I've been an incredibly shy kid. Growing up shy can be quite challenging, and because I am still struggling today I drew some comics about being the shy kid.
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Why Is This So Hard?
The same happens in corporate meeting rounds. You start preparing how to introduce yourself. "Hello I am X Y, I work as ABC....No: hello, X Y my name, currently working on ABC. No. Ok, still two people before I need to go. Wait, why is the person next to me leaving the room? Everyone eyeing me now? Oh, It is my turn..." – "Herrg Err Err, I X Y am, uh, er, working also here, yes, er, thank you."
I'm kinda half-ish shy, not in every situation, but this sounds SO familiar. XD I always think of something to say, and it ALWAYS comes out entirely different and weird.
Load More Replies...PLEASE tell me the black cat got the same `happy ending' with her human, that the "Good Dog" got.
Missed Opportunities And All That Regret Afterwards
It took a year of offering to get my son's girlfriend to accept my offers of after school snacks- in contrast, his best (male) friend knows where I keep the rice cakes that I buy just for him. I was the kid that would be dying of hunger at friend's houses- I hate to think that our guests are uncomfortable in any way
So true!! Plus it’s a challenge because I’m such a hypocrite about this because I’ll deny myself food until I practically pass out if I’m at a new friends house etc, but then INSIST that other people have to eat because I don’t want them to get hungry...
That's interesting. Is that a mentality difference? Here it's seen as kind of rude to not accept/eat food offered so it's kind of the opposite, I'll sometimes fail at refusing stuff I really don't like(and then I also have to say it's super nom and all) XD
Typical moms and grannys offering food as for a whole country, and, if you don't finish it, asking "don't you like it?" with that offended face...
Load More Replies...im the opposite i accept the snack because otherwise i think i am rude
My gosh this happens to me CONSTANTLY. Once I was at this playpark sort of place as a kid. I went with a few kids I knew and a kid I really didn't know too well, and that kid's mom was the chaperone. So we were buying snacks and everyone else got water bottles and I was like "just give me a cup, I can fill it in the water fountain." because I'd seen my mom do that before. And she was like, "No it's fine," But I INSISTED even though I really wanted a water bottle, but thought it's too late to turn back now. And then everyone laughed at me. I was like eight or nine.
Simple Questions Are So Hard To Ask
My latest feat on that field is work-related questions(not even the "how do I do this?" but rather the "what is it that needs done here exactly?" kind of questions which are not just legitimate but welcome usually) and 2 hours self-coaxing I have to do every time before asking one XD I think I'm improving though, more like 1 hour now
Ok. This? This right here, just made me realize how much of a shy person I REALLY am!😫😂
He, in my country, we grab stuff without asking.... and many instead of returning it just put it inside their purses.
In my country we often take it without asking but we return it, too !
Load More Replies...Sometimes People Think You're Arrogant Or Cold
I have always been exactly like this. Most of the time, people find me unfriendly and weird. I have almost no friends. I wish people knew that I was just shy but always willing to give a hand when they need help :'(
This is me too, I was way more shy when I was younger but have gotten more outgoing as I got older. Although when I'm in large groups I tend to just stay quiet and not talk, people always ask me if I'm okay or if I'm mad but I'm just content with observing everyone and staying out of the spotlight.
Load More Replies...Sadly, as soon as somebody ask me to talk i'm been told to shut up because my opinions doesn't match to the people around me. Acceptance is a lie; people don't like the ones that are different.
My whole life is this. And let's not forget when we're in the bathroom and over hear girls talking about how stuck up you are and that "she thinks she's so much better than everyone". When in fact you have NEVER said that (or anything for that matter) or thought that. Actually the opposite- but if that's the way they talk about and judge you when you say NOTHING! Why the F*ck would you ever open your mouth to let those people know you?
People used to think I was a snob. But they loved me when it came to Hide n' Seek and any other game that required silence
i find it very hard to talk to new people and speak up for myself. i can relate
Hah I had no problem confronting a guy too tall even for me (I'm 180cm) at the gas station, because I saw him hitting a woman he was with. But speaking up for myself... 🙄
Load More Replies...Why is it socially acceptable to say “why are you so quiet?” But not socially acceptable to say “you talk to much”? Extraversion has become the norm across humans that people put down introverts and shy people.
Mom Just Never Understood
This is so me. Sometimes I even pretend being 'suddenly' ill so I don't have to greet them in person >.<
My parents got divorced when I was young but IDK and so do they but my mom has a boyfriend and I'm kinda introverted AND extroverted at times so when I was younger, do you know how I overcame my shyness? By putting my hands on my head and ramming into his stomach like a bull. Still do it!
Load More Replies..." *Gaspu* J'espère qu'il y aura encore de la pizza une fois qu'ils seront partis "
I usually wait in my room till the guests are gone and eat the leftover snacks by myself.
As If School Life Wasn't Hard Enough
We teacher know!! But discussing a topic helps with active learning. We introduce the topic, you work in group then the evaluation.
Load More Replies...The three most hated words in my whole school history.. PLEASE FORM GROUPS.
quick shoutout to the one friend that would always let me pair with her
NO! No eye contact.... they'll steal your soul. Really, it's what i thought it'll happened to me the first time i looked at somebody' face. I remember very well that pain in my heart. But i got over it and i'm cool with it.
Is It The Right Time To Speak?
Add to this also polite behaviour, like, waiting for the person to let them finish because you don't want to interrupt their talking, and there you go! Mute forever. *sigh*
And when you finally decide to say something during a moment of silence , someone else starts talking again, noone really hears what you say and you feel like an idiot...
I am like this at my in-laws' ALL THE TIME! They never shut up. I've gotten much better over the past 17 years at speaking out, but they often still ignore me (sometimes because I'm too quiet), or they ignore that I'm actually giving them the answer/information they're looking for/wondering about as their conversation. They do this latter one with my husband too, constantly! It's not our faults that we're both geeky nerds (or would it be nerdy geeks?) and they nearly all come across as air heads. \OO/
OPPOSITE of this I'm like So.....what's this about because what I have to say is.......
When Is Talking Not Awkward? Sometimes I Can't Tell
I quite often sit there going "ok it's too late now" "well it's DEFINITELY too late now" "damn I could have said something but its been 2 days so maybe not"
Don't think I'd want to bless them. Sneeze all over the place why don't ya! I'll just be backing away from your germs ta.
Oh, the germs! Sneezing them out and straight to you. Sick people should never leave the house.
Load More Replies...When you do finally say it and they're all like "what?" And you have to explain and it's mentally exhausting and you wish you just didn't say it....
I can so relate to all of these as a child - then they inventet the internet
Load More Replies...Relatable. I've worked very hard to get better and less awkward and to appear less weird to people but it's hard. It shouldn't be, just open my mouth and say something, but it is and I hate it. All you fellow shy people out there; Don't give up!
I'm 37 now and still working hard on that, and STILL not understanding why people get triggered by something I say instead of asking if they understood well what I wanted to say and ask me to try to rephrase it/simplify... 🙄 For this reason I'm a black sheep even in my own family 😓 I used to not understand the difference in saying what you want and call it "blunt truth" (it's not) vs. saying what you want in a way that won't hurt people (and still tell the truth). Even that still didn't change the triggering in some people, after which point it really stops being my fault. Some people are hurting at some times and they are most irritable during those; some people choose to get offended (aka "thin skins") no matter what. I personally put political correctness under the latter (calling black people "African Americans" - even if many of them have never seen Africa - or won't erase the centuries of suffering white people forced them to; it only makes white people feeling better about themselves 🙄... and this is just one example).
Load More Replies...I used to be like that. Hated group works at school. But I'm getting older and I don't give a s$&t anymore! Now, I care those who are shy because I know how they think and feel.
Same same! As I got older I just felt no point in caring that much anyways and say whatever I always wanted to say. But definitely I knowvl how it feels to be that shy/quiet person
Load More Replies...Hm....I can't really relate to being shy like this. But I'm grateful for these comics - might help me understand someone who is shy better. Maybe even help me to interact with them better. Thanks! :)
So true! I can totally relate. I once walked up to someone after mentally preparing myself for over ten minutes and all that came out was " You are wearing a striped shirt" and then I swiftly walked away. Haha
Finally a person who considers this SHY not a social phobia :) I know a shy person and they are extremely nice, you just have to know how to approach them :)
I can so relate to all of these as a child - then they inventet the internet
Load More Replies...Relatable. I've worked very hard to get better and less awkward and to appear less weird to people but it's hard. It shouldn't be, just open my mouth and say something, but it is and I hate it. All you fellow shy people out there; Don't give up!
I'm 37 now and still working hard on that, and STILL not understanding why people get triggered by something I say instead of asking if they understood well what I wanted to say and ask me to try to rephrase it/simplify... 🙄 For this reason I'm a black sheep even in my own family 😓 I used to not understand the difference in saying what you want and call it "blunt truth" (it's not) vs. saying what you want in a way that won't hurt people (and still tell the truth). Even that still didn't change the triggering in some people, after which point it really stops being my fault. Some people are hurting at some times and they are most irritable during those; some people choose to get offended (aka "thin skins") no matter what. I personally put political correctness under the latter (calling black people "African Americans" - even if many of them have never seen Africa - or won't erase the centuries of suffering white people forced them to; it only makes white people feeling better about themselves 🙄... and this is just one example).
Load More Replies...I used to be like that. Hated group works at school. But I'm getting older and I don't give a s$&t anymore! Now, I care those who are shy because I know how they think and feel.
Same same! As I got older I just felt no point in caring that much anyways and say whatever I always wanted to say. But definitely I knowvl how it feels to be that shy/quiet person
Load More Replies...Hm....I can't really relate to being shy like this. But I'm grateful for these comics - might help me understand someone who is shy better. Maybe even help me to interact with them better. Thanks! :)
So true! I can totally relate. I once walked up to someone after mentally preparing myself for over ten minutes and all that came out was " You are wearing a striped shirt" and then I swiftly walked away. Haha
Finally a person who considers this SHY not a social phobia :) I know a shy person and they are extremely nice, you just have to know how to approach them :)
