Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

Man gets a woman drunk to "get licky", but then co.plain about how all his dates just lay there. Sober women ENJOY sex, dude.

Men need to be taught to ACCEPT "no" from women. Or softer "nos". Too many women have died because guys don't accept "no" from a woman. This is NOT a misunderstanding because women are being indirect. Guys have no problem accrpting "no" from other men. Nor are they "awkward" around women. They just know women will get blamed. Teach men to listen. And other men need to call them on their b******t----which means listening to their female friends.Funny how guys only get "confused" in situations where they're trying borderline or outright predatory methods to get laid.

Am I the only one that thinks this is a big fat Duh. Did girls really think guys are buying them drinks to be nice?

I never really thought about this, tbh. I've always assumed that men were pricks, etc, etc. It's been a dogs age since I was in the bar scene, (I've been married for 17 years), but I met my Wife in a pub, and we talked about what I said back then, she said I told her I was having a drink, and would she care to join me, and we went to the bar together to get what she wanted. I've never had that hunter/prey mentality with Women, and I guess I never really paid attention, very sad that Men do this.

Buying a drink for someone you're interested in talking to is simply normal social protocol. Consider how unusual one would come off if they approached a woman in a crowded bar with, "Hi there, can I buy you an order of fries?" Or perhaps, "You look nice tonight, would you like a diet coke?" As a guy, I've never considered that my intent in buying a woman a drink is to "loosen her up," so to speak. Furthermore, it is outright sexist to assume that women somehow incapable of making their own decisions! They are free to request whatever they like, but I don't see myself trying either of the above lines anytime soon. Contrary to this article's assertion, most men aren't sexual predators. (Though I'm not sure I can say the same for the bartender who suggested that drinks contain 20% or more alcohol are "light".)

you know, I bought a lot of women drinks. Alcoholic AND not. This may be true, but to be honest you should probably check if the guy really is after getting you drunk or is just being cordial. Some definitely are not out to do the right thing, but don't punish an innocent man just being nice and wanting to get to know you. So maybe ask for that non-alcoholic drink. If they respond poorly leave immediately. If not, maybe you found someone who really isn't after taking advantage...

I was at a work Christmas party one time and a co-workers husband was rather tipsy and kept trying to buy me a drink. I don't drink because quite frankly I am not a really nice person when alcohol is added. I know this and therefore stay away from drinking. I politely said no than you several times, finally I'd had enough, I asked the bartender what was the most expensive drink he made and ordered that. After he paid for the drink I looked him in the eye and said "thank you for buying me a drink" left it sitting on the bar and walked away. I just don't know why people can't accept that not everyone drinks.

Consider me harsh but these people deserve to be ostracized. Everyone knows that drunk people cannot give real consent to sex and these people are deliberately trying to make someone so drunk they're unable to give a fully conscious response. That is rape. These people are rapists in waiting and deserve the worst.

I worked at a bar in the 90s when rufies first emerged on the Denver scene. A woman came in alone. Ten minutes later two were hauling her limp body and lolling head out to their car in the parking lot. I told them to stop and they wouldn't. I jumped in my car and pulled in front of them. They backed up, I turned and rammed their car with mine (they had a new Audi, I had a rusty Volvo). They stopped and pulled her out, I walked over to her and they sped off. Fortunately someone got their license plate. An ambulance took her to the hospital. I ended up in court because I rammed their car. The judge came outside to look at the damage, then we went in and he produced the police report about the drugging. He gaveled and awarded me $1000. One of the guys objected and he gaveled and shouted $3000! They objected and he raised it to $5000. They shut up. When they appeared for the drugging trial, they each got 30 days in jail and a year's probation. The woman didn't remember anything.

Without disputing the claim, and with empathy for those of you that have to deal with that bull s**t, can I add that not every guy is looking to take advantage of you or intoxicate you, some of us are just nervous/intimidated and are trying to find a way to start a conversation with someone they're interested with, and an non alcoholic drink or some food would be equally as effective for that. If she'd replied to me with those options, I'd just be happy that I hadn't been instantly rejected.

Remenber one date. They ask IF i drink and i answer "anytime but the bottle must be open in front of me". First they laught then they think about how it's a essential safety measure

"Do you want to go for a drink sometime?" is page 1 of the script of basic dating for at least the past 100 years, and now it's a red flag for spotting predators? Speaking as an insecure guy, I just became even more nervous about trying to talk to any girl, lest she think I'm a rapist. Thanks, BP. :\

What about a light cider?? 3% alcohol.

this is stupid.... no one is standing by not saying anything when some dude is sayin "maker her drinks stronger, i am trying to get lucky," dude would get crucified, especially in today's atmosphere. Second the reason it is easy to offer a drink in a bar is bc generally people are already drinking, and you know they will need another drink, so its an easy way to get permission to strike up a conversation for a few. I have never bought a girl a drink with the explicit intention of getting her drunk to make her "easier". Generally in the bar scene everyone does a pretty good job of lowering their inhibitions on their own. Another shame the men post, so typical of this sight.

I'm wondering how many great love relationships, families, children was born from situations where men bought alcoholic drinks for women (yes, for making her feel better, feel less stressed with all its side-effects) and those women intentionally accepted this, because they wanted to be less stressful and wanted to feel good. Now you're telling women not to do this, test men, because that's just a horrifing trap? :) Come on, that's why we have been producing spirits for everyone for that many years. To feel less stress and be a bit more open with others at least for that night.

“Getting lucky”? The trauma so severe that cause some women to commit suicide? Lucky? Men are su+h sociopaths.