“This Doesn’t Add Up”: Woman Claps Back At Haters Who Don’t Get How She Can Have A “Handsome” And “Physically Fit” Husband
TikTok is home to a host of different trends at any given time. New dances, mouth-watering viral recipes, intense challenges and cute couples videos flood the app daily. These are usually harmless trends featuring creators having fun and exercising a bit of their creativity, but sometimes, what ruins a perfectly normal video is the slew of hateful comments it receives. Recently, one TikToker was reminded of just how bitter people on the internet can be when they see something they don’t understand.
3 days ago, TikToker Alicia Mccarvell called out viewers for showing their fatphobia after a cute video of her and her husband went viral for all the wrong reasons. Below, you can see the original video that sparked this discussion, hear what Alicia had to say in response, and read some of the comments her video received, and join Alicia in her frustration with society’s oppressive obsession with our bodies. Then if you’re looking for another Bored Panda piece calling out the world’s rampant fatphobia, check out this article next.
Recently, TikToker Alicia Mccarvell posted a cute video with her husband showing their “transformation” as they got ready to attend a wedding
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@aliciamccarvell My forever wedding date ♥️ @scottymc4 ♬ original sound – cam
After the original video went viral, Alicia made a follow-up calling out viewers for perpetuating toxic beauty standards in the comments section
She shared examples of ignorant comments people left speculating about how her and her husband became an item
Alicia went on to explain that we all have a responsibility to unlearn toxic ideas we’ve been taught, like valuing the size of our bodies above all else
Image credits: aliciamccarvell
You can watch the full response video right here
@aliciamccarvelllet’s address the trash beauty standards in the room ||••♬ original sound – Alicia Mccarvell
Alicia currently has 5 million followers on TikTok and has gained a loyal audience through posting uplifting self-love content, participating in funny trends, and sharing adorable videos with her husband. So even though she receives thousands of supportive comments from fans every day, she notes in the video that hearing rude remarks about her marriage is nothing new. But that doesn’t make it acceptable. Inserting our opinions on anyone else’s body or relationship is uncalled for, and the fact that people take issue with Alicia’s marriage in the first place is so disappointing.
While TikTok is an app where content creators can post almost anything they like, from religious content to conspiracy theories, it is still notorious for promoting unrealistic beauty standards. With an algorithm that seems to endlessly push young, thin, white users’ content and mysteriously censors many plus-size creators for posting almost identical videos, the app is often the subject of controversy. In fact, the TikTok’s original policies instructed moderators to “censor content from people it believed to be ugly, overweight, disabled, or poor”. By pushing videos from users that fit into narrow beauty standards, fatphobic viewers are able to hold fast to their prejudices knowing they’ll rarely ever see anything that challenges their beliefs.
Alicia’s original video was meant to be a fun post featuring her loving husband, but it turned into a bold statement about body positivity. While the hateful commenters might have a long way to go in dismantling their fatphobia, I hope that Alicia bringing attention to the issue will help some of them open up their minds. We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below if you have ever experienced anything similar to Alicia or if you have any tips for helping others unlearn toxic beauty expectations. And remember, if you don’t have anything nice to say, maybe you don’t need to say anything at all.
Thankfully, Alicia has received countless comments of support from followers who understand how insignificant our bodies are
And the apps owned by China, so all the information downloaded to the app then China knows about it.
Load More Replies...Some people are trash, and insanely jealous. They're so vapid and their only asset is their half plastic body!
It amazes me that people have the audacity to be so incredibly rude about someone else's looks.
Something that's kind of getting overlooked in this article is his perspective. There are more reasons to get fit than just 'to pick up women.' Maybe it's something he enjoys doing, maybe he's been inspired to accomplish something, maybe he has been working hard to overcome his past unfit self, or maybe he just wants to look good for himself. We see a lot of stories like this from women when strangers assume that if they dress up or wear makeup, it's only because they want to get hit on.
Load More Replies...I have experienced the same except for us it's because I am disabled by chronic illness and am a wheelchair user. People don't get that my partner loves me; I've had people say he must be with me because he feels sorry for me, as well as cruel comments asking about our sex lives insinuating that he must "have a fetish" or worse that he must be cheating because everyone knows a disabled person can't have sex (sorry that's sarcasm do those who might miss the point). It can be really hurtful but he always challenges people on their attitude when he witnesses it. People just can't seem to see past my disability or my wheelchair, as if that's all I am. He would tell you a list of the reasons he loves me, and the only reason my health would be mentioned would be that he admires how I deal with all the pain and complications I have to deal with. I'm lucky but he would say he is too.
I totally understand. My disability is an invisible one (epilepsy), but I've had comments about why would my husband want to have a burden. I am dependent on him for just about everything (transportation, income, and depending what they are and what kind of day I'm having, simple house chores. I take up a lot of his free time, so people want to know why he wants to be with me. He's a very caring person and helping me doesn't bother me. We were friends long before we were married.
Load More Replies...So because she's bigger than him, she's not worthy of his love?! What are all these skinny people doing that makes them better than her, except for being skinny? They know nothing about her. Good for her for not letting the bullies stay anonymous, and calling them out. I wouldn't have the mental strength or patience to deal with all that hate. And she even tries to educate them....Seems like all they have are their thin bodies...What happens when they gain weight, and god forbid become fat..
Over my 45 years I have been as small as 105 lbs, and as big as 170 (without being pregnant), and I'm 5'5", so pretty short. Currently, I weigh about 115ish, and it HURTS. 😱 Who tf wants to sit on BONES?! They're HARD! As are most seats! Even a soft se sa t is uncomfortable after awhile if you have a couple broomsticks under your a**e! 😳🤣🤣 So, yeah, skinny people being skinny is NOT a special ability, nor something people should aspire to. 😊
Load More Replies...I'm overweight and my boyfriend absolutely LOVES how I look. He's a scrawny little thing that bikes and plays ice hockey. I'm a hippo that makes a mean chili when he's done training. He washes my hair in the shower and feeds me chocolate. I massage his shoulders and send him lame memes. We spend so much time in bed, it's not even funny. Screw ancient beauty nonsense.
I have never been accepted and loved like this, as myself. But your description of what a relationship can be just gave me a little bit of hope. Maybe I could be this lucky one day. 😊
Load More Replies...I can't tell you the amount of times I have heard a woman say," How is SHE married and I'm not?" My answer?? Probably because they have a decent personality instead of being a vapid salty cow.
Sounds like a bunch of jealous, catty women who have men that aren't as attractive or don't have one at all.
I guess that explains why dating apps, and casual sex took off. People got used to living for beauty, but after 10-20min of bed rocking there was nothing else... I was short chubby girl, he is 196cm tall and slim built, we spent together 5-6hours walking in the middle of the night, and then he moved to another country to be with me, we didn't get to sex till after 5months of living together and sharing a bed. Beauty won't last, but humour and ability to talk and listen, and support will outweigh any physical appearance.People who have criticized us since the beginning are the ones still jumping from person to person, like ticks never satisfied. You're beautiful, and couples that are connected on deeper level are better looking than two models on a photo. (wonder how many takes it took to get that photo). A whole generation has grown up comparing themselves to others and if you're below or above then you get hit by their insecurities. Wish you all the happiness and success!
Dating apps are useless. You are disregarded because people don’t think you are “hot”. They can make you feel even crappier about yourself. I think if you read a description about someone and you have something in common, you can at least communicate since it’s so hard to meet new people once you pass a certain age.
Load More Replies...I hear ya. Fortunately I've never had any comments but I have had stares when I have been out with my hubby. He is fit and good looking whilst I am obese and extremely unattractive, especially by societies beauty standards. We started dating when I was very slim and after 20 years and excess weight gain, he still finds me attractive.
“Extremely unattractive…” Well let me tell you, a lot of people write comments on BoredPanda. With three people I know before reading it, their comments are always going to be pleasant, thoughtful, insightful, sometimes witty and generally nice comments. And you are one of those three. So your physical appearance may be “extremely unattractive” (I'm gonna take your word on that), but to me your comments on BoredPanda are always “extremely attractive”! Now I suddenly feel the urge to go watch the movie ‘Shallow Hal’ again…
Load More Replies...And the apps owned by China, so all the information downloaded to the app then China knows about it.
Load More Replies...Some people are trash, and insanely jealous. They're so vapid and their only asset is their half plastic body!
It amazes me that people have the audacity to be so incredibly rude about someone else's looks.
Something that's kind of getting overlooked in this article is his perspective. There are more reasons to get fit than just 'to pick up women.' Maybe it's something he enjoys doing, maybe he's been inspired to accomplish something, maybe he has been working hard to overcome his past unfit self, or maybe he just wants to look good for himself. We see a lot of stories like this from women when strangers assume that if they dress up or wear makeup, it's only because they want to get hit on.
Load More Replies...I have experienced the same except for us it's because I am disabled by chronic illness and am a wheelchair user. People don't get that my partner loves me; I've had people say he must be with me because he feels sorry for me, as well as cruel comments asking about our sex lives insinuating that he must "have a fetish" or worse that he must be cheating because everyone knows a disabled person can't have sex (sorry that's sarcasm do those who might miss the point). It can be really hurtful but he always challenges people on their attitude when he witnesses it. People just can't seem to see past my disability or my wheelchair, as if that's all I am. He would tell you a list of the reasons he loves me, and the only reason my health would be mentioned would be that he admires how I deal with all the pain and complications I have to deal with. I'm lucky but he would say he is too.
I totally understand. My disability is an invisible one (epilepsy), but I've had comments about why would my husband want to have a burden. I am dependent on him for just about everything (transportation, income, and depending what they are and what kind of day I'm having, simple house chores. I take up a lot of his free time, so people want to know why he wants to be with me. He's a very caring person and helping me doesn't bother me. We were friends long before we were married.
Load More Replies...So because she's bigger than him, she's not worthy of his love?! What are all these skinny people doing that makes them better than her, except for being skinny? They know nothing about her. Good for her for not letting the bullies stay anonymous, and calling them out. I wouldn't have the mental strength or patience to deal with all that hate. And she even tries to educate them....Seems like all they have are their thin bodies...What happens when they gain weight, and god forbid become fat..
Over my 45 years I have been as small as 105 lbs, and as big as 170 (without being pregnant), and I'm 5'5", so pretty short. Currently, I weigh about 115ish, and it HURTS. 😱 Who tf wants to sit on BONES?! They're HARD! As are most seats! Even a soft se sa t is uncomfortable after awhile if you have a couple broomsticks under your a**e! 😳🤣🤣 So, yeah, skinny people being skinny is NOT a special ability, nor something people should aspire to. 😊
Load More Replies...I'm overweight and my boyfriend absolutely LOVES how I look. He's a scrawny little thing that bikes and plays ice hockey. I'm a hippo that makes a mean chili when he's done training. He washes my hair in the shower and feeds me chocolate. I massage his shoulders and send him lame memes. We spend so much time in bed, it's not even funny. Screw ancient beauty nonsense.
I have never been accepted and loved like this, as myself. But your description of what a relationship can be just gave me a little bit of hope. Maybe I could be this lucky one day. 😊
Load More Replies...I can't tell you the amount of times I have heard a woman say," How is SHE married and I'm not?" My answer?? Probably because they have a decent personality instead of being a vapid salty cow.
Sounds like a bunch of jealous, catty women who have men that aren't as attractive or don't have one at all.
I guess that explains why dating apps, and casual sex took off. People got used to living for beauty, but after 10-20min of bed rocking there was nothing else... I was short chubby girl, he is 196cm tall and slim built, we spent together 5-6hours walking in the middle of the night, and then he moved to another country to be with me, we didn't get to sex till after 5months of living together and sharing a bed. Beauty won't last, but humour and ability to talk and listen, and support will outweigh any physical appearance.People who have criticized us since the beginning are the ones still jumping from person to person, like ticks never satisfied. You're beautiful, and couples that are connected on deeper level are better looking than two models on a photo. (wonder how many takes it took to get that photo). A whole generation has grown up comparing themselves to others and if you're below or above then you get hit by their insecurities. Wish you all the happiness and success!
Dating apps are useless. You are disregarded because people don’t think you are “hot”. They can make you feel even crappier about yourself. I think if you read a description about someone and you have something in common, you can at least communicate since it’s so hard to meet new people once you pass a certain age.
Load More Replies...I hear ya. Fortunately I've never had any comments but I have had stares when I have been out with my hubby. He is fit and good looking whilst I am obese and extremely unattractive, especially by societies beauty standards. We started dating when I was very slim and after 20 years and excess weight gain, he still finds me attractive.
“Extremely unattractive…” Well let me tell you, a lot of people write comments on BoredPanda. With three people I know before reading it, their comments are always going to be pleasant, thoughtful, insightful, sometimes witty and generally nice comments. And you are one of those three. So your physical appearance may be “extremely unattractive” (I'm gonna take your word on that), but to me your comments on BoredPanda are always “extremely attractive”! Now I suddenly feel the urge to go watch the movie ‘Shallow Hal’ again…
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