It’s 2020 and a fresh new decade has started. However, this doesn’t mean that absolutely everything will be different right from the get-go. People will still be imperfect and things like stereotypes and misinformation will still exist.

That’s why the ‘What Women Don’t Want From Men’ hashtag exists on Twitter—it’s a reminder from women about what not to do and what not to act like. Bored Panda collected some of the very best tweets with this hashtag, so scroll down, and upvote the ones you think are right. And read on for our interviews with Elizabeth Arif-Fear, writer and founder of the Voice of Salam which promotes interfaith humanity and human rights, as well as with Suzanne Degges-White, professor and chair in the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University.

Be sure to check out our previous article about men talking about which myths about them are 100% not true. And let us know in the comments below what you think of the ‘What Women Don’t Want From Men’ hashtag, and whether you believe the tweets are accurate or if they revolve around stereotyping men.

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Colin Leetham
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9 months ago

No kidding. Partnership is equal.

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Molly Porter
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9 months ago

This is so true!!!

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Kaisu
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9 months ago

Funny how with abortions Pro-lifers are seeking to punish the women, not the men who got them pregnant, as if they don't realise you need two people to make a baby. If a woman is punished for getting an abortion, then the man needs to be punished for getting get pregnant when she doesn't want to be.

KatKaleen
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9 months ago (edited)

I' ashamed to say that I never thought of that. Only women and doctors that perform the procedure are persecuted (prosecuted? Sorry, English isn't my native language)? It takes two to tango.

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Amberly Middlemiss
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9 months ago

it's not just men saying this. just sayin'

Amberly Middlemiss
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9 months ago

in fact the majority of pro lifers in America are women.

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Ivy D
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9 months ago

I would never get an abortion myself, but if someone else wants to who the fuck cares.

Amberly Middlemiss
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9 months ago

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people who give a damn about the unborn lives of innocent children car, that's who. (and surprise, we actually do care about the mothers life too.)

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Annabell H.
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8 months ago

I believe in using alternate forms of birth control first, and if they don’t work for some reason then getting an abortion. Other people have their own opinions and ideas on how to prevent pregnancy, which I respect.

Id row
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9 months ago

Holy crap, this should be #1. They should have zero say in the laws that govern our bodies and male judges should not preside over rape cases. They've proven time and time again that they are unfit.

Gin Marie
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9 months ago

Ana J., stop vomiting up all those anti choice lies. There have been various studies that estimate the rate of impregnation for ADULT women is roughly ten percent. The younger the victim, the more likely it is that an older family member is committing rape, and regularly at that. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_from_rape Wikipedia is useful as a starting point because it links to people who have actually studied the issue. No anti choice site can be trusted.

Monika Soffronow
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8 months ago

@Gin Mari, you cannot argue with a troll, nor with someone who is mentally unstable or with a fanatic, neither can you argue with a paid worker at a factory in Leningrad, oh, sorry, St Petersburg, churning out opinion swaying pseudo comments.

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8 months ago

If men could have abortions there would be fucking drive thrus!

Monika Soffronow
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8 months ago

So true! And can you imagine how different the mammogram would be if they had to have their pair of chunks squeezed between two plates???

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Patrick O'Brien
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8 months ago

My opinion is that anti-abortion is more about a control factor: some people just have to control people and if it weren't abortion, they would find another reason to exert control. And those who claim they are doing God's will, it's always struck me as absurd that God needs someone to do his will. Certainly, he should be able to manage for himself. Also, the assumption that God does not condone abortion flies in the face of thousand of years of human history, during which time human beings have been slaughtering one another without as much as a peep from God. How can you claim that he cares about a fetus when he evidently has so little regard for human being killing one another otherwise? But this not the time or place for such a discuss. My apology.

India Frost
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9 months ago

I can't believe in 2020 this is still in anyway an argument. Female bodily autonomy should be a given. Period.

Trash Panda
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8 months ago

Are you listening Alabama and Texas?

Charlese Bonca
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9 months ago

I'm a woman and I'm a pro-lifer. Who said it's just men?

Amberly Middlemiss
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9 months ago

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only leftist feminists who hate pro lifers say it's just men. makes it easier to blame them for all of womens problems.

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YoyoSthlm
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9 months ago

Well if the man doesn't want the woman to have an abortion there should be a law so that the dad has to take care of the baby alone for the rest of its life.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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9 months ago

No that isn’t good enough. Women can die during child birth. Especially in the United States. It’s too dangerous to just wave away the part where she has to carry the baby and birth it. I’m not going to put my life at risk for a baby I’m not even keeping.

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Monika Soffronow
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8 months ago

Have they not heard how hard it is for people who have been adopted to feel and fear that their own birth mother did not want them? Have they no clue how hard it is for a mother to have to give her child up to foster care or adoption? Aren't they aware that growing up unwanted and in poverty is not seldom leading to a life on the wrong side of the law? But what do I know? After all, how can the economy keep growing unless the population keeps growing? I am so glad that abortion is not even an issue where I live. If you need one, you have one, free and available everywhere. The US evangelical fundamentalists must be green with envy of the political clout their counterparts in Iran have.

Gerry Higgins
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8 months ago

Not men's laws. Plenty of women are against abortion as well.

Raylene Mckenzie
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9 months ago

I think the main issue is that when is it a "baby" and when is it a life. Saying a bunch of cells coming together is murder if you then abort it, is in my opinion incorrect. It would in time, become a baby. But early days it's not yet. So yes. Women should have a choice. The men who got then pregnant should have responsibility too. But to say that anyone who aborts is a murderer is not true.

Elizabeth Dunlop
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9 months ago

I feel the Pro-lifers don't understand that the babies aren't always wanted. Some young people simply aren't able to be parents, or they don't have the funds to raise a child. In the worst cases, people who are victims of rape are in difficult situations. They often don't want the children, because even though they might want the children, it could be a constant reminder of their traumatic experience. They might also be too young, for example, a 13-year-old girl giving birth is frankly sad to see because she should not be a mother that young. Pro-lifers are trying to make the decisions for a woman's body and future when she should be making the choice herself. It's her body and her life, and she should be the only one to decide.

Full Name
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8 months ago

This is so disingenuous it's insane. HEY ASSHOLES: THE PRO LIFE PEOPLE THINK IT'S A FUCKING SEPARATE HUMAN. How cynical can you be that you think they are trying to control your body. At least they are honest, unlike you.

Leah Helbig
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8 months ago

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Ok so if we make abortion legal across the board there are some double standards we have to get rid of first. 1 no one can be charged with double homicide when they kill a pregnant woman because according to most people here the fetus are not alive till birth the only difference is that the baby is a wanted baby huge double standard. 2 A man should have a say 1/2 that baby is his before an abortion that is a consequence of consensual sex the father should have to be notified and if he wants the child the mother shpuld have to carry it then signs rights over to the dad sorry feminists but thats equal rights. 3 what makes a person alive really everyone always says its because they cannot survive out of the womb or with out serious medical intervention when born early so what about people on dialysis people who are on life support or have a lvad heart device these people cannot survive with out these things and will die quickly so are they not really alive stop and think. Really think

Monika Soffronow
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7 months ago (edited)

What stupid drivel! Here are some FACTS: "In most parts of Europe abortion is allowed without restriction up to between 10 and 14 weeks’ gestation. In most countries abortions can be carried out beyond this point, but only on specific grounds." https://www.theguardian.com/world/2016/jan/05/abortion-laws-around-the-world-from-bans-to-easy-access

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Bean59
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8 months ago

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IF YOU DON'T WANT YOUR LIVING CHILD THEN GIVE IT TO ADOPTION DON'T JUST KILL IT!!!

Miklós Nagy
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9 months ago

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If you are against having a kid, don't make one....

EC Moustache
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9 months ago

Not all sex is consented to

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Daniel Lewis
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9 months ago

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But abortion is the act of forcibly controlling the body of an unborn baby.

Hilliary Smith
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9 months ago

If you're going to say that, then lack of abortion is forcibly controlling the body of women.

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daniel280456
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9 months ago

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I love it when dumb, irresponsible women get abortions.

Ian Smith
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9 months ago

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All laws control people's bodies...

Leo H
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9 months ago

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Their laws? Huh..alot of women hold power ..abortions are legal..soooooo yeah

Shawn
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9 months ago

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If we can't have any say don't expect or ask for child support if they didn't want it.

earringnut
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9 months ago

If a woman gets an abortion why would anyone be paying child support?

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Elizabeth Arif-Fear, writer and founder of the Voice of Salam which promotes interfaith humanity and human rights, told Bored Panda that the main things that make women lose respect for men are a misogynistic attitude and lack of respect for people around them.

Bored Panda was also interested to hear Arif-Fear’s opinion about what character traits she’d like all men to have. This is what she had to say: “Egalitarian values, respect for women and all human beings, kindness, compassion, loyalty. A sense of humor is also good, as is a bit of romance.”

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Daria B
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9 months ago

Unless you're a professional photographer she hired.

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Kaisu
Community Member
9 months ago

Babysitting implies it's a job for you, something you do a for a few hours. No mom talks about babysitting their kids, but I've heard many dads say this. It's not babysitting, it's you spending time with and taking care of your own damn kids.

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Kaisu
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9 months ago

Guys will also make fun of teenage girls crying and being emotional about seeing/meeting a band they like, but then the same guys will get emotional if their favourite football team wins or loses

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The founder of the Voice of Salam had some advice on how parents should raise their sons. “Raise them with a sense of positive masculinity and egalitarian values. Positive masculinity, to teach them that it's ok to cry, that they should not be scared of their feelings, that they should be proud of who they are and that being a man doesn't mean controlling or feeling threatened by women.”

“Raise them as proud feminists with an ethos of positive masculinity. This leaves no room for misogyny or misandry either. Avoid rigid toxic gender stereotypes—let them develop as individuals into who they are, whilst nurturing a sense of strong respect for them and people of all sexes and genders.”

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Kaisu
Community Member
9 months ago

That's why if a guy offers to buy me a drink, I accept but immediately tell him not to expect anything, I'm not going to sleep with him. The offer for the drink is usually taken back pretty quickly.

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Kaisu
Community Member
9 months ago

Anyone who says we don't need feminism anymore are either really ignorant or really misogynistic. We need feminism until there's equality and until women stop being treated like lesser humans everywhere in the world

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BusLady
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9 months ago

And they will keep arguing until you "understand."

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Arif-Fear continued: “I'd like to add that raising sons to be feminists (knowing what that really means) and to respect all women and people of all genders and sexualities, is not just about teaching young men to respect women, but also critically teaching and modeling a sense of positive masculinity. Men should not feel 'ashamed' to cry or ashamed to be male due to the suffering of women.”

“Rigid gender norms need to be addressed. Equality, compassion, and respect for everyone should be taught, including (and due to the state of society today) a spotlight on how to treat women, women's rights, and what makes a good son, brother, father, husband, friend, colleague, neighbor.”

“Raising sons as feminists and with a sense of positive masculinity should and must go hand in hand, whilst also allowing for gender fluidity, individualism and ignoring rigid gender stereotypes,” Arif-Fear explained her position.

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nanashi
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9 months ago

or assumed that all women wanted to be mothers.

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kurisutofu
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9 months ago

Unfortunately, there are many women who would disagree with her.

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Nela Rothenbach
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9 months ago

That reminds me of a plumber that came to fix my clogged sink. I told him how and why it was clogged and that he couldn't fix it by changing the siphon which he just did and left. It was worse afterwards. I called the company so they would fix it. When I explained what had happened the other plumber just shook his head. Ended up changing the whole pipe.

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Now that we know some of the things that women don’t want, what are the things that women do need? “There are a couple of different types of cross-gender, non-romantic relationships. There are true platonic friends and then there are the friends-with-benefits friends,” Degges-White told Bored Panda. “In true platonic friendships, compared to FWB relationships, there is typically a lot more investment of time and energy in the relationship’s well-being. Compared to what they offer their FWBs, true friends are more likely to offer emotional support and constructive feedback; help out each other more often; share their feelings and seek support from one another; and involve one another in their larger social network.”

“Women typically do not need to “co-opt” a male friend’s attention and time, as they typically do in a romantic relationship. In romantic relationships, women tend to expect more exclusive attention from their partners and also they engage in more “territorial” behaviors than they would in a friendship. These might include engaging in PDAs and expecting a romantic partner to be receptive to these shows of affection as well as expecting a partner to initiate these as well. Women might also expect their romantic partners to prioritize them in ways that they do not expect friends to do—while we totally get that friends have other friends and busy lives, women may expect their romantic partners to put her ahead of others and other commitments in their lives.”

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Maria Rohlen
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9 months ago

Any man who says that should get grabbed by the nuts, hard!

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pusheen buttercup
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9 months ago

It's winter, I'm not shaving xD "you" shave! (If the guys had to shave like we did... Well some do. I'm sure they don't like it either :p expensive and tedious)

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El Dee
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9 months ago

'Active Listening' underrated and super rare..

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The professor continued: “In essence, friendships imply less concentrated/focused attention between the two people; a lot fewer discussions about the relationship itself—“defining the relationship” isn’t typically necessary in open and clear friendships; and no worries about a friend’s flirtation or sexual interest in other women.”

“Romantic relationships, however, often require partners to talk about the state/status of their relationship. There are also expectations about monogamy, fear of infidelity, and level of commitment/permanency of the relationship. However, the healthiest romantic relationships also include the basic elements of a healthy friendship—with the added bonus of mutual romantic and sexual attraction. Typically, romantic partners expect one another to prioritize their needs over those of friends and to devote time and attention to the relationship in ways that they would never expect friends to do.”

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Kaisu
Community Member
9 months ago

These types of guys don't actually respect you, because respect isn't currency. All you should get back with respect is mutual respect, that's it.

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similarly
Community Member
9 months ago

Lol, my Dad used to use the term "all dolled up" ... but not about women. He used it about himself whenever he got dressed up to go somewhere. I find myself doing the same. I don't use the term about other people, just myself, lol.

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Aki Ryosuke
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9 months ago

Cut your hair short and don’t ogle every man you see? apparently you’re a lesbian

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According to professor Degges-White, the number one thing that most likely leads to women losing respect for men is “duplicity which leads to a loss of trust. This can be enacted through promises that aren’t kept, untruths that are told, or emotional or actual infidelity—sexual or platonic.”

She added: “Once a person has lost trust in another, respect evaporates just as quickly.”

“Cross-gender friendships can be awesome as they provide women and men with new perspectives, however research suggests that both genders fear that a partner’s cross-gender friendship will lead to infidelity,” Degges-White said. “However, women and men both believe that they can maintain a platonic friendship with a cross-gender friend. The important thing for partners to do with one another is to be open and upfront about their friendships with people of the opposite gender. If you try to hide a friendship, partners will assume that you are trying to hide something even bigger than “just a friendship.”

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Lisa loves cats
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9 months ago

Being a parent is a full time job, either you take it or you dont, you are not a babysitter to your own child.

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Krazy Kanuck
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9 months ago

Abuse is something no one wants. BUT Men are less likely to report a woman abusing him, because it is less likely that anyone will believe him.

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Maria
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9 months ago

I see at least four blokes in this picture.

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Degges-White looked at what women aged 18 to 75 need from the men in their lives.

According to the professor, women look for fairly similar qualities in romantic partners that they look for in male friends: they want to be treated fairly. But there are some differences in what women expect and need from men depending on the closeness of their relationships with them.

Dr. Degges-White explains that women expect all the men they meet in their lives to have moral integrity. Meanwhile, they also value “relational sensitivity” when it comes to male friends and partners. But when it comes to romantic partners, what the professor describes as “satisfying intimacy” is incredibly important to keep “the romantic spark burning.”

“Women should be given the same respect that men offer other men. When a person is made to feel disrespected or patronized, the relationship is likely to end sooner rather than later. In terms of romantic relationships, even when you’re angry or disappointed by a partner, respect should be maintained,” professor Degges-White explains.

The professor continued: “Women need men to show kindness, patience, understanding, empathy, and compassion. Regardless of the type of relationship, men and women should be considerate of each other's feelings.”

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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9 months ago

“Looking” isn’t harassment. Everyone looks and glances around at people and objects. Staring and being a nasty piece of shit is.

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Kaisu
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9 months ago

The reason they do certain stuff in porn is because they get PAID. Don't expect every regular woman to want to do all the gross stuff you see in porn

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Kaisu
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9 months ago

Female orgasm actually does serve a reproductive purpose so even that's not an excuse for guys to be selfish in bed anymore

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Bored Panda also talked to Jacqui, for whom loyalty and respect are the most important qualities for men to have. "I would like men to appreciate what they have and be loyal and honest with not just their partner but themselves and although women can be just as bad these days. I'm speaking from my own perspective and I am old-school and loyalty is a big thing to me. And a lot if men I come across seem to be lacking this quality and others. Which has resulted in my being single for a long time."

"I have a son and I always have taught him and he knows that being honest is the best thing to do and be. As you will always be respected more for telling the truth. And that one woman is enough for any man. And that no matter what neither party should accept any kind of abuse or lack of putting there needs first. And always remember if treat her like Queen she will will treat you like a King."

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Erin Sheppard
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9 months ago

This one is too real.

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Jason M
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9 months ago

I'd say there are some men/women who want the "Dominance" but more in more of a "kink" situation.

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pusheen buttercup
Community Member
9 months ago

Oh my God I couldn't agree more. Telling someone- anyone- to calm down has never been a good idea for me. You need to be more constructive than that- or leave them alone, normally one of those.

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Jacqui continued: "All men are not the same: some men do appreciate and man-up, own and hold the own. It just seems these men are already spoken for. Maybe I've just had bad luck. So sometimes being very loyal and everything in one is sometimes not good enough for men. But this can also apply to women. In this day and age, I believe that males and females can be as bad as each other."

"But the sad thing is when someone as loyal and decent as myself who just wants a happy, settled life seems to get a kick in the teeth. Don't you find that this is common? Maybe they have been hurt too much, as I know I have, and stayed single for years because of it, but it seems no matter what you do or how secure I try to let them feel, pride is a big thing with men also. If you really love, care, appreciate, and value each other, then it shouldn't so hard. If it takes too much effort and drags you down, then it's nothing more than a toxic unhealthy relationship that will end in disaster. Men can be selfish and women, too. But sometimes you have to grow up and stop that nonsense and learn that if you can't be what your partner needs, let them go."

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Ola Polowczyk
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9 months ago

Don't. Tap. Me. On. My. Shoulder. Don't touch me. Seriously. I can hear an "excuse me"

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Octavia Hansen
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9 months ago

Every time a man says he wants an old fashioned women . . . I agree to quit my job, stay home or shop at my convenience and wait for him to die early and leave me EVERYTHING. But that's not what they had in mind . . .

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earringnut
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9 months ago

Damn straight.

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