way, move on and move forward. There's not much to salvage from a situation like that.

    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, in the exGF's head, assuming that her intentions were purely prank-filled, what was she expecting to be the reaction? "Oh, you got me! Shucks, that was a good one, babe. Anyway, where do you want to go for dinner tonight?"

    person (i think)
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the “best case scenario” and it was actually a joke, that’s my big question too. And _how_ is it funny? (for the record, breaking up was the right call. The whole thing is weird and suspicious) Edit: grammar

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    Sergio Bicerra
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she wanted to be funny she could have painted her face as a clown. Oh wait, she already did that without the makeup

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