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Woman Gets Disinvited From A Wedding So She Takes Back Her Wedding Dress That She Promised To Lend To The Bride, The Bride Makes A Scene
Recently, a woman has taken an incident she had with a bride to Reddit to get some advice on the incident that happened. “My sister in law liked my wedding dress a lot and she asked to wear it for her wedding,” the author, who said they were close ‘like sisters,’ recounted. So the author happily lent her the dress, but soon regretted her decision.
It turns out that after fighting with her parents who were paying for it all, the bride decided not to invite the author’s wife for ‘obvious reasons.’ “I said I won’t come unless my wife comes.” The tension between the two kept escalating and resulted in the bride uninviting her beloved SIL, and her SIL taking back the dress.
Now, with the bride furious at not getting the dress, the author wants to know if it was the right thing to do.
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The bride got furious after the author asked for her dress that the bride had borrowed back
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It turns out, the bride decided to uninvite the author because she “didn’t want any drama” on her big day, but the situation is much more complex than that
Image credits: ____notworthit35
And this is what people commented about this whole situation
What do you think ?
Ryan-James O'Driscoll 4 years ago
The moment she dismissed OPs feelings about her parents homophobia as "drama" she lost any shot at the high ground.
Helena Houzarová 4 years ago
SIL is in a pretty bad position. Her parents are footing the bill, BUT in exchange for that, they also control the wedding. Perhaps she and her fiance could drop the idea of a big wedding and make only a small celebration they can afford (but with close family THEY get to choose to attend)?
Marcellus II 4 years ago
Agreed. But what disqualifies her (& the brother!) is to sneakily send out single invitation after agreeing with her parents, and no heads-up visit or personal call beforehand.
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Hans 4 years ago
Why do you plan a costly wedding if you have no money? Why do you feel that someone cannot bring their spouse if everyone else can? Why do you let anyone interfere with your wedding, even if they pay for it? And: what kind of people would interfere with a wedding even if they paid for it? And then all of this is based on the antics of homophobic pricks. While the SIL may have vile parents, she is not the victim here for she choses money over values.
Otter 4 years ago
The bride is still free to get married at the courthouse, and have her sisters-in-law as the witnesses.
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Suz66 4 years ago
I found my first wedding dress (a very very nice satin gown that most people would have thought I spent a thousand for,) at an outlet for $26, I kid you not. It cost me more to alter it! That was in 1989. This summer I married again. My husband picked out a beautiful dress, it was a beautiful lace short gown, appropriate for a 2nd wedding. It was on clearance because change of season at Nordstrom's Outlet for $22. Everyone loved the dress. SIL needs to stand up for the other SIL or buying her own dress. She can't wear the dress if she doesn't honor the union it represented the first time it was worn.
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Queserasera423 4 years ago
I'm concerned about this brother... it's his wedding too, and he allowed his fiancee to exclude his family. Personally I couldn't marry anyone who won't treat my family with respect. And if I were the uninvited sister, I'd have to really rethink my relationship with the sister-in-law, because she chose funding for a big wedding from a bigot over family.
E.T. Blackfyre 4 years ago
Every wedding that I am invited to and my spouse is not is a wedding I will not attend. If I know two people are married I would not even think about inviting one but not the other. The real kicker here is only finding out about the situation once the invitations arrive. Talk about the situation before you sent out invites. That way maybe a different solution can be found. At the very least your friend doesn't have to phone you about the invitation only being for one and you than have to explain everything. Long story short: talk to your friends and invite couples together!
Franc Esca 4 years ago
If you can't afford your wedding you're not ready to get married. This exactly what over involved parents hope for, by paying they "pull the strings"
Katinka Min 4 years ago
that is a werid argument. If you can't afford a big wedding, you will just have to have a small and simple one. You can still get married.
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Lovin' Life 4 years ago
The bride need to get a grip on her life. It's her wedding not her parents. If they are causing this much drama before the wedding, imagine what it will be like afterwards. NTA
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
There's an easy fix: SIL has the possibility to call the wedding off and arrange for another wedding ceremony and party that is within her budget. The brother should also tell his family in law that there isn't going to be a wedding if his sister is not allowed to come and bring her wife with her. If anyone takes offense by their presence they are very free to stay TF away or better yet cut all ties and never show their faces again, ever.
Cold Contagious 4 years ago
Exactly, brother needs some backbone and stand up to everyone involved for his family. If he doesn't take a stand now, they'll all know that they can push him around and get their way, whenever they want.
Load More Replies... Ryan-James O'Driscoll 4 years ago
The moment she dismissed OPs feelings about her parents homophobia as "drama" she lost any shot at the high ground.
Helena Houzarová 4 years ago
SIL is in a pretty bad position. Her parents are footing the bill, BUT in exchange for that, they also control the wedding. Perhaps she and her fiance could drop the idea of a big wedding and make only a small celebration they can afford (but with close family THEY get to choose to attend)?
Marcellus II 4 years ago
Agreed. But what disqualifies her (& the brother!) is to sneakily send out single invitation after agreeing with her parents, and no heads-up visit or personal call beforehand.
Load More Replies... Hans 4 years ago
Why do you plan a costly wedding if you have no money? Why do you feel that someone cannot bring their spouse if everyone else can? Why do you let anyone interfere with your wedding, even if they pay for it? And: what kind of people would interfere with a wedding even if they paid for it? And then all of this is based on the antics of homophobic pricks. While the SIL may have vile parents, she is not the victim here for she choses money over values.
Otter 4 years ago
The bride is still free to get married at the courthouse, and have her sisters-in-law as the witnesses.
Load More Replies... Suz66 4 years ago
I found my first wedding dress (a very very nice satin gown that most people would have thought I spent a thousand for,) at an outlet for $26, I kid you not. It cost me more to alter it! That was in 1989. This summer I married again. My husband picked out a beautiful dress, it was a beautiful lace short gown, appropriate for a 2nd wedding. It was on clearance because change of season at Nordstrom's Outlet for $22. Everyone loved the dress. SIL needs to stand up for the other SIL or buying her own dress. She can't wear the dress if she doesn't honor the union it represented the first time it was worn.
Load More Replies... Queserasera423 4 years ago
I'm concerned about this brother... it's his wedding too, and he allowed his fiancee to exclude his family. Personally I couldn't marry anyone who won't treat my family with respect. And if I were the uninvited sister, I'd have to really rethink my relationship with the sister-in-law, because she chose funding for a big wedding from a bigot over family.
E.T. Blackfyre 4 years ago
Every wedding that I am invited to and my spouse is not is a wedding I will not attend. If I know two people are married I would not even think about inviting one but not the other. The real kicker here is only finding out about the situation once the invitations arrive. Talk about the situation before you sent out invites. That way maybe a different solution can be found. At the very least your friend doesn't have to phone you about the invitation only being for one and you than have to explain everything. Long story short: talk to your friends and invite couples together!
Franc Esca 4 years ago
If you can't afford your wedding you're not ready to get married. This exactly what over involved parents hope for, by paying they "pull the strings"
Katinka Min 4 years ago
that is a werid argument. If you can't afford a big wedding, you will just have to have a small and simple one. You can still get married.
Load More Replies... Lovin' Life 4 years ago
The bride need to get a grip on her life. It's her wedding not her parents. If they are causing this much drama before the wedding, imagine what it will be like afterwards. NTA
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
There's an easy fix: SIL has the possibility to call the wedding off and arrange for another wedding ceremony and party that is within her budget. The brother should also tell his family in law that there isn't going to be a wedding if his sister is not allowed to come and bring her wife with her. If anyone takes offense by their presence they are very free to stay TF away or better yet cut all ties and never show their faces again, ever.
Cold Contagious 4 years ago
Exactly, brother needs some backbone and stand up to everyone involved for his family. If he doesn't take a stand now, they'll all know that they can push him around and get their way, whenever they want.
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