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Someone Perfectly Explained What Happens In A Relationship After “Butterflies” Go Away
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Meowton Mewsk 8 years ago
This actually helped me a lot. I had such intense and excessively strong butterfly emotions when I first fell head over heels in love with my boyfriend. After living together, and a couple years have passed, and life happened, that feeling definitely went away and I mourned it for a lot of reasons. I see people online who have been married years say they still get butterflies and it made me wonder if my love wasn't as special. But when I fell in love it was so strong that I couldn't eat or think. Not very sustainable 😄 This article helped me understand why this comfortable love is a natural progression and still just as fun and beautiful.
Leni 8 years ago
I've been with my hubbie for 9 years now, and that heavy chemical reaction of being in love was fun, but the love that comes after is more valuable if you ask me. Yeah sometimes I still get butterflies but it's rare, and I honestly don't miss them all that much. My husband is always there for me and I can rely on him. We always choose for each other. We have kids together and that made our love stronger too. But in every day life it just means accepting each other the way we are, farts and nastiness and emotional baggage included, while trying to grow together. It's just a lot deeper than my brain responding to someone's pheromones 😜
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Mark Fuller 8 years ago
Thank god I'm not alone!! After nearly 12 years I have to keep reminding my husband that he can't have a Disney romance on repeat for the rest of our lives. It simply doesn't work like that. He seems distressed by the fact that things are "different" - but of course they are! We are different; life is different; the world as we know it has changed a lot since we met. Love - on the other hand - is about knowing that there's is no one else you'd rather have spent those years with. And how much you look forward to enjoying many more years together.
Kathy Snowdon 8 years ago
My husband and I have been married for almost 36 years now We definitely do not have too many of those butterfly moments but a comfortable sense of security I know I can always depend on him to be there when I need him. We raised two kids together, one with Aspergers and one with Type 1 diabetes and never once did he leave me to struggle with their issues by myself. We worked through things together A few years ago he was hospitalized with a serious illness and I realized right then how much I would miss him if he was gone. We still laugh a lot together, enjoy a lot of the same music and TV show and talk about our memories as we grow old together. This is what marriage is about people; yes you fight and bicker about stupid things, but he pretty much accepts me the way I am warts and all as I do him. I am a lucky lucky woman. Never once did he consider "cutting and running" when things got tough and nor did I, even there were many times things seemed impossible. Love you Joe.
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BREAK YOUr perceptions 8 years ago
thank you for the eloquent post. i have been with my now fiancee for 7+ years and been living together for 5+. we are both high stress individuals but we find so much comfort in each others arms and when we are alone in our room we feel truly at peace. but even while we are chilling doing different things we will just glance at the other once in awhile and smile and if our eyes meet we blow each other kisses. its the little things that make love the best thing to ever exist.
Harlean Greathouse 8 years ago
I guess that I am insane, then. I was married for 54 years and the butterflies were always there. He has been in Heaven now for 3 years, and memories still give me butterflies. I felt them for the first time the minute I met him, and married him 3 weeks later. For the entire 54 years of our marriage, we shared a bed and slept exactly as the article talks about. ....Skin against skin with legs and arms twisted around each other. We worked side by side and slept side by side our entire married lives. And that is not to say there were disagreements and arguments, but very few, and mostly about unimportant things, and we never went to bed angry with each other. I have always felt especially blessed because you don't see many marriages like this. In fact, we used to remark about so many married friends that they were just 2 people sharing the same house. My feeling of calmness and security was him holding me close.
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Teija 8 years ago
I've been with my hubby for 8 years now. Sure the butterfly phase was awesome but this is so much better. I had 4 kids when I met him and he had one. So the reality stepped in quite fast. He's a loving dad for our kids and an awesome husband. Though we have ups and downs we have fun, we laugh a lot and share the same kind of twisted humor. Love, laugh, respect, accept.
navy 8 years ago
It is wonderful! Always feel so great to listen some good love stories! Send my love to your loving family!
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sunnyrei82 8 years ago
10 years together. And this definitely describes it perfectly. I specially liked the part about feeling calm, secure, at "home". SO TRUE.
Andi Sobek Cohen 8 years ago
This describes my relationship and marriage with my husband perfectly!
Blue Hippo 8 years ago
Try to catch a kiss with a 3 yr old and a 9 month old between you. Oh did I mention the 13 yr old snoring like he's trying to start a fire in the rain with his breath! Lol get sum kids then holla! P.S. My wife still makes my heart flutter, all she have to do is look my way.
Orifiel Blancarte 8 years ago
I've been married to my husband for five years, and we've been together for almost eight. Our relationship started out differently than most. We began dating after moving on from traumatic previous relationships. There was no fire, no passion, no overt romance. We were single and bored, so we decided to get together and see how long we would last. Over time, we went from apathetic and blase toward each other to developing a slow, deep bond of warmth and intimacy. We've never been head over heels, but as the years passed, we noticed how much we did and sacrificed for the other's happiness. Caring gestures here and there, major life decisions to benefit the relationship, all done without us even meaning to... these things gradually became evident. Today, we're nearly inseparable. We've built a life we didn't predict we'd have, and it's still amusing to us that in the beginning, we didn't even care whether we worked out or not.
alex shepelenko 8 years ago
i agree except the part about sleeping together, god damn i hate to sleep on a bad with another person. all ways pushing and stealing the pillows and the blankets! and then in the morning she goes like... " i didn't get sleep because of your!" Oo what a great 10 years its bean...
Lynda Kristina 8 years ago
I have been married 33 years now and this sounds just like my husband and I. And we are so in love with each other! 💗
Teresa Miguel 8 years ago
I am 48 years old, a mother, grandmother and girlfriend! I have been with my boyfriend for 20 months, living together for the last two. Twenty months ago and for more then year I always felt butterflies every time he kissed me or hold me, but maybe because I am older the most important feeling I felt and still feel is true love, kinder spirits, he is my best friend, he is home for me! He is what I always look for!! So you shouldn't never give up on love!!
Elena Panicz 8 years ago
Interesting. I am living with my husband for three years and still getting butterflyes, we are writing confessions of love every single day and cuddle each other. Maybe it will change with time, maybe it won't. After all - my friends and family were telling me that it changes after first year living together =)
navy 8 years ago
This is romantic! I hope your relationship stay beautiful forever.
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Lalex Lamort 6 years ago
Where is the post? I pinned it long time ago and now its just a title with empty article for me!
Lalex Lamort 6 years ago
Where's the arcticle? I pinned it long time ago but it's empty for me!
Dr.abel Justus (PAPA JUSTUS.) 6 years ago
This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me..My name is CAROLINE WAYNE. and I am based in NEW YORK , USA. My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me with our three children. I felt like my life was about to end,and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called papa Justus who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called Grace,she testified about how papa Justus brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she drop papa Justus e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give papa a try. I contacted h
Erica Fuentes 7 years ago
It's awesome and amazing. Getting my Ex Boyfriend back is what i least expected and could never imagine. I and my boyfriend have been into a relationship for five years and we have been living happily but all of a sudden he changed completely and turned away from me but i never knew what was going on, and i tried to ask him but he refused to tell me what the problem is, and as time went on he sought for a breakup. I was so worried and confused. During my search for a way out, a friend of mine who had similar problem told me about a great spell caster called Dr Adoda who helped her with her situation. I never use to believe in spell casting in my entire life because i never thought it will work but i tried to give this man a chance and to my greatest surprise Dr Adoda got me a positive result and he was able to get my ex boyfriend back to me. After the spell caster did his work, i discovered that my husband fell so much in love with me unlike before. This spell casting isn't brain was
Mary Kathy 8 years ago
Thank to you Dr.Voodoo for your great and powerful love spell you did for me to bring me lover back to me i never believed real spell caster still exist till i came across your email , {voodoospell10@gmail.com} has really prove to me that he is a great and powerful love spell caster among others i can say he is the best after William my husband came back after he left me and our son to be with another woman who works with he in same office , but with the powerful love spell from Dr .Voodoo my man is back to be again after 2 years of separation , ima say that anyone who has any kind of relationship or marriage problem or breakup heart break divorce issues should also contact this great man today Dr.Voodoo via his email {voodoospell10@gmail.com} or call (+2348135790702) for more information or WhatsApp with him......
kim campbell 8 years ago
I read some testimonies about a love spell caster by Dr.Osebor on how he has helped lots of people in bringing back their ex lovers within 48hours, Sincerely I was just thinking if that was real and if this man could really help bring back my lover whom I love so much. I decided to contact him because I love my boyfriend very much and we have been apart for a couple of months I really missed him so much, I have tried all other means to get him back but couldn’t.I contacted Dr.Osebor and he told me that my ex will come back to me in the next 48 hours,Dr.Osebor released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. My ex is now back to me again.As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up.All thanks goes to Dr.Osebor for the excessive oseborwinbacktemple@gmail.com
kim campbell 8 years ago
I read some testimonies about a love spell caster by Dr.Osebor on how he has helped lots of people in bringing back their ex lovers within 48hours, Sincerely I was just thinking if that was real and if this man could really help bring back my lover whom I love so much. I decided to contact him because I love my boyfriend very much and we have been apart for a couple of months I really missed him so much, I have tried all other means to get him back but couldn’t.I contacted Dr.Osebor and he told me that my ex will come back to me in the next 48 hours,Dr.Osebor released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. My ex is now back to me again.As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up.All thanks goes to Dr.Osebor for the excessive work that he has done for me by helping me
Ffaelan Condragh 8 years ago
Just today, my wife and I added 16 year kisses to the menu.
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Lynda Birmantas Beam 8 years ago
It made me cry....I lost my husband in January and we definitely had the little quirky message thing, and the kisses and the calmness with each other....
Michelle De Los Ríos 8 years ago
It's cute but at the same time their relationship looks like sibilings and not a couple.
Justin M. Wyse 8 years ago
The perfect thing about "Butterflies" is they show you that this is the person you should be with. Being married for 3.5 years has of course created lots of ups and downs, but at the end of the day, he is always there for me and stands by me no matter what. Relationships eb-and-flow throughout time. The Good Times, The Bad Times, The Sickness, The Wealth & The Poor... These are the things we agreed to no matter what. I love my husband dearly and nothing will change that. Our relationship is perfect for us, who cares what others think!
Doug Curtis 8 years ago
22 years....I knew those butterflies would go away, but those things you mention after the butterflies.... that's not happening either. :(
Shweta Venkatramani 8 years ago
I finds that vacations always help http://blog.advensure.io/couple-travel/
TeddyTheHuman 8 years ago
This is amazing. Anyone who bases a relationship on infatuation is likely to go very wrong. Speaking from personal experience. Being in love with someone and being infatuated are two different things. Learned this the hard way. 4 years of "butterflies" and when they were gone well so went out relationship.
Kizito Obeya 8 years ago
My marriage depresses me. I don't feel anything anymore. If I ever divorce, I won't remarry.
Leni 8 years ago
Get into therapy. Even if it doesn't fix your marriage you sound like it could help you a lot.
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Bobbi Newell 8 years ago
Butterflies in a different context signal nervousness, insecurity, or doubt. In a new relationship, they mean infatuation, which is filled with insecurity and doubt! Rather than being a bad thing that they fade, couples should find it comforting. It means they've grown, together, beyond the shallow stuff, they are finding a deeper intimacy, and what is left is a resounding YES. I've been married for 26 years, and I still hear that YES.
Nik Ifandisová 8 years ago
I am with my wife now for 4 years ..and I still feel the butterflies..and I still feel like I just met her yesterday..
Chase Laughrey 8 years ago
Hit me right in the feels. My gf of 4.5 years broke up with me last week because of this. She said she felt numb to me...
Jooly V 8 years ago
I disagree but only partially. Do not confuse love with comfort. Butterflies should be there, however faint, because if not it only means that your relationship has become a habit. A comfortable thing, like old slippers. Marriage doesn't and shouldn't change a thing - it's a technicality. Living together, however, is a game changer. I've been with my spouse/husband (we're not married) for 22 years. TWENTY-TWO years, and I'm just 43! I consider myself being at the crossroads now. The butterflies have gone.
Leni 8 years ago
Love is a choice in the end. Sounds like you've made yours.
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Luc Mailloux 8 years ago
Beautifully written. I had this once at 19 (young, sure, but it was real) and have been searching for it ever since (now 25). The girl wrote poetry and used that "hum" metaphor from the end of this description, so now I'm like super sentimental. What do you call the "hopeless romantic" that desires this as opposed to the over-hyped lustful stages?
Leni 8 years ago
Oh noess I have to read something. Someone help me find my attention span
Load More Replies... Meowton Mewsk 8 years ago
This actually helped me a lot. I had such intense and excessively strong butterfly emotions when I first fell head over heels in love with my boyfriend. After living together, and a couple years have passed, and life happened, that feeling definitely went away and I mourned it for a lot of reasons. I see people online who have been married years say they still get butterflies and it made me wonder if my love wasn't as special. But when I fell in love it was so strong that I couldn't eat or think. Not very sustainable 😄 This article helped me understand why this comfortable love is a natural progression and still just as fun and beautiful.
Leni 8 years ago
I've been with my hubbie for 9 years now, and that heavy chemical reaction of being in love was fun, but the love that comes after is more valuable if you ask me. Yeah sometimes I still get butterflies but it's rare, and I honestly don't miss them all that much. My husband is always there for me and I can rely on him. We always choose for each other. We have kids together and that made our love stronger too. But in every day life it just means accepting each other the way we are, farts and nastiness and emotional baggage included, while trying to grow together. It's just a lot deeper than my brain responding to someone's pheromones 😜
Load More Replies... Mark Fuller 8 years ago
Thank god I'm not alone!! After nearly 12 years I have to keep reminding my husband that he can't have a Disney romance on repeat for the rest of our lives. It simply doesn't work like that. He seems distressed by the fact that things are "different" - but of course they are! We are different; life is different; the world as we know it has changed a lot since we met. Love - on the other hand - is about knowing that there's is no one else you'd rather have spent those years with. And how much you look forward to enjoying many more years together.
Kathy Snowdon 8 years ago
My husband and I have been married for almost 36 years now We definitely do not have too many of those butterfly moments but a comfortable sense of security I know I can always depend on him to be there when I need him. We raised two kids together, one with Aspergers and one with Type 1 diabetes and never once did he leave me to struggle with their issues by myself. We worked through things together A few years ago he was hospitalized with a serious illness and I realized right then how much I would miss him if he was gone. We still laugh a lot together, enjoy a lot of the same music and TV show and talk about our memories as we grow old together. This is what marriage is about people; yes you fight and bicker about stupid things, but he pretty much accepts me the way I am warts and all as I do him. I am a lucky lucky woman. Never once did he consider "cutting and running" when things got tough and nor did I, even there were many times things seemed impossible. Love you Joe.
Load More Replies... BREAK YOUr perceptions 8 years ago
thank you for the eloquent post. i have been with my now fiancee for 7+ years and been living together for 5+. we are both high stress individuals but we find so much comfort in each others arms and when we are alone in our room we feel truly at peace. but even while we are chilling doing different things we will just glance at the other once in awhile and smile and if our eyes meet we blow each other kisses. its the little things that make love the best thing to ever exist.
Harlean Greathouse 8 years ago
I guess that I am insane, then. I was married for 54 years and the butterflies were always there. He has been in Heaven now for 3 years, and memories still give me butterflies. I felt them for the first time the minute I met him, and married him 3 weeks later. For the entire 54 years of our marriage, we shared a bed and slept exactly as the article talks about. ....Skin against skin with legs and arms twisted around each other. We worked side by side and slept side by side our entire married lives. And that is not to say there were disagreements and arguments, but very few, and mostly about unimportant things, and we never went to bed angry with each other. I have always felt especially blessed because you don't see many marriages like this. In fact, we used to remark about so many married friends that they were just 2 people sharing the same house. My feeling of calmness and security was him holding me close.
Load More Replies... Teija 8 years ago
I've been with my hubby for 8 years now. Sure the butterfly phase was awesome but this is so much better. I had 4 kids when I met him and he had one. So the reality stepped in quite fast. He's a loving dad for our kids and an awesome husband. Though we have ups and downs we have fun, we laugh a lot and share the same kind of twisted humor. Love, laugh, respect, accept.
navy 8 years ago
It is wonderful! Always feel so great to listen some good love stories! Send my love to your loving family!
Load More Replies... sunnyrei82 8 years ago
10 years together. And this definitely describes it perfectly. I specially liked the part about feeling calm, secure, at "home". SO TRUE.
Andi Sobek Cohen 8 years ago
This describes my relationship and marriage with my husband perfectly!
Blue Hippo 8 years ago
Try to catch a kiss with a 3 yr old and a 9 month old between you. Oh did I mention the 13 yr old snoring like he's trying to start a fire in the rain with his breath! Lol get sum kids then holla! P.S. My wife still makes my heart flutter, all she have to do is look my way.
Orifiel Blancarte 8 years ago
I've been married to my husband for five years, and we've been together for almost eight. Our relationship started out differently than most. We began dating after moving on from traumatic previous relationships. There was no fire, no passion, no overt romance. We were single and bored, so we decided to get together and see how long we would last. Over time, we went from apathetic and blase toward each other to developing a slow, deep bond of warmth and intimacy. We've never been head over heels, but as the years passed, we noticed how much we did and sacrificed for the other's happiness. Caring gestures here and there, major life decisions to benefit the relationship, all done without us even meaning to... these things gradually became evident. Today, we're nearly inseparable. We've built a life we didn't predict we'd have, and it's still amusing to us that in the beginning, we didn't even care whether we worked out or not.
alex shepelenko 8 years ago
i agree except the part about sleeping together, god damn i hate to sleep on a bad with another person. all ways pushing and stealing the pillows and the blankets! and then in the morning she goes like... " i didn't get sleep because of your!" Oo what a great 10 years its bean...
Lynda Kristina 8 years ago
I have been married 33 years now and this sounds just like my husband and I. And we are so in love with each other! 💗
Teresa Miguel 8 years ago
I am 48 years old, a mother, grandmother and girlfriend! I have been with my boyfriend for 20 months, living together for the last two. Twenty months ago and for more then year I always felt butterflies every time he kissed me or hold me, but maybe because I am older the most important feeling I felt and still feel is true love, kinder spirits, he is my best friend, he is home for me! He is what I always look for!! So you shouldn't never give up on love!!
Elena Panicz 8 years ago
Interesting. I am living with my husband for three years and still getting butterflyes, we are writing confessions of love every single day and cuddle each other. Maybe it will change with time, maybe it won't. After all - my friends and family were telling me that it changes after first year living together =)
navy 8 years ago
This is romantic! I hope your relationship stay beautiful forever.
Load More Replies... Lalex Lamort 6 years ago
Where is the post? I pinned it long time ago and now its just a title with empty article for me!
Lalex Lamort 6 years ago
Where's the arcticle? I pinned it long time ago but it's empty for me!
Dr.abel Justus (PAPA JUSTUS.) 6 years ago
This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me..My name is CAROLINE WAYNE. and I am based in NEW YORK , USA. My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me with our three children. I felt like my life was about to end,and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called papa Justus who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called Grace,she testified about how papa Justus brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she drop papa Justus e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give papa a try. I contacted h
Erica Fuentes 7 years ago
It's awesome and amazing. Getting my Ex Boyfriend back is what i least expected and could never imagine. I and my boyfriend have been into a relationship for five years and we have been living happily but all of a sudden he changed completely and turned away from me but i never knew what was going on, and i tried to ask him but he refused to tell me what the problem is, and as time went on he sought for a breakup. I was so worried and confused. During my search for a way out, a friend of mine who had similar problem told me about a great spell caster called Dr Adoda who helped her with her situation. I never use to believe in spell casting in my entire life because i never thought it will work but i tried to give this man a chance and to my greatest surprise Dr Adoda got me a positive result and he was able to get my ex boyfriend back to me. After the spell caster did his work, i discovered that my husband fell so much in love with me unlike before. This spell casting isn't brain was
Mary Kathy 8 years ago
Thank to you Dr.Voodoo for your great and powerful love spell you did for me to bring me lover back to me i never believed real spell caster still exist till i came across your email , {voodoospell10@gmail.com} has really prove to me that he is a great and powerful love spell caster among others i can say he is the best after William my husband came back after he left me and our son to be with another woman who works with he in same office , but with the powerful love spell from Dr .Voodoo my man is back to be again after 2 years of separation , ima say that anyone who has any kind of relationship or marriage problem or breakup heart break divorce issues should also contact this great man today Dr.Voodoo via his email {voodoospell10@gmail.com} or call (+2348135790702) for more information or WhatsApp with him......
kim campbell 8 years ago
I read some testimonies about a love spell caster by Dr.Osebor on how he has helped lots of people in bringing back their ex lovers within 48hours, Sincerely I was just thinking if that was real and if this man could really help bring back my lover whom I love so much. I decided to contact him because I love my boyfriend very much and we have been apart for a couple of months I really missed him so much, I have tried all other means to get him back but couldn’t.I contacted Dr.Osebor and he told me that my ex will come back to me in the next 48 hours,Dr.Osebor released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. My ex is now back to me again.As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up.All thanks goes to Dr.Osebor for the excessive oseborwinbacktemple@gmail.com
kim campbell 8 years ago
I read some testimonies about a love spell caster by Dr.Osebor on how he has helped lots of people in bringing back their ex lovers within 48hours, Sincerely I was just thinking if that was real and if this man could really help bring back my lover whom I love so much. I decided to contact him because I love my boyfriend very much and we have been apart for a couple of months I really missed him so much, I have tried all other means to get him back but couldn’t.I contacted Dr.Osebor and he told me that my ex will come back to me in the next 48 hours,Dr.Osebor released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. My ex is now back to me again.As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up.All thanks goes to Dr.Osebor for the excessive work that he has done for me by helping me
Ffaelan Condragh 8 years ago
Just today, my wife and I added 16 year kisses to the menu.
Load More Replies... Lynda Birmantas Beam 8 years ago
It made me cry....I lost my husband in January and we definitely had the little quirky message thing, and the kisses and the calmness with each other....
Michelle De Los Ríos 8 years ago
It's cute but at the same time their relationship looks like sibilings and not a couple.
Justin M. Wyse 8 years ago
The perfect thing about "Butterflies" is they show you that this is the person you should be with. Being married for 3.5 years has of course created lots of ups and downs, but at the end of the day, he is always there for me and stands by me no matter what. Relationships eb-and-flow throughout time. The Good Times, The Bad Times, The Sickness, The Wealth & The Poor... These are the things we agreed to no matter what. I love my husband dearly and nothing will change that. Our relationship is perfect for us, who cares what others think!
Doug Curtis 8 years ago
22 years....I knew those butterflies would go away, but those things you mention after the butterflies.... that's not happening either. :(
Shweta Venkatramani 8 years ago
I finds that vacations always help http://blog.advensure.io/couple-travel/
TeddyTheHuman 8 years ago
This is amazing. Anyone who bases a relationship on infatuation is likely to go very wrong. Speaking from personal experience. Being in love with someone and being infatuated are two different things. Learned this the hard way. 4 years of "butterflies" and when they were gone well so went out relationship.
Kizito Obeya 8 years ago
My marriage depresses me. I don't feel anything anymore. If I ever divorce, I won't remarry.
Leni 8 years ago
Get into therapy. Even if it doesn't fix your marriage you sound like it could help you a lot.
Load More Replies... Bobbi Newell 8 years ago
Butterflies in a different context signal nervousness, insecurity, or doubt. In a new relationship, they mean infatuation, which is filled with insecurity and doubt! Rather than being a bad thing that they fade, couples should find it comforting. It means they've grown, together, beyond the shallow stuff, they are finding a deeper intimacy, and what is left is a resounding YES. I've been married for 26 years, and I still hear that YES.
Nik Ifandisová 8 years ago
I am with my wife now for 4 years ..and I still feel the butterflies..and I still feel like I just met her yesterday..
Chase Laughrey 8 years ago
Hit me right in the feels. My gf of 4.5 years broke up with me last week because of this. She said she felt numb to me...
Jooly V 8 years ago
I disagree but only partially. Do not confuse love with comfort. Butterflies should be there, however faint, because if not it only means that your relationship has become a habit. A comfortable thing, like old slippers. Marriage doesn't and shouldn't change a thing - it's a technicality. Living together, however, is a game changer. I've been with my spouse/husband (we're not married) for 22 years. TWENTY-TWO years, and I'm just 43! I consider myself being at the crossroads now. The butterflies have gone.
Leni 8 years ago
Love is a choice in the end. Sounds like you've made yours.
Load More Replies... Luc Mailloux 8 years ago
Beautifully written. I had this once at 19 (young, sure, but it was real) and have been searching for it ever since (now 25). The girl wrote poetry and used that "hum" metaphor from the end of this description, so now I'm like super sentimental. What do you call the "hopeless romantic" that desires this as opposed to the over-hyped lustful stages?
Leni 8 years ago
Oh noess I have to read something. Someone help me find my attention span
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