Woman Worries Sister Will Sabotage Her Wedding Because Of Past Incident, Considers Uninviting Her

Many brides want their wedding day to go as smoothly as possible. Some aren’t even worried they’ll be branded a “bridezilla” in their pursuit of the perfect day. Still, almost 55% of couples have to make adjustments to their original wedding vision when something unexpected happens. And, most times, it does happen.

This woman’s BF proposed to her during her sister’s wedding some years ago. Now, as she is getting married herself, she’s worried her sister will pull a prank on her big day to get revenge. So, she asked the Internet whether it would be a jerk move to uninvite her sis and thus make sure the day goes smoothly.

A bride considered uninviting her sister to her wedding because of her “revenge” jokes

Image credits: Wavebreak Media / freepik (not the actual photo)

Years prior, the bride’s BF proposed at the sister’s wedding, and the bride feared the sister was going to pull something similar

Image credits: freepik (not the actual photo)

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Proposing or otherwise hogging all the attention at someone else’s wedding is a big no-no

The bride-to-be’s ex-boyfriend did the unforgivable – he proposed during someone else’s wedding. This and wearing white to a wedding are among the most commonly known wedding etiquette faux pas. While some people, like the minority of the commenters, might think that a bride’s reaction to something like that is “bridezilla behavior,” it’s still an opinion with which many people agree.

According to a 2023 YouGov survey, it’s the top sixth sin that Americans would consider inappropriate. In fact, 72% of the respondents think that guests should never propose to their partners during someone else’s wedding.

In one UK poll, Brits also think that a wedding should be about the bride and groom and not the guests. 38% of the respondents said that it’s annoying for guests to act like they’re the center of attention. Getting drunk too soon and being in the way of the photographer are two other most common things wedding guests do that irk wedding-goers the most.

According to experts, things like announcing a pregnancy, engagement, or other milestone at someone else’s wedding are just plain rude. Lea Rhynehardt, owner and lead planner with Lea Rhynehardt & Co., explained to The Knot that a wedding is a celebration of that couple’s love.

“This is a day we get to witness two people celebrating their journey of creating this union and deciding to be together for the rest of their lives,” she pointed out. “A wedding is a time for the newlyweds to be celebrated by family and friends.” So, it is pretty rude to ask the couple to pause their celebration and celebrate someone else.

A surprise proposal also ruins the planned flow of the wedding

When a couple envisions their perfect day, they hardly ever make plans for another couple to have their moment. Some people say that asking newlyweds beforehand if a proposal or any kind of announcement during their wedding is appropriate is a good strategy. However, the couple might feel pressured to say “yes.” It can only be appropriate if they offer their wedding as a space for engagement or any kind of announcement of their own free will.

It’s not just about taking attention away from the happy couple. While that’s disrespectful enough, surprises like these can also throw off the flow of the wedding. Nowadays, most weddings have a sequence of events that is timed almost to a T. Something like an unexpected proposal definitely throws a wrench in the works.

Lea Rhynehardt told The Knot that she hasn’t yet had clients who wanted to make room for another couple to celebrate during their wedding. Also, planning a wedding takes months, and it takes a lot of effort on the planner’s part to make sure everything goes according to plan.

“Couples and their planners spend months working together to plan and purchase all of these elements and essentials to create their perfect wedding day,” she noted. “It’s important to stick to the timeline. Personally, I don’t leave room for error or an opportunity to be blindsided when planning and coordinating these dream weddings.”

“She always gives a ‘joke’ answer about wanting to get me back,” the bride wrote, “but I’m confident she means it every time”

The majority of commenters sided with the bride, and some even suggested eloping – that way she could be sure the sister wouldn’t ruin her day

However, some believed the bride was blowing things out of proportion

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