So my boyfriend of 5 years has seizures & this can affect his mood. He recently decided on his own (without letting me know) he was going to start taking care of his medical needs by himself...this resulted in him getting the wrong medications & settings off 2 grand mal seizures till I got it corrected. I make many allowances for the fact this is part of being with him & I've stuck by him no matter what he has said or done during these episodes. (ie:calling me a f***ing b***ch & c**t, etc) It all came to a head when I was doing his laundry on my day off and asked him to come over to help...when he walked in (I live a few blocks away) and I told him it wasn't ready yet he went into a tantrum & demanded I take him home. I kept my mouth shut until he told me if it was gonna be a problem doing his laundry then not to do it anymore. I'm sorry to say I lost my temper! I yelled at him and told him he was an ungrateful f****ing a**hole and he was right he could do it himself. I dropped him off and the next thing I knew he changed the locks, blocked me & texted my MOM he was done with me?!? Maybe I lost my s**t but I'm human! I know he's sick but what am I supposed to do?

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My boyfriend of 11 years has degenerative disc disease, and the pain in intense and he can get moody, and sometimes a straight up a*****e. I know it's not the same as seizures, since they affect your brain and that's what causes the changes in personality, point being I get what it's like to be with someone with a medical condition and it's EXHAUSTING! We may not be the ones with the medical problem, but we are certainly affected by it. I don't think you're TA. I'm not sure if anyone is in this case. Assuming his response was something he had little control over. Are you sure that all of his mood issues are related to seizures? Is he aware of how his behavior has affected you during these episodes? Like apologizing once he's clear headed? I'm wondering why you were doing his laundry. Is this a regular thing? Or just a favor? Besides the medication, (which I wonder why he can't control) is he able to care for himself? Like shopping, cleaning, working, etc. Anyway though, you have a right to be upset too, and I don't think you were wrong to yell at him. Yeah, he might not have much control, but he was still being a d**k, and you said it yourself. How much are you expected to take? I would definitely talk to him about this. Say how you understand how this affects him, but explain how it affects you too. In addition to his medication, could he try something like cognitive restructuring? Maybe he could find some tools to help him cope with his personality changed. But you need to figure out to handle this before resentment takes over. Best of luck to you both. 😁

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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank u for your advice. We have finally been able to talk & looking into the cognitive restructuring. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's nice to know I'm not alone. ❤️

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