Hey Pandas, AITA For Confronting My Roommate About Leaving Clutter In The Kitchen?
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I moved to a flat two months ago with two flatmates, one of whom is Indian. When I entered the flat, I asked about where I could store my stuff. While he was clearing space for me in the fridge, he mentioned I couldn’t put any meat there. I disagreed, saying I’d use my space, and he’d have to deal with it.
Since then, he’s been acting like a child, leaving dirty dishes in the kitchen
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Even when he washes them, he leaves them on the drying rack for up to a week, so no one else can use it. I started clearing his stuff to make space for mine.
Once, he knocked on my door at 10 pm, asking about his mug (I wake up at 4 am for work)
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I was angry and told him to check the cupboards and clear his things off the drying rack if he didn’t want to lose his mug.
Now, he’s upset about me calling his stuff “s**t”
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But he leaves his dirty things lying around for weeks without a problem. Am I wrong for asking him to keep the place clean and tidy?
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If he leaves his stuff laying around and they are in your way, pick them up and place them carefully in his room. I say carefully so he cannot accuse you of harming them in any way. The same applies to dirty items; put them all in his room. The point about the meat in the fridge; as long as it is wrapped efficiently, there is not a problem.
ESH. You're adults: figure it out or move out.
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Going with ESH, not much to go on but, frankly it sounded like you were the problem from the get go.. starting with specifically calling out his race for no apparent reason... he cleared a space for you in the fridge but said not to store meat there, and your reply was "I'd use my space and he would have to deal with it" with no context for us at all.. was there an alrdy designated spot for meat.? Maybe he didn't want raw meat juice to contaminate things... sounds like he is also being TA by refusing to clean up after himself..you guys should look for different flatmates... this will only end badly for both of you..
Borderline on the race thing. If roomie says no meat because he's a fad vegan, vs a cultural value - two different situations, two different answers.
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If he leaves his stuff laying around and they are in your way, pick them up and place them carefully in his room. I say carefully so he cannot accuse you of harming them in any way. The same applies to dirty items; put them all in his room. The point about the meat in the fridge; as long as it is wrapped efficiently, there is not a problem.
ESH. You're adults: figure it out or move out.
Load More Replies... Going with ESH, not much to go on but, frankly it sounded like you were the problem from the get go.. starting with specifically calling out his race for no apparent reason... he cleared a space for you in the fridge but said not to store meat there, and your reply was "I'd use my space and he would have to deal with it" with no context for us at all.. was there an alrdy designated spot for meat.? Maybe he didn't want raw meat juice to contaminate things... sounds like he is also being TA by refusing to clean up after himself..you guys should look for different flatmates... this will only end badly for both of you..
Borderline on the race thing. If roomie says no meat because he's a fad vegan, vs a cultural value - two different situations, two different answers.
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