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“What A Strong Woman”: People Praise Activist Who Ended Her Life By Starving To Protect Her Kids
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"What A Strong Woman": People Praise Activist Who Ended Her Life By Starving To Protect Her Kids

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A terminally ill 42-year-old English woman who refused food or water to hasten her passing has, in fact, passed.

Emma Bray from Barnstaple, England, was diagnosed with motor neuron disease two years ago.

She had been actively campaigning for Dignity in Dy*ng, and said that her decision to take control over her passing by voluntarily stopping eating and drinking, or VSED, would be her final act of parenting.

Highlights
  • Emma Bray, 42, with motor neuron disease, chose to voluntarily stop eating and drinking (VSED) to control her passing and protect her children.
  • Bray’s peaceful passing reignited the debate on legalizing assisted dying, coinciding with Britain's recent parliamentary vote on the issue.
  • Voluntarily stopping eating and drinking (VSED) allowed Bray to have control over her passing process, lasting 10 to 14 days without coercion.
  • Bray campaigned for dignity in d*ing, emphasizing her final act was to spare her loved ones trauma from her disease’s physical decline.

Her story has reopened the debate on the implications of medically assisted s**cide.

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    “Hug everyone a little tighter”: Emma Bray’s final Instagram message is one of hope

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    According to a post on Bray’s Instagram account from July 14th, Bray passed peacefully at a hospice center in Devon. In a photo, we see her in a hospice bed overlooking green treetops and fluffy white clouds.

    “If you are reading this then I’ve finished my final spin round the sun,” the caption read.

    It continued: “I’ve lived a very good life, surrounded by love, music and laughter and I want this to continue in my memory.”

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    She urged friends to ask themselves “what would Emma do” in times of doubt and encouraged people to “hug everyone a little tighter.”

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    She ended her post with a quote from a 2012 Frank Turner song called “Long Live The Queen”, a tune about losing a terminally ill friend.

    “Remember you get to dance another day but now you have to dance for one more of us,” Bray’s post said.

    MND, also called ALS or Lou Gehrig’s, causes rapid muscle loss, leading to passing

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    According to the Cleveland Clinic, ALS, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis—Lou Gehrig’s disease—is the most common motor neuron disease (MND) and the terms are used interchangeably. 

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    The clinic’s website says: “ALS causes rapid loss of muscle control leading to disability and eventually de*th. There’s no cure for MND.”

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    When she received the diagnosis two years ago, Bray said in interviews, she was extraordinarily distraught.

    “I remember howling like an animal when I realised the impact it would have on the children. My best friend was with me and, as we left, I said I wished it was cancer because there would be potential surgery or treatment, with MND there is nothing,” she said in an interview with The Mirror

    Bray’s case has reopened the debate about whether assisted passing should be legalized

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    Emma had said that she was determined to live a full life because doctors told her the end would be very hard.

    Roughly one month ago, Britain’s parliament voted in favor of the “Terminally Ill Adults (End of Life)” law, which would legalize assisted dy*ng, by a vote of 314 to 291.

    Reuters reports that the bill “now proceeds to Britain’s upper chamber, the House of Lords, where it will undergo months of scrutiny.”

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    “The vote puts Britain on course to follow Australia, Canada and other countries, as well as some U.S. states, in permitting assisted dy*ng,” the article continued.

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    One of the most talked about cases of medically assisting su*cide happened in the forests of Switzerland with a device called a Sarco pod.

    A criminal investigation is ongoing after an American woman in her 60s became the first person to use the device.

     

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    Also known internationally as the “euthanasia pod,”  the device works by releasing a large amount of nitrogen, giving the recipient a “peaceful, dignified” end to life after about five minutes.

    But local media says autopsy reports in the case revealed “strangulation marks” on the woman’s neck, prompting officials to consider the possibility of m*rder.

    While assisted su*cide is legal in Switzerland, the Sarco su*cide capsule does not comply with the law, Swiss officials have said.

    “The thing I hate most about MND”: Bray explains why she chose to stop eating and drinking

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    Bray had been a staunch advocate of passing a bill to legalize assisted su*cide, saying that had the bill passed, it would’ve prevented her loved ones from suffering for two years with anticipatory grief. 

    In interviews, she described the agonizing moment of not being able to hug her children when they were sad.

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    “Watching your children grieve for you and not being able to hug them is the most painful feeling ever. This is hands down the thing I hate the most about MND. It’s taken my children’s mum from them little by little,” she said in an interview.

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    “The last bit of parenting I can do is to limit the suffering and trauma they have to witness,” she concluded.

    For these reasons, Bray said she chose VSED. 

    VSED is not easy, but it let Bray take control of the circumstances surrounding her passing

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    The Compassion in D*ing website explains that the practice of “voluntarily stopping eating and drinking” can be carried out by adults “with mental capacity to decide to do so and in the absence of control or coercion.”

    They say passing from VSED typically takes between 10 to 14 days.

    In choosing VSED, Bray has said that it’s not an “easy” way to pass, but that it was the only way she could have control over it.

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    “I want to protect my children from seeing me choke and struggle to breathe,” she said, referring to the horrendous side effects of MND.

    “I don’t want to d*e, but I am going to and have come to terms with my impending de**h, and I know I want to d*e surrounded by loved ones, music and laughter, not in an emergency way after further decline.”

    Netizens remain split on whether medically assisted su*cide should be legalized

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    Hey there! I'm a Visual Editor in News team. My responsibility is to ensure that you can read the story not just through text, but also through photos. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from celebrity drama to mind-blowing Nasa cosmic news. And let me tell you, that's what makes this job an absolute blast! Outside of work, you can find me sweating it out in dance classes or unleashing my creativity by drawing and creating digital paintings of different characters that lives in my head. I also love spending time outdoors and play board games with my friends.

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    Hola! I’m a Julie, a giant panda currently living in the lush green bamboo groves of Barcelona. I spend my days lounging in the shade, munching on snacks, and trying to avoid becoming an Instagram influencer. Life’s good. BP is my absolute favorite place to find funny, weird, and heartwarming stories. I especially love the animal content (have you seen the dog wearing a panda costume? 🤣 You know he didn't put that on himself! Oh humans) I might be a panda, but even I get bored sometimes—so BP to the rescue! 🐼💻✨

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    Hola! I’m a Julie, a giant panda currently living in the lush green bamboo groves of Barcelona. I spend my days lounging in the shade, munching on snacks, and trying to avoid becoming an Instagram influencer. Life’s good. BP is my absolute favorite place to find funny, weird, and heartwarming stories. I especially love the animal content (have you seen the dog wearing a panda costume? 🤣 You know he didn't put that on himself! Oh humans) I might be a panda, but even I get bored sometimes—so BP to the rescue! 🐼💻✨

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    Crystal M
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is 'my body, my choice' illegal in most countries? Are you paying my debts and experiencing my pain/grief? No? Then let me do as I wish as long as it doesn't harm anyone else.

    BrunoVI
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    7 months ago (edited)

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    So.... force people to endure mind-shattering pain because d***s are bad m'kay, but allow people to help k**l others to relieve them of their pain? Seems crazy to allow government to make people pray for death, and then consider the problem solved when someone answer their prayers.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who genuinely thinks that anyone MUST live the longest they can even if they are vegetables by the end ? Like genuinely, please, tell me why other's way of handling how and when they d!e is so important to YOU personally ?

    Undercover
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    7 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's like people who fight against LBGTQ rights! I'm straight as hell, but how can I be bothered so much by how other people find happiness and love?! Good for them!!! They don't bother me in any way, they make society richer, more open! Don't let conservatists win, it's not a smart move trying to go backwards. And tbh, I find it really hard to empathize with trans persons because I have no clue how they really feel or what they have to go through. But I rationally know they have to face A LOT of obstacles and I won somewhat the genetic lottery because it doesn't affect me. It must be so hard, ugh.

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    Ben
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad died from ALS. It is horrible and happens so fast and nothing could be done. He never even made it to the point of a wheelchair.

    Undercover
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My deepest condolences to you! 😔❤️

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    Crystal M
    Community Member
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is 'my body, my choice' illegal in most countries? Are you paying my debts and experiencing my pain/grief? No? Then let me do as I wish as long as it doesn't harm anyone else.

    BrunoVI
    Community Member
    7 months ago (edited)

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    So.... force people to endure mind-shattering pain because d***s are bad m'kay, but allow people to help k**l others to relieve them of their pain? Seems crazy to allow government to make people pray for death, and then consider the problem solved when someone answer their prayers.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who genuinely thinks that anyone MUST live the longest they can even if they are vegetables by the end ? Like genuinely, please, tell me why other's way of handling how and when they d!e is so important to YOU personally ?

    Undercover
    Community Member
    7 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's like people who fight against LBGTQ rights! I'm straight as hell, but how can I be bothered so much by how other people find happiness and love?! Good for them!!! They don't bother me in any way, they make society richer, more open! Don't let conservatists win, it's not a smart move trying to go backwards. And tbh, I find it really hard to empathize with trans persons because I have no clue how they really feel or what they have to go through. But I rationally know they have to face A LOT of obstacles and I won somewhat the genetic lottery because it doesn't affect me. It must be so hard, ugh.

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    Ben
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad died from ALS. It is horrible and happens so fast and nothing could be done. He never even made it to the point of a wheelchair.

    Undercover
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My deepest condolences to you! 😔❤️

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