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When we meet someone new, it can take a while to get to know them and decide if we can trust them. And that’s totally fine—it’s a smart move to take your time.
But sometimes, there are little signs that give away someone’s genuine kindness right from the start.
Redditors have been talking about traits like these, and we’ve rounded up their most interesting takes for you below. Scroll down to see if you agree and let us know your thoughts in the comments!
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#1
Got a cancer diagnosis in January. I had just started dating this woman, she came with me to my first appointment for chemo. I'm thinking to myself as I'm sitting there, this is it she is gonna bail so quick once the side effects start. She was there for me. Every. Single. Time. Made it through the treatments, and now I'm cancer free and married her in August.
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#2
I’m a kind person but my guy? He’s a GOOD man. No one will scroll far enough to read this so why not brag on him.
My partner is almost 50, big quiet man. Been working in construction for over 30 years. He hires subs to do a lot of the specialized jobs, like painters. He’s been hiring these painters as long as he’s been in the business. About a week or so ago, the owners of the home they are building were having a party holiday party for the crew, interior designer, and architect. My partner got an igloo mug and Christmas card, inside was a nice bonus, in cash. He thanked them and went to check on the rest of the crew. He noticed all the “main” crew got the igloo mug and a card, with some cash, except the 5 painters. They just got igloo mugs, which is fine, the owners didn’t need to give anyone ANYTHING that’s on the business they work for. But my guy knows these guys. This year they had lost the owner of the painting business and the father of one of them. 2 of the guys just started families. They are like his main crew! He took his bonus, gave each of them some of the money and wished them a Merry Christmas. They tried to refuse. They told him they were fine. But my quiet guy, did what he does best, ignored them and walked off. No need for props or thank yous. Just a good heart.
THAT IS A GOOD MAN.
#4
They are able to be happy for other people. It’s a vanishing skill these days to be able to just honestly be happy for someone who succeeds and not be snarky about it.
#5
They authentically apologize when they are wrong or when they make a mistake without anyone asking them to. They can let go of ego for the sake of what is right. On the opposite side of the same coin, they have a forgiving nature.
#7
Their genuine kindness towards those weaker than themselves.
Animals immediately feel comfortable around them.
#8
One of my favorite sayings is “Principles only mean something if you stand up for them when it’s inconvenient.” When people stand up for what’s right at a time when it isn’t convenient, that’s a good person.
#9
They are the one in the group who stops and waits for you while you to tie your shoe or they hold the door as the rest of the group keeps moving.
#10
People who are able to laugh at themselves, especially after falling down in public, oh and they are totally okay with others laughing as well because sometimes it's just silly being human.
#11
That guy or girl that tries to integrate you in conversations in a pretty organic and not showing off way. Specially when you’re introvert.
#13
The one guy in high school who’s friends with the “weird”, quiet kids and the “popular” kids at the same time.
Just treating everyone with respect, even when others don’t do the same.
#15
Being kind to animals, they don't judge us nor give something of monetary value in return. The only reason to be kind to them is because you're kind.
#16
They don't need a list of rules nor exterior validation in order to make decisions for the sake of greater good.
Good people don't not commit armed burglary because its *illegal* - they don't commit armed burglary because it's a s****y human thing to do.
#20
I was one of 40 or so people from my church feeding the homeless at the Salvation Army shelter one night. I dumped a bag of dinner rolls into a bowl. "Don't just dump them", our group leader said; "presentation is important".
I rearranged them nicely. Treating everyone with respect, be they guests in your home or homeless people in a shelter, is a mark of a genuinely good person.
#21
It's easy to be a good person when things are easy.
A true good person will remain good when they are angry, or scared, etc. If your morals evaporate under stress, you don't actually have morals.
#22
They treat 'ugly' and 'fat' people like people. So many times as a big person I've been overlooked and literally cut out of group conversations because of my size (had confirmation of this not guessing). The good person would always bring me into the conversation and talk to me outside of the group.
#23
Actively listening to you as you’re talking
Engaging in conversations that you’ve started or are interested in
Will show up when they say are coming
Can turn down your event, without being a d**k about it (saying yes then not showing up or using an excuse to not go).
#24
They ask you about something you told them before to see how things are going. They remember little bits of information about you and ask you about it.
#25
Their default expectation is that people are generally good.
I don't mean that they're naive, they're aware that some people are a******s, that crime happens. But they don't automatically assume strangers are up to no good, that people are trying to screw them over. They're willing to extend a bit of grace when someone is a.bit rude (maybe that person is just having an off day).
#27
When you’re in a conversation with multiple people and you keep getting interrupted and they say something like “wait, were you saying about ___?” to make sure you’re included and to signify that they are listening.
#28
Here's one, you mention: "man I have to get to this location" and the person goes "oh dw, I can give you a ride."
For no reason but to be nice.
You'll notice a LOT of people never offer this, good people do.
#29
They share their favourite food with you. I don't know what it is but I really appreciate the food sharing.
#30
They attract good people, regardless of social income or ranking. It was the first sign I had that my SO was a good person. He was very liked at work as a manager and whenever he had friends around, they all seemed to have good energy (like good values and qualities). Also, people felt comfortable enough to share personal things with him. I did. I worked a year with him and the feeling that he was good just got stronger with time. 8 years-ish later, I was spot on on my character judgement. Not only is he a good person and partner, he is an awesome dad as well :).
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