“Never Heard Of This Brand”: Woman Crushed By Husband And His Rich Family’s Reaction To Her Gift

Once you get married you need to make your own traditions and not let families bully you into ruining holidays by forcing their plans on you. This happened to us. We spent Christmas with them the first year cause we were living in the house. It was all grown children but they still do all the same stuff as if we were little. The next year we had a baby. We had our own tree and gifts and planned to have a leisurely morning , open our gifts and mosey our way over to their house around noon when my grandparents got there. It wasn't really discussed in detail with my mother but she ruined our Christmas morning by blowing our phones up starting at 8 am demanding to know where we were and everyone was waiting (my 2 sisters and dad and her i.e.) and I told her that we were opening presents and would be there for lunch. She kept calling and calling and calling but we did not let her ruin our 1st Christmas. We turned off the phones, opened the gifts and played with the baby and got there at 10:30. It was as if we forced little children to wait hours to see what Santa brought. My mom and sisters were just super annoyed cause she made everyone wait to open their presents. Didn't have to worry the next year as we had gone no contact by then and had the best Christmas ever despite being on unemployment. My husband bought me the Beauty and the Beast DVD (just rereleased from the Disney vault lol remember those days) and I forgot what I got him. We had a turkey at home and stayed in all day eating junk and watching Christmas movies and have done so ever since for Christmas and Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is my favorite we cook a shitload of food and get all the leftovers. I don't miss the family drama and rushing around to different houses at all. Anyone is welcome to our house but no one has ever come and we have a blast. Make your own traditions. Do your own thing. It's the BEST part of being a grown up

Return it and let him pick out what he wants

I play guitar a bit (not very well TBH) and $900 is about £730 so that is not a cheap guitar for a starter, by any stretch of the imagination. Guitars can and do cost silly money. I'd give my right arm for a $900 guitar.....Oh no! Wait, that wouldn't work, would it?

My parents started dating in the summertime. That first Christmas, my mother was invited to his family home. His mother gave him very expensive pajamas, expensive dress pants, and expensive shirts. My mother was a young woman on a very tight budget. She gave my father sheet music for several Bach pieces. She bought them at the music store, I think they were specifically arrangements for piano. He sat down at the piano, and immediately started picking out the notes. He was very excited, and throughout the day made repeated remarks about what a wonderful gift it was. His mother pouted the rest of the day, and complained that he didn’t even notice his very nice pajamas. She was so upset that her gifts were being ignored, and she was upset that her expensive gifts were being upstaged by a budget gift. She never did approve of my “farmer’s daughter” mother.

Money does not equal class, manners, kindness or empathy. Think of royalty and imagine how they would speak to a commoner. Now imagine someone who just won a lottery and how they would speak to someone who had less. An ambassador once said to me, the way you speak to someone is a reflection of YOU.