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“I Feel So Uncomfortable Now”: Woman Can’t Look At Her Friend The Same After Rude Messages
Specific topics are off-limits to discuss in social situations due to their sensitivity. These typically include a person’s political or religious leanings and their income.
But in some cases, discussions about weight can be just as touchy. This was proven true between two childhood friends when one of them offered the other a suggestion: “Join Weight Watchers and start working out.”
The woman on the receiving end of these comments didn’t take them well, and as a result, she began to rethink their friendship.
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For some people, weight can be a sensitive subject matter to talk about
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Such discussions became a problem between two childhood friends
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The author revealed some of her struggles, explaining why the comments affected her that much
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She hasn’t spoken to her friend, whose comments had a profound effect
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Weight discussions are always tied to a person’s self-worth
Despite her efforts to keep healthy, the author nonetheless felt hurt and blindsided when her friend suddenly brought up her weight. Her reaction is understandable because, according to many experts, any discussion about weight automatically triggers a person’s sense of self-worth.
As the Milken Institute of Public Health explains, the person may feel shame or perceive themselves as a failure. Some are concerned about being judged by peers or even their healthcare providers.
“Many people experience struggles with weight or accepting their body type, so it is crucial to approach all conversations about weight with empathy and sensitivity,” sports and performance psychologist Dr. Haley Perlus told Reader’s Digest.
Dr. Perlus adds that blindly offering diet advice can be annoying for the person receiving it, because what works for one person may not work for another. More importantly, she notes that even well-intentioned comments may come across as judgmental, which was what the author felt.
However, are such statements enough to sever ties with a friend? According to licensed psychotherapist Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, a few good reasons would be if the person does not respect your boundaries or if they don’t accept you for who you are.
“Our friends should accept who we are and provide a safe space for us to be ourselves. If you do not feel wholeheartedly accepted, this friendship is likely not genuine or safe,” Gillis wrote.
The author mentioned that she no longer saw the friendship as a safe space for her, which might be a good reason for her to reconsider the relationship. However, she also mentioned that her friend was “feeling badly” about what happened.
Before considering ending the friendship, she may want to have an honest conversation with her friend, whom she has known since they were children. It would be the best course of action as supposedly mature adults.
Many people in the comments sided with the author
The woman provided more information to her story
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She also spoke more candidly about her insecurities
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Asri 6 months ago
It never ceases to amaze me that people think fat people don't know they are fat. Nor are aware of the potential problems.
Emilu 6 months ago (edited)
That's so true. It's like "oh shit, really? I thought I just had this massive thing attached to my front for no reason! /s" Nobody would *choose* to be fat, if not for the health implications but because society is cruel to overweight people, and life's hard enough without that added burden.
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Ellinor she/they/elle 6 months ago (edited)
The day people stop thinking that every fat person is a lazy overeater that only buy fast-food is the day I can finally rest in peace.
Tyranamar Seuss 6 months ago (edited)
This reminds me of the time I told my friend (recovering anorexic) that I was going on Zepbound. And she told me I should try diet and exercise. LOL! Diet and exercise you say?! I've never even considered that as an option! How helpful this talk has been. The thing thin people don't understand is how difficult it is to avoid food if you've got some obesity genes. Not until I was on medication did I realize the general population isn't thinking about food 24/7. And can stop eating when they're full- no problem.
Asri 6 months ago
It never ceases to amaze me that people think fat people don't know they are fat. Nor are aware of the potential problems.
Emilu 6 months ago (edited)
That's so true. It's like "oh shit, really? I thought I just had this massive thing attached to my front for no reason! /s" Nobody would *choose* to be fat, if not for the health implications but because society is cruel to overweight people, and life's hard enough without that added burden.
Load More Replies... Ellinor she/they/elle 6 months ago (edited)
The day people stop thinking that every fat person is a lazy overeater that only buy fast-food is the day I can finally rest in peace.
Tyranamar Seuss 6 months ago (edited)
This reminds me of the time I told my friend (recovering anorexic) that I was going on Zepbound. And she told me I should try diet and exercise. LOL! Diet and exercise you say?! I've never even considered that as an option! How helpful this talk has been. The thing thin people don't understand is how difficult it is to avoid food if you've got some obesity genes. Not until I was on medication did I realize the general population isn't thinking about food 24/7. And can stop eating when they're full- no problem.
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