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76 Times Mothers-In-Law Overstepped Boundaries And Made Things Unpleasant For Everyone Around Them
Not every in-law relationship will be smooth-sailing. Every family will have occasional rifts and friction because of differences in personality traits, expectations, and even traditions.
However, there’s a massive difference between occasional disagreements and repeatedly crossing somebody’s boundaries. These can take the form of offering unsolicited advice, meddling in a couple’s decisions, trying to control matters they shouldn’t, and basically everything these mothers-in-law did.
These are firsthand accounts of people who expressed their MIL-related grievances on Reddit. Scroll through and see if you relate to any of these.
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#1
We told in-laws that we didn’t want anyone to come see our first born in the hospital because I had a pretty traumatizing birth. So, MIL faked a UTI and said she was down in the emergency room and asked to be let up to our room after she was released. Husband caved because she guilt tripped him.
Prior to us having that child she would leave self help books on his business doorstop after hours. These were books on divorce. Inside the books she would write cryptic messages saying it was from a local therapist that she knew of me and that I was a dangerous person and that my child should be taken away from me. Literally her handwriting. Completely denied it later on.
She will blow up my husbands phone until he picks up. If he doesn’t she calls his siblings creating an emergency saying something is wrong with my husband and the entire family blows up his phone till he picks up. No privacy what so ever.
She wants him over every Sunday. He works Monday-Saturday. She’s always asking him to help her do things. Guilts him for not showing up saying “I really miss you, I wish we could see each other more often.”
Thats just 3 of the hundreds of interactions I could talk about.
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#2
This was before easy-to-get home pregnancy tests and cell phones.
I had gone to a clinic to get a pregnancy test, and had just found out that I was expecting. I was pregnant with our first child, her first grandchild.
I was just bubbling over with excitement. I drove to my very best friend's house and told her. She'd just had her first baby. I used her phone to call my husband at work. He was over the moon, happy.
He suggested calling his mother, so I did.
She asked if I planned to have an abortion.
That's it. I don't know what I said, other than "No". It was a shock to the system, and I've never forgotten hearing those words.
#3
So many things, but aside from what I've forgotten (or rather, repressed -- occasionally I'll remember!), I'll NEVER forget how she sent him an email with the link to a Facebook profile of a random woman around our age that she met while hiking/climbing. Her message was something along the lines of like, "she speaks 5 languages and she loves " with some suggestion that she was single and he should meet her. We were together for well over a year at that point! We have been married almost 3 years, together for over 11 years now.
While the son or daughter-in-law takes the heat from the terror MIL, their spouse is equally suffering. They are caught in the middle of the conflict, and in many cases, they can't handle it well.
“When parents object to a partner, it can be deeply distressing and put people in the painful position of feeling they have to choose between their family and their relationship,” said family dispute resolution practitioner Naomi Doyle.
#4
When I was pregnant my MIL asked me to make sure she was the first person to know that the baby had been born. It was a weird request to me but I felt like it wasn’t really a big deal.
I should have known better. Especially after she told me the reason why she wanted to be the first to know. Because her other son and his wife had delivered their third child and MIL went to the hospital to see the baby. But the baby had aspirated merconiun and was in the NICU. So MIL was mad that she hadn’t been told first and warned about not being able to see the baby. In my mind I was blown away by her lack of empathy. Her son and DIL must have been panicking and worried about their new born baby.
Well the time came for me to have my baby. I was Lin labor for four days and was two weeks overdue. They finally began an induction to try to keep labor going. After 36 hours in labor in which they manually stretch my cervix and tried every trick they could think of to get baby to engage and me to dilate, I ended up having an emergency C-section. Also, because they couldn’t get the epidural to continue to work properly I got to feel the last half of my emergency C-section.
So I’m exhausted and in pain. My husband is given the baby and escorted out of the OR. I’m finally put back together and taken to my room. My husband tells me his mom is now refusing to watch our older children any longer (we’re a blended family) and he has to go get them and take them back home. Because she had offered to watch them when I went into labor they were with her.
In the excitement of the emergency and everything we’d gone through, he’d somehow managed to leave her out of the group text message he’d thrown together at the last minute and then made a post to Facebook. She was so angry that she refused to watch our children any more and we had no one else to help.
So I spent an entire week in the hospital by myself. I met my older children when they were 8,9, and 10. So this was my first experience as a mom to a baby. She refused to talk to me at all for the whole week. Hubby couldn’t be in the hospital with me because we had no one to care for the older children.
The day I got out of the hospital she demanded to come over and see the baby. Acting like she didn’t just throw the biggest tantrum and nothing happened. I was beyond hurt because it was like she had no empathy for everything we’d just gone through. All she cared about was that she wasn’t the first person to get the text that baby was here. Despite both my husband going through such a difficult and emotional experience over two days.
sfgothgirl 2 hours ago
Maybe DH didn't want to deal with his mother either when he created the group chat to tell the family about the baby. Maybe that was no accident.
#5
MIL was out to dinner with my husband and told him a made up lie about our daughter, that our daughter said she hated her the previous day while the three of us were together and husband was working- never happened, daughter was 3 yrs old and never used that word, plus I was there the entire time. When husband questioned it, she threw $200 on the table and stormed out of the restaurant.
#6
Pretty sure this is common but my MIL would refuse to hand my crying baby back even when I asked or when baby was screaming from hunger. It seriously damaged our relationship—gave me freaking PTSD I swear and I will probably never let her babysit because of that. She did so many other things wrong but that was such a blatant example that she would put her own selfish wants before my baby’s safety and wellbeing.
But what causes these conflicts in the first place? One cause is a clash of beliefs, according to Dr. Christine E. Kunkle, a communication studies professor at West Virginia University.
“Our patterns of behavior, our ways of doing rituals—it’s like water to a fish. You don’t necessarily notice it because you’re swimming in it all the time,” said Dr. Kunkle, who described families as “microcultures.”
#7
She talked my husband out of our daughter’s name. She dropped in uninvited DAILY. She followed me EVERYWHERE. To my classes, started dating my boss. I think she was looking to see if she could find any ammo to tell my husband. Tried to take over parenting, but only with my daughter. A real nut bag. We’ve been together 22 years, and she knows I’m here to stay. Now she whines to my husband that I hate her.
#8
I had made my first brisket. When I was cutting it she pushed me out of the way and started cutting it because she didn't like the way that I cut it.
#9
Most petty thing she’s done? Stole the wedding gift she gave us. It was a glass sculpture. We have a house full of kids, dogs, and a cat. I had it in its box, in the guest room for safe keeping until our master bedroom renovation was done. She stayed in our guest room for a little bit, I noticed it was gone the night she was leaving our house. She said she hadn’t seen it. Weeks later I brought it up again, she tried to gaslight us by saying she told my husband it was at her house and he never took it back.
Dealing with an unbearable mother-in-law is largely about setting healthy boundaries. In doing so, you clarify what you’re comfortable with and empower yourself to communicate those boundaries clearly.
As Cleveland Clinic social worker Karen Salerno explains, setting boundaries also lets others know the best way to interact and communicate with you.
#10
Mine gave me a visibly used "old lady face cream" for Christmas.
That was the same Christmas where she made a huge deal saying she got us "a big family gift for Christmas" which turned out to be a single pair of noise canceling headphones in my husband's favorite color.
She's darling.
Edit: a word.
#11
When I was pregnant my MIL suddenly wanted to force a SUPER close relationship with me as if the years of her bullying and mistreatment would just disappear. I kept my distance, and she made sure to do every little petty thing in her power to get under my skin throughout my pregnancy.
My husband and I have different last names. When we decided to share LO’s first name with everyone, MIL was over the moon until she asked where the name came from and was told it comes from my side of the family. She had a very obvious negative reaction. From that point on every item she sent for LO was addressed to “Baby insert their last name”. Again, knowing my husband and I have different last names and knowing full well we had chosen a name for LO.
Yes, DH called her out on it and yes, she played dumb.
#12
We were staying at my mother-in-law‘s years ago and she had gone into our room when we were out-the room we were staying in at her house )got the camera off of the table and downloaded all the photos to her computer and then posted them on Facebook.
YakFactory 5 hours ago
That's a huge invasion of your privacy. Did you tell her to take them down?
“Boundaries start with self-awareness. “You have to know what you need in order to ask for it,” Salerno said.
However, boundaries will only work if we follow through. As Salerno emphasizes, not being firm with them makes it harder for others to trust your boundary-setting in the future.
#13
She took clothes my husband (bf at the time who was living with her) had bought me for Christmas and wrapped it under the Christmas tree and put from: (my husband) to:mom
then proceeded to open up the gift on Christmas Day like if he had gifted it to her.
#14
She purposely ruins stuff in our house when she comes to visit but it is always an “accident”. Here are the many “accidents”:
Accidentally scratches our glass oven top. Accidentally spilled red wine on one of favorite quilts. Accidentally dried one of my cashmere sweaters. Accidentally dropped my very much sought after Diet Coke from the drive through that she insisted to bring in to help me. Wanted to make her own coffee with our espresso maker but then “forgot” how to use it and broke it (on accident).
There are many more.
She never apologizes for these “accidents” but sheepishly laughs when they happen.
Who knew someone could be so clumsy/dim witted?!
#15
Last year my fiancé proposed, and we’re planning to get married. Last summer, his mom sat him down and told him I would make a terrible mother because of my family background (my mom left when I was 15, and my grandmother raised me). She said he’s only with me because he “feels sorry” for me, that it’s not too late to leave, and even listed “flaws” she’s noticed over the years — like that I’m “too sensitive” or “can’t handle pain.”
My fiancé defended me and told me everything she said that same night.
The next morning, since we were staying at their place, I confronted her. Instead of apologizing, she started yelling at me, insulted my late grandmother, and said some absolutely disgusting things. When I tried to leave, I slammed the door a bit too hard — she ran after me, pushed me out of the house, and called me a “stupid witch.”
My fiancé later demanded that she apologize, but her texts were even more disrespectful — full of denial and victim-playing. I apologized for raising my voice and for the door push, but she has never taken any responsibility for physically pushing me or insulting me.
Since then, she’s been trying to turn the rest of the family against me.
I haven’t seen her since that day, and honestly, I don’t want to.
In-law relationships can be complicated, but these stories take the drama to an entirely new level. If you’ve read enough of them, you may notice how these mothers-in-law have a unique talent for testing everyone’s patience.
Of course, not every family conflict has a simple explanation, but respecting boundaries can go a long way.
#16
Years ago she rearranged my kitchen when she was at our house for a visit while I was at work.
#17
I’m from another country and live in the same country boyfriend and MIL are from. I have no support here no family.
After I lost my job in 2023, it took me two years of struggling to secure my dream job in 2025 in a very prestige company with a great salary.
Instead of being happy for me and asking me how it’s going, MIL made comments poking fun at my job security and implied my boss would get fed up with me and fire me. She also said I should consider the company goes bankrupt and has to lay me off because then I’d be in the same position I was in 2023.
Boyfriend said nothing to defend and to this day believes she didn’t do anything wrong. He’s soon to be my ex boyfriend.
#18
Snatched my arm at my reception and told me that I better not cheat on her baby or she will find me and hurt me. Her “baby” cheated on me 3 months after our wedding. Great guy you raised.
#19
The first thanksgiving I spent over at my boyfriend’s family, I was freshly 18. In front of his entire maternal side of the family she measured my hips with her hands, then pulled them back to hers. She stated, very loudly, how “giant” my hips were, and how even though she had birthed my boyfriend she still had smaller hips than me. Easy to say, I did not eat that thanksgiving, and to this day (5 years later), I watch what I eat around her.
#20
While talking about an upcoming national park trip, she told us to spray our bear spray on ourselves to keep bears away while hiking. “Just like bug spray!” (Spoiler alert: it is not just like bug spray and is essentially like pepper spraying yourself :))
#21
She hasn't talked to me for over 2 years because she didn't think I acted excited enough when she came to visit us.
Did me a favor, really.
#22
gave me socks that said “go away” for Christmas 2 months after we got engaged.
put glitter in my gift bag at my bridal shower so that when i opened the gift it went everywhere.
went to dinner and a concert with my husbands ex-girlfriend the night before our wedding instead of helping set up at the venue.
linked up with my best friend (now ex-best friend) to hear all the bad things i was saying about her during the above events.
i could go on & on LOL.
#23
Gave me a book on pre-menopause that she got from a woman she worked with who was “just about [my] age, around 45.” I was THIRTY.
She also mailed me a heavily used children’s book of a nursery rhyme that came up briefly in conversation at lunch… two weeks after we had to terminate my first pregnancy at 20 weeks for medical reasons. Basically overnighted it to me, because it was that important she send it. She had no clue why this would upset me. Her “apology” after my husband chewed her out was also insanely cruel. Then, immediately after we got home from the visit where she “apologized,” she called sobbing because I didn’t compliment her new hairstyle that looked exactly like it’s always looked.
But she’s done plenty of weird stuff that doesn’t quite qualify as “petty.” She’s just a narcissistic old biddy.
Edits: details & clarity.
#24
I'm widowed now, but the first time I met my mil, she would never get my name right. Not my real name but I told her my name was Ashley she'd call me Ashlynn. No matter how many times I'd correct her. On top of that, his family was " religious " but didn't behave as such. When ever it was time for a visit we always had to drive to them whether to Detroit, Ohio west Virginia, it was getting old.
In September 2016 he had a stroke. I had lost my dad that may. I was already struggling emotionally from that. My own mother who was definitely a narcissist, didn't even let me say goodbye, emailed me about his passing away 3 days later, but that's another story. I called MIl to let her know about the stroke her first words " what did you do to him?" I hung up the phone. Lady it was your lack of teaching him the simple act of medical prevention and dental care that caused the stroke. He never went to the doctor even though he had medical insurance through his job, which he didn't even have me on. I spent all day at the rehab facility when he was transferred there. I retrained his bladder and bowels. Taught him to walk. His mother and her sister had tge gall to show up and threaten me. I told her don't underestimate me because I'm quiet, I'll take your cane and beat you with it. I made sure he got disability, medicaire, made doctors appointments, sorted medications, and you come here threatening me?
My life for the next 7 years was MISERABLE except when I was working. He passed in 2023. His mother who wasn't his guardian refused an autopsy. From that point on, I was 100% done. I didn't go to the funeral I didn't feel safe.
I'm sure there are more things I can't remember.
#25
On Mother’s Day this year my SIL & I grabbed lunch at the cafe she manages, she came up to me as I was holding my niece and said “don’t you feel worthless today?” Since we didn’t have kids.
She refuses to eat any food I ever make because she wants to think she’s a better cook/baker. The difference between the things I make and hers are that I use seasoning to enhance flavors and the majority of what I make is completely made from scratch. Apparently it’s a competition that I was unaware of.
#26
Not really petty, but my MIL acts like a child when she doesn't get her way. She will whine and ask 'why not?'. I could go i to detail but will probably do a separate poat to let it all out. Especially now that my wife and I had our first child. MIL hasnt gotten any better.
#27
The first year we dated if she ever heard us laughing in the other room she would throw a fit and accuse us of talking about her and laughing at her. She's made comments about how moving is harder when another person is involved. This was 2 years into our relationship when we were moving upstate. The first 4 years if she ever saw us being affectionate (hold hands, hug, kiss) then she would throw a tantrum and start an argument. She tries to blame any negative behavior her son exhibits on me like when he had a drinking problem it was my fault, when he actually stood up to her she blamed it on me coming between them. She has A LOT of mental health issues and is an alcoholic.
#28
My husband goes out of state every year for a work conference, so we treat it as part of our vacation and the kids and I go with him.
The year we started dating she kept saying, "Well I KNEW that was gonna happen... You were gonna go off and get a girlfriend, and I wasn't going to get to go!". She sounded like a child. She said it so much that I told him to just take his mother and I would stay behind. He said, "But I don't want to take my mother." He must have reamed her bc she quit bringing it up. We had the best time... without her.
She came with us one year after we got married. I was pregnant. She kept saying things behind my back about my parenting, etc. bc my son (previous marriage) was spending his time playing videogames in the car and not looking out the window and mapping, like DH did when he was a kid (She is adamant she encouraged his career/success bc of it). She picked at my son the whole trip and I lost it on her. She made a comment about how our marriage was in trouble and we shouldn't have gotten married "so soon". Again, DH reamed her and she's not traveled with us since. We dated for four years before we got married.
#29
Last year MIL planned a birthday celebration for my FIL, SIL and BIL and said it made sense to celebrate them all together as they are all in September. My Birthday is also in September and I got upset that I was excluded and my MIL said she had forgotten that my Birthday was in September as well. My Husband and I had been together for 14 years and married for 8 1/2 at this point. As we were discussing the family birthdates she proceeded to tell me and my husband that she found it kind of funny as my birthday and My daughters are both on 20th so she should have remembered (mine being September and my daughter being November). My jaw dropped and my husband asked his mother if she was serious, our daughter’s birthday is November 7th and she was 6 at the time. My daughter and I are vvvvLC/NC and my husband is LC but for MANY other reasons now.
#30
I threw a surprise birthday party for my husband. My MIL barely caught an invite. She didn't help with the party in anyway except she brought over a couple cases of soda. I had the schedule meticulously planned to make sure it was a surprise. The day of my MIL tried to show up early, my husband was still home so it would have ruined the surprise. When I didn't give her permission to show up early, she had a huge attitude when she did show up. She wouldn't look at me or speak to me through the whole party which I honestly didn't care because yay I don't have to interact! Anyway, the next day she got on Facebook thanking people for coming and thanking my husband's friend who helped me with the party for helping and cooking. She did not mention me. I planned organized and paid for the party! She made it look like she threw the party and was thanking everyone for attending. It was crazy. She didn't like or comment on my post. I don't care about that, I honestly don't even want to be friends with her on socials but it's just to show some context.
#31
-literally told my fiancé I said she gave herself cancer when I suggested the mold or smoking could of possibly been the case for her bone cancer after listening to her rant on about how fabric gave her cancer. She’s been a smoker 30 plus years and an almost daily coke drinker. And cancer first was found in Brest and lung then metastasis to the bones
- asked her if she’s watching my dauschund (who she adores and begs me to leave with her) to please lock her up before people come over as she is not well socialized and has yipped at peoples ankles she doesn’t know, she literally disregarded that the first time I let my guard down and allowed her to watch her and when I came to pick her up she said she almost bit the plumber. She then blamed my dog.
#32
My mother in law bought over 2k worth of stuff for my baby before he was even born. Most of it I can’t even use ( wrong size for the season, not safe, ect) she gets mad every time she sees him in something she didn’t buy ( um I have parents and grandparents that also like to buy him outfits?). Not to mention none of the things she bought are cute. My husband tried to kindly tell her we didn’t need anymore “stuff”. My mil doesn’t work and FIL is older and probably should retire but they don’t have any savings due to her ridiculous spending. She got mad and made up all kind of lies about me to the rest of the family. They luckily didn’t believe her and we had all moved on. My son is now 8 months old. She kept texting my husband at work wanting to buy him a jumparoo. My husband got tired of her texting him so he gave in and said yes. She went straight out and bought one. She asked my husband via text if she could come straight over to give to the baby. She got mad and is refusing to speak to us because he told her we weren’t at home but she was welcome to meet us for dinner with my parents or come over later that night. She has told anyone that will listen ( my sister in law called me to confirm this) that I’m the worlds worst daughter in law, that I refused to let her come over, and I’m trying to keep her from seeing her grandson. Somebody make it make sense because I can’t.
Beak Hookage 5 hours ago
Haven't got kids or a MIL but when my sister had a baby I asked a young mother at Target "what did you get given for your baby that was the most useful/best gift?" She said not clothes, they got so much of those they had to give some of it away. Her recommendation? Nappies. So I showed up with a jumbo-sized pack of the things and boy were the parents appreciative.
#33
MIL is condescending. She speaks down to everyone. She's rude. She called my daughter the name SHE wanted us to name her grand daughter for several months until I finally snapped at my husband to tell her to knock it the f off. She's probably going to push me over the edge of even strained politeness this week since her only grandchild(my fault as well) is graduating high school this week.
FIL? He and MIL divorced when my husband was a little kid. Has been remarried twice since. Hasn't seen us, or his only blood grandchild, since she was football sized. Hasn't sent a card for any of her birthdays. We sent a announcement of her graduation to him and his latest wife. Not expecting even a FB post from either.
#34
It was always petty little things that on their own might not seem so bad, but when that's all you experience, it makes it quite obvious that they don't want you as part of the family. However, some moments stick out worse than others:
My mother-in-law tried to ruin our wedding by faking an ankle injury and attempting to steal my 80-year-old grandmother's wheelchair just so she could show the guests how "hurt" she was
While I was pregnant,.my MIL gave me a pair of flannel pajamas that were several sizes too big. I thanked her for them, but asked if she had a gift receipt because they were too large. She told me, "I bought them that way on purpose so they'll still fit no matter how much bigger you get." On the surface this might not be so bad, but she called me fat in front of all her friends at a Christmas party 2 weeks prior (I was 5 months pregnant and very petite)
After my son was born, I got very, very severe post-partum depression. At one point I needed to be hospitalized and have shock therapy. My father-in-law told my husband I wasn't allowed back at their house until I was "normal again"
#35
My husband and I are from different countries and speak different languages , we gave our son two names , the first name is in my language and the second is in his fathers language.
FIL is livid we didn’t only use their language and refuses to acknowledge our baby’s first name. He acts like he doesn’t hear it when I use and is upset when anyone else mentions it.
MIL sneakily came up with an excuse to lift my shirt and sneak a peak at my tummy to check if I have stretch marks because I mentioned I didn’t think creams work .
She also critiques every little thing we do with our son and often tells our infant “they’re torturing you”
MIL regularly calls herself mama in front of my kid and once told him quietly (thinking I wasn’t listening) “I’m going to buy a car seat for my car and you and I can go on looong drives all alone with no one else” .. she also gets upset when she says she is taking him for a walk and I say “I’ll Join”
#36
MIL said she talked to her doctors about my pregnancy and I wasn’t really high risk. I should just suck it up and carry on as normal. I’m just making a deal.
Baby came 18 weeks too early…
I guess HER doctor didn’t have MY medical notes, go figure.
#37
My MIL brought me weight loss tea and training gear when she came visiting her granddaughter.
I am 3kg heavier compared to my pre-pregnancy weight...
#38
We couldn't have visitors in the hospital due to covid and my inlaws accused us of lying. They even called the maternity ward to make sure
#39
She and FIL refused to come while her nine week premature grandbabies were on ventilators in the NICU with an uncertain road ahead of them. Her reason? I might be mean to her.
She finally met them when they were six months old.
#40
When she returned my porcelain dolls, she made sure I got all of them except the one my late grandmother started my collection with. She burned that one. It was the only one I requested.
#41
It’s not the worst but it was the most bizarre and the trigger event that made me think, “Oh, she’s not ok.”
She used to steal my clothes, wear them, and deny they were mine. It was always stuff that was WAY back in a drawer or the closet that I hadn’t worn in a while, and it was only every few months so I didn’t notice the pattern at first. I literally thought I was going crazy until she posted a photo on social media in a dress that I had hand-embroidered myself.
#43
She lives in another country, so we don't see her very often, but the last time she stayed with us she left magnetic poetry on the fridge that was very obviously pointed at me and ended with "jerk."
#44
Purposely didn’t give me any kind of condolence when my grandfather passed away. My husband called her out and her response was “i forgot” and still did not say anything
#45
My brother passed suddenly because of a heart attack, I was devastated and couldn't take her phone call that day since I just wanted to spend time alone. Few days later when I received the call from her, she told me: "Why are you so incompetent? You can't even answer the phone or talk to anyone about such a little/small thing". Yes, my brother's passing is a little thing to her. She told me I was weak and not as strong as her just because I was devastated and crying for a week because I missed my brother. Until now, I still don't understand why she could be cruel like that.
#46
Told my husband that I was a gold digger with terrible politics (I’m getting my PhD in political science. Take your jealous elsewhere, Martha). Also told my family that I was trying to exclude her from wedding planning stuff when I went out of my way to include her
#47
Told us they were doing a separate wedding from their side (their whole family was in another country and they wanted to do it in that country. They told us it would be a joint wedding with his brother), only to find out once we got there that it was his brother’s wedding only. Brother did his entrance with his wife while we stood to the side in utter disbelief. My parents paid for the entire wedding in the US because they believed they were doing a separate event in their country
#48
Ruined the birth of our first child by telling my wife she wasn’t going to come for his birth. Her reasoning was that she didn’t get to spend the night with us beforehand in the hospital room despite never mentioning this expectation previously.
#49
She insinuated that my son’s developmental delays are my fault because I refuse to send him to daycare.
#50
Three months after my stroke. (About a year after I married DH) we were at the in-laws for a family holiday event two weeks before Christmas. They are 6 hours away. As dh was packing the car so we can head home, I’m sitting at the kitchen table (still using a walker) and she tells me I just need to get over it.
Over a stroke. A traumatic brain injury.
Yup.
#51
Mine showed up announced the day after I miscarried our first baby and said, so I'm not gonna be a grandma this year then?
#52
Mine told me I was ruining her son life by making him do his own laundry, like she raised a prince or something.
#54
Wouldn’t come meet our newborn because I said she wouldn’t be able to hold or kiss him
Told my husband to wear the pants and not enforce my boundaries
She’s never met my son, and I’m good! Lol.
#55
She said that "so and so's" daughter got away from them implying she wanted her as the daughter in law.
#56
Telling me that her babies where much cuter not less then 4 times the first time she my DD (at the time her first and only grandchild). There’s more but that one has stuck with me.
#57
She was late to our wedding.
She told our oldest child the gender of our new baby before we could. Still angry about it.
The list is long.
#58
My MIL bought a whole bunch of cleaning supplies for us because she didn’t like the stuff we used. I personally don’t like bleach in my house with young kids, and she bought us a few different bleach products for us. Felt like she was telling us we don’t have a clean enough house, and when I talked to her about it she started crying saying it was for her to help out because she can’t do hard work and wants the chemicals to do the work for her. She also ended up leaving early and never helped out so we just have I pile of cleaning supplies I just want to toss out.
#59
We lived with my mother in law for a while, when we saved up for a house. It was mothers day, my husband had to work so we made plans to go to lunch the following day. She said bc it was mothers day she wasnt cooking dinner which i understood and had no problem with. Then she went out with her other son who also lived there and is a complete loser. Came home and started talking about how he took her out to dinner and got her a burger and it was ao delicious and the best burger ahe ever had and shes so stuffed from dinner. She wanted to make me feel some type of way bc my husband wasnt taking me out on mothers day. Turns out, her son took her to the wendys drive through.
#60
Signed my wedding card as “The Original Mrs. [last name]”.
#61
She asked me to go out of my own home while she visited my H and children that’s she had no interest in anyway.
#62
Convinced my ex to take my daughter out of state and try to keep her, enrol her in school etc. Took me almost a month and a lot of lawyer and court appointments before she was brought back and I got sole custody.
#63
My monster-in-laws husband passed. I REALLY miss him - but bananas if this we decide to move back closer to her - we were close at the time
Thanksgiving- we didn’t want her to be alone so my side of the family got together and cooked everything and she hosted
After - I received a 3 page (front and back) hand written letter - through the mail - telling me how lovely my family is and how disappointed she is that my mental issues cause everyone in my life so much stress and why can’t I just get it together and see and doctor and be medicated?
When my husband confronted her “I’m just telling her the truth”.
I haven’t spoken to her in yrs since - HOWS SPENDING HOLIDAYS ALONE NOW!!!???
#64
I said I didn’t want to live on a big property with my in-laws (mil, sil, and sil, her husband and 2 kids) when we were planning to build on a property we had purchased. My daughter stayed the night with my sil and mil was visiting out of time. My daughter overheard her say that she didn’t know why her son married me and I wasn’t good enough to be part of the family. So, the next day, my 9 year d daughter asks if she is good enough to be in the family since I’m not. MIL denied it and threatened to drive herself off the bridge. She didn’t and I never let my children spend the night or have unsupervised visits again.
#65
Mil went in my closet at her house and packed every single item clothing of mine (including lingerie and coats, underwear , shirts ect.. pit them in garbage bags by the door . Mind you I came home from a 10 hours shift at the hospital and saw this . I don’t like confrontation when living in someone’s home bc 1 . It will never end well 2 . It will make my anxiety way worse bc I love there . I asked my fiancé to ask her why she did that . He did. She replied “ I asked her to donate her clothes and she didn’t “
Oh. I was pregnant too at this time
#66
She told my husband that he better not marry me, since my mother was "crazy" (bipolar) and that meant I was too. He would never stand up for me, but then we moved far away from his family, got married, and he did a 180°. Been together 35 years.
#67
When my brother passed away she told my husband ”good thing its not your real family.. then it would be sad”
#68
I gave birth to my son 3 weeks before my due date because I had extremely high blood pressure and needed to be induced. My son had an unrelated health issue causing him to be hospitalized in the PICU for 2 weeks, unexpectedly. I was an emotional wreck, being 3 days postpartum and having no idea what was wrong with my son. My MIL said it was my fault he was ill and if I didn't get induced, none of it would have happened. She was pissed at ME and blamed ME for everything. Instead of later apologizing, she made an excuse and said that she was "just emotional" and my husband and I "should have comforted her more" while our newborn was in the hospital...
#69
To me, at Christmas dinner in my wife and my home, after paying for her plane tickets to visit us, said she couldn’t believe we were still together.
#70
Hold a birthday party for our kid one week before the birthday. We weren't invited. Neither was my family.
When I called her out on it she cried.
#71
Needle me about my weight.
After we ate dessert once at a restaurant she said to me in the bathroom, “I kept waiting for you to scrape off some of that frosting.” It felt so cruel.
Later we were preparing for a cross-country move and she said, “I wonder what the new climate will do for your appetite.” I had no words. I didn’t respond. She tried to backpedal a bit, but you can’t undo such a slap across the face.
Honestly, I think she thinks she’s being helpful, but it cuts deep. So deep I’ll think of it at her funeral service.
YakFactory 4 hours ago
You could add those comments to her eulogy. After all, it's nice to share.
#72
Tried to take control of me and my kids. Said she wish I aborted my second child. Told my soon to be ex husband she hates my 5 year old because she is sassy. Called me fat and fat shamed my daughter when she was 12. I could keep going on
#73
My ex-MIL invited us to family christmas (12 adults and 10 kids). She gave her biograndkids presents but not my 3 from my first marriage (ages 8,7,&5) - so they got left out while all the other kids got stuff. She apparently told everyone else to not get them stuff either. Sad part is this wasnt our first Christmas - her son and I had been together 5 years
#74
On my 2nd or 3rd Christmas with my husband's family, she complained about EVERY gift she opened. In his family, everyone opens one present at a time, and we rotate around the room until everyone is done. In the end it was just her still opening presents (because everyone is expected to get her an individual gift while the rest of the family usually "goes in" on one or two gifts for the ither family members), and when she was done she announces to the room "I didn't get hardly anything off of my list, and some of you kids hardly gave me anything this year!" 4 of her children were still in their teens! Who expects teenagers to give expensive gifts!? She pouted for 20 minutes and finally went to her room for the rest of the night. I missed my family so much that I cried myself to sleep that night.
#75
My mom had just been diagnosed with cancer and was quite panicked and anxious. Emotionally, I tell my parents-in-law that I find that very intense. MIL: "Why are you crying, it's not that bad. If your mother passae away, you still have your father."
#76
Suprise-booked the cabin next to us when my husband and I went on a holiday so I could relax, recuperate and grief in peace after my mother passed away. Now we don't tell them anymore when we're going away.
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