Woman Sends Her Wedding Guests A List Of Rules She Wants Them To Follow, And Many Start Canceling

This exactly.

I've found the more detailed and fussy people make the wedding, the shorter the marriage lasts.

Before the smart phone era people either had fewer "child free" weddings and generally a lot of people lived closer to family, so weren't leaving their kids with a babysitter who wasn't family. I personally don't find the phone thing reasonable as no way am I making myself uncontactable for what would effectively be an entire day and evening when I have a child.

Before cell phones, venues had phone numbers that the public readily had access to, would put it on the fridge for the babysitter, the babysitter would call and the venue would track down the parent to take the phone call. Betting the bride didn't include this option in the invitation.

I look awful in black, like I'm sick. Why should I spend the day, having photos taken of me, photos that are most likely going to be shared on social media, looking like I'm sick and also being self-conscious that I don't look good? I would understand asking people to avoid one specific color (for example: white because it's the bride's, black because it's for funerals, purple because you're superstitious, or a color you hate), it's OK, they have many more colors to choose, but imposing one and only one color is absurd. And it also mean that some people would have to spend money to buy new garments, if they own no clothes in that color. For example, I only have black pants, but zero tops nor dresses in black. I'd have to buy something that I know I'm not gonna wear again just for your wedding? Yeah, no.

I don't have an issue with asking people to wear black. But demanding that wedding guests wear tuxedos? FOH

The no phones during the ceremony makes perfect sense as some idiot will inevitably stand up to take a picture and ruin the shot for the paid photographer. They don't necessarily have to be off, just on silent or airplane mode.

Nailed it!!

Yes. I hate this whole, “Today is my day,” thing. It’s a celebration of friends and family to share in the joy. We didn’t think about children attending and when they did, we took it as a blessing for own in the future. Photos were real and joyous not stiffly posed and common.

Planning out every single aspect of your wedding seems like a great way to have a boring a*s wedding. Obviously things should be planned out but it's not a stage play. Micro-managing every little thing is needless stress you're giving yourself. Weddings should be a fun, celebratory occasion. Demanding people not be on their phones at the reception just makes what should be fun not. And, what, the bride is going to spend the entirety of that time policing people? WTF

I did supervise my husband's haircut (the barber and the fiance were sweethearts about "I just don't want him looking geeky in the pictures") and that he rent an extra nice suit. I vetoed a sister-in-law's idea for guests in costumes. A bit much.

I like the "common sense" rule. Wear formal clothes, have the right dress if it's a night vs day wedding, when in doubt a nice cocktail dress is unlikely to get complaints, or a formal pantsuit or suit if you're not much for dresses. No insanely high heels and no overly sexy dresses (It's a wedding not a nightclub), and don't wear the same colour dress as the bride which in the west and Japan is usually white, but in some cultures like China and India is usually red. It's that simple show up and look presentable for the occasion.