Man Asks If He Was Wrong To Ask A Mom Who Started Breastfeeding Her Baby To Sit At Another Table
Sometimes people get uncomfortable about things that others consider to be the most normal in the world. It could be that they were raised differently, or in their culture, some things are considered to be taboo.
However, as a society, we make some things out to be taboo although they shouldn’t be as they are normal and natural. That leads to people being uncomfortable while talking about it or witnessing those things. That was what happened to Reddit user Chance_Object_7968, who felt uneasy when a woman started breastfeeding her baby not too far from him.
He felt uncomfortable and asked her to sit in another place, but she refused. People who read the story came to a conclusion that the man was at fault and shouldn’t have said what he said.
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A man feels like he was being a jerk for asking a breastfeeding mom to sit at another table because he felt uncomfortable and asks the internet for a second opinion
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The original poster (OP) introduces himself as a 27-year-old man who has a job that allows him long breaks during which he likes to go to a café and sit there. Apparently the café in question is often busy, but it probably doesn’t bother the man as he evidently continues coming there.
After a while the baby starts crying and the mom understands it as a sign that her child is hungry. So she does what she has to and starts breastfeeding it. That is when the man becomes uncomfortable; he doesn’t know where to put his eyes and eventually asks if the woman could sit at another table.
The OP likes to spend his breaks in a café that usually gets quite busy
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The OP describes that the mom looked sorry, but she didn’t move. So the man decided that he also wouldn’t go to the seat that was less comfortable and just hurried up to drink his coffee and left.
At the end, the man understood that he might have been rude and insensitive. He felt the judgemental looks from other café guests, but he had no intention to force the woman out in the first place.
One time a woman with a baby came in and asked the man if she could sit at his table as there were not many seats available
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The man said yes, but after a while, he regretted it as the mom started breastfeeding her baby and he felt uncomfortable
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Chance_Object_7968 mentions that he realizes that breastfeeding is natural, but he still felt that he couldn’t stay in the café any longer. It is not uncommon for men to feel uncomfortable in situations like these. But it’s not that moms enjoy it either; at the same time, they will not leave their babies starving.
A lot of people in the comments were saying that the OP shouldn’t have said anything and many of them were repeating that it’s a natural thing that people should just accept it.
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He wanted the mom to sit in another place, but she couldn’t, so he quickly drank his coffee and left, but felt that other people didn’t approve of his actions
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It seems that the man really felt bad about asking the woman to go to another seat and wanted to know what others would think about the situation he was in. People in the comments showed no mercy and the verdict was that the OP was in the wrong for asking her to move.
But what do you think? Do you reckon that this man deserves redemption as he himself feels bad for his actions? Maybe you have some experiences that are similar to this and would like to share them? Let us know your reactions in the comments!
People who read the story unanimously agreed that the OP was being mean and shouldn’t have said anything
What is it with men and female bodily functions? I remember buying tampons for my then girlfriend and these guys making a scene at the cash register. "Dude, you buy those things for your old lady?". I think I answered "Are you 5 years old or something?". I have always been puzzled by this attitude. Breastfeeding is as natural as things get. Sure, you don't want to stare and lick your lips, but at the very least be a grownup and either ignore it or ask if there is something you can do to help (in a busy bar if the mom is having trouble, get your mind out of the gutter). Folks, grow up.
Exactly, Marco. Well said. Grow the hell up you stupid little man boys. Women's bodies exist outside your need to sexualize them for your own gratification. It's pathetic.
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If I see someone breastfeeding in public, I probably won't think a thing about it. If someone asks to share my table where I'm eating, pops out a boob and begins breastfeeding 2 ft in front of me, I'm going to be taken aback a little. While I was sitting there, that was my personal space. I shared it (yes that became her space too at that point) but I'd be awfully surprised by it. I'd like to think I'd just shrug it off and go about the rest of my routine. I'd even like to think I might make some small talk with the lady. But honestly, if you catch someone by surprise, half the time their reaction may not be stellar, regardless of what the situation was.
There's literally no difference between the woman nursing her baby and the woman actually eating food herself at the table. You wouldn't be discomfited by the one, so why would you be by the other?
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The man was in a situation where he was uncomfortable. He apparently did not make a major scene and bowed to the inevitable. He is giving serious thought to the situation and everyone's reactions, including his own. He is not an a**hole, just a clueless guy caught off guard in a situation he was not prepared for.
Yea, I don't think he is an asshole. He handled the situation poorly, but it could have been worse. I don't understand why he felt uncomfortable tho, drink your coffee and continue focusing on whatever you were doing.
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What is it with men and female bodily functions? I remember buying tampons for my then girlfriend and these guys making a scene at the cash register. "Dude, you buy those things for your old lady?". I think I answered "Are you 5 years old or something?". I have always been puzzled by this attitude. Breastfeeding is as natural as things get. Sure, you don't want to stare and lick your lips, but at the very least be a grownup and either ignore it or ask if there is something you can do to help (in a busy bar if the mom is having trouble, get your mind out of the gutter). Folks, grow up.
Exactly, Marco. Well said. Grow the hell up you stupid little man boys. Women's bodies exist outside your need to sexualize them for your own gratification. It's pathetic.
Load More Replies... If I see someone breastfeeding in public, I probably won't think a thing about it. If someone asks to share my table where I'm eating, pops out a boob and begins breastfeeding 2 ft in front of me, I'm going to be taken aback a little. While I was sitting there, that was my personal space. I shared it (yes that became her space too at that point) but I'd be awfully surprised by it. I'd like to think I'd just shrug it off and go about the rest of my routine. I'd even like to think I might make some small talk with the lady. But honestly, if you catch someone by surprise, half the time their reaction may not be stellar, regardless of what the situation was.
There's literally no difference between the woman nursing her baby and the woman actually eating food herself at the table. You wouldn't be discomfited by the one, so why would you be by the other?
Load More Replies... The man was in a situation where he was uncomfortable. He apparently did not make a major scene and bowed to the inevitable. He is giving serious thought to the situation and everyone's reactions, including his own. He is not an a**hole, just a clueless guy caught off guard in a situation he was not prepared for.
Yea, I don't think he is an asshole. He handled the situation poorly, but it could have been worse. I don't understand why he felt uncomfortable tho, drink your coffee and continue focusing on whatever you were doing.
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