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Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.
The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.
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#1
Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!
BlackestDawn 4 years ago
Took me a sec to realize it, but good going. You have to consider yourself first.
To help you get a better understanding of these posts, Bored Panda got in touch with dating coach, 2 million view TED speaker, and media personality Hayley Quinn. She believes that "dating is different for men and women. However, you'd be wrong to think that one gender has it easy."
"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."
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#2
Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!
#3
Poetic Justice
In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."
#4
Some Men Need To Learn This
BingeFest1 4 years ago (edited)
This goes for everybody. Treat others the way you want to be treated
#5
“Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully
In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.
Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.
#6
Oops
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
When you made an effort and treated her well and when you just stopped.
Rajender Saini 4 years ago
She is a side chick of indian religious guru, who is in jail now on rape charges. She is also a married woman and cheating with her husband. Her name is HoneyPreet.. Search in google 😄😄😄😄
Jjiinnee 4 years ago
This is unfair, and I know that won't be a popular opinion. I don't dress up any more. Juggling work, kids, life... yeah. No time to take 2 hours at the mirror. Also, my husband loves the way I look without the 10 lbs of make up and hairspray, and I'm so thankful for that. He's a wonderful man.
Canada 4 years ago (edited)
This true in many cultures. I am Canadian and married a Texan. Gave up everything to move there for him . Once I arrived and we married he went from treating me like a princess to a vulgar verbally abusive tyrannt. I could not work and was on a spouse visa. He constantly threatened to send me back to Canada where I no longer had a home or job. He was a complete control freak . A complete flip from the year of dating .
Christina Rosetti 3 years ago
That's awful. I hope you're not still with/married to him?
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Christy Smith 4 years ago
I wonder what's going on in pic # 2 (?). Why is her pic being taken, and why does she look like she's been to hell and back a few times (?). I feel bad for her.
Rajender Saini 4 years ago
She was in indian jail.. For helping his Old ugly boyfriend to rape school girls. Also she is married and was cheating on her husband.
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Amy Pattie 4 years ago
How does someone post this and not see this as “this is how a relationship with me has affected this woman” How?
elStiJneriNO 4 years ago
well i think it's kinda normal to not expect my wife to treat me as my mother did. i have to take care of my share of the household and that is indeed not always the most fun part of the day and a bigger part than when i was still living with my parents.
Bee / she/her 4 years ago
Perhaps a better caption would be how happy she felt with her parents vs. how happy she feels with you
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Keerthi Vardhan 4 years ago
Title should have been -- When women cheats vs when she is caught cheating..Her name is Honeypreet ..she is infamous enough, and there is not enough shred of guilt in her eyes to feel sorry. Shouldn't even mislead users into an unfair comparision.
Tommy Edison 4 years ago
notice how every women took all accountability out of this... ? notice how with you females its always someone elses fault... like what type of grown person doesnt take care of themselves based on someone else... more self "victimization" pathetic
Nikki Owens 4 years ago
Meh. People change, it's life. That's why love is a decision and marriage is a commitment.
tabby newton 4 years ago
Now i'm guessing there's a lot more to this this, than "it's just the mans fault"
Rajender Saini 4 years ago
This picture of her was after jail term. Because she cheated on her husband, living with a so called religious guru, that guru is also in jail on rape charges.
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Tassenküchlein168 4 years ago
On the right she looks like a young mother with some lack of sleep.
Leodavinci 4 years ago
From my experience and observations of most couples I know (across a variety of socio-economic groups), this pretty much typical. Not everyone, but it is definitely not uncommon. Men do it, too, btw.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
You know why married men live longer? I suspect they’re vampires who steal all those extra years from their wives. BTW, I’ve been happily married for 20 years.
#7
Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity
"Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."
The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."
We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.
#8
That Really Puts It In Perspective
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
And it's always on us, don't dress that way, don't walk there, don't provoke. When it happens we didn't fight enough, fought too hard, didn't say no, didn't mean it when we said it. If we report it we get blamed, re traumatized by questions and rape kits that are then left untouched, called liars.
#9
Lol
I am avoiding my homework 4 years ago
Agree entirely and this is one of the reasons I hate Disney movies
#11
100% True For Me
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
I feel a drop off interest on men (thanks a lot) when I say my husband is a police officer or a jujitsu master.
#13
Cracks Me Up Every Time
#14
They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect
#15
Speaks For Itself
#16
Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”
#17
Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life
Rachel Peterson 4 years ago
I always support the allies, reminding them how much I value them.
#18
How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up
#20
Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes
#22
Nothing But Truth
#24
Being Decent Isn’t Difficult
#25
Geee I Wonder Why
#26
This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!
#27
Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!
#28
Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To
#29
The Message
#30
Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum
ZooMom 4 years ago
My husband stayed with our kids as infants while I worked. Everyone went on and on about how amazing he was (and he was) but then we switched roles this past year and I hear how “lucky I am to GET to stay home” and how bad they feel he works long hours. B****! I pumped breast milk on the floor of a unisex bathroom while still taking phone calls.
#31
Why Are Males?
#32
Leave Him In The Dust
#33
This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys
#34
Keep Your Friends Safe!
#35
Used Or New, We Will Run You Over
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
Please tell me he is a virgin too. Ask for what you can also offer.
#36
Thoughts?
BingeFest1 4 years ago
If I ever actually find somebody I'd want to marry I would never propose with anybody around. I would want to eliminate any peer pressure and create an intimate environment
#37
Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos
#38
Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him
#39
Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
Sounds like the guy who yells "hey pretty lady" and approaches a woman they don't know, and when she "walks fast" to get away or tells him to stop, she has a "bad attitude"
#40
Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence
#41
Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support
fire bug 4 years ago
Ummmm... my wife and I support our family. I work long hours. My wife takes care of 90% of the household stuff. I clean the kitchen every night and get home by dinner time every night to have family time with her and our kids. I don't support her and she doesn't support me. We support each other.
#42
Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!
#43
Tea
#44
Seriously
Guido Pisano 4 years ago
helping your wife means that most of the job is on her shoulder. I prefer say that I do my part...
#45
Reminder
#46
We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault
Zephyr Anthem 4 years ago
True if you date a self centered douche who doesn't care about your pleasure...
#47
Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
I don't know about any 'bro code'. But any friend of mine cheating on his SO (also probably a friend of mine by association) and expecting me to keep it a secret isn't really my friend.
#48
Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve
#49
It Never Ends
#50
*internal Screaming, Forever*
#51
Be That Kind Of Direct, Lol!
Kari Panda 4 years ago
Eh, careful with that. There are enough wannabe sugar daddies out there who‘d gladly take you up on that.
#52
Wow
alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
Why do I have trust issues? Being cheated on repeatedly, repeated gaslighting, and emotional manipulation. Oh, and the flat out lying.
#54
Imagine: It’s Your Life
#55
100% Accurate. Never Let It Slide
#56
Women Are 6x More Likely To End Up Divorced If They Are Diagnosed With Cancer Or Ms, Than If Their Male Partners Were Facing The Same Illness
#57
Please Share Stories Of Some Weirdly Specific Rules You Set After *that* One Guy
#58
Never Let Them Get Comfortable!
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Can opener in our house. And since I cook from scratch, I don't need it, but he would!
#59
We All Know Why
#60
Ladies, Let’s All Do Our Best To Teach The Next Generation Of Women This. While Sexual Adultification Affects Young Black Women The Most, It Definitely Occurs To Young Women Of All Backgrounds
#61
'compromise!!'
#62
Love A Good Roast
#63
A Trend I've Noticed Among Lvm
#64
If You Catch Feelings Easily, This Might Help! Stay Strong!
#65
Psa: As Soon As Man Says That, Run The Opposite Direction Sis. This Is Red Flag. Manipulation
#66
It Do Be Like That
Kari Panda 4 years ago
The first time I met my now husband, I was wearing socks with holes (grew up poor and had been wearing socks with holes my whole life). He teased me about it and then brought me a pair of his own socks to wear :)
#67
Potent
Anna Banana 4 years ago
"Women feel like they don't need men anymore" is precisely what went right with this generation!
#68
Facts
Pheebs 4 years ago
I have so much respect for the middle school I attended. All genders took tech class (basically wood shop, with a bit of electronics mixed in) for 9 weeks every school year, and all took home ec where they learned to cook, sew by hand, and eventually use a sewing machine. Skill was not based on gender - it was based on the effort you put in.
#69
Reason #6567 Why Being Single Is Better Than Settling
#70
Exactly
#71
Enough Said
#72
So Glad He Is Her Ex
#73
Made Me Chuckle. Accurate!
#74
Girlfriends/Wives Are Not On The List Of In-Network Therapists
#75
Mic Drop
Thorfin Wolfsbane 4 years ago
all things aside, i love to see you're and your used appropriately
#76
This Is Nice But If You’re On A Date At Hooters It’s Already Not Going Well
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
It's already good enough they have this. Hope in a women's toilet.
#77
My Wish For 2021 And Beyond Is That More Women Realise That They Don’t Have To Put Up With Callous, Selfish Behaviour In Their Relationships
#78
For Real Though
#79
That’s Gonna Be A No From Me
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SumoNinja 4 years ago
If you read an article like this and think "but it isn't all men, I'm not like that" don't blame women, blame the 40% of men who are ruining it for everyone else, male and female. Also realize that your hurt feelings are nothing compared to a lifetime of fear and being treated as an inferior person or disposable object.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
And f*****g SPEAK UP when your male buddies are talking and acting like assholes, douches, perverts, creeps, and potential rapists, and call them out for it. Publicly. Make it socially unacceptable. If they get called out and publicly shamed for it——every single time they try it—-maybe they’ll think twice about doing it again. If they don’t stop, then just drop them as a friend, and go find better quality people to hang out with.
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Kaori Panda 4 years ago
For the record here, r/FemaleDatingStategy is not a very, uh, liked subereddit because oftentimes there is a lot of things said about men like "who cares if men have mental health problems" and such. I agree with all these screenshots, but the subreddit that the came off of isn't the best. There are a lot of entitled people on there, which is sad because the sub could have been a really positive and supportive place.
Random Panda 4 years ago
I spent all of 5 minutes in that subreddit and saw so much sexist and misandrist crap, I never went back. That sub is utter trash.
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Julie 4 years ago
Talking on your phone /texting and wearing earbuds while walking alone is not safe.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
They’re often not playing music with those earphones in, and never not keeping their ears and eyes open to their surroundings while on the phone.
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Gabrielle Daylano 4 years ago
I made a profile on something like tinder. Oh the things I have seen 😅... I said on my profile that I'm bi. This man started with do you f*ck my ex? Well, first who the heck is you're ex and why are you bothering me with this. And that I was probably not because I wouldn't fall for the types of girls that falls for him. He said my attitude is the same as his ex and blocked me 🤣 well, I wonder why girls have an attitude with you 🤔
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Oh dear XD. I'm bi too! But that dude was a jerk. (I think I'll just stay away from dating apps).
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Rae Reyn 4 years ago
If you ask my daughter the way to a man's heart, she'll say "between the 4th and 5th ribs". She'll also tell you what we say to death is "not today"
PenitentEyeball 4 years ago
I hate the fact that men are learning this! All men should know the way women feel! And they should listen to women!
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
If the data backs it up, is it really a generalization? No. No, not really.
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Donny Cromwell 4 years ago
For 17 years I tried my best to set a good example for my daughter on how someone treats someone they love. Her choice for a boyfriend helps me feel that I did a good job.
Q B F T 4 years ago
Imagine that all the time for decades starting from when You're about 11 or 12 and not just from one man but from many - from any. And that would still be a much better than average experience, because like you say, your guy never actually did anything.
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that one Harry Potter girl 4 years ago
97% of women have been sexually assaulted. It's not "a few affected". It's the majority of women. I'm lucky it isn't me, and I genuinely fear that it will be one day. Ignoring people and being aggressive is how people save their life, perhaps they are happily married and kind, but perhaps this is the day I become the new Sarah Everard. I'm not willing to play russian roulette with 5 bullets in the gun. Men do not get assaulted nearly as much, and it's usually other men that do it. This is not an equal issue. Men's issues exist and should be talked about, but not in order to silence women's. Just as we have BLM, stop asian hate, climate change strikes, me too, and many others, we can talk about men's issues in a way that doesn't damage women's.
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Anna Banana 4 years ago
Bored Panda is not a writer, it's a website where everyone can contribute. Nobody is stopping you from writing that post about women assaulting men in kilts. But you don't get to tell other contributors what they should find important to write about.
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Alex Luiz 4 years ago
But it's not even attacking men, that's what baffles me about this comment section. How is asking a short, ugly man if he has ever asked out a short, ugly woman attacking all men?! You only feel attacked if you have done something from this list, and you only need feel attacked if you haven't learned better and still do this stuff.
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lazy panda 4 years ago
Literally no one is saying we are. All we want is respect, to feel safe, to not be used repeatedly, and not have our lives threatened for telling a man "no".
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Aradia Sayner 4 years ago
As another Gen Xer, I have to disagree. I was harassed both in public and at work. I was groomed by a 29 year old man when I was 16. This has very little to do with what generation you were born into. My guess is you were just lucky.
Load More Replies... Iapetos 4 years ago
Because it's an issue that makes many, many women miserable. It needs to be talked about.
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SumoNinja 4 years ago
If you read an article like this and think "but it isn't all men, I'm not like that" don't blame women, blame the 40% of men who are ruining it for everyone else, male and female. Also realize that your hurt feelings are nothing compared to a lifetime of fear and being treated as an inferior person or disposable object.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
And f*****g SPEAK UP when your male buddies are talking and acting like assholes, douches, perverts, creeps, and potential rapists, and call them out for it. Publicly. Make it socially unacceptable. If they get called out and publicly shamed for it——every single time they try it—-maybe they’ll think twice about doing it again. If they don’t stop, then just drop them as a friend, and go find better quality people to hang out with.
Load More Replies... Kaori Panda 4 years ago
For the record here, r/FemaleDatingStategy is not a very, uh, liked subereddit because oftentimes there is a lot of things said about men like "who cares if men have mental health problems" and such. I agree with all these screenshots, but the subreddit that the came off of isn't the best. There are a lot of entitled people on there, which is sad because the sub could have been a really positive and supportive place.
Random Panda 4 years ago
I spent all of 5 minutes in that subreddit and saw so much sexist and misandrist crap, I never went back. That sub is utter trash.
Load More Replies... Julie 4 years ago
Talking on your phone /texting and wearing earbuds while walking alone is not safe.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
They’re often not playing music with those earphones in, and never not keeping their ears and eyes open to their surroundings while on the phone.
Load More Replies... Gabrielle Daylano 4 years ago
I made a profile on something like tinder. Oh the things I have seen 😅... I said on my profile that I'm bi. This man started with do you f*ck my ex? Well, first who the heck is you're ex and why are you bothering me with this. And that I was probably not because I wouldn't fall for the types of girls that falls for him. He said my attitude is the same as his ex and blocked me 🤣 well, I wonder why girls have an attitude with you 🤔
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Oh dear XD. I'm bi too! But that dude was a jerk. (I think I'll just stay away from dating apps).
Load More Replies... Rae Reyn 4 years ago
If you ask my daughter the way to a man's heart, she'll say "between the 4th and 5th ribs". She'll also tell you what we say to death is "not today"
PenitentEyeball 4 years ago
I hate the fact that men are learning this! All men should know the way women feel! And they should listen to women!
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
If the data backs it up, is it really a generalization? No. No, not really.
Load More Replies... Donny Cromwell 4 years ago
For 17 years I tried my best to set a good example for my daughter on how someone treats someone they love. Her choice for a boyfriend helps me feel that I did a good job.
Q B F T 4 years ago
Imagine that all the time for decades starting from when You're about 11 or 12 and not just from one man but from many - from any. And that would still be a much better than average experience, because like you say, your guy never actually did anything.
Load More Replies... that one Harry Potter girl 4 years ago
97% of women have been sexually assaulted. It's not "a few affected". It's the majority of women. I'm lucky it isn't me, and I genuinely fear that it will be one day. Ignoring people and being aggressive is how people save their life, perhaps they are happily married and kind, but perhaps this is the day I become the new Sarah Everard. I'm not willing to play russian roulette with 5 bullets in the gun. Men do not get assaulted nearly as much, and it's usually other men that do it. This is not an equal issue. Men's issues exist and should be talked about, but not in order to silence women's. Just as we have BLM, stop asian hate, climate change strikes, me too, and many others, we can talk about men's issues in a way that doesn't damage women's.
Load More Replies... Anna Banana 4 years ago
Bored Panda is not a writer, it's a website where everyone can contribute. Nobody is stopping you from writing that post about women assaulting men in kilts. But you don't get to tell other contributors what they should find important to write about.
Load More Replies... Alex Luiz 4 years ago
But it's not even attacking men, that's what baffles me about this comment section. How is asking a short, ugly man if he has ever asked out a short, ugly woman attacking all men?! You only feel attacked if you have done something from this list, and you only need feel attacked if you haven't learned better and still do this stuff.
Load More Replies... lazy panda 4 years ago
Literally no one is saying we are. All we want is respect, to feel safe, to not be used repeatedly, and not have our lives threatened for telling a man "no".
Load More Replies... Aradia Sayner 4 years ago
As another Gen Xer, I have to disagree. I was harassed both in public and at work. I was groomed by a 29 year old man when I was 16. This has very little to do with what generation you were born into. My guess is you were just lucky.
Load More Replies... Iapetos 4 years ago
Because it's an issue that makes many, many women miserable. It needs to be talked about.
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