21 Y.O. Woman Gets Called Out For Refusing To Give Up Her Room Because Her Roommate’s Dad Needed A Place To Sleep
One of the most exciting things when going away for college is finally getting a taste of that newly found independence; you’re far away from your family, doing the things you want and, perhaps, not worrying about cleaning your room. However, not everybody can afford an entire apartment, and instead, they look for a place to rent with strangers. And when they first meet their new roomies, it’s like a gamble – will they be their BFFs, or will they make their life a living hell?
Naturally, the first few weeks are a blast – you’re getting to know each other, sharing your life stories and having fun. But once everybody gets comfortable and people’s characters come out, you might catch yourself dealing with a questionable and even inappropriate request.
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Apartment sharing might seem exciting to some – however, it definitely comes with its cons
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“AITA if I don’t let my roommate’s dad sleep in my bed?” – this university student took it to one of Reddit’s well-liked communities to seek help from the members and find out whether she’s really a jerk for refusing to give up her bedroom to her roommate’s dad who is coming over to visit for graduation. The post has managed to receive nearly 12K upvotes and 1.7K worth of comments discussing this absurd situation.
College student wonders if she’s a bad guy for refusing to give up her bedroom to her roommate’s visiting dad
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The author began her post with an introduction; she lives in a two-bedroom and two-bathroom apartment together with her boyfriend and a roommate. The couple and roomie each get a separate bathroom, while they share a kitchen and common room, and the rent is split equally.
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The woman mentioned that both her and Mary’s names are on the lease as it’s university housing. Mary is a senior and is graduating in a few weeks, whereas the OP is a junior and will graduate next year, though the author’s boyfriend goes to the same college and will be graduating in three weeks as well.
A couple of days ago, Mary texted the OP saying that her dad is flying out for her graduation and because the hotels are too expensive, he needs to stay in the woman’s bedroom. Naturally, the author was taken aback by this rather strange request and refused immediately.
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Mary kept insisting and asking the woman to leave – however, instead of arguing, the OP tried to come up with alternative decisions. She said that her dad could use her air mattress and either sleep in her bedroom or in the common room, though the roomie kept declining. The author’s boyfriend also joined the conversation and said that his friend has an extra twin bed that the man could use but, once again, Mary said no and backed it up with the fact that she has to “babysit” him. When the author said that she and her partner are not going anywhere, the roommate told her that she’s being unreasonable because it’s her only graduation.
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Mary then mentioned that she started looking for hotels only 3 weeks prior to graduation because she was busy, but the OP is simply uncomfortable with having an unknown man sleeping in her bed and staying in her room with all of her personal belongings unsupervised.
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The college student later edited the post and revealed that, according to Mary, her father can’t sleep in her room because her mother is also going to be present and the ex-spouses can’t stand to be with each other. And considering the air mattress, Mary is worried that if they use it, they won’t have space for their luggage.
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We’re left to guess whether the OP and Mary have found a way out of this situation, yet it is quite obvious that the roommate’s request was completely inappropriate and, frankly, creepy. What would you do in this situation?
Fellow Redditors shared their thoughts regarding this out-of-place request
Better put on a temporary new lock the night before, or keep someone at home at all times. New lock would be ideal. Because she's going to let him in then claim "sorry, whatcha gonna do".
"what am I gonna do? Um.... Call the police, maybe. You know, because you're committing a crime."
Right of easement is a tricky thing. Op mentioned that Mary has a key to her door. Cops will not see it as a crime. I only know cause my squatter sister who watched my house once while I was away came back after I was back from traveling and I couldn’t kick her out because, “ she has a key. She has right of easement “ and that came from the sheriff. I got her out another way, changed the locks immediately. It sucked.
But be sure to tell your roommate that's what you will do. Maybe you can avoid the problem instead of dealing with it after the fact.
An action that would require common sense.
If the boyfriend is ok with the idea, I'd suggest he get into bed with roommate's dad in nothing but a skimpy pair of undies. See if dad warms up to the idea of the air mattress after that...
undies? go full commando.
How about putting a stop to that s**t when it first stared instead of the wimp-a*s lack of doing.....anything right! Maybe they didn't stop it because they secretly like it that way, and they seem too e drama!
But what if roommate's dad like that?
Totally agree.
Maybe, I'm thinking like an evil person, maybe she asked her dad the full rent, she only paid half, to keep on her lie she has to have her and boyfriend leave, so she can keep that extra money. Maybe just think about it, if you are giving her good options and she denies them maybe that's not the reason the real reason.
That's exactly right. If they're being wacko weird, they're not telling you the real reason they have a problem. Her father thinks she lives alone and pays the rent alone. And you're right, he's probably paying for it.
This is all strange and I'm not believing OP now. RAs get free room and reduced food usually. Boyfriends are not allowed to live in on campus RA room for free. Univ. Won't be ok and I think Mary's parents may be NOT ok to find out and that is why she is acting so weird since her roomie is shacking up with a dude and Mary might want to avoid that fight. No dad likes the idea of a guy living basically free off two girls and I seriously believe when Mary says she has been nice she means 3 people use common areas and 3 people's stuff in kitchen and not told on OP. How on earth are they dividing that three ways when it is part of rent and the OP had to edit that but says they RAs??? OPjust got called out for cheating Mary and changed her story I think. Feel like something is missing and thinking the male is not supposed to be there! Where IS HIS name on a lease? Also is OP local and has another home to stay but her folks won't let bf stay too?? Yes I bet that is it! OP local /Mary Out of stater
Aren’t those rules for dorm halls? Sounds like they’re staying in College apartments which were a little looser. At least mine were.
🤔 and thats the real reason why they didnt get a hotel... Welp, either way, hopefully they didn't budge. Thats disgusting.
Though that makes me wonder if RAs get their rent free at their uni. They did at mine. So if this is the case, she would've been pocketing all the rent money.
That wouldn't make sense in this case because the OP said she was also a RA and that all 3 of them pay the same amount to the school.
No, not to the school. If the parents pay for her to live there? - theyre coming and she wants OP & BF gone for weird reasons that she gave (taking care of her dad?- health issues maybe?) Or just an excuse becuase the parents pay for her portion of rent? Make sense?
That was my thinking too.
and why doesn't boyfriend pay anything if he lives there...
Mary saying Dad can't sleep in another apartment because she has to "babysit" her dad. WTF. My guess is that she told her parents that she has a two room apt. This woman is so entitled, where does she think they're going to sleep! Couldn't Dad have made reservations at a hotel months before. I'd change the lock on my door if I were OP.
And why would he not have needed babysitting in a hotel? Is he not safe around graduands maybe
He is probably known to be naughty lol
Or Dad has a mental or physical condition that precludes him being by himself.
Though apparently her first choice was to get him a hotel, but it was too expensive. So I call BS on the "having to babysit him" thing. The roommate is not only astoundingly entitled, she's willing to straight up lie. And she sucks at lying.
So if she got hotel for him there will be someone from staff in his room at all times? Sounds like she just lied.
But can manage to get to the uni without a nabaysitter?
Better put on a temporary new lock the night before, or keep someone at home at all times. New lock would be ideal. Because she's going to let him in then claim "sorry, whatcha gonna do".
"what am I gonna do? Um.... Call the police, maybe. You know, because you're committing a crime."
Right of easement is a tricky thing. Op mentioned that Mary has a key to her door. Cops will not see it as a crime. I only know cause my squatter sister who watched my house once while I was away came back after I was back from traveling and I couldn’t kick her out because, “ she has a key. She has right of easement “ and that came from the sheriff. I got her out another way, changed the locks immediately. It sucked.
But be sure to tell your roommate that's what you will do. Maybe you can avoid the problem instead of dealing with it after the fact.
An action that would require common sense.
If the boyfriend is ok with the idea, I'd suggest he get into bed with roommate's dad in nothing but a skimpy pair of undies. See if dad warms up to the idea of the air mattress after that...
undies? go full commando.
How about putting a stop to that s**t when it first stared instead of the wimp-a*s lack of doing.....anything right! Maybe they didn't stop it because they secretly like it that way, and they seem too e drama!
But what if roommate's dad like that?
Totally agree.
Maybe, I'm thinking like an evil person, maybe she asked her dad the full rent, she only paid half, to keep on her lie she has to have her and boyfriend leave, so she can keep that extra money. Maybe just think about it, if you are giving her good options and she denies them maybe that's not the reason the real reason.
That's exactly right. If they're being wacko weird, they're not telling you the real reason they have a problem. Her father thinks she lives alone and pays the rent alone. And you're right, he's probably paying for it.
This is all strange and I'm not believing OP now. RAs get free room and reduced food usually. Boyfriends are not allowed to live in on campus RA room for free. Univ. Won't be ok and I think Mary's parents may be NOT ok to find out and that is why she is acting so weird since her roomie is shacking up with a dude and Mary might want to avoid that fight. No dad likes the idea of a guy living basically free off two girls and I seriously believe when Mary says she has been nice she means 3 people use common areas and 3 people's stuff in kitchen and not told on OP. How on earth are they dividing that three ways when it is part of rent and the OP had to edit that but says they RAs??? OPjust got called out for cheating Mary and changed her story I think. Feel like something is missing and thinking the male is not supposed to be there! Where IS HIS name on a lease? Also is OP local and has another home to stay but her folks won't let bf stay too?? Yes I bet that is it! OP local /Mary Out of stater
Aren’t those rules for dorm halls? Sounds like they’re staying in College apartments which were a little looser. At least mine were.
🤔 and thats the real reason why they didnt get a hotel... Welp, either way, hopefully they didn't budge. Thats disgusting.
Though that makes me wonder if RAs get their rent free at their uni. They did at mine. So if this is the case, she would've been pocketing all the rent money.
That wouldn't make sense in this case because the OP said she was also a RA and that all 3 of them pay the same amount to the school.
No, not to the school. If the parents pay for her to live there? - theyre coming and she wants OP & BF gone for weird reasons that she gave (taking care of her dad?- health issues maybe?) Or just an excuse becuase the parents pay for her portion of rent? Make sense?
That was my thinking too.
and why doesn't boyfriend pay anything if he lives there...
Mary saying Dad can't sleep in another apartment because she has to "babysit" her dad. WTF. My guess is that she told her parents that she has a two room apt. This woman is so entitled, where does she think they're going to sleep! Couldn't Dad have made reservations at a hotel months before. I'd change the lock on my door if I were OP.
And why would he not have needed babysitting in a hotel? Is he not safe around graduands maybe
He is probably known to be naughty lol
Or Dad has a mental or physical condition that precludes him being by himself.
Though apparently her first choice was to get him a hotel, but it was too expensive. So I call BS on the "having to babysit him" thing. The roommate is not only astoundingly entitled, she's willing to straight up lie. And she sucks at lying.
So if she got hotel for him there will be someone from staff in his room at all times? Sounds like she just lied.
But can manage to get to the uni without a nabaysitter?