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Woman Takes Care Of Wife’s Grandma, Everything Falls Apart Once They Get Her Will
Two women having a tense conversation indoors, reflecting conflict after taking care of wife's grandma and will issues.

Woman Takes Care Of Wife’s Grandma, Everything Falls Apart Once They Get Her Will

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Money is a touchy subject, but you have to be able to discuss it with your spouse. After all, the two of you are running a household together, and if you can’t agree on where your dollars go, tensions might spill over into other areas of life as well.

Reddit user AutomaticEast8697 thought she and her wife had been on the same page about managing money. But after her partner inherited a “sizeable chunk” from a family member, disagreements began to surface, and what could have been a simple financial choice grew into a test of their relationship.

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    This woman had cared for her wife’s grandma, and after the lady passed away, she was also included in her will

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    However, her partner does not want to share the inheritance

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    The main issue is how to spend the money

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    As the woman’s story gained traction online, she interacted with the commentators

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    kissmychakram
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    1 hour ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not a financial advisor so my opinion is worth exactly what you paid for it, but what I would do is put the money into a low risk but safe place where it can earn some interest but won't lose anything and then forget about it for a year. Revisit the situation when minds are clearer and perhaps the grief isn't so fresh. As far as OP's situation is concerned, I don't think the fact that the money originally "belonged" to the partners family means the partners opinion should carry more weight. If my FIL gives me $20 for some birthday wine it doesn't mean my wife gets to select the grape variety.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    29 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is the financial gain worth the conflict? Grief means inheritance isn't all logic. Would getting your way be worth the I told you so? I'm guessing no, but my partner and I have hard and fast rules about family stuff.

    SkyyCaramba (he/him)
    Community Member
    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my opinion, you should pay off the mortgage and then invest that extra money. Both win :)

    ƒιѕн
    Community Member
    10 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure why the downvote, but I agree with this, just pay off the mortgage then invest the money that would be going toward payments.

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    kissmychakram
    Community Member
    1 hour ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not a financial advisor so my opinion is worth exactly what you paid for it, but what I would do is put the money into a low risk but safe place where it can earn some interest but won't lose anything and then forget about it for a year. Revisit the situation when minds are clearer and perhaps the grief isn't so fresh. As far as OP's situation is concerned, I don't think the fact that the money originally "belonged" to the partners family means the partners opinion should carry more weight. If my FIL gives me $20 for some birthday wine it doesn't mean my wife gets to select the grape variety.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    29 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is the financial gain worth the conflict? Grief means inheritance isn't all logic. Would getting your way be worth the I told you so? I'm guessing no, but my partner and I have hard and fast rules about family stuff.

    SkyyCaramba (he/him)
    Community Member
    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my opinion, you should pay off the mortgage and then invest that extra money. Both win :)

    ƒιѕн
    Community Member
    10 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure why the downvote, but I agree with this, just pay off the mortgage then invest the money that would be going toward payments.

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