Wedding Photographer Shares Working Horror Story When A Guest Won’t Let Her Do Her Job
If someone purposefully chooses a career, it must be because they like it or are good at it. And one of the most frustrating things for a professional is when someone who read an article on the internet or just started getting interested in the subject tries to explain to them how to do their job.
Apparently, wedding photographers get that a lot. They call people who aren’t hired to take photos at weddings, but still want to take every shot of the event Uncle Bobs. Uncle Bobs also like to explain what the professionals are doing wrong and often interfere with their work.
The photographer in this story had to deal with a very annoying Uncle Bob who not only explained to her how to do her job properly and was touching her equipment without her permission, but also made the bride quite unhappy.
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A wedding photographer shared a story of an Uncle Bob mansplaining to her and not letting her do her job
Image credits: Kristina Paukshtite (not the actual photo)
A wedding photographer shared an unpleasant experience she had while working and it involved the infamous Uncle Bob, a person at a wedding that is not hired to be a photographer, but takes as many pictures as the professional and can be a little or of great annoyance to them.
No sooner was this photographer able to set up her equipment and Uncle Bob showed up to take matters in his own hands.
Firstly, photographers tend to shoot the dress and the accessories while they’re not being worn. So she was arranging the things how she would like them in the photo, but in Uncle Bob’s opinion, the lighting was too dark for the shot.
This comment is not that big of a deal, because photographers think not only about the actual shot but also what they will do with the photo in a photo editor. The problem was that Uncle Bob decided that he needed the dress and took it right out from under the photographer’s nose and disappeared.
It started with a comment about lighting and soon he was taking things from the photoshoot set that the photographer arranged and even barked at her
Uncle Bob proceeded to also take the flowers and the rings, not letting do her job. On top of that, he started yelling and claiming that the photographer didn’t know what she was doing and was ruining his niece’s photos.
There definitely are photographers that are better at doing their job and there are ones that are less good. Also, people may have preferences how they would like their photos to look; however, in this case, it seems that Uncle Bob just wasn’t the nicest person as he barked at the photographer when she didn’t let him have the rings.
Apparently Uncle Bob had been shooting for two weeks and had a new camera
Turns out, Uncle Bob thought he was a photographer too and that was why he was so dissatisfied with the hired one’s job, as he had a new camera and two weeks of experience.
He was so into it that he even allowed himself to move around the expensive equipment that was set up by the real professional.
So he probably thought that he had everything he needed to allow himself to touch someone else’s gear
Uncle Bob also made the photographer miss the first kiss shot because he tripped and even blamed her because he also didn’t get the shot
Well, she just had to make the best of the situation because there was no time to set it up again as the ceremony was about to begin.
But Uncle Bob managed to cause even more trouble. He trips on a cord, missed the shot himself, made the photographer miss it, and put all the blame on her.
But there is a happy ending to this story. Despite everything being a mess thanks to Uncle Bob, the photographer’s assistant was busy and documenting Uncle Bob’s behavior.
Not only that, but the assistant got the most important shot—the first kiss. For the other photos it was possible to edit Uncle Bob out, so they didn’t turn out that bad.
However, his misbehavior didn’t go unnoticed and the photographer’s assistant got everything, including him putting the dress on grass and more importantly, the first kiss picture
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At the end, the photos were saved, the most important shots taken, and the truth came out that the hired photographer was doing everything in her power to do her job and it was Uncle Bob who was messing things up.
What do you think of this story? Do you think the wedding photographer was too harsh on Uncle Bob or did he get what was coming for him? Let us know in the comments.
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"mansplained" is hardly what happened. This man sabotaged the photos. He shouldn't even have been there for the detail shots.
Well, it sort of is, because he kept telling her how to do her job and insisting that she was ruining the shots.
Actually it could still apply, because of the likely fact that he wouldn't have said or done any of those things if she was a man instead. Men like him think women can't do anything.
Do you REALLY think he'd have behaved like that to a man?
OH yes I used to work wedding ceremonies at my church. The family expert would push the hired photographer and HE would have to push back.
Yes, but to a lesser degree
He thought he could do it better. The fact that she is a woman probably played a large part in the fact he didn't take her seriously as a professional.
yeah. it's just a stupid buzzword so people click on the article. this isn't even related to the photographer being a woman, Bob would've done what he did regardless...
Actually it could apply to the fact that he most likely wouldn't have said those things to a man. Men like him think women don't know what we're doing.
Would he bollocks. Uncle Bob bullied a woman because that's what Uncle Bob does. If the photographer or even the 2nd shooter had been a man he'd have been all over them asking for "advice" and "helping" them. Just as annoying and stupid in its own way but he wouldn't have dared to take matters into his own hands. Mansplainers always gonna mansplain...
I think he likely would have backed off a male photographer when asked
oh good, they changed the title
The word isn't even in the preview before you click on the link.
Mansplained is only one aspect of the problem. Bobwas certain he knew more about photography and was going to prove it. Perhaps he wanted to be the official photographer; the family wasn't impressed with his photos. Proving he was the better photographer was one problem, did he resent the bride or her family? Was he determined to publicly save the day with the best pictures? Upsetting the bride is the worst thing to do. Letting her enjoy the day is more important. But, the photographer needed support. A family member to deal with Uncle Bob the entire time. A good boss nurtures their assistant. Teaches them what do, then letting them do it. The photographer must have been good with people. Without proof, uncle Bob would emerge the winner. He probably knew how to spin the truth to his advantage. In my opinion, the photographer was exceptional. She did not ruin the day for the bride, had an incredible assistant, and provided the client with what they wanted.
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yeah, this is zero to do with mansplaining or even related to that. This is just an a-hole. The problem with sites like Bored Panda when using terms like "mansplaining" is; "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” -Inigo Montoya
How ironic - a man excusing another man from mansplaining to a professional woman and then telling all the women that they don't understand what mansplaining is.
Honestly, the photographer let it go too far. She should have talked to the groom or the mother of the bride, telling them the situation, and saying she wasn't able to do her job properly under these circumstances, and would miss many important shots if it kept up. The bride didn't have to get upset, but it would have been DEALT with. Letting this goon just run roughshod over the whole show was unprofessional on her part.
Big assumption that anyone in that family would step up to Uncle Bob....
I'd have included a bill for anything Uncle Bob broke. She really was too patient with him. Honestly, this made me so mad I might not be able to sleep tonight
She was hired to take pictures, not for family therapy time. Way to victim blame.
The story says that a family member spoke to the photographer and told her to give Bob space, that he's a photographer also and she asked them how long and was told two weeks.
I'm amazed she didn't leave after that.
I agree, she should have tried to get someone to put that man in his place.
That could've escalated an already touchy situation and ruined the day- which the photographer mentioned in the article
if she stopped to do that, she would have missed doing her job which was taking pictures
No couple wants to deal with that kind of crap on their wedding day. Plus, how would she know the families wouldn’t be on Uncle Bob‘s side?
I'm an architectural photographer, for about 15 years, primarily Baroque cathedrals. Pretty niche. Took me years to get good. There is NO WAY I'd interfere with a wedding photographer - way too weird and intimidating for me. Lol. I'd just have to punch Uncle Bob in the kisser and beat him over the head with my Leica. You have the patience of a Saint.
My adult daughter is an architectural and nature photographer. She would NEVER interfere with a wedding photographer. She knows her eye is fantastic for her chosen fields, but not for photographing humans. That's not her experience.
I was just saying this. I was at a family wedding weeks ago. I was doing the videography (25 year photo vet) because they didn’t have anyone to do that and the venue required they have a venue photographer. I also met with the photographer before the wedding so that I didn’t step on toes (she’s the one who was hired, she’s the one in charge) and she was super easy going about it. We even had a couple conversations during the event about how it’s difficult for some of us to be confrontational or run the business part of the photo world. Just a super easy event.
Your turn Randolph, get some of your photos up, that’s the sort of content I’m sure I’m not alone in liking!
NOT the Leica At those prices it gets a lot of TLC
"mansplained" is hardly what happened. This man sabotaged the photos. He shouldn't even have been there for the detail shots.
Well, it sort of is, because he kept telling her how to do her job and insisting that she was ruining the shots.
Actually it could still apply, because of the likely fact that he wouldn't have said or done any of those things if she was a man instead. Men like him think women can't do anything.
Do you REALLY think he'd have behaved like that to a man?
OH yes I used to work wedding ceremonies at my church. The family expert would push the hired photographer and HE would have to push back.
Yes, but to a lesser degree
He thought he could do it better. The fact that she is a woman probably played a large part in the fact he didn't take her seriously as a professional.
yeah. it's just a stupid buzzword so people click on the article. this isn't even related to the photographer being a woman, Bob would've done what he did regardless...
Actually it could apply to the fact that he most likely wouldn't have said those things to a man. Men like him think women don't know what we're doing.
Would he bollocks. Uncle Bob bullied a woman because that's what Uncle Bob does. If the photographer or even the 2nd shooter had been a man he'd have been all over them asking for "advice" and "helping" them. Just as annoying and stupid in its own way but he wouldn't have dared to take matters into his own hands. Mansplainers always gonna mansplain...
I think he likely would have backed off a male photographer when asked
oh good, they changed the title
The word isn't even in the preview before you click on the link.
Mansplained is only one aspect of the problem. Bobwas certain he knew more about photography and was going to prove it. Perhaps he wanted to be the official photographer; the family wasn't impressed with his photos. Proving he was the better photographer was one problem, did he resent the bride or her family? Was he determined to publicly save the day with the best pictures? Upsetting the bride is the worst thing to do. Letting her enjoy the day is more important. But, the photographer needed support. A family member to deal with Uncle Bob the entire time. A good boss nurtures their assistant. Teaches them what do, then letting them do it. The photographer must have been good with people. Without proof, uncle Bob would emerge the winner. He probably knew how to spin the truth to his advantage. In my opinion, the photographer was exceptional. She did not ruin the day for the bride, had an incredible assistant, and provided the client with what they wanted.
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yeah, this is zero to do with mansplaining or even related to that. This is just an a-hole. The problem with sites like Bored Panda when using terms like "mansplaining" is; "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” -Inigo Montoya
How ironic - a man excusing another man from mansplaining to a professional woman and then telling all the women that they don't understand what mansplaining is.
Honestly, the photographer let it go too far. She should have talked to the groom or the mother of the bride, telling them the situation, and saying she wasn't able to do her job properly under these circumstances, and would miss many important shots if it kept up. The bride didn't have to get upset, but it would have been DEALT with. Letting this goon just run roughshod over the whole show was unprofessional on her part.
Big assumption that anyone in that family would step up to Uncle Bob....
I'd have included a bill for anything Uncle Bob broke. She really was too patient with him. Honestly, this made me so mad I might not be able to sleep tonight
She was hired to take pictures, not for family therapy time. Way to victim blame.
The story says that a family member spoke to the photographer and told her to give Bob space, that he's a photographer also and she asked them how long and was told two weeks.
I'm amazed she didn't leave after that.
I agree, she should have tried to get someone to put that man in his place.
That could've escalated an already touchy situation and ruined the day- which the photographer mentioned in the article
if she stopped to do that, she would have missed doing her job which was taking pictures
No couple wants to deal with that kind of crap on their wedding day. Plus, how would she know the families wouldn’t be on Uncle Bob‘s side?
I'm an architectural photographer, for about 15 years, primarily Baroque cathedrals. Pretty niche. Took me years to get good. There is NO WAY I'd interfere with a wedding photographer - way too weird and intimidating for me. Lol. I'd just have to punch Uncle Bob in the kisser and beat him over the head with my Leica. You have the patience of a Saint.
My adult daughter is an architectural and nature photographer. She would NEVER interfere with a wedding photographer. She knows her eye is fantastic for her chosen fields, but not for photographing humans. That's not her experience.
I was just saying this. I was at a family wedding weeks ago. I was doing the videography (25 year photo vet) because they didn’t have anyone to do that and the venue required they have a venue photographer. I also met with the photographer before the wedding so that I didn’t step on toes (she’s the one who was hired, she’s the one in charge) and she was super easy going about it. We even had a couple conversations during the event about how it’s difficult for some of us to be confrontational or run the business part of the photo world. Just a super easy event.
Your turn Randolph, get some of your photos up, that’s the sort of content I’m sure I’m not alone in liking!
NOT the Leica At those prices it gets a lot of TLC