Server Goes On A Rant About Customers Who Don’t Tip Enough, Divides The Internet
InterviewThe tipping culture in the United States is unique. When eating at a restaurant, it is standard to tip at least 15%, but especially for excellent service or a large party, it’s best to leave 20-25%. Technically, there are no requirements to tip, but it is understood that servers are working for tips, as the federal minimum wage for tipped employees is only $2.13 an hour. While servers can make excellent money when customers are generous, there are always some who try to abuse the system and pay for nothing more than their meals.
After becoming fed-up with repeatedly receiving small tips, one server, Ben Raanan, recently posted a rant on TikTok calling out customers for not knowing how to tip. Below, you will find Ben’s original video as well as a follow-up, some of the comments viewers left, and an interview between Ben and Bored Panda. Let us know what you think about this situation, whether you have ever been a server or not, and then if you’re looking for another piece bringing bad tippers to light, check out this story next.
One server, Ben Raanan, recently called out customers on TikTok for leaving small tips
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Image credits: Iain Farrell (not the actual photo)
You can hear Ben’s full rant right here
@blazikenben Tip ur fucking servers #server#serverlife#serverproblems#restaurant#restaurantlife#serviceindustry#tips#tipyourserver#fyp#foryou#foryoupage♬ original sound – Ben Raanan
We reached out to Ben on Instagram to find out if he has noticed an increase in small tips recently, with inflation being so high. He told us that it’s not necessarily a trend of intentionally bad tippers, but that a lot of customers will hand him small tips acting like they are being very generous because they don’t understand inflation. “Like a lady handed me $10 for a $200 tab and was like ‘There you go honey’ with a smile on her face, and I genuinely don’t think she meant it in a bad way, I really think she thought it was a good tip,” Ben explained. “That’s why I made the video I wanted to raise awareness for people who don’t understand why tip is a percentage.”
We also asked Ben if he could explain why earning tips is so necessary for servers. “Tips are our pay for our service. The bill is what you pay for the food, and the tip is what you pay for the service,” he said. “The capitalist institution/the restaurant industry has convinced people that tips are optional for some reason, and I believe that reason is that people are happier paying for something when they feel like they’re doing it out of the kindness of their own heart, rather than being forced to.”
Opinions of viewers were split, some who had worked in the service industry before agreed with the importance of tipping well
“And this is a nice thought, and I love that there are people that tip well and feel good about it,” Ben explained. “But in reality, it should not be optional, because just like with anything else, you have to pay people when they do work for you. Yes I get paid for my job by the restaurant, but I make minimum wage and several other states pay their servers far below minimum wage (like I’m talking $2) because they assume tips will make up the rest. We’re told to report at least 10% of our sales, because otherwise the IRS will audit us because they expect us to get tips as well. At the end of every shift we have to do a tipout, which means we give a percentage of our SALES (not our tips), which is the amount of money people spent with us, to the bussers, bar, and other people who work in the restaurant. So whether or not I’m getting at least 10% tips, I’m giving 10% of my tips away every day. This is why it’s so important to 20% of your bill. Because we are paid and treated by the government like tips are a given.”
Lastly, we asked Ben what he would change about the way servers are paid in the US. “Something a lot of people were commenting was that restaurants should just pay servers more, that it shouldn’t be up to the customer to pay our wage, all of which I agree with,” Ben said. “But what people don’t wanna hear is that that would still make you have to pay more. Which you should, because again you’re getting a service, you have to pay for that. But I think people take for granted that the service they get in restaurants is worth money, which is sad that the system has made it seem like it has optional worth. And technically it’s optional for me to try hard, but I don’t want to give bad service. I enjoy working service, which a lot of people seemed to not understand because I was upset. I was not upset because I work in the service industry. I was upset because I know what my work is worth, and I’m getting short-changed. You would be too. So what I think is that there should be an automatic 20% gratuity on every bill, a service fee, that we keep just like tips.”
Ben went on to explain that he knows not all service is good, so sometimes it is fair to leave a smaller tip. “But what makes me angry is when I know a table received excellent service, especially when they tell me so, and then they leave a bad tip. That’s what sparked the original video. So I think there should be an automatic 20% gratuity, and if there was really a problem with your service, you should have to ask for the manager to take it off and explain why. Put your mouth where your money is! I think most people hide behind the assumption that people can tip low if the service was bad when their service wasn’t bad, and if they were asked to back it up they couldn’t. That’s how I would change the system. No one’s work should have an optional worth.”
While others thought Ben was directing his anger towards the wrong people
In theory, the tipping culture in the US provides servers with the opportunity to earn endless income. If they provide excellent service, maybe crack a few jokes and learn the names of their customers, they might receive tips higher than 25%. But the reality is that the average customer will not go above and beyond when tipping. And if they find anything wrong with their experience, like waiting 30 minutes for a table or the kitchen messing up someone’s order, a customer’s dissatisfaction tends to be reflected in how much they tip. Relying on the custom of tipping can make a server’s job extremely stressful, as there is no guarantee of how much money they’ll see on their paycheck. This uncertainty can lead to a toxic, competitive environment, and it can lead servers to resent customers who tip poorly, rather than the system in place that allows servers to earn such small wages.
Even more sinister than fostering an uncomfortable environment, tipping culture can even allow for racial inequality to run rampant in restaurants. According to data from the US Census Bureau of Labor Statistics of servers’ median hourly tips from 2010-2016, white servers earned significantly more tips than their Latinx, Black and Asian peers. Racial prejudices go both ways in restaurants though, as 66% of servers say they have witnessed co-workers show a bias against patrons of color. When it is assumed that white customers tip more, servers go out of their way to accommodate those eaters and minorities are left receiving less than ideal service.
So he made a follow-up video defending his stance
Tipping culture is an outdated norm that does not seem to be benefiting customers or servers. The experience of eating out would be much simpler if customers could pay for their meals and decide to leave a small tip if they felt so inclined, rather than knowing that their server is expecting a large tip to be able to pay their bills this month. Plenty of other countries pay servers living wages, so the United States could certainly revamp their system to do the same. How do you feel about the tipping culture in the US? Have you benefited from it as a server, or do you think it’s time for the minimum wage for tipped employees to be raised? We’d love to hear your thoughts below. And if you’d like to keep up with Ben on Instagram, you can follow him right here.
You can hear Ben’s response to the negative comments right here
@blazikenben Reply to @c_johnson55 Workers of the world unite #server#serverlife#restaurant#serviceindustry#servertok#entitled#tips#fyp#foryou#foryoupage#geteducated♬ original sound – Ben Raanan
Your tipping culture sucks. I pay for the meal, your employer is supposed to pay your wages. A tip should be a little thank you, not what you have to live on.
I would rather pay more for my food and tip what I feel is appropriate than be spoken to or regarded like that. Guess I’m lucky not to live in the US.
I wouldn't want a lecture from a server, either, but I'm also aware that their base pay is terrible. In Canada, the minimum wage for servers is lower than for other workers. I'm assuming it's the same all over the US.
Load More Replies...Yeah, blame the customer and not your boss who pays you 5$/h... What's wrong with you Americans that you think this is normal? Waiters earn between 25-30$/h where I live and guess what, tipping is something you can do if service was excellent but nobody will bat a eye if you don't tip on a 200$ meal.
We think it's normal but that doesn't mean we like it. Our waiters shouldn't need to live off tips. Also, like Moxie said, not all of us Americans think like him.
Load More Replies...Wow. What an entitled @ssh0le. Threatening customers that don't tip what you think they should? I'd be going somewhere else for dinner.
Gotta laugh when people say that if restaurants pay a better wage your food will cost more - it IS costing more, 20% more - why not just increase prices by 20% and pay a living wage?
They don't *want* to acknowledge the proportionality of raising wages versus raising prices. And those that do acknowledge it who are business owners *still* spout this nonsense because raising costs and raising prices can still have a knock-on effect on their bottom line, aka their profit margins if only because of the PR aspect of price increases (i.e. Restaurant X has put their prices up by a dollar - I'm not eating there. But they've also raised their staff wages by five dollars. Don't care - the prices have gone up so that's money out of MY wallet [continued bigoted, idiotic grumbling]). And the reason for this is classist - servers are LOWER than me, why should they get paid more than what I think they deserve. [Sorry, I've wandered into my own rant here, I'm off for a nap]
Load More Replies...Going out to eat is not necessarily a luxury, like somebody claimed above. Maybe one is in a trip for work and have to eat out. What is weird is what BP says in their article: "there are always some who try to abuse the system and pay for nothing more than their meals." It is the employers who is abusing the system, but not paying a decent wage, not the customer!
You can moan all you want to mate, you’ve been brainwashed to think the customers should pay your wage. Where you work is meant to be paying you, not the diners.
If servers start confronting people about their tips, you're going to see a lot of servers getting fired after patrons complain to their managers. Or people will stop going to that restaurant and servers will be laid off. This kind of attitude is exactly what's wrong with tipping culture and why it needs to be eliminated in the U.S.
If a server confronted me about a supposed previous “bad tip”, first of all I’d tell that person that the reason for the bad tip was bad service, and then I would immediately call for the manager (in a non-Karen way.) I do not expect someone to wait on me hand and foot at a restaurant, but I do expect to have servers do their jobs. It’s not my problem if they feel I don’t tip enough.
Load More Replies...Dumbest thing ever. Why should the consumer bare the cost of your diminished income. 20% on the bill excluding tax is a lot in my opinion. I did some work on this topic for some American student and I was shocked to discover the concept of tipped wage. From what I read it also has racist and classist origins, and is inherently discriminatory as some workers may get tipped less for factors outside their control ( appearance, race etc).
Your tipping culture sucks. I pay for the meal, your employer is supposed to pay your wages. A tip should be a little thank you, not what you have to live on.
I would rather pay more for my food and tip what I feel is appropriate than be spoken to or regarded like that. Guess I’m lucky not to live in the US.
I wouldn't want a lecture from a server, either, but I'm also aware that their base pay is terrible. In Canada, the minimum wage for servers is lower than for other workers. I'm assuming it's the same all over the US.
Load More Replies...Yeah, blame the customer and not your boss who pays you 5$/h... What's wrong with you Americans that you think this is normal? Waiters earn between 25-30$/h where I live and guess what, tipping is something you can do if service was excellent but nobody will bat a eye if you don't tip on a 200$ meal.
We think it's normal but that doesn't mean we like it. Our waiters shouldn't need to live off tips. Also, like Moxie said, not all of us Americans think like him.
Load More Replies...Wow. What an entitled @ssh0le. Threatening customers that don't tip what you think they should? I'd be going somewhere else for dinner.
Gotta laugh when people say that if restaurants pay a better wage your food will cost more - it IS costing more, 20% more - why not just increase prices by 20% and pay a living wage?
They don't *want* to acknowledge the proportionality of raising wages versus raising prices. And those that do acknowledge it who are business owners *still* spout this nonsense because raising costs and raising prices can still have a knock-on effect on their bottom line, aka their profit margins if only because of the PR aspect of price increases (i.e. Restaurant X has put their prices up by a dollar - I'm not eating there. But they've also raised their staff wages by five dollars. Don't care - the prices have gone up so that's money out of MY wallet [continued bigoted, idiotic grumbling]). And the reason for this is classist - servers are LOWER than me, why should they get paid more than what I think they deserve. [Sorry, I've wandered into my own rant here, I'm off for a nap]
Load More Replies...Going out to eat is not necessarily a luxury, like somebody claimed above. Maybe one is in a trip for work and have to eat out. What is weird is what BP says in their article: "there are always some who try to abuse the system and pay for nothing more than their meals." It is the employers who is abusing the system, but not paying a decent wage, not the customer!
You can moan all you want to mate, you’ve been brainwashed to think the customers should pay your wage. Where you work is meant to be paying you, not the diners.
If servers start confronting people about their tips, you're going to see a lot of servers getting fired after patrons complain to their managers. Or people will stop going to that restaurant and servers will be laid off. This kind of attitude is exactly what's wrong with tipping culture and why it needs to be eliminated in the U.S.
If a server confronted me about a supposed previous “bad tip”, first of all I’d tell that person that the reason for the bad tip was bad service, and then I would immediately call for the manager (in a non-Karen way.) I do not expect someone to wait on me hand and foot at a restaurant, but I do expect to have servers do their jobs. It’s not my problem if they feel I don’t tip enough.
Load More Replies...Dumbest thing ever. Why should the consumer bare the cost of your diminished income. 20% on the bill excluding tax is a lot in my opinion. I did some work on this topic for some American student and I was shocked to discover the concept of tipped wage. From what I read it also has racist and classist origins, and is inherently discriminatory as some workers may get tipped less for factors outside their control ( appearance, race etc).

































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