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Dad Finds Out His Son’s School Was Giving Him Antidepressants For Months Without Ever Telling Him
In recent years, the legislation of many countries has been steadily moving towards maximum protection of the rights of children, including health care. In some cases, children, and more specifically, teenagers, are given the right to seek help even without any parental consent. For example, if a child suffers from some mental disorder, and their family is against them taking any drugs.
On the one hand, this is an absolute advantage, because if a child lives in an unhealthy family with abusive tendencies, this can really help them and prevent worse outcomes. On the other hand, if everything is fine in the family, but the parents were not informed properly, problems may also arise.
For example, Eli Holt from the State of Washington recently faced a situation in which his 15-year-old son took antidepressants for an entire semester without anyone telling his father. Holt expressed his outrage at the school rules in a video on TikTok, which immediately went viral, gaining about 270K views and about 4.2K various comments.
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The school counselor reached out to the Original Poster and told him that his son did not pick up his antidepressants at the end of the school year
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It all started when Holt received a phone call from his son’s school counselor who told him that the boy did not pick up his antidepressants at the end of the school year. To say that the dad was surprised would be an understatement. Eli demanded an explanation from the school employees – and this is what he found out.
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A few months ago, the OP’s son was prescribed antidepressants by the school psychiatrist
It turns out that a few months ago, the school psychiatrist examined his son and concluded that the teenager needed a course of antidepressants. As a result, the boy was on drugs for several months, confident that his father knew about it. But no one told Eli!
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There are several reasons, according to the OP, why he should have been informed
First, the father is sure that his son does not have any depressive disorders. Secondly, a situation could happen if, for example, Eli, not knowing about the drugs, could offer his son maybe a glass of wine – and then something really bad could happen.
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Thirdly, the boy could have been prescribed medication for some other illness, without knowing about antidepressants, and an allergic reaction could have also happened.
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Under state law, school doctors have the right to prescribe antidepressants even without informing the parents
Finally, Eli found that under Washington state law, school doctors do have the right to prescribe antidepressants to children if the child has a dysfunctional family with unhealthy relationships. “But we’re fine with that,” Holt says indignantly. “Then why wasn’t I informed?”
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In any case, Eli notes that this is his child, and above all, the parents are responsible for him. “It’s not their kid to give a prescription to,” he says. “And I wholeheartedly believe that they should’ve told me.”
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The state of Washington has poor statewise data as to the average rates of mental illnesses and access to medical services
In fact, as per the MHA annual data, Washington State ranks in the mid-forties out of all states in terms of average rates of mental illnesses and access to medical services, which is quite low and definitely needs to be improved. Perhaps that is why state law provides for similar measures that Eli Holt and his son had to face.
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@mr.notnew#Washington#school#roevwade♬ original sound – Eli Holt
Commenters’ opinions regarding this situation were divided
As for the commenters on the video, their opinions were divided. There were, of course, those who supported the Original Poster, outraged by the decision of the school administration. Indeed, if the boy had been prescribed any other medicines, it could have ended badly for his health. And, of course, the responsibility for the children, even if they’re almost adult, is borne, first of all, by their parents.
On the other hand, many people in the comments acknowledged that such a decision at the state level does make sense. For example, such treatment helped the niece of one of the commenters, whose parents refused to believe that she was suffering from a depressive disorder. Of course, one can understand the OP’s concern, but this rule has really helped a lot of kids.
As always, we highly welcome your comments on this situation, so feel free to write what you think. Or maybe, who knows, you have an equally interesting story?
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Al S 3 years ago
Mental health treatment must be available to everyone. I had two friends in high school who wanted and needed help, but could not talk to their parents about it. They both self-harmed, eventually one ended up in the hospital, barely surviving a suicide attempt, and other a few years later nearly died from complications with bulemia. This was all because their parents would have been informed of meds. If your child is in so much pain they are trying medication, don't add to their stress by trying to get involved. They will involve you when they are able to. But if seeking help means parents will be informed, Teena won't seek it. Doctor patient confidentiality exists so treatment can be as easily accessed as possible. If you were really supportive of your child, you woukdnt be freaking out about this, you would be grateful professionals were available. The alternative is often risk seeking or harmful behaviour. Be glad your child was responsible enough to get support.
Al S 3 years ago
I was in HS in the 90s/2000s, a lot of us campaigned to get the right to care that your child is enjoying because it's hard to be the entire support system when you are a teen yourself. I stayed up a lot of nights, talking my friends down from suicide. It shouldnt have been in me, these laws mean it wouldn't have to be.
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Daffodil 3 years ago
Yeah, agreed. Otherwise why would the kid not have brought it up for months? There's got to be a reason they didn't say anything, and the "I thought they told you" is a cover-up the kiddo used to not get in trouble.
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FreshGanesh 3 years ago
Here’s a very HUGE RED FLAG: “…he’s not depressed.” - depression doesn’t always present itself outwardly. Either the father had him evaluated or not. Seems not. Or maybe the father doesn’t believe in the meds or the diagnosis. Regardless, an actual psychiatrist and the 15yo think he is indeed depressed. So why doesn’t the father? Why did the son pick up the meds and, assumingely, take them for so long without telling the father? Kids have medical autonomy from their parents at 12/13. This 15yo sought out help, got help, then hid the treatment from his dad. Could you imagine how horrible if he didn’t have this access?
Remi (He/Him) 3 years ago
And now the poor kid is probably going without meds for the summer and did it in hopes his dad wouldn't find out. Sounds like hell and all the strength to him
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Joely King 3 years ago
Ohhhh wow... ok this seems so OFF to me. I would absolutely lose my S**T if this was one of my kids. However, there seems to be more going on here and we don't know the full situation. Was the mother made aware and able to provide medical history? Is there an issue with his relationship with the child? Something is obviously off.
David Andrews 3 years ago
In Washington where this guy is located, schools can give prescriptions to children over 13 without parental consent, if the issue relates to mental health.
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Miss Alice 3 years ago
By making this video this father has just outed his kid as being on anti-depressants to anybody he knows who sees it. And his friends and classmates will see it. He shouldn't be sharing his kid's private medical information on social media. The kid has a right to privacy. This is between him, the school, and his kid, not half the world.
Barbara Goudie-Bradford 3 years ago
Exactly this. Then he wonders why his kid can’t tell him how he feels. Seems like that poor child has “oh, you’re hurting inside, let’s make a til tok” type parents. No wonder the wee soul needs antidepressants 💔🤷♀️
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Brandy P 3 years ago
Ok, I'm a mental health provider in the state of Washington. There is literally no such thing as a "school psychiatrist" (prescriber) to my knowledge. The child (over the age of 13) can get mental health care without parental consent. It is up to the child if they disclose any information to the parent. The school calling dad were actually, legally, the ones in the wrong. It's a controversial law but it is the law.
Perfumista Perfumista 3 years ago (edited)
If I were that kid I would feel the school had betrayed me. Also, as far as the father's concern about interactions, pharmacies have access to this information even if it is not the one the family typically uses and the child would have been told not to mix it with..
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Deborah B 3 years ago
Considering OP's response to finding out son was on anti-depressants was to share this sensitive information about his teenage son's mental health with the *entire internet*, maybe the son was choosing to protect his own privacy? By the time he goes back to school, everyone in the school will know he's on antidepressants. Maybe they'll be supportive, but frankly, a lot of teenagers are assholes, and there could be bullying and harassment. I'm more concerned whether the school broke confidentiality by telling loud-mouth Dad than that they didn't tell him.
mind yours 3 years ago
hmmm. "my kid is not depressed" is maybe not place number 1 to stop at if a psychiatrist says they are? you know, a person with training and a degree? get a second opinion or whatever but it sounds like this is more about the dad not wanting a depressed kid. All medication carries risks, and antidepressants are among those, but there's a reason this kid didn't bring it up and presumably did continue taking them. 15 year olds are absolutely entitled to medical privacy if they don't feel safe bringing a parent in.
Lutz Herting 3 years ago
Soooo... The kid thinks they need antidepressants. The school counselor thinks kid needs antidepressants. A PROFESSIONAL PSYCHIATRIST thinks kid needs antidepressants. Kid doesn't feel comfortable to tell the father FOR MONTHS. Father: "My child isn't depressed! He doesn't need antidepressants!!!" Gee, father of the year, I wonder why none of the people involved chose to tell you. And the law says that a child can get them without parental consent if "the child has a dysfunctional family with unhealthy relationships". But please, don't let me stop you - explain some more how you are the victim.
Laura Edwards 3 years ago
The age of consent for mental health treatment without parental consent is 13 years of age. Just like consenting to sex, in Washington state you can also consent to treat your own depression. If the parents won't let him see a provider, the child has every right to do it on their own.
Al S 3 years ago
Mental health treatment must be available to everyone. I had two friends in high school who wanted and needed help, but could not talk to their parents about it. They both self-harmed, eventually one ended up in the hospital, barely surviving a suicide attempt, and other a few years later nearly died from complications with bulemia. This was all because their parents would have been informed of meds. If your child is in so much pain they are trying medication, don't add to their stress by trying to get involved. They will involve you when they are able to. But if seeking help means parents will be informed, Teena won't seek it. Doctor patient confidentiality exists so treatment can be as easily accessed as possible. If you were really supportive of your child, you woukdnt be freaking out about this, you would be grateful professionals were available. The alternative is often risk seeking or harmful behaviour. Be glad your child was responsible enough to get support.
Al S 3 years ago
I was in HS in the 90s/2000s, a lot of us campaigned to get the right to care that your child is enjoying because it's hard to be the entire support system when you are a teen yourself. I stayed up a lot of nights, talking my friends down from suicide. It shouldnt have been in me, these laws mean it wouldn't have to be.
Load More Replies... Daffodil 3 years ago
Yeah, agreed. Otherwise why would the kid not have brought it up for months? There's got to be a reason they didn't say anything, and the "I thought they told you" is a cover-up the kiddo used to not get in trouble.
Load More Replies... FreshGanesh 3 years ago
Here’s a very HUGE RED FLAG: “…he’s not depressed.” - depression doesn’t always present itself outwardly. Either the father had him evaluated or not. Seems not. Or maybe the father doesn’t believe in the meds or the diagnosis. Regardless, an actual psychiatrist and the 15yo think he is indeed depressed. So why doesn’t the father? Why did the son pick up the meds and, assumingely, take them for so long without telling the father? Kids have medical autonomy from their parents at 12/13. This 15yo sought out help, got help, then hid the treatment from his dad. Could you imagine how horrible if he didn’t have this access?
Remi (He/Him) 3 years ago
And now the poor kid is probably going without meds for the summer and did it in hopes his dad wouldn't find out. Sounds like hell and all the strength to him
Load More Replies... Joely King 3 years ago
Ohhhh wow... ok this seems so OFF to me. I would absolutely lose my S**T if this was one of my kids. However, there seems to be more going on here and we don't know the full situation. Was the mother made aware and able to provide medical history? Is there an issue with his relationship with the child? Something is obviously off.
David Andrews 3 years ago
In Washington where this guy is located, schools can give prescriptions to children over 13 without parental consent, if the issue relates to mental health.
Load More Replies... Miss Alice 3 years ago
By making this video this father has just outed his kid as being on anti-depressants to anybody he knows who sees it. And his friends and classmates will see it. He shouldn't be sharing his kid's private medical information on social media. The kid has a right to privacy. This is between him, the school, and his kid, not half the world.
Barbara Goudie-Bradford 3 years ago
Exactly this. Then he wonders why his kid can’t tell him how he feels. Seems like that poor child has “oh, you’re hurting inside, let’s make a til tok” type parents. No wonder the wee soul needs antidepressants 💔🤷♀️
Load More Replies... Brandy P 3 years ago
Ok, I'm a mental health provider in the state of Washington. There is literally no such thing as a "school psychiatrist" (prescriber) to my knowledge. The child (over the age of 13) can get mental health care without parental consent. It is up to the child if they disclose any information to the parent. The school calling dad were actually, legally, the ones in the wrong. It's a controversial law but it is the law.
Perfumista Perfumista 3 years ago (edited)
If I were that kid I would feel the school had betrayed me. Also, as far as the father's concern about interactions, pharmacies have access to this information even if it is not the one the family typically uses and the child would have been told not to mix it with..
Load More Replies... Deborah B 3 years ago
Considering OP's response to finding out son was on anti-depressants was to share this sensitive information about his teenage son's mental health with the *entire internet*, maybe the son was choosing to protect his own privacy? By the time he goes back to school, everyone in the school will know he's on antidepressants. Maybe they'll be supportive, but frankly, a lot of teenagers are assholes, and there could be bullying and harassment. I'm more concerned whether the school broke confidentiality by telling loud-mouth Dad than that they didn't tell him.
mind yours 3 years ago
hmmm. "my kid is not depressed" is maybe not place number 1 to stop at if a psychiatrist says they are? you know, a person with training and a degree? get a second opinion or whatever but it sounds like this is more about the dad not wanting a depressed kid. All medication carries risks, and antidepressants are among those, but there's a reason this kid didn't bring it up and presumably did continue taking them. 15 year olds are absolutely entitled to medical privacy if they don't feel safe bringing a parent in.
Lutz Herting 3 years ago
Soooo... The kid thinks they need antidepressants. The school counselor thinks kid needs antidepressants. A PROFESSIONAL PSYCHIATRIST thinks kid needs antidepressants. Kid doesn't feel comfortable to tell the father FOR MONTHS. Father: "My child isn't depressed! He doesn't need antidepressants!!!" Gee, father of the year, I wonder why none of the people involved chose to tell you. And the law says that a child can get them without parental consent if "the child has a dysfunctional family with unhealthy relationships". But please, don't let me stop you - explain some more how you are the victim.
Laura Edwards 3 years ago
The age of consent for mental health treatment without parental consent is 13 years of age. Just like consenting to sex, in Washington state you can also consent to treat your own depression. If the parents won't let him see a provider, the child has every right to do it on their own.
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