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“Totally Disengaged From Christmas Now”: Mom Blames Ex For Ruining Christmas For Their Kids
Two-thirds (67%) of people who buy Christmas presents say they typically begin their shopping by the end of November, including 10% who start in October and 14% who start even earlier.
So when holiday plans fall apart at the last minute, it can be incredibly stressful. That’s exactly what happened to a single mother who goes by ClypoClimb online.
Recently, she turned to the internet to vent about her daughters’ father. He backed out of contributing to their presents, leaving her scrambling with too little money to fulfill the girls’ wishlists.
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Christmas stress hits parents the hardest
Christmas requires a lot of planning, organizing, and work, so it can cause quite a headache. But when plans fall apart at the last second, it’s even worse.
A YouGov survey found that in the United Kingdom (where the author of the post is from), 45% of people generally find Christmas to be a stressful experience, with 10% going as far as saying they find it “very” stressful.
However, this burden of stress is not evenly shared, with some groups feeling the strain more than others.
Parents, in particular, tend to have a harder time over the holidays. According to the survey, 52% of those with children under the age of 18 say they find Christmas stressful, compared to 42% of non-parents and parents whose children have already flown the nest.
Even among parents, stress levels are not evenly distributed. Mothers report feeling the burden more than fathers: six in ten moms (62%) say Christmas is a stressful time, including one in six (17%) who describe it as very stressful. By comparison, just 44% of dads report feeling stressed over the holidays.
And while one in six dads (16%) say their Christmases are typically not stressful at all, the same is true for only 6% of moms.
Christmas spending leaves a lot of parents feeling like they’ve failed
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Research from the UK has also found that nearly half (48%) of parents or carers felt they had failed their children because they couldn’t afford the gifts their children were hoping for last Christmas.
As a result, 68% of parents said they were leaning toward giving more practical presents — such as schoolbooks, clothes, or bedding — rather than “fun” gifts.
More than three in ten (31%) parents and carers were concerned that their children themselves were worried about the cost of Christmas and family finances. Meanwhile, over a quarter (28%) feared their children believed they had been “naughty” because they didn’t receive the gifts they wanted.
The mother provided more information about her predicament in the comments
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sturmwesen 1 hour ago
What about buying a book and setting the rest aside to buy her a piano for her birthday maybe with DD1 attributing a little from her job? They are at an age, where you can talk about stuff like that.
Huddo's sister 3 hours ago
$100 seems plenty for Christmas presents to me. You don't need to buy the more expensive things. If you have to explain to them that's the budget, so be it, they should understand.
Nils Skirnir 6 hours ago
Time to get an attorney. If for no other reason than to get access to father’s finances and ensure OP gets whatever support she can. It’s very unusual anywhere in the Anglosphere for children to receive no support.
Cee Cee 5 hours ago
I assumed he pays child support and the extra was for Christmas. See no reason to lawyer up and delve into his finances. Has he lost his job? Has a major unexpected expense? I think she should find out why the change of heart.
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Apatheist Account2 59 minutes ago (edited)
You could always stop celebrating a made-up pagan festival and teach them the value of not wasting money because someone centuries ago told you you were supposed to. When we were growing up, there wasn't much money, so we got 1 present each from each person, and that was it.
JK 7 minutes ago
Christmas isnt a "pagan festival" its literally the opposite of "pagan". Yes, it has become heavily monetised and no longer has it's original Christian values, but then neither has anything, least of all Christians!
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Emilu 1 hour ago
They're not little kids that need presents from Santa. If you sit them down and explain, hopefully they'll understand. Maybe, depending on their interests/how well they get along, you could combine the money and give them an experience they can share. Or can you stretch and make a larger gift a combined birthday/Christmas present?
sturmwesen 1 hour ago
What about buying a book and setting the rest aside to buy her a piano for her birthday maybe with DD1 attributing a little from her job? They are at an age, where you can talk about stuff like that.
Huddo's sister 3 hours ago
$100 seems plenty for Christmas presents to me. You don't need to buy the more expensive things. If you have to explain to them that's the budget, so be it, they should understand.
Nils Skirnir 6 hours ago
Time to get an attorney. If for no other reason than to get access to father’s finances and ensure OP gets whatever support she can. It’s very unusual anywhere in the Anglosphere for children to receive no support.
Cee Cee 5 hours ago
I assumed he pays child support and the extra was for Christmas. See no reason to lawyer up and delve into his finances. Has he lost his job? Has a major unexpected expense? I think she should find out why the change of heart.
Load More Replies... Apatheist Account2 59 minutes ago (edited)
You could always stop celebrating a made-up pagan festival and teach them the value of not wasting money because someone centuries ago told you you were supposed to. When we were growing up, there wasn't much money, so we got 1 present each from each person, and that was it.
JK 7 minutes ago
Christmas isnt a "pagan festival" its literally the opposite of "pagan". Yes, it has become heavily monetised and no longer has it's original Christian values, but then neither has anything, least of all Christians!
Load More Replies... Emilu 1 hour ago
They're not little kids that need presents from Santa. If you sit them down and explain, hopefully they'll understand. Maybe, depending on their interests/how well they get along, you could combine the money and give them an experience they can share. Or can you stretch and make a larger gift a combined birthday/Christmas present?
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