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Woman Terminates Pregnancy After Fiancé Cheats, He Is Absolutely Stunned That She Would Dare To
Interview With AuthorCheating can completely turn a relationship upside down. It’s scary to imagine, but around 16% of married couples admit to having an affair at some point. The infidelity can change everything and bring to light some serious issues in the marriage that both partners could never imagine.
A woman found herself in the same position when she got pregnant. She was just going to reveal it to her fiancé when he admitted to cheating. The news was so devastating that she had to make one of the hardest decisions about her pregnancy.
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Fiancée who got cheated on decided to end her pregnancy instead of struggling as a single mom and having to manage joint custody with the ex who broke her heart
Image credits: Alex Green (not the actual photo)
The woman and her BF were high school sweethearts who had been together for 7 years, one day he brought his mistress to their house and said they had been having an affair for a year
Image credits: Tima Miroshnichenko (not the actual photo)
The heartbroken poster, who was pregnant, revealed that after he admitted to cheating, she realized that she did not want to co-parent or be a single mom
Image credits: Eren Li (not the actual photo)
A few days later, she terminated the pregnancy and let him know about it, but he was enraged since he had always wanted kids, and his mean words made her feel like a jerk
Image credits: u/Gummytoeswithcream
She explained that even though she felt selfish for her actions, the thought of having a baby alone would have made her unhappy, especially after he broke her heart
The grief-stricken poster was vulnerable enough to share what was probably one of the most difficult situations of her life. She revealed that she and her fiancé had been together for 7 years. During their relationship, he had been cheating with another woman for over a year. He even had the audacity to bring his mistress to their house and break the news to the poster.
The unfortunate part was not just that her relationship had ended, it was also that she was pregnant. She had not told him the news, but when he revealed the affair, she realized that she did not want to have the baby. She had never been that interested in the idea of having kids, unlike him. So, she broke the news to him and terminated the pregnancy a few days later.
Bored Panda reached out to the post’s author, u/Gummytoeswithcream, to understand how she was coping with the decision. She said, “I do not think I will regret it. It’s been around a month, and I don’t really miss the potential child. Maybe I will regret it in the future, but it just doesn’t seem that as of now. I have been feeling pretty neutral, like truthfully I just feel like everything said and done has not happened.”
She added, “I feel like everything has happened really fast, and I’m not realizing why I am not crying or angry or anything. I’m just doing what I do. Wake up, breakfast, brush my teeth, shower, get ready for work, lunch break, leave work, go home, dinner, shower, then sleep.”
This is an incredibly tough decision to make. According to the WHO, there are nearly 73 million pregnancy terminations that happen every year. It’s a physically and mentally challenging option that nobody chooses lightly. Some netizens were enraged by the woman’s decision, and she clarified that she did not do it out of revenge.
She told commenters, “I didn’t [end the pregnancy] to get back at him because I hate kids and he should be punished or something. I did it because I didn’t want to ruin that kid’s life and mine. I would not love that baby and as controversial as it sounds, I would probably do some things that I wouldn’t be proud of if I had them. No one but him and maybe his girlfriend knows about it.”
Image credits: Keira Burton (not the actual photo)
When she informed her ex-fiancé about her decision, he blew up at her. He had always wanted a big family, and even though he had cheated, he expected her to go ahead with the pregnancy. He couldn’t believe she would have gone ahead with the termination without checking with him first. But, the woman stated again that she barely liked kids, and the idea of having the baby of the man who cheated on her did not make sense.
We asked the author if her ex had contacted her and what he had to say. She said: “In short, he emailed me, he nitpicked my looks and the form of my chest and behind size, and he went on about if I did not have [a pregnancy termination], he would have considered dating me again or even getting married.”
Despite the man’s reaction and some mean words from commenters, the woman was firm with her choice. Research found that women who went through with the termination of pregnancy experienced less anxiety than those who were denied the option. Another survey showed that of 226 women who ended their pregnancy, 33% who wanted to do it experienced positive mental health gains after it happened. Of the remaining women, 60% said they would have preferred to give birth if they had more support from the people in their lives.
Emotional and social support is so important when someone chooses to end their pregnancy. This is because the decision comes with a whole host of emotional and physical side effects that are difficult to deal with all alone. As the woman had mentioned, she didn’t want kids but didn’t mind them either, and if the man hadn’t cheated, she would have probably had the baby. But knowing the future that lay ahead of her, she decided to make this hard choice.
It’s nobody else’s place to tell the woman what she should or shouldn’t have done. Though the situation was extremely complicated, the man had no right to get angry with her because he had been having an affair. The woman said she would share an update on her situation after a while. We hope she’s in a better mental space now.
Do you agree with how the poster handled the situation? What are your thoughts?
Most netizens sided with the woman and told her that she definitely dodged a bullet judging by her ex’s behavior
What do you think ?
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
It's not pro-life, it's anti-women's rights. My body, my choice. I terminated because 1) it was accidental, 2) I was very irresponsible back then, and 3) it was ectopic in first month already. Do I regret it? No, I never wanted kids anyway. This guy cheated on OP, rubbed her face in it hard then tried to make a decision about how her life is going to go? Nah, Felicia, GTFO and take your new bit with you.
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 1 year ago
The hard right forced birth cult, once again attacking women. Thats all it does. Pure. Evil.
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Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago
And a lifelong commitment too, kids are hard work, let alone ones you didn’t truly want or that connect you to an AH ex
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Ryan-James O'Driscoll 1 year ago
He didn't consult her before he started f***ing someone else, so does not get to make himself a victim. Hard to say of it was the right choice. Only time will tell on that one and she will know. But it was her choice.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
OP assessed the situation and decided that having a baby, especially with someone who isn't going to be around (and I bet will be a pain in the a*s to track down for support payments) to actively be a part of the child's life, was not in the cards right now. She made it a clean break, so they can each go their separate ways with nothing tying them together. Men, unless you are going to either be there to co-raise YOUR child with the child's mother OR you are going to be a very very generous check in the mail every month, you get no say in the woman's decision whether to keep your child or not. Also, and most importantly, it does NOT make you more of a man to be a deadbeat baby daddy, with kids all over the place that you are not lifting a finger or paying a dime to raise. Babies are not trophies or badges of manliness, they are PEOPLE who deserve to have a decent childhood, not one with some man who shows up once in a while and says he's their father, then disappears again for who knows how long. Get your heads out of your asses, man up, and either understand if a woman does not want to keep a baby you accidentally donated sperm to make, or if she does keep the child, f*****g BE THERE taking an active role in raising a child who shares your DNA, ffs!
DC 1 year ago
I don't really get how he finds something to complain about. With him telling her he cheated, their relationship was, basically, over. So, as they weren't a couple, his opinion on that matter doesn't bear any relevance. That might look different with an involved father, but as he isn't, nor seems to have wanted to be one, nor any sign indicating so, any right that his take on it may be considered is down the drain already anyway ... and the final say, if a COUPLE can't agree, due to the more significant impact it has on her, is hers anyway. Ejaculating, really, isn't that hard a work to do, it's rather just a normal bodily function.
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Guy-Incognito 1 year ago
Brought the gf with him?! Wtf. Nobody should have kids with a monster like this.
Lyoness 1 year ago
What a horrific decision to have to make. Anyone who judges this woman needs to remember that it's her uterus and she gets to decide what to do with it. Stay out of our bodies unless we invite you in.
Roman Hans 1 year ago
That's a great line. Sigh: it's terrific to see how cool some people are, & temporarily forget how f**cked America is right now.
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notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Hon,you shouldn't feel guilty because you did absolutely nothing wrong. You are your own person. Truthfully you weren't ready for a baby. Even more you didn't want to see a reminder of your cheating ex for the rest of your life. You knew you couldn't handle a child by yourself and didn't have to tell or get his permission for anything. You were the one who was going to have to do all the work carrying a baby( being pregnant and living with the possible health issues and complications),taking care of and paying for it( no guarantees he will, a lot become deadbeats) working and supporting yourself and this kid. Seems like you really didn't want a baby in the 1st place and only did it for him. You did yourself and the child a favor. At least you were honest with yourself. Besides he didn't give you a say in him messing with another person. It's your choice and your body. I know you were realistic not spiteful. Until the day this man can get pregnant and give birth himself he can STFU and if he wants a kid so bad let him play house with his new mate
Aline 1 year ago
Good for OP, don't bring a small human into a terrible situation if you don't have to. Don't put them in the middle of an awful parental dynamic. Don't ruin your own life because your ex has a hang up about sperm. You couldn't trust him to be a husband, why trust him to be a father and co parent? This is the best decision for everyone, adults and zygote alike.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
It's not pro-life, it's anti-women's rights. My body, my choice. I terminated because 1) it was accidental, 2) I was very irresponsible back then, and 3) it was ectopic in first month already. Do I regret it? No, I never wanted kids anyway. This guy cheated on OP, rubbed her face in it hard then tried to make a decision about how her life is going to go? Nah, Felicia, GTFO and take your new bit with you.
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 1 year ago
The hard right forced birth cult, once again attacking women. Thats all it does. Pure. Evil.
Load More Replies... Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago
And a lifelong commitment too, kids are hard work, let alone ones you didn’t truly want or that connect you to an AH ex
Load More Replies... Ryan-James O'Driscoll 1 year ago
He didn't consult her before he started f***ing someone else, so does not get to make himself a victim. Hard to say of it was the right choice. Only time will tell on that one and she will know. But it was her choice.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
OP assessed the situation and decided that having a baby, especially with someone who isn't going to be around (and I bet will be a pain in the a*s to track down for support payments) to actively be a part of the child's life, was not in the cards right now. She made it a clean break, so they can each go their separate ways with nothing tying them together. Men, unless you are going to either be there to co-raise YOUR child with the child's mother OR you are going to be a very very generous check in the mail every month, you get no say in the woman's decision whether to keep your child or not. Also, and most importantly, it does NOT make you more of a man to be a deadbeat baby daddy, with kids all over the place that you are not lifting a finger or paying a dime to raise. Babies are not trophies or badges of manliness, they are PEOPLE who deserve to have a decent childhood, not one with some man who shows up once in a while and says he's their father, then disappears again for who knows how long. Get your heads out of your asses, man up, and either understand if a woman does not want to keep a baby you accidentally donated sperm to make, or if she does keep the child, f*****g BE THERE taking an active role in raising a child who shares your DNA, ffs!
DC 1 year ago
I don't really get how he finds something to complain about. With him telling her he cheated, their relationship was, basically, over. So, as they weren't a couple, his opinion on that matter doesn't bear any relevance. That might look different with an involved father, but as he isn't, nor seems to have wanted to be one, nor any sign indicating so, any right that his take on it may be considered is down the drain already anyway ... and the final say, if a COUPLE can't agree, due to the more significant impact it has on her, is hers anyway. Ejaculating, really, isn't that hard a work to do, it's rather just a normal bodily function.
Load More Replies... Guy-Incognito 1 year ago
Brought the gf with him?! Wtf. Nobody should have kids with a monster like this.
Lyoness 1 year ago
What a horrific decision to have to make. Anyone who judges this woman needs to remember that it's her uterus and she gets to decide what to do with it. Stay out of our bodies unless we invite you in.
Roman Hans 1 year ago
That's a great line. Sigh: it's terrific to see how cool some people are, & temporarily forget how f**cked America is right now.
Load More Replies... notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Hon,you shouldn't feel guilty because you did absolutely nothing wrong. You are your own person. Truthfully you weren't ready for a baby. Even more you didn't want to see a reminder of your cheating ex for the rest of your life. You knew you couldn't handle a child by yourself and didn't have to tell or get his permission for anything. You were the one who was going to have to do all the work carrying a baby( being pregnant and living with the possible health issues and complications),taking care of and paying for it( no guarantees he will, a lot become deadbeats) working and supporting yourself and this kid. Seems like you really didn't want a baby in the 1st place and only did it for him. You did yourself and the child a favor. At least you were honest with yourself. Besides he didn't give you a say in him messing with another person. It's your choice and your body. I know you were realistic not spiteful. Until the day this man can get pregnant and give birth himself he can STFU and if he wants a kid so bad let him play house with his new mate
Aline 1 year ago
Good for OP, don't bring a small human into a terrible situation if you don't have to. Don't put them in the middle of an awful parental dynamic. Don't ruin your own life because your ex has a hang up about sperm. You couldn't trust him to be a husband, why trust him to be a father and co parent? This is the best decision for everyone, adults and zygote alike.
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